I looked on OKCupid, Match.com and Zoosk earlier and managed to find some women who seem interesting. One of the Match.com results even lives in my hometown. I'm a bit confused, though; her profile says she's a Christian but is looking for an Agnostic, so I'm not certain what that means. Maybe she's not really religious but doesn't want her relatives to find out? I managed to find her on Facebook and discovered that she's the sister of a guy I was friends with in elementary school but lost touch with, so that might be weird. It doesn't say anything about religion on her Facebook, though, so maybe that's a good sign.
OKCupid seems quite a bit more thorough when it comes to matching people than Match.com and Zoosk, btw.
Christians of different denominations often have pretty different (and sometimes aggressively contradictory) doctrines, which can be awkward and frustrating, so maybe they feel that dating someone agnostic would be easier?
I'm waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too self conscious to dance, even with some alcohol. Wish I wasn't a lot of the time though.
Practice helps a lot with this, as well as having an actual teacher.
But that does require kind of an investment of time and dedication to learning, which, if you're already in an "I don't dance" state of mind, is hard to over come.
Not everybody needs to dance, but if it's a thing you kind of want to do, there is literally no reason not to do it, you can learn rhythm and moves and confidence. The question is if you want to or not, to which there is, of course, no wrong answer.
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valhalla13013 Dark Shield Perceives the GodsRegistered Userregular
"1000 miles seems pretty far, but they've got planes and trains and cars, I'd walk to you if I had no other way."
Things are going very well with the woman in Atlanta who I went to high school with. Aside from the fact she is still not out of her previous relationship. She is going thru cancer treatment, though, and even though he hasn't been there forbhe, which is pretty crappy, she doesn't feel like dealing with the breakup fight just now.
I'm traveling to see her Wednesday. And I am so looking forward to this. We just seem so compatible. Aside from my cat allergies.
I looked on OKCupid, Match.com and Zoosk earlier and managed to find some women who seem interesting. One of the Match.com results even lives in my hometown. I'm a bit confused, though; her profile says she's a Christian but is looking for an Agnostic, so I'm not certain what that means. Maybe she's not really religious but doesn't want her relatives to find out? I managed to find her on Facebook and discovered that she's the sister of a guy I was friends with in elementary school but lost touch with, so that might be weird. It doesn't say anything about religion on her Facebook, though, so maybe that's a good sign.
OKCupid seems quite a bit more thorough when it comes to matching people than Match.com and Zoosk, btw.
Christians of different denominations often have pretty different (and sometimes aggressively contradictory) doctrines, which can be awkward and frustrating, so maybe they feel that dating someone agnostic would be easier?
Also, I would assume that listing yourself as a Christian looking for other Christians, you're likely to attract a fairly conservative crowd. Meanwhile, agnostics aren't as anti religious as atheists are reputed to be, and may not object to children being raised as Christians. So a liberal Christian girl might find that more attractive than a bunch of serious Christians.
I looked on OKCupid, Match.com and Zoosk earlier and managed to find some women who seem interesting. One of the Match.com results even lives in my hometown. I'm a bit confused, though; her profile says she's a Christian but is looking for an Agnostic, so I'm not certain what that means. Maybe she's not really religious but doesn't want her relatives to find out? I managed to find her on Facebook and discovered that she's the sister of a guy I was friends with in elementary school but lost touch with, so that might be weird. It doesn't say anything about religion on her Facebook, though, so maybe that's a good sign.
OKCupid seems quite a bit more thorough when it comes to matching people than Match.com and Zoosk, btw.
Christians of different denominations often have pretty different (and sometimes aggressively contradictory) doctrines, which can be awkward and frustrating, so maybe they feel that dating someone agnostic would be easier?
Could be. I tried to message them on Match.com but apparently you've got to pay to do that and I don't feel like it. Since I've already found them on Facebook I might just try to message them on there after I charge my phone. Part of me is afraid that doing that might seem creepy, but all I had to do is type their username (which is also their real first name) into Facebook's search bar and they were the first result near me.
Just think I know I am going through a lot and have warnings of don't bother on my online accounts
But what someone wrote in their match profile is crazy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nx5CkFbuGGc
I was going to message the person I found on Match.com but you have to pay to message people on there and oh my god is a subscription expensive. I've already found her on Facebook and sent her both a message and a friend request. I'm wondering if she'll respond.
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I don't like dancing. Mostly for self conscious reasons, but also, I don't like being placed with loud noises/music/people.
