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Parenthood (no not the show)

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  • tastypastrytastypastry Can somebody please remove these cutleries from my knees?Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Actually, babies regulate their breathing to their parents so being close to them reduces the risk of SIDS. As long as you are responsible, it can be a really great experience/bonding time. I sleep great because I know my baby is okay. Obviously, keep blankets folded at waist level or below, watch pillow placement- either none, or have it configured that the baby is not near them, bed is flush against wall if the baby isn't between the parents, don't drink or take benadryl (anything that affects your alertness), etc. I don't know if it is a mama thing but I am very aware of Henry and if he wakes, I am up before he cries because his breathing changes and I am awake. As far as him wanting to stay with us, I'm in no hurry. He is 6 months old. He doesn't have to be independent just yet. I am fine with him needing us.

    I'm not trying to tell anyone the right way to be a parent, but the problem comes when you are ready for the baby to sleep in their own room but they won't because they're so used to sleeping next to someone. It's even worse when they are able to get up and just won't stay in their room no matter what you do. If you're fine with your kids always being in your bed, by all means. It's just something to think about. And it's all anecdotal, of course. Your kids could switch with no problems at all, but I've just heard a lot of the opposite and the parents regretting it. We personally kept our son in a bassinet in our room until he was about 6 months old, when we started putting him in his crib.

    Yeah! Some kids just have a problem getting/staying asleep but I have known kids who slept with their parents and others who were always in their own bed and some of them had the issue and others did not. I just think it is good to be well informed. Cosleeping can be a great and safe option but 6 months is hardly "always". Also, so much of our culture is about this idea to keep parents from being inconvenienced, often at the expense of the child. I think it is okay for a parent to have some difficult times. Babies are so new to the world and it is natural for me to be near mine. People should do what is best for their family but there is certainly no one perfect way.

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  • PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Babies are just crazy. My daughter was doing the newborn-eat-every-two-hours thing, then she started sleeping from 9 at night until around 5, now she's back to up and down constantly. And she's only three months old. I know any given thing isn't likely to last but it sucks that they all involve either interrupted sleep or bodily fluids or both.

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  • MarathonMarathon Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Peen wrote: »
    Babies are just crazy. My daughter was doing the newborn-eat-every-two-hours thing, then she started sleeping from 9 at night until around 5, now she's back to up and down constantly. And she's only three months old. I know any given thing isn't likely to last but it sucks that they all involve either interrupted sleep or bodily fluids or both.

    If this is a brand new thing and hasn't been going on very long, she might just be teething.

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  • tastypastrytastypastry Can somebody please remove these cutleries from my knees?Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Teething is sad times. Our baby has two teeth, both in the past week and three more are nearly poking out. It blows my mind how quickly he is growing and what a difference a couple of weeks can make. He is nearly crawling and I am scrambling to baby proof this place!

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  • Sir CarcassSir Carcass I have been shown the end of my world Round Rock, TXRegistered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Our son teethed for probably a good year. It was horrible. I do not envy you guys.

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  • PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Marathon wrote: »
    Peen wrote: »
    Babies are just crazy. My daughter was doing the newborn-eat-every-two-hours thing, then she started sleeping from 9 at night until around 5, now she's back to up and down constantly. And she's only three months old. I know any given thing isn't likely to last but it sucks that they all involve either interrupted sleep or bodily fluids or both.

    If this is a brand new thing and hasn't been going on very long, she might just be teething.

    You shut your dirty mouth because it is too early and that cannot be happening

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  • MarathonMarathon Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Peen wrote: »
    Marathon wrote: »
    Peen wrote: »
    Babies are just crazy. My daughter was doing the newborn-eat-every-two-hours thing, then she started sleeping from 9 at night until around 5, now she's back to up and down constantly. And she's only three months old. I know any given thing isn't likely to last but it sucks that they all involve either interrupted sleep or bodily fluids or both.

