I went my first OKC date recently. It was kind of awkward, but not for any particular reason. We just didn't click, you know?
After my date left, I had already decided I wouldn't be calling her back, and I think that was mutual. But there was another girl at the bar hanging out by herself. I thought it would be a little skeazy to go and talk to another girl right after I just had a date, so I decided just to start biking home.
Turns out she was leaving at about the same time on her bike. We started talking as we were unlocking our bikes, and had a really nice conversation. It only lasted about three minutes though. By the end of the conversation, she was definitely trying to get me to go for more drinks with her, but having being completely socially inept (also I had work in the morning), I declined.
As I was riding off, I was so pissed at myself for not even asking for her number.
all the people I like are either in different time zones, seeing someone else, way too busy for me, or ALL THREE
the few times recently I've been asked out in person, I just turn them down automatically. there's something really nerve-wracking about someone being an accessible person to date
I'm trying to say yes more often, just to confront how very badly it unnerves me. It's like immersion therapy!
I've only ever been asked out a few times. Which is too bad, because of those two times in person I've said yes. Come on boys! It's 50:50 odds right now!
I used to assume it was just that there was something wrong with me or I was unattractive in some way. But based on drunken conversations with my guy friends and picking up on more clues, I think maybe I just intimidate them? Or I'm too subtle with my attentions, assuming that they'll actually pick up on them. So I'm trying to steel my resolve and start putting myself out there. Maybe if I try to actually be the person who initiates things, guys will get my hints. We'll see!
Guys my project at work (and thus my job) ends tomorrow and I am going to ask out the coworker I have had a crush on for a while now and I am so dang nervous
Haven't read the rest of the thread yet, but I know exactly how you feel. I got a new job end of last year and had a crush on a coworker pretty much since then. Asked her out couple of days ago and she said yes. Now I only have to wait til I am back from my 3 week vacation to actually go on the date .
Every 3 or 4 months I'll remember "Oh Man I'm loney I need to find somebody to smooch!" Then I just hit on everybody and okcupid like crazy for like two weeks and I either get bored or tired of the rejection and go back to just living my life.
This is my pattern as well. It hasn't really worked out, but I'm content with my single life, so whatevs
quote="crwth;27143325"]i think you got what it takes to woo any woman faq
maybe even the queen of ireland herself[/quote]
I think you have to defeat some kind of goblin for that
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but I would suggest maybe looking into a different main pic? the second and third pics you have are pretty good and fun for second and third pics, but the first one is just so dark
like it's a nice picture but maybe not for the first one people see
but I would suggest maybe looking into a different main pic? the second and third pics you have are pretty good and fun for second and third pics, but the first one is just so dark
like it's a nice picture but maybe not for the first one people see
Thanks! Done
I don't have a whole lot of photos of myself so it's tricky sometimes
Nice smile dude!
Not gonna lie, you look 15 years old in those photos. Maybe grow some stubble?
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Theodore Flooseveltproud parent of eight beautiful girls and shalmelodorne (which is currently being ruled by a woman (awesome role model for my daughters)) #dornedadRegistered Userregular
but I would suggest maybe looking into a different main pic? the second and third pics you have are pretty good and fun for second and third pics, but the first one is just so dark
like it's a nice picture but maybe not for the first one people see
Thanks! Done
I don't have a whole lot of photos of myself so it's tricky sometimes
Ya, I know how it is lacking some quality candids that are also flattering
but the one you have now is handsome and you are more visible in it so thumbs up!
After my last exam for the semester today, I'm meeting @HyperBallad for drinks and general celebrations
I'll probably make a long-winded declaration of love in this thread afterwards because I really do love her so damn much and I am so lucky to have her in my life.
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I've been thinking I should resurrect my OKC profile, but I'm moving to the other side of the continent in August so dating people near me seems a bit pointless. So now I'm wondering if would be a good idea to start messaging people in the area I'm moving to and being all "hey, you seem cool, want to show me cool stuff in the city when I get there?".
After my last exam for the semester today, I'm meeting @HyperBallad for drinks and general celebrations
I'll probably make a long-winded declaration of love in this thread afterwards because I really do love her so damn much and I am so lucky to have her in my life.