I just can't handle the extra volume. And since most places to dance are kind clubs or dance halls or things with sound systems, that pretty much ruins it for me.
Dancing is hard, but the other night at the club a dance circle formed at the end of Footloose and no one took the solo at the end so I jumped in and went for it as hard as I could and fell down and lost my glasses during a spin and everybody clapped and gave me hugs so no one cares if you fuck up, they probably feel as insecure as you.
Also the end of Footloose fucking rocks and being in there at the end is just like the music video and I regret nothing.
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OkCupid has a better interface, but no one around here uses it
I think I prefer Bumble, but again, no one uses it
Tinder has a reputation around here as a one night stands app, but most people will indicate what they're looking for relationship wise right in their profile.
I have a date today! I'll believe it when I pick her up later this morning, but I'm very excited.
I looked on OKCupid, Match.com and Zoosk earlier and managed to find some women who seem interesting. One of the Match.com results even lives in my hometown. I'm a bit confused, though; her profile says she's a Christian but is looking for an Agnostic, so I'm not certain what that means. Maybe she's not really religious but doesn't want her relatives to find out? I managed to find her on Facebook and discovered that she's the sister of a guy I was friends with in elementary school but lost touch with, so that might be weird. It doesn't say anything about religion on her Facebook, though, so maybe that's a good sign.
OKCupid seems quite a bit more thorough when it comes to matching people than Match.com and Zoosk, btw.
Christians of different denominations often have pretty different (and sometimes aggressively contradictory) doctrines, which can be awkward and frustrating, so maybe they feel that dating someone agnostic would be easier?
Not to mention that clicking boxes on a checklist is the Scientifically Approved™ way of expressing religious preference.
If I'm not being clear, Hexmage, ignore it until you meet her.
Well she accepted my friend request on Facebook but hasn't looked at the message I sent her on Messenger yet. So I don't know what to think about that. I'm pretty sure she looked at my Match.com profile.
I've never tried to talk to someone I saw on a dating website. My first message was along the lines of "I saw you on Match.com. Did you go to the same high school I did? I work at this place." Should I be more forward and go ahead and ask if she wants to go eat or something?
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I need to get out of my head and just ask this girl to coffee
Her being a total stranger makes it a bit harder. Saw her at the gym today and spent the entire time trying to think up an ice breaker to meet her. It's that weird thing where I feel like I'm on the spot so I'm blanking outside of "Hi, I'm Jim. What's your name? Want to grab coffee?"
I feel like I need to establish a rapport first and I'm blanking. And I think if I wasn't trying to ask her out this would be very easy
I am a massive fuck up and can't do anything right.
I can't take criticism from anyone I care about because I spend so much time criticizing myself I jump to the conclusion that I'm too worthless to try or to actually even be around them at all because clearly I'm just making their life shittier.
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Yesterday I attended a graduation party for a former poster on these here forums, and a couple other forumers attended.
But we were talking to this former forumer's classmate and she asked how we met and how long we had known each other.
Classmate: So where did you two meet? Me: Oh, the internet! Classmate: What? Former Forumer: Yeah, an internet community! Classmate: Okay, okay. Was that a fairly recent thing? Me: Uhh... Hmm... I'd say we've known each other going on ten years? Former Forumer: Yeah, ten sounds right. Classmate: Cool, cool. I would have been twelve. Me: Ya... Ya don't need to include stuff like tha-- I have to go.
Well she accepted my friend request on Facebook but hasn't looked at the message I sent her on Messenger yet. So I don't know what to think about that. I'm pretty sure she looked at my Match.com profile.
I've never tried to talk to someone I saw on a dating website. My first message was along the lines of "I saw you on Match.com. Did you go to the same high school I did? I work at this place." Should I be more forward and go ahead and ask if she wants to go eat or something?
It's probably fine, don't sweat it. Wait a couple of days and then and only then maybe send a follow up since FB messages from non friends often get lost in limbo.
I am a massive fuck up and can't do anything right.
I can't take criticism from anyone I care about because I spend so much time criticizing myself I jump to the conclusion that I'm too worthless to try or to actually even be around them at all because clearly I'm just making their life shittier.
Well she accepted my friend request on Facebook but hasn't looked at the message I sent her on Messenger yet. So I don't know what to think about that. I'm pretty sure she looked at my Match.com profile.
I've never tried to talk to someone I saw on a dating website. My first message was along the lines of "I saw you on Match.com. Did you go to the same high school I did? I work at this place." Should I be more forward and go ahead and ask if she wants to go eat or something?