    If this is a brand new thing and hasn't been going on very long, she might just be teething.

    You shut your dirty mouth because it is too early and that cannot be happening

    Hopefully it's not since she is only 3 months old. Although wikipedia says it can happen that early. Frankly, the earlier the better in my opinion. The sooner it starts, the sooner it's over and you can hopefully get some more sleep.

    Marathon on
  • Clint EastwoodClint Eastwood My baby's in there someplace She crawled right inRegistered User regular
    edited February 2011
    babies terrify me

    good on you guys for making some

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  • tastypastrytastypastry Can somebody please remove these cutleries from my knees?Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Marathon wrote: »
    Peen wrote: »
    Marathon wrote: »
    Peen wrote: »
    Babies are just crazy. My daughter was doing the newborn-eat-every-two-hours thing, then she started sleeping from 9 at night until around 5, now she's back to up and down constantly. And she's only three months old. I know any given thing isn't likely to last but it sucks that they all involve either interrupted sleep or bodily fluids or both.

    If this is a brand new thing and hasn't been going on very long, she might just be teething.

    You shut your dirty mouth because it is too early and that cannot be happening

    Hopefully it's not since she is only 3 months old. Although wikipedia says it can happen that early. Frankly, the earlier the better in my opinion. The sooner it starts, the sooner it's over and you can hopefully get some more sleep.

    Henry started teething around 3.5 months and only just now (6 months) has the teeth to show for it. Is your baby drooling a lot? Chewing on everything? Red cheeks? Maybe even a slight fever? It can be pretty rough.

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  • tastypastrytastypastry Can somebody please remove these cutleries from my knees?Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Our son teethed for probably a good year. It was horrible. I do not envy you guys.

    Poor baby (and parents)!

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  • Raijin QuickfootRaijin Quickfoot I'm your Huckleberry YOU'RE NO DAISYRegistered User, ClubPA regular
    edited February 2011
    Teething is a long process. Maybe some kids get used to it so it doesn't bother them when they are older, but some of the last teeth are the worst. The canines can be especially bad since they are wedge shaped and keep cutting and cutting until they are in all of the way.

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  • PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Marathon wrote: »
    Peen wrote: »
    Marathon wrote: »
    Peen wrote: »
    Babies are just crazy. My daughter was doing the newborn-eat-every-two-hours thing, then she started sleeping from 9 at night until around 5, now she's back to up and down constantly. And she's only three months old. I know any given thing isn't likely to last but it sucks that they all involve either interrupted sleep or bodily fluids or both.

    If this is a brand new thing and hasn't been going on very long, she might just be teething.

    You shut your dirty mouth because it is too early and that cannot be happening

    Hopefully it's not since she is only 3 months old. Although wikipedia says it can happen that early. Frankly, the earlier the better in my opinion. The sooner it starts, the sooner it's over and you can hopefully get some more sleep.

    Henry started teething around 3.5 months and only just now (6 months) has the teeth to show for it. Is your baby drooling a lot? Chewing on everything? Red cheeks? Maybe even a slight fever? It can be pretty rough.

    Goddammit you let me have my denial!

    But yeah. Red cheeks, constantly chewing on fingers. They say it can be preparation for teething so I guess we'll see. I get a night off tonight and man I'm going to sleep for at least six hours straight. I'm not sure I remember how.

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  • iamthepiemaniamthepieman Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    My son teethed for a long time but only the first two caused him much trouble. After that he would just get s snuffy nose and be a little more miserable but he didn't scream or have trouble sleeping.

    His older sisters on the other hand; they couldn't sleep and we had to give them children's tylenol for them to have any reprieve.

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  • babyeatingjesusbabyeatingjesus Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    We just found out the daycare that said they had a spot for us in September 2012 meant oops 2013.

    This is an issue.

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  • tastypastrytastypastry Can somebody please remove these cutleries from my knees?Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    We just found out the daycare that said they had a spot for us in September 2012 meant oops 2013.

