dating cultures can, in fact, vary, and in the US I have no doubt a lot of people will grow up in different dating cultures and consider their own universal and normal
this is probably something that is often not considered in the US
this is a country where, in one place, a woman will write about how dating is fundamentally different because you can never truly separate from your exes when they're always around on Twitter and Facebook and give thirty examples, and in another place, fifty-year-old men pose for creepy pictures in dusty valleys with their young virgin daughters before attending purity balls
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Also I don't mean to be that guy or backseat mod but I used to say homps a lot in [chat] and someone brought it to my attention that it came from a typo for "homos" so I know it ruffles some feathers in here.
Suddenly @Quid making a sign that said "Homptown" and putting it on his sofa and giving me a thing that said "Shivahn: Mayor of Homptown" makes so much more sense.
3) Read a book on anything other than what you studied in high school. Fantasy fiction is allowed, but discouraged. Anything from the New York Times hardcover fiction or hardcover nonfiction bestseller list is highly encouraged.
i feel like most explanations of misogyny miss the mark and don't really articulate the real reasons behind it, and i am always looking for earnest expressions of misogyny to try to wrap my mind around, so this is a goldmine
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Relationships are the best thing that ever happened to you when its starting. After, it's typically nothing but regret and pain. But not all of the time. Sometimes it's just good memories of plowing that poonani/mouth/butt/whatever.
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I always thought "homps" was a variant of "humps."
As in, "the people I work with don't help out at all. They're all a bunch of lazy humps."
“I was quick when I came in here, I’m twice as quick now”
-Indiana Solo, runner of blades
dating cultures can, in fact, vary, and in the US I have no doubt a lot of people will grow up in different dating cultures and consider their own universal and normal
This is one fun thing about being queer. There is a lot less cultural baggage in some ways.
Someone sat next to me on a bus when there were spare seats next to other people. That concludes my list of things of things that happened today that didn't make me feel awful.
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dating cultures can, in fact, vary, and in the US I have no doubt a lot of people will grow up in different dating cultures and consider their own universal and normal
This is one fun thing about being queer. There is a lot less cultural baggage in some ways.
Because the culture hasn't hit puberty yet?
Oh god this is so partially true.
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(but also there is totally some baggage, you just get by with a lot less weird "men act like THIS and women like THIS" for obvious reasons)
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Relationships are the best thing that ever happened to you when its starting. After, it's typically nothing but regret and pain. But not all of the time. Sometimes it's just good memories of plowing that poonani/mouth/butt/whatever.
I kind feel like it's the other way around. I hate starting relationships. I like knowing somebody well.
every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.
Relationships are the best thing that ever happened to you when its starting. After, it's typically nothing but regret and pain. But not all of the time. Sometimes it's just good memories of plowing that poonani/mouth/butt/whatever.
I kind feel like it's the other way around. I hate starting relationships. I like knowing somebody well.
I tend to move too quickly in relationships because I like the level of comfort that comes with a well worn relationship. It creates problems because sometimes I realize I'm not super into the person until after I've kind of dove headfirst.
I'd have to go with Pipe Bomb because I stopped watching wrestling in like 6th grade and then happened to see Pipe Bomb and it made me look at wrestling analytically and now is a really fascinating form of narrative to me.
Relationships are the best thing that ever happened to you when its starting. After, it's typically nothing but regret and pain. But not all of the time. Sometimes it's just good memories of plowing that poonani/mouth/butt/whatever.
I kind feel like it's the other way around. I hate starting relationships. I like knowing somebody well.
They are both awesome and awful in varying amounts depending on the person.
I dislike the unease of starting a new relationship, but I like the suggestion, flirting, getting to know people, and so on.
I dislike if things feel stale later, but that's not necessarily a given and in any case is actually something you can do something about, and I like the companionship and support that comes with time.