It's probably fine, don't sweat it. Wait a couple of days and then and only then maybe send a follow up since FB messages from non friends often get lost in limbo.
If that doesn't pan out, don't worry about it.
If things seems like they're starting to go well with this person I hope I can get their phone number as soon as possible because honestly the way Messenger works aggravates my insecurity. At least with normal text messages there's no way to know if someone has seen your message or not and you can't know how long ago they were active. Honestly things might have gone better with my last crush if I could have just texted her normally instead of using Messenger.
Just think I know I am going through a lot and have warnings of don't bother on my online accounts
But what someone wrote in their match profile is crazy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nx5CkFbuGGc
I know this guy is doing a bit, but I wanna hit him with a chair.
Yesterday I attended a graduation party for a former poster on these here forums, and a couple other forumers attended.
But we were talking to this former forumer's classmate and she asked how we met and how long we had known each other.
Classmate: So where did you two meet? Me: Oh, the internet! Classmate: What? Former Forumer: Yeah, an internet community! Classmate: Okay, okay. Was that a fairly recent thing? Me: Uhh... Hmm... I'd say we've known each other going on ten years? Former Forumer: Yeah, ten sounds right. Classmate: Cool, cool. I would have been twelve. Me: Ya... Ya don't need to include stuff like tha-- I have to go.
One of my coworkers told me she had watched Avatar (blue cat people, not the glowing arrow) when she was 13.
That was the thing that just made me feel old for the first time ;_;
Well she accepted my friend request on Facebook but hasn't looked at the message I sent her on Messenger yet. So I don't know what to think about that. I'm pretty sure she looked at my Match.com profile.
I've never tried to talk to someone I saw on a dating website. My first message was along the lines of "I saw you on Match.com. Did you go to the same high school I did? I work at this place." Should I be more forward and go ahead and ask if she wants to go eat or something?
It's probably fine, don't sweat it. Wait a couple of days and then and only then maybe send a follow up since FB messages from non friends often get lost in limbo.
If that doesn't pan out, don't worry about it.
I went ahead and shot her another message just now. I wrote:
"I thought you might not have seen where I had sent you a message before because I had sent them before you accepted my friend request. I wanted to send you a message on Match.com but that place is crazy expensive. Anyway, you said on your profile you're a bit of a nerd. What kind of things do you like?"
My bookstore and lunch date? / hangout? went very well I think
We walked around talking about books and stuff for a couple of hours, we bought a goofy motivational book that had the word badass on the cover to take turns reading!
And then we went to lunch and it was good and fun
And I bought her lunch, so that's good too?
I'm not entirely sure if we're on the same page, but the rush into things approach hasn't exactly worked in the past
Now, I have that Kamen Rider picture, so I should be good to go
Well she accepted my friend request on Facebook but hasn't looked at the message I sent her on Messenger yet. So I don't know what to think about that. I'm pretty sure she looked at my Match.com profile.
I've never tried to talk to someone I saw on a dating website. My first message was along the lines of "I saw you on Match.com. Did you go to the same high school I did? I work at this place." Should I be more forward and go ahead and ask if she wants to go eat or something?
It's probably fine, don't sweat it. Wait a couple of days and then and only then maybe send a follow up since FB messages from non friends often get lost in limbo.
If that doesn't pan out, don't worry about it.
If things seems like they're starting to go well with this person I hope I can get their phone number as soon as possible because honestly the way Messenger works aggravates my insecurity. At least with normal text messages there's no way to know if someone has seen your message or not and you can't know how long ago they were active. Honestly things might have gone better with my last crush if I could have just texted her normally instead of using Messenger.
Messenger is very, very often wrong about 'seen at' and last online nonsense. Ignore it.
Also don't use messenger, it's a horribly written app that drains batteries.
I just finished talking to the girl I found on Match.com. We haven't set anything concrete yet because she has a weird work schedule, but when I asked if she'd like to hang out sometime she said she would. So now I just have to wait and see if she gets back to me with a day that would be good for her.
