The important thing is to be happy, and do things that make you happy. If you're able to do that, or work to that goal, you're fortunate.
So, if dating, or trying to date is stressful and makes you feel bad, stop dating.
Take some time to love yourself and I don't just mean masturbating, I mean take care of yourself. Try to eat better, try to do one thing every day that makes you happier
Try new things and see what you enjoy
Maybe it's painting, maybe it's writing, maybe it's walking or taking care of an animal.
You should be happy with yourself, or making efforts to get there, before you try to date.
the sis-outlaw's Dirty Santa party is usually my social highlight for the year (now that i go to PAXSouth, it has strong competition.)
20 or 30 dollar limit, i forget. people may go above it on occasion, but it's a pretty easygoing group, and no drama from it so far.
whatever it is, someone genuinely thought it was funny or otherwise appealing. no one's trying to be edgy.
the gift can be stolen twice, and is locked on its third owner (though there are occasional side dealings afterward); the person stolen from can also steal (though not to immediately get 'their' item back), or can choose an unopened gift.
family and friends, age range from 20s to 40s.
there are usually
--multiple liquor choices (samplers, the inexpensive but good, unusual like the whiskey brought from Chinese duty-free, etc.),
--multiple board or card games,
--As-Seen-On-TV items (the year i technically won booty pop undies, they made the rounds of the party and ended up who knows where, but i wrangled a Chewbacca rasta tee i actually wore, so i got the better deal, really),
--a shake-weight (initially: fad gift, now: still reliable for a 'batin' joke, but apparently useful?),
--and a box making a return appearance paired with something desirable.
i once crammed two small-medium boxes full of boxes of tea samplers. (sidebar: the beau's grandparents had discovered that i also like tea, so for several gift-giving occasions, had given me boxes of vanilla chai and chai samplers. i had Way Too Much of this tea, i could not drink this much tea, i already had lots of tea before adding this glut of tea, and finally had to ask them to stop; turns out those were extras or freebies they'd been getting with their tea, hah!) these two boxes of similarish size were covered in the exact same wrapping paper and meant as a single gift; the hosts decided my beau WOULD play Dirty Santa, and perfect, you have two boxes already, all set. i did try to tell them. maximum universe-laughing: both boxes went to each half of a couple. after his now-wife opened the second box, the guy, at least, declared that he loved tea, so he was pleased to try it. i think a few boxes made it into their packages the next year.
one year, the beau chose an item that he saw on an Amazon flash sale, knew instinctively i would hate it, but it perfectly fit that gag/possibly useful niche he strives for -- the iPotty. someone with a child thereabouts that age snagged it.
last year, the squatty potty someone brought was both highly reviled by its initial recipient (reminding him of unpleasant encounters with squat toilets), and eagerly 'stolen' by his sibling.
several years ago, someone brought a dildo, lube, and condoms iirc, along with some other banal thing for contrast/to up the appeal. general laughter, passing around of the dildo... but despite attempting to play it off and laugh along with everyone else, it was clearly uncomfortable for the person/couple who had won it. i believe that was their first and last appearance at the party, though i think the fellow, single, showed back up recently. personally, given *gesticulates* repression in our society, i'm okay with some mild discomfort possibly raising one's awareness (especially in the context of a group that takes a subject in stride and is able to find humor), but there are different types and degrees of offensive. i don't recall any sex toys since.
it is always surprising and interesting to me to see what items immediately appeal, keenly, to one person only, or are hotly desired because of, well, broad desirability, or due to in-jokes; one year, there were strong declarations regarding this sealed vintage action figure of ..a singer? wrestler? i clearly don't remember, but it was hilarious at the time. the packaging-taped, original-formula 4-loko sampler + debit giftcard was passed off to one of the youths because none of his elders wanted the booze, hand-imported and bonus cash or no. last year, i stole and secured my brother-outlaw's Christmas present whiskey because his wife accidentally included it in a last-minute package for someone who'd forgotten their gift; pulling off a final steal is a very low-key thrill of the heist.
people tell stories to explain the selections, and in response to the reveals, it's a mild form of competition and a boisterous time.
you definitely have to know your crowd if you want everyone to have fun.
but we generally chow down, get drunk at varying rates, eat oreo cookie balls, play Dirty Santa, snack on artichoke dip, then crack open either one of the new games or old reliables like Trivial Pursuit. it's a fun party anyway -- the Dirty Santa element just adds an event for part of the night, and the challenge/anticipation of finding an appropriate gift for it.
I should probably stop relying on ex who moved across the country a while ago in an amicable and foreseen breakup for conversation
Like we’re friendly
Dating other ppl etc
Generally converse
But then at times it’s easy for it to turn into just lots of like complaining about things idk, filling up boredom
Too much reliance
Break time
I need one of these gd dates of mine to work out though
Hopefully this Sundays will
But also I need to be better on like... being alone with my brain, because it’s always like I’ll go text someone, or read the forums, or refresh Instagram etc
And that’s the real problem
the sis-outlaw's Dirty Santa party is usually my social highlight for the year (now that i go to PAXSouth, it has strong competition.)
