(I think I already have decided on an answer before even making a thread. I'll wait until I see meet this person in person. But I don't know if that'll be days or weeks or never so I wanted to get this off my chest?)
I have a unique last name, such that anyone I know with this name is closely related to me. My dad's side of the family (aka anyone with that name) all live in another state, so no one around me (aside from my brother and parents) has my last name. Saturday, at my Local Game Shop (LGS) I hear that someone was there with the same last name as me playing the same card game I play. They were asking if we were related. I was as surprised as they were.
That night, on our local facebook group for that card game, that person made some posts, and yeah, same last name as me. I haven't lived near my dad's side of the family for around 18+ years, and this person is a young girl. She could easily be a cousin's daughter or something. Which means one of my cousins could be living near me and we never realized it. Also, this is the first time I've ever randomly seen anyone with my last name, so I'm super curious.
I hit the friend request button on this girl's profile. Then immediately reversed it. I started to write a private message, then deleted it. The problem I'm feeling is that this is a young girl. I'm pretty sure adults friend or messaging young girls on facebook is a bad idea. Right? I have no idea. So I can just wait and see if we end up playing at the weekly events at the LGS and I could ask about it at that time. I guess I'll ask my dad about it, but I'm sure he would have mentioned it if one of his relatives moved nearby.
Am I going about this the right way? Am I being too self-conscious about contacting the girl on facebook? Am I doing anything really stupid about this right now that I don't realize (including making this thread about it)?