I'm so fuckin' content with my life that I sometimes feel guilty for feeling content, which is kinda fucked. But not fucked enough to keep me from feeling fuckin' great.
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my life is on a roll and I am waiting for the other shoe to drop cuz boy am I due
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don't look for shit to go pear-shaped, dude
that is a recipe for self-fulfilling prophecy
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Well I mean
It was mostly because like pooro said, I feel sorta guilty for being as happy as I am
Outside of hating my job I'm actually doing awesome. My GF and I after 5 years of dating moved in together recently and I love her dearly. Some time this year I hope to ask her to marry me!
Also, hi SE. I should stop lurking and post here more.
Feeling depressed at where my life is compared to where I want it to be. Trying to build better skills in time management and smaller more manageable goals. Take advantage of my goal oriented mindset. I'm mostly a musician so I'm setting up some recording stuff and just gonna try to focus on taking little steps and getting something produced since I tend to let ambition get in the way of that.
Thinking about starting a webcomic to further that goal. Taking a cue from Rice-boy and looking at a concept that will let me practice but wont be to marred by my current low skill level. Setting the goal of ending it at around a 100 strips to keep things concise and me with a hard but manageable goal. I used to draw all the time in high school but when I discovered I liked music I thought I need to stop and focus on that but maybe they'll feed into each other?
On a break with Fiancee. I feel kind of hurt by her. I don't like thinking in this way but lately I've started to feel like I do so much for her and I don't really get anything back. We've lived together for years and she's never had a job and she moved in with her grandmother so she could look for a job in another city and then I was gonna move there but she hasn't really been looking. So I was the financial support and... I've just started to get to the point where I don't feel like she doesn't respect or appreciate all the stuff done to get us through things.
It's been great. I got a rotoshaver for my birthday and am rocking the fuzz. I'll soon be going on a family vacation in Jersey without my yuppie brother.
Unless he invites himself and his latest wife over in an attempt to screw us over and make me look dumb in front of my grandfather, but fuck if I'm ever letting him do that again.
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Been keeping to myself for a couple months, partially by choice, partially not. Rarely go out with friends anymore. Some I started avoiding because of some hurt feelings, others always say they're busy when I ask.
On the rare occasion that a girl has any interest in me, I manage to ruin it before it can go anywhere
The main thing that's stressing me out right now is that I have two weeks to find a place to live. I was supposed to room with this one kid I know through a mutual friend, we found a condo community that he loved and was high on my list as well, but I thought we should keep looking. So he turns around and gets a single unit there and takes more than a week to bother telling me. I had let my lease expire and someone else is lined up to take my current place, so for the first time I am facing the idea of being technically homeless
Pretty sure I'm going to end up getting a single unit in that same community, as potentially awkward as that might be. Everything else I'm looking at is unavailable, expensive, or frighteningly sketchy. This place would be affordable and close to work, but far from everyone else and make hanging out even more infrequent. Also they don't allow pets, so my cat would have to be a secret. I honestly don't know how I would make it without her, she's the only part of my life that's never depressing.
And this is the first time I've articulated all of this because I can't say it on FB, Twitter, or Tumblr without feeling like I'm guilting my friends into hanging out/living with me.
I feel like a lot of folks that I know have experienced similar feelings and that crappy housing situation.
It really sucks to have a core social group drift away, and to some degree, move on past ya. My advice would be to annoy any relatively close buddies with hangout invites, via some relatively private means, like a text message or a pm, every week.
At some point- even if it takes a month of "I'm so busy, I'm sorry", they'll probably have a break for you. It will always be a shitty feeling having to be a one-sided force that actively tries to maintain friendships, and it will certainly feel unfair,
but it's an even shittier feeling to accept loneliness. Get as real with your buddies as you need to about your appreciation of them seeing you, and how they totally need to hang out with you in the future. Even the flakiest of friends could decide to commit and make for a not terrible week.
Eventually, you are going to find yourself moving on from folk too, and it'll be okay. The great thing about friendships is that a little bit of time can't get in the way of catching back up. World's a small enough place that even past friends of convenience, might wind up again, conveniently near ya.
I guess the thing I wanted to say, is that your feelings are valid and that a lot of folks here are going to empathize with you. Oh, and good luck with the housing!
I've actually been doing the "text the guys every weekend" thing for a while now, and I do see them maybe once a month or so. Can't help but feel I'm being avoided and then occasionally pitied. I actually think I'm annoying them too much.
That said, I do really appreciate the advice and the pep talk. I'm sure it's a just phase of life that will end at some point, I just feel like I have to fix myself somehow before that can happen and I'm not sure how.
