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Wedding Brain Dump

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  • useless4useless4 Registered User regular
    edited December 2010
    Oh you're british aren't you? We can't have this conversation.

    The concept of formality in America is vastly different then the idea of formality in britian. You still bow to your ruler for example. We don't do that here.

    i give you mad props though you guys invented the best car ever (The 1998 Land Rover Range Rover 4.6 HSE - which I ironically think is an North American model only)

    To get the best idea of American weddings and how they vastly differencethemselves from what ever British people do - just watch Bridezilla. I would love to think that it's amped up and exaggerated for television but sadly no - i think that is a good starting point for american wedding customs.

    And back to the topic : We did do a pre-wedding website with forms to get quirks like "who eats shrimp?" out of the way.

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  • agentk13agentk13 __BANNED USERS regular
    edited December 2010
    useless4 wrote: »
    Oh you're british aren't you? We can't have this conversation.

    The concept of formality in America is vastly different then the idea of formality in britian. You still bow to your ruler for example. We don't do that here.

    i give you mad props though you guys invented the best car ever (The 1998 Land Rover Range Rover 4.6 HSE - which I ironically think is an North American model only)

    To get the best idea of American weddings and how they vastly differencethemselves from what ever British people do - just watch Bridezilla. I would love to think that it's amped up and exaggerated for television but sadly no - i think that is a good starting point for american wedding customs.

    And back to the topic : We did do a pre-wedding website with forms to get quirks like "who eats shrimp?" out of the way.

    No, I've just read about the differences. For example, only America adopted daytime semi-formal (or Britons use morning suits while Americans use strollers), but America has retained the vocabulary of Britain, to the result that you never see anything marked "white tie" or "(full) formal," while they still occasionally appear in Britain. Of course, America has always been a little more fond of fudging the rules, so it makes sense that Americans have started using evening dress for the more rare rare daytime events instead of buying clothing for both (you're a lot more likely to need to dress up for the evening than the day, especially given how low religious attendance has dwindled). Back in the day, American were known for being the only ones to wear white vests with black tie.

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  • scrivenerjonesscrivenerjones Registered User regular
    edited December 2010
    agentk13 wrote: »
    useless4 wrote: »
    agentk13 wrote: »
    Solandra wrote: »
    We beat down the price of our wedding (which we did pay for ourselves) by paying attention to timing, location and then being If you can work with some of her family members in Cali, there's a lot to be said for getting married at the family church in the early afternoon and having cake and punch in the church narthex. At my church, weddings for members are a free rental of the facility, and because we had the ceremony after lunch but before dinner, there was no expectation of a full meal.

    As far as my bridesmaids were concerned, because we weren't able to pay for their dresses, I gave them broad guidelines that included the color family, something they'd wear again, and something that they feel pretty in, and turned them loose. One made hers, one reused a dress from a different wedding, and one scored a cocktail dress she wore as a going away dress at her own wedding later in the year. My husband was disappointed because I told them I didn't really care about style as long as they weren't naked. He wore a dark suit, as did his groomsmen, and we provided ties in the same color family as the girl's dresses.

    In the end, it was a pretty wedding, and there were no hurt feelings, and almost everyone had a great time.

    Did you give any formality guidelines? It looks like no, but it's hard to tell. As I've noted, I'm fond of the Stroller level, or daytime semiformal (night semiformal is the tux), mainly because all the men are likely to have all the components (conservative tux-style jacket, non-black vest, nice leather shoes [quarter brogue oxfords are the best choice]) but the pants (which should be non-cuffed "cashmere stripes," chalk stripes, or formal checks [shepherd's plaid and chalk checks are best, ideally longer than wide to be more slimming on the wearer, more detail here]).

    Also, night receptions traditionally allow the party to retain daytime wear because it's a hassle to change after a daytime wedding.

    Most women would know better than I what goes in a semi-formal event, but the ideal seems to be a formal/frilly, fitted blouse, a flowing (trumpet or mermaid in a light fabric) skirt that goes below the knee, and an extremely fitted jacket or coat (basically a modern version of this or this) or a one piece dress that could go with this. A high, tight, decorated neckline in the most traditional mark of daytime wear, but at this point women could even get away with scoop and boat necks (although dressed that fit below the shoulders should be reserved for the reception).

    Wait, if night semiformal is a tux what is formal?

    White tie.
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    Also, the term is "evening formal." Sorry about that.

    that picture on the left made me vomit everywhere, look at how his waistcoat comes down below the bottom of his jacket. plus I think you can see his shirt peeking out from below the front of the waistcoat O_____o

    at least you didn't post this one I guess:

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  • agentk13agentk13 __BANNED USERS regular
    edited December 2010
    The vest is supposed to extend below the high cut jacket to allow it to properly cover the shirt, if memory serves, so you're half right.

    Now, could somebody hand me a map and compass so I can get back to the original topic?

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  • scrivenerjonesscrivenerjones Registered User regular
    edited December 2010
    nope, check your flusser. you shouldn't be able to see the bottom of the waistcoat below the jacket. the shirt is hidden anyway because your suspenders are holding the trousers so high.

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  • agentk13agentk13 __BANNED USERS regular
    edited December 2010
    nope, check your flusser. you shouldn't be able to see the bottom of the waistcoat below the jacket. the shirt is hidden anyway because your suspenders are holding the trousers so high.

    Right, how could I forget the old man waistline?

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