I'd have to go with Pipe Bomb because I stopped watching wrestling in like 6th grade and then happened to see Pipe Bomb and it made me look at wrestling analytically and now is a really fascinating form of narrative to me.
I've said this before, but a moment with punk from like 05 or 06 got me into wrestling again as an adult. it, mixed with the way my cousin was into wrestling then, 100% brought me a new appreciation for the entire thing.
punk is the best wrestler on mic and I think and heyman the best manager. the sad part is, when they're together they're taking the mic from each other haha.
(but also there is totally some baggage, you just get by with a lot less weird "men act like THIS and women like THIS" for obvious reasons)
It seems like a lot of it is negative baggage from having to define itself in opposition to previous standards.
That's changing.
But, you know, it hasn't been around for 500+ years to the same degree as hetero-normative whatnot.
Well, I'm mostly talking about stereotypes here. A lot of the baggage related to dating finds its base in "men are like this and women are like this" while the visible part is "men should do this and women should do this."
When's it appropriate to call? What if his first message is like this? If she doesn't respond after the second date? What are you supposed to do the second date, anyway? Who pays for dinner? What does it mean when they do? What if the other person doesn't want you to pay? How should he propose/when should he?
These all come up in various pairs* of dating, but a lot of the questions don't even make sense applied to gay people. Should the man pay for dinner? Uh, which man? Or wait, there aren't any men in this couple! Is it ok for a woman to propose? No, because neither of these guys is dating a woman/obviously otherwise no one would get married!
Being gay cuts down on a lot of this, as well as assumed sex scripts (eg, the natural progression of sexytimes). When you're queer none of that even works. Most queer couples don't even have the prerequisite scripted parts!
I forget what I'm supposed to be writing about.
Being queer: it's weird.
*or other arrangements, whatever
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Speaking of misogyny, I guess James Desborough has done something in the RPG field again.
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dating cultures can, in fact, vary, and in the US I have no doubt a lot of people will grow up in different dating cultures and consider their own universal and normal
This is one fun thing about being queer. There is a lot less cultural baggage in some ways.
but also fewer tracks that you can just effortlessly fall into
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(but also there is totally some baggage, you just get by with a lot less weird "men act like THIS and women like THIS" for obvious reasons)
It seems like a lot of it is negative baggage from having to define itself in opposition to previous standards.
That's changing.
But, you know, it hasn't been around for 500+ years to the same degree as hetero-normative whatnot.
Well, I'm mostly talking about stereotypes here. A lot of the baggage related to dating finds its base in "men are like this and women are like this" while the visible part is "men should do this and women should do this."
When's it appropriate to call? What if his first message is like this? If she doesn't respond after the second date? What are you supposed to do the second date, anyway? Who pays for dinner? What does it mean when they do? What if the other person doesn't want you to pay? How should he propose/when should he?
These all come up in various pairs* of dating, but a lot of the questions don't even make sense applied to gay people. Should the man pay for dinner? Uh, which man? Or wait, there aren't any men in this couple! Is it ok for a woman to propose? No, because neither of these guys is dating a woman/obviously otherwise no one would get married!
Being gay cuts down on a lot of this, as well as assumed sex scripts (eg, the natural progression of sexytimes). When you're queer none of that even works. Most queer couples don't even have the prerequisite scripted parts!
skippy I'm sorry it's just that life is hard sometimes.
You must forget that sometimes sitting in your gold plated throne watching LoL streams all day.
Um I think there is some kind of misunderstanding here : (
Nobody is allowed to be sad now that skippy bought his gold plated throne office chair.
omg frosteey this chair is so handsome but I tend to sit with one leg folded under and I have a giant fucking bruise on my thigh from where my leg bangs into the metal armrest
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this is probably something that is often not considered in the US
this is a country where, in one place, a woman will write about how dating is fundamentally different because you can never truly separate from your exes when they're always around on Twitter and Facebook and give thirty examples, and in another place, fifty-year-old men pose for creepy pictures in dusty valleys with their young virgin daughters before attending purity balls
Suddenly @Quid making a sign that said "Homptown" and putting it on his sofa and giving me a thing that said "Shivahn: Mayor of Homptown" makes so much more sense.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
i care elendil-chan
i care..