I wonder how compatible we'll end up being? She said on her profile that she's nerdy, but she also acted like when we were talking just now that she's mostly into books and I don't really read that much (I prefer media conducive to multi-tasking myself). Oh well, I thought the last person I was interested in was a near perfect match for me and that didn't work out, so who knows?
fine, i'll post this draft that makes me seem the most up my own ass, but i love dancing. it is such a joyful thing. i love to share.
as someone whose dancing has been complimented many a time, i can tell you that as a layman, i can easily spot bad dancers.
i can also tell you that bad dancers who look like they're having. a. blast. are a pleasure to see, as opposed to those who are just trying to hunt, grind up and mimic sex, or disappear chameleon-like. because unlike the former, dancing as an activity is clearly a means to an end.
the only times i have partnered with strangers --better or worse at dancing-- they had a sense of play, and wanted to share that fun. i would much rather meet someone authentic enough to lack skill but persevere in enjoyment versus someone doing the thing they think will attract others.
like, I've never been seriously trolling for a hookup, but it's always struck me as weird to --if you don't like dancing-- get on the floor to try and meet someone. (granted, if i am on a dancefloor, i am there for the business of dancing, don't fuckin step to me unless you can relate or i know you.) if you just like the music, hang at the bar. if you're self-conscious or simply not good at dancing, relaxing enough to enjoy it is a great way to bond; i could not count the number of times i have acted as a cheerleader or impromptu dance instructor. but engaging in something you don't enjoy or actively dislike, in an environment expressly suited to that purpose, in order to connect with someone who presumably enjoys said thing... it smacks of dishonesty or seems predatory, i guess.
part of that distaste reflects my attitude towards sex etc. simulated sex on a dancefloor with strangers as a substitute or prelude is not how i vet potential partners; i am more likely to be annoyed by assumptions about my preferences, and being treated as part of the cattle call. i am really friendly, physically affectionate, and extremely particular about my personal space. and if it's actual dancing, again, the respect, dedication, or enthusiasm shown is going to be more of a positive indicator than raw skill or technical prowess, and the moment simply enjoyed for itself. which, yo, pretty well applies to most activities.
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Christians of different denominations often have pretty different (and sometimes aggressively contradictory) doctrines, which can be awkward and frustrating, so maybe they feel that dating someone agnostic would be easier?
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Practice helps a lot with this, as well as having an actual teacher.
But that does require kind of an investment of time and dedication to learning, which, if you're already in an "I don't dance" state of mind, is hard to over come.
Not everybody needs to dance, but if it's a thing you kind of want to do, there is literally no reason not to do it, you can learn rhythm and moves and confidence. The question is if you want to or not, to which there is, of course, no wrong answer.
Things are going very well with the woman in Atlanta who I went to high school with. Aside from the fact she is still not out of her previous relationship. She is going thru cancer treatment, though, and even though he hasn't been there forbhe, which is pretty crappy, she doesn't feel like dealing with the breakup fight just now.
I'm traveling to see her Wednesday. And I am so looking forward to this. We just seem so compatible. Aside from my cat allergies.
No, you are not.
Also, I would assume that listing yourself as a Christian looking for other Christians, you're likely to attract a fairly conservative crowd. Meanwhile, agnostics aren't as anti religious as atheists are reputed to be, and may not object to children being raised as Christians. So a liberal Christian girl might find that more attractive than a bunch of serious Christians.
Could be. I tried to message them on Match.com but apparently you've got to pay to do that and I don't feel like it. Since I've already found them on Facebook I might just try to message them on there after I charge my phone. Part of me is afraid that doing that might seem creepy, but all I had to do is type their username (which is also their real first name) into Facebook's search bar and they were the first result near me.
But what someone wrote in their match profile is crazy
this was the first time i'd ever danced in public
I just can't handle the extra volume. And since most places to dance are kind clubs or dance halls or things with sound systems, that pretty much ruins it for me.
Loud places make me anxious.
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Also the end of Footloose fucking rocks and being in there at the end is just like the music video and I regret nothing.
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To be fair, you were dressed as the Penguin.
So... Ya had it coming.
OkCupid has a better interface, but no one around here uses it
I think I prefer Bumble, but again, no one uses it
Tinder has a reputation around here as a one night stands app, but most people will indicate what they're looking for relationship wise right in their profile.
I have a date today! I'll believe it when I pick her up later this morning, but I'm very excited.
Not to mention that clicking boxes on a checklist is the Scientifically Approved™ way of expressing religious preference.
If I'm not being clear, Hexmage, ignore it until you meet her.
I'm allergic to cats and I have two. Do antihistamines work for you?
Also, geez what should I wear
Lol, hormones don't give a fuck!
I've never tried to talk to someone I saw on a dating website. My first message was along the lines of "I saw you on Match.com. Did you go to the same high school I did? I work at this place." Should I be more forward and go ahead and ask if she wants to go eat or something?