20 or 30 dollar limit, i forget. people may go above it on occasion, but it's a pretty easygoing group, and no drama from it so far.
whatever it is, someone genuinely thought it was funny or otherwise appealing. no one's trying to be edgy.
the gift can be stolen twice, and is locked on its third owner (though there are occasional side dealings afterward); the person stolen from can also steal (though not to immediately get 'their' item back), or can choose an unopened gift.
family and friends, age range from 20s to 40s.
there are usually
--multiple liquor choices (samplers, the inexpensive but good, unusual like the whiskey brought from Chinese duty-free, etc.),
--multiple board or card games,
--As-Seen-On-TV items (the year i technically won booty pop undies, they made the rounds of the party and ended up who knows where, but i wrangled a Chewbacca rasta tee i actually wore, so i got the better deal, really),
--a shake-weight (initially: fad gift, now: still reliable for a 'batin' joke, but apparently useful?),
--and a box making a return appearance paired with something desirable.
i once crammed two small-medium boxes full of boxes of tea samplers. (sidebar: the beau's grandparents had discovered that i also like tea, so for several gift-giving occasions, had given me boxes of vanilla chai and chai samplers. i had Way Too Much of this tea, i could not drink this much tea, i already had lots of tea before adding this glut of tea, and finally had to ask them to stop; turns out those were extras or freebies they'd been getting with their tea, hah!) these two boxes of similarish size were covered in the exact same wrapping paper and meant as a single gift; the hosts decided my beau WOULD play Dirty Santa, and perfect, you have two boxes already, all set. i did try to tell them. maximum universe-laughing: both boxes went to each half of a couple. after his now-wife opened the second box, the guy, at least, declared that he loved tea, so he was pleased to try it. i think a few boxes made it into their packages the next year.
one year, the beau chose an item that he saw on an Amazon flash sale, knew instinctively i would hate it, but it perfectly fit that gag/possibly useful niche he strives for -- the iPotty. someone with a child thereabouts that age snagged it.
last year, the squatty potty someone brought was both highly reviled by its initial recipient (reminding him of unpleasant encounters with squat toilets), and eagerly 'stolen' by his sibling.
several years ago, someone brought a dildo, lube, and condoms iirc, along with some other banal thing for contrast/to up the appeal. general laughter, passing around of the dildo... but despite attempting to play it off and laugh along with everyone else, it was clearly uncomfortable for the person/couple who had won it. i believe that was their first and last appearance at the party, though i think the fellow, single, showed back up recently. personally, given *gesticulates* repression in our society, i'm okay with some mild discomfort possibly raising one's awareness (especially in the context of a group that takes a subject in stride and is able to find humor), but there are different types and degrees of offensive. i don't recall any sex toys since.
it is always surprising and interesting to me to see what items immediately appeal, keenly, to one person only, or are hotly desired because of, well, broad desirability, or due to in-jokes; one year, there were strong declarations regarding this sealed vintage action figure of ..a singer? wrestler? i clearly don't remember, but it was hilarious at the time. the packaging-taped, original-formula 4-loko sampler + debit giftcard was passed off to one of the youths because none of his elders wanted the booze, hand-imported and bonus cash or no. last year, i stole and secured my brother-outlaw's Christmas present whiskey because his wife accidentally included it in a last-minute package for someone who'd forgotten their gift; pulling off a final steal is a very low-key thrill of the heist.
people tell stories to explain the selections, and in response to the reveals, it's a mild form of competition and a boisterous time.
you definitely have to know your crowd if you want everyone to have fun.
but we generally chow down, get drunk at varying rates, eat oreo cookie balls, play Dirty Santa, snack on artichoke dip, then crack open either one of the new games or old reliables like Trivial Pursuit. it's a fun party anyway -- the Dirty Santa element just adds an event for part of the night, and the challenge/anticipation of finding an appropriate gift for it.
Important question. After the package is initially picked, is it opened? I'm of the preference that the packages aren't opened until its all over. All the theft is purely based on the weight, shape and decoration of the wrapping. Once everything is said and done then people open up their packages and see what they actually got. It makes it quite thrilling.
One of my favorite things is to buy 4-5 chocolate bars for weight then some small interesting item. People are always curious about a small heavy package, and it usually gets swapped around a few times.
Padmapper worked well for us when we rental hunted.
Depends where you are. It's great in tech-y suburbs or cities. Some places that I've looked at, Zillow or Craigslist are the best options (Hotpads is usually equal to Padmapper). Look at the local newspaper's classifieds, too. Less information but you might see something.
Padmapper, Walkscore, Kijiji (though that's probably just a Canadian one), Facebook has a marketplace option now, or finding a property management company that appeals to you/has good reviews
Also sometimes just walking around a neighbourhood you like means you can find spots that may have rental signs up but nothing currently posted
I look for apartments on craigslist because I'm a trash person
I've actually had really good luck finding apartments on Craigslist. You have to wade through a lot of crap, but there's definitely good stuff on there, especially if you prefer renting from an individual or smaller company.
I've slept like crap all week and gone off of any sort of exercise and healthy cooking schedule I was trying to stick to
All I can do is hope I can reset over the weekend and get in a better headspace for all that
I've slept like crap all week and gone off of any sort of exercise and healthy cooking schedule I was trying to stick to
All I can do is hope I can reset over the weekend and get in a better headspace for all that
Thanksgiving break completely threw off my entire pro-healthy schedule.