The title is interesting.
The abstract is not.
holy christ this is fascinating
i feel like most explanations of misogyny miss the mark and don't really articulate the real reasons behind it, and i am always looking for earnest expressions of misogyny to try to wrap my mind around, so this is a goldmine
As in, "the people I work with don't help out at all. They're all a bunch of lazy humps."
-Indiana Solo, runner of blades
Because the culture hasn't hit puberty yet?
Oh god this is so partially true.
I kind feel like it's the other way around. I hate starting relationships. I like knowing somebody well.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
In & Out > Dick's Drive-In
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
I tend to move too quickly in relationships because I like the level of comfort that comes with a well worn relationship. It creates problems because sometimes I realize I'm not super into the person until after I've kind of dove headfirst.
I'd have to go with Pipe Bomb because I stopped watching wrestling in like 6th grade and then happened to see Pipe Bomb and it made me look at wrestling analytically and now is a really fascinating form of narrative to me.
It seems like a lot of it is negative baggage from having to define itself in opposition to previous standards.
That's changing.
But, you know, it hasn't been around for 500+ years to the same degree as hetero-normative whatnot.
They are both awesome and awful in varying amounts depending on the person.
I dislike the unease of starting a new relationship, but I like the suggestion, flirting, getting to know people, and so on.
I dislike if things feel stale later, but that's not necessarily a given and in any case is actually something you can do something about, and I like the companionship and support that comes with time.
Really they're both awesome in different ways.
you're raising a monster
At least according to Ben Affleck.
now to go home and scratch my balls for a few hours since I have done my work for the day
I've said this before, but a moment with punk from like 05 or 06 got me into wrestling again as an adult. it, mixed with the way my cousin was into wrestling then, 100% brought me a new appreciation for the entire thing.
punk is the best wrestler on mic and I think and heyman the best manager. the sad part is, when they're together they're taking the mic from each other haha.
skippy I'm sorry it's just that life is hard sometimes.
You must forget that sometimes sitting in your gold plated throne watching LoL streams all day.
excuse me a minute
*yells offscreen* I asked for those peeled grapes minutes ago where the fuck are they jeeves
sorry, what?
I am about to crush the rebellion.
BECAUSE THAT'S HOW VADER DO
Well, I'm mostly talking about stereotypes here. A lot of the baggage related to dating finds its base in "men are like this and women are like this" while the visible part is "men should do this and women should do this."
When's it appropriate to call? What if his first message is like this? If she doesn't respond after the second date? What are you supposed to do the second date, anyway? Who pays for dinner? What does it mean when they do? What if the other person doesn't want you to pay? How should he propose/when should he?
These all come up in various pairs* of dating, but a lot of the questions don't even make sense applied to gay people. Should the man pay for dinner? Uh, which man? Or wait, there aren't any men in this couple! Is it ok for a woman to propose? No, because neither of these guys is dating a woman/obviously otherwise no one would get married!
Being gay cuts down on a lot of this, as well as assumed sex scripts (eg, the natural progression of sexytimes). When you're queer none of that even works. Most queer couples don't even have the prerequisite scripted parts!
I forget what I'm supposed to be writing about.
Being queer: it's weird.
*or other arrangements, whatever
yo!
Um I think there is some kind of misunderstanding here : (
Nobody is allowed to be sad now that skippy bought his gold plated throne office chair.
but also fewer tracks that you can just effortlessly fall into
Improv sex!
"We'll just call this position the sea bass."
omg frosteey this chair is so handsome but I tend to sit with one leg folded under and I have a giant fucking bruise on my thigh from where my leg bangs into the metal armrest