I've been thinking I should resurrect my OKC profile, but I'm moving to the other side of the continent in August so dating people near me seems a bit pointless. So now I'm wondering if would be a good idea to start messaging people in the area I'm moving to and being all "hey, you seem cool, want to show me cool stuff in the city when I get there?".
that's a great idea, in my opinion
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The first date I went on with this girl I am now seeing exclusively was Tuesday Trivia with a bunch of people from these here boards. She had a blast. I was similarly blasted.
HacksawJ. Duggan Esq.Wrestler at LawRegistered Userregular
I also feel it prudent to mention that I spent a lot of time haunting the DnD Dating thread with the belief that I'd probably never really find anyone who'd hit all the right buttons for me, then lo and behold a year later I reactivate my OkC profile and whoops no turns out I was wrong.
Never stop believing, people. If there's hope for me, there's hope for everybody.
I met my current girlfriend via plenty of fish. I'm super in love with her and its been going great. Like its to the point where I think if we're together and still this happy when I graduate I'm going to purpose
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I went my first OKC date recently. It was kind of awkward, but not for any particular reason. We just didn't click, you know?
After my date left, I had already decided I wouldn't be calling her back, and I think that was mutual. But there was another girl at the bar hanging out by herself. I thought it would be a little skeazy to go and talk to another girl right after I just had a date, so I decided just to start biking home.
Turns out she was leaving at about the same time on her bike. We started talking as we were unlocking our bikes, and had a really nice conversation. It only lasted about three minutes though. By the end of the conversation, she was definitely trying to get me to go for more drinks with her, but having being completely socially inept (also I had work in the morning), I declined.
As I was riding off, I was so pissed at myself for not even asking for her number.
I've only ever been asked out a few times. Which is too bad, because of those two times in person I've said yes. Come on boys! It's 50:50 odds right now!
I used to assume it was just that there was something wrong with me or I was unattractive in some way. But based on drunken conversations with my guy friends and picking up on more clues, I think maybe I just intimidate them? Or I'm too subtle with my attentions, assuming that they'll actually pick up on them. So I'm trying to steel my resolve and start putting myself out there. Maybe if I try to actually be the person who initiates things, guys will get my hints. We'll see!
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Haven't read the rest of the thread yet, but I know exactly how you feel. I got a new job end of last year and had a crush on a coworker pretty much since then. Asked her out couple of days ago and she said yes. Now I only have to wait til I am back from my 3 week vacation to actually go on the date
What I am saying is - do it! Now!
This is my pattern as well. It hasn't really worked out, but I'm content with my single life, so whatevs
might want to work on your pickup lines
try
im currently stewing in my own sweat and piss want to go out for a drink?
WaM I didn't know you felt this way about- damn it @Liiya
maybe even the queen of ireland herself
I haven't reworked it in a while but I got some solid messages here and there!
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/ProjectGR
good fucking god they play this song a lot on the radio
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I don't really feel the urge to get into a relationship either, oddly enough. It's like a complete 180 to me as a teenager.
maybe even the queen of ireland herself[/quote]
I think you have to defeat some kind of goblin for that
I am no OKC pro
but I would suggest maybe looking into a different main pic? the second and third pics you have are pretty good and fun for second and third pics, but the first one is just so dark
like it's a nice picture but maybe not for the first one people see
Thanks! Done
I don't have a whole lot of photos of myself so it's tricky sometimes
the goblin
is your insecurities
Nice smile dude!
Not gonna lie, you look 15 years old in those photos. Maybe grow some stubble?
Ya, I know how it is lacking some quality candids that are also flattering
but the one you have now is handsome and you are more visible in it so thumbs up!
Next time, grasshopper!
I don't know how you people do this dating thing!
lots of shots.
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you're my spirit animal
If your date asks you about them, you can say that they are your chatperones. (Chat-purr-ones, if you're really feisty.)
And if he doesn't get it, you can just leave.
I'll probably make a long-winded declaration of love in this thread afterwards because I really do love her so damn much and I am so lucky to have her in my life.
This is the way I feel about Sier.
that's a great idea, in my opinion
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