    This is an issue.

    Wow! That is definitely booking it in advance.

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  • babyeatingjesusbabyeatingjesus Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    We just found out the daycare that said they had a spot for us in September 2012 meant oops 2013.

    This is an issue.

    Wow! That is definitely booking it in advance.

    That's how it is all over this city. Daycares are so full people book a spot when they start to think about having a baby because the waiting list is sometimes up to 5 goddamn years. 2013 may be our best option still.

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  • PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    We just found out the daycare that said they had a spot for us in September 2012 meant oops 2013.

    This is an issue.

    Wow! That is definitely booking it in advance.

    That's how it is all over this city. Daycares are so full people book a spot when they start to think about having a baby because the waiting list is sometimes up to 5 goddamn years. 2013 may be our best option still.

    That's crazy talk, we got mad when we heard some places around here were on lists of 5 or 6 months. I can't imagine having to wait years.

    Peen on
  • skettiosskettios Enchanted ForestRegistered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Babies everywhere


    That aside, I've been watching in awe of my friends raise their kid. He is 6 or 7 months old now and is huge! I got him a duck pillow plush a while back that he seems to like well enough.

    It's been interesting hearing the tales of raising this kid.

    I guess they accidentally starved him during his first few days. Yes, accidentally. When they first brought him home, they were feeding him 8oz every X hours (I don't recall what X was, but just use your imagination). Why only 8? Because the nurse told them to give him no more than that before they left the hospital. They ended up going back 2 days later because he wouldn't stop crying. My friends were pretty upset when they found out why...


    He's a good kid from what I've seen.

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  • .. Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited February 2011
    Until you get in the daycare, just use a box and some duct tape. Maybe punch some holes in the box. That's what I do when I get stuck babysitting the nieces and nephews. I get sleep, they get.. quiet time. It's all good.

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  • cadmunkycadmunky One hand on the bottle, The other a shaking fist.Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    ugh, teething. keep those frozen nibblers handy! or a couple washcloths.

    and it may be rough, but try a lactose-free formula if you're not still breastfeeding. if you are breastfeeding, look at momma's diet. several factors can contribute. better yet, talk to your pediatrician. should always be the first step.

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  • babyeatingjesusbabyeatingjesus Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    . wrote: »
    Until you get in the daycare, just use a box and some duct tape. Maybe punch some holes in the box. That's what I do when I get stuck babysitting the nieces and nephews. I get sleep, they get.. quiet time. It's all good.
    The good news is we live 4 blocks from her retired parents and 4 blocks from my not-retired-but-able-to-work-from-home-a-few-days-per-week parents, and that the bulk of my time is not spent working as much as it is spent at school, which, being an astronomy degree, does not take place primarily during the standard 9-5. I'm confident we can work it out.

    Plus July this year to July next year my wife is on maternity leave from her government job.

    Plus the world ends december 2012 anyways, so that's only like 6 months of stopgap daycare.

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  • Garlic BreadGarlic Bread i'm a bitch i'm a bitch i'm a bitch i'm a Registered User, Disagreeable regular
    edited February 2011
    Oh God...don't let them into your bed! We brought Grayson into bed with us when he was 4 months old and he is still in it now that is is 28 months old.

    Morgan has never and will never sleep in our bed.

    at what age do parents start using years instead of months

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  • iamthepiemaniamthepieman Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    after 2 years

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  • Sir CarcassSir Carcass I have been shown the end of my world Round Rock, TXRegistered User regular
    edited February 2011
    I just put the mail on my wife's desk, which was all junk. My 2 year old son went over there and then went running off with the Victoria's Secret ad in his hands.

    That's my boy.

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  • Raijin QuickfootRaijin Quickfoot I'm your Huckleberry YOU'RE NO DAISYRegistered User, ClubPA regular
    edited February 2011
    Keith wrote: »
    Oh God...don't let them into your bed! We brought Grayson into bed with us when he was 4 months old and he is still in it now that is is 28 months old.