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Also they don't allow pets, so my cat would have to be a secret. I honestly don't know how I would make it without her, she's the only part of my life that's never depressing.
See if you can get your cat designated as a companion animal. Generally speaking, they have to allow service and companion animals.
I'm not sure what this means, but it sounds like something I might be interested in?
Also they don't allow pets, so my cat would have to be a secret. I honestly don't know how I would make it without her, she's the only part of my life that's never depressing.
See if you can get your cat designated as a companion animal. Generally speaking, they have to allow service and companion animals.
I'm not sure what this means, but it sounds like something I might be interested in?
I'm not sure this is something you would actually be able to do for a couple of reasons.
It can be pretty sketchy but have you tried looking for a roomshare on craigslist? Not everything on there is a complete dud
Also they don't allow pets, so my cat would have to be a secret. I honestly don't know how I would make it without her, she's the only part of my life that's never depressing.
See if you can get your cat designated as a companion animal. Generally speaking, they have to allow service and companion animals.
I'm not sure what this means, but it sounds like something I might be interested in?
I work at a property management firm in Oregon, so I can't speak to the law or procedure in other places, but...
Basically, you just need a doctor's note saying that the pet has some medical purpose. Which can be as simple as "this person is pretty stressed and the pet helps with that!"
Hey oogmar. I don't post as much as most dudes but I've been here awhile now. I'm about to start my last semester of a degree in music education on Monday. I'm student teaching at a high school with a great band program and am super excited.
Hahaaaaaaaaaa I need to figure out my sleep issues soon. I've been awake for about thirty hours right now and I got short sleep all weekend too.
I took melatonin for a while and it didn't seem to do diddly, and sleeping pills make me feel super sick when I wake up, which defeats the purpose. Soooo... I don't even know.
I managed to snag a promotion at work, so there's a plus.
But I'm also exercising a LOT less, and gaining weight. I really should go out and bike ride more - as well as climb - but its been so damn hot out lately, I just can't muster the energy.
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my life is on a roll and I am waiting for the other shoe to drop cuz boy am I due
that is a recipe for self-fulfilling prophecy
It was mostly because like pooro said, I feel sorta guilty for being as happy as I am
like who am i to be happy and successful
Still haven't lost my gut, but I'm working on it.
Also trying to fix my sleep cycles.
Also, hi SE. I should stop lurking and post here more.
I'm doing alright
I'm actually in exactly the same position as I was last year, at least from an outsider's point of view, which is...okay?
But I'm a hell of a lot happier in general about it
EDIT: Oh God, that makes it sound like I am perfectly content with mediocrity
Thinking about starting a webcomic to further that goal. Taking a cue from Rice-boy and looking at a concept that will let me practice but wont be to marred by my current low skill level. Setting the goal of ending it at around a 100 strips to keep things concise and me with a hard but manageable goal. I used to draw all the time in high school but when I discovered I liked music I thought I need to stop and focus on that but maybe they'll feed into each other?
On a break with Fiancee. I feel kind of hurt by her. I don't like thinking in this way but lately I've started to feel like I do so much for her and I don't really get anything back. We've lived together for years and she's never had a job and she moved in with her grandmother so she could look for a job in another city and then I was gonna move there but she hasn't really been looking. So I was the financial support and... I've just started to get to the point where I don't feel like she doesn't respect or appreciate all the stuff done to get us through things.
Unless he invites himself and his latest wife over in an attempt to screw us over and make me look dumb in front of my grandfather, but fuck if I'm ever letting him do that again.
I've actually been doing the "text the guys every weekend" thing for a while now, and I do see them maybe once a month or so. Can't help but feel I'm being avoided and then occasionally pitied. I actually think I'm annoying them too much.
That said, I do really appreciate the advice and the pep talk. I'm sure it's a just phase of life that will end at some point, I just feel like I have to fix myself somehow before that can happen and I'm not sure how.
I'm not sure what this means, but it sounds like something I might be interested in?
I'm not sure this is something you would actually be able to do for a couple of reasons.
It can be pretty sketchy but have you tried looking for a roomshare on craigslist? Not everything on there is a complete dud
I work at a property management firm in Oregon, so I can't speak to the law or procedure in other places, but...
Basically, you just need a doctor's note saying that the pet has some medical purpose. Which can be as simple as "this person is pretty stressed and the pet helps with that!"
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I took melatonin for a while and it didn't seem to do diddly, and sleeping pills make me feel super sick when I wake up, which defeats the purpose. Soooo... I don't even know.
But I'm also exercising a LOT less, and gaining weight. I really should go out and bike ride more - as well as climb - but its been so damn hot out lately, I just can't muster the energy.
money could be better, and I had a marriage scare last week, but we seem to be working through things so far.