Her being a total stranger makes it a bit harder. Saw her at the gym today and spent the entire time trying to think up an ice breaker to meet her. It's that weird thing where I feel like I'm on the spot so I'm blanking outside of "Hi, I'm Jim. What's your name? Want to grab coffee?"
I feel like I need to establish a rapport first and I'm blanking. And I think if I wasn't trying to ask her out this would be very easy
I can't take criticism from anyone I care about because I spend so much time criticizing myself I jump to the conclusion that I'm too worthless to try or to actually even be around them at all because clearly I'm just making their life shittier.
But we were talking to this former forumer's classmate and she asked how we met and how long we had known each other.
It's probably fine, don't sweat it. Wait a couple of days and then and only then maybe send a follow up since FB messages from non friends often get lost in limbo.
If that doesn't pan out, don't worry about it.
Just breathe, my dude.
If things seems like they're starting to go well with this person I hope I can get their phone number as soon as possible because honestly the way Messenger works aggravates my insecurity. At least with normal text messages there's no way to know if someone has seen your message or not and you can't know how long ago they were active. Honestly things might have gone better with my last crush if I could have just texted her normally instead of using Messenger.
I know this guy is doing a bit, but I wanna hit him with a chair.
One of my coworkers told me she had watched Avatar (blue cat people, not the glowing arrow) when she was 13.
That was the thing that just made me feel old for the first time ;_;
I went ahead and shot her another message just now. I wrote:
"I thought you might not have seen where I had sent you a message before because I had sent them before you accepted my friend request. I wanted to send you a message on Match.com but that place is crazy expensive. Anyway, you said on your profile you're a bit of a nerd. What kind of things do you like?"
EDIT: She's messaging me back right now!
I may not be the best judge of such matters
My bookstore and lunch date? / hangout? went very well I think
We walked around talking about books and stuff for a couple of hours, we bought a goofy motivational book that had the word badass on the cover to take turns reading!
And then we went to lunch and it was good and fun
And I bought her lunch, so that's good too?
I'm not entirely sure if we're on the same page, but the rush into things approach hasn't exactly worked in the past
Now, I have that Kamen Rider picture, so I should be good to go
Depending on a whole shit-ton of other context sure. I met a lot of people on the internet when they were 12 and I was also 12, for instance.
They were simply remarking how old they were when the other guy & I met.
Messenger is very, very often wrong about 'seen at' and last online nonsense. Ignore it.
Also don't use messenger, it's a horribly written app that drains batteries.
I wonder how compatible we'll end up being? She said on her profile that she's nerdy, but she also acted like when we were talking just now that she's mostly into books and I don't really read that much (I prefer media conducive to multi-tasking myself). Oh well, I thought the last person I was interested in was a near perfect match for me and that didn't work out, so who knows?
i can also tell you that bad dancers who look like they're having. a. blast. are a pleasure to see, as opposed to those who are just trying to hunt, grind up and mimic sex, or disappear chameleon-like. because unlike the former, dancing as an activity is clearly a means to an end.
the only times i have partnered with strangers --better or worse at dancing-- they had a sense of play, and wanted to share that fun. i would much rather meet someone authentic enough to lack skill but persevere in enjoyment versus someone doing the thing they think will attract others.
like, I've never been seriously trolling for a hookup, but it's always struck me as weird to --if you don't like dancing-- get on the floor to try and meet someone. (granted, if i am on a dancefloor, i am there for the business of dancing, don't fuckin step to me unless you can relate or i know you.) if you just like the music, hang at the bar. if you're self-conscious or simply not good at dancing, relaxing enough to enjoy it is a great way to bond; i could not count the number of times i have acted as a cheerleader or impromptu dance instructor. but engaging in something you don't enjoy or actively dislike, in an environment expressly suited to that purpose, in order to connect with someone who presumably enjoys said thing... it smacks of dishonesty or seems predatory, i guess.
part of that distaste reflects my attitude towards sex etc. simulated sex on a dancefloor with strangers as a substitute or prelude is not how i vet potential partners; i am more likely to be annoyed by assumptions about my preferences, and being treated as part of the cattle call. i am really friendly, physically affectionate, and extremely particular about my personal space. and if it's actual dancing, again, the respect, dedication, or enthusiasm shown is going to be more of a positive indicator than raw skill or technical prowess, and the moment simply enjoyed for itself. which, yo, pretty well applies to most activities.