    Morgan has never and will never sleep in our bed.

    at what age do parents start using years instead of months

    At 3. There is such a big difference between a 2 year old and a 28 month old. It's not fair to call him 2.

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  • Garlic BreadGarlic Bread i'm a bitch i'm a bitch i'm a bitch i'm a Registered User, Disagreeable regular
    edited February 2011
    I just put the mail on my wife's desk, which was all junk. My 2 year old son went over there and then went running off with the Victoria's Secret ad in his hands.

    That's my boy.

    future winner of RuPaul's Drag Race

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  • OolongOolong Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    My first one is due August 19th. The fact that it is literally going to be born on the busiest week of the year (the week before school starts; I'm a teacher) is, to my mind, ironclad proof that it's mine. :-)

    It hit me the other day that if my kid waits as long as I did before it has children, I'll be 70 before I'm a grandpa. I was suddenly very mad at myself. Then weirded out.

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  • PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Lest you guys think I only come into this thread to complain about my daughter, I would like you all to know that she's awesome and loves Lady Gaga. Like to an uholy degree, no matter how hard she's crying or what her problem is, if we turn on Bad Romance or Just Dance and bounce with her she calms right down until the song's over. It's aces if we're trying to warm an unexpected bottle.

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  • Garlic BreadGarlic Bread i'm a bitch i'm a bitch i'm a bitch i'm a Registered User, Disagreeable regular
    edited February 2011
    have you tried madonna

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  • InkyblotsInkyblots Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    I'm having a son and my girlfriend just hit 9 months on the 20th, so this kid could be here any day now.

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  • tastypastrytastypastry Can somebody please remove these cutleries from my knees?Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    Inkyblots wrote: »
    I'm having a son and my girlfriend just hit 9 months on the 20th, so this kid could be here any day now.

    Aw, congrats! Ours was a couple of weeks late and it was nerve wracking. I kept thinking it was time, yay false labor, but it never was. I hope everything goes smoothly and that you are holding your baby soon!!

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  • Charles KinboteCharles Kinbote Registered User regular
    edited February 2011
    when I have a kid I am gonna refer to him or her by years from the get go

    "how old is she?"
    "still zero, i think"

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  • PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    My daughter's pretty much slept through the night for three nights in a row and it's changed my life. Holy crap is sleep amazing.

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  • SassoriSassori Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    If I'm exhausted all the time now I can't imagine how much worse that would be with a child.

    Does anyone want my ovaries? Come and get them.

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  • PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    If you don't have anything wrong with you you could sell your eggs for some real cash money. It's an ordeal to get approved but it's like a couple thousand bucks.

    Peen on
  • SassoriSassori Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    I've considered that before. I'd have to look into it though since I really don't know what all is involved.

    But it's not like my DNA is stellar so I probably wouldn't even get approved.

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  • psyck0psyck0 Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    Tard wrote: »
    Langly wrote: »
    Have you considered

    Telling those people to fuck off and take care of their own fucking children and maybe not be useless sacks of shit?

    The government already did that a couple of times!

    Then they took their kids away and gave them to a private company
    gave them to a private company

    Wait, what the FUCK?!!

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  • TayaTaya Registered User regular
    edited March 2011
    I worked for a company that takes care of children removed from their homes by youth services.

    The company doesn't actually own the children though.

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  • Virgil_Leads_YouVirgil_Leads_You Proud Father House GardenerRegistered User regular
    edited March 2011
    That sounds like a rad science fiction setting though.

    The story of Jeff
    Son of Olive Garden

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  • Raijin QuickfootRaijin Quickfoot I'm your Huckleberry YOU'RE NO DAISYRegistered User, ClubPA regular
    edited March 2011
    I own my children. I have deeds that say so.

    I'm selling their movie rights if anyone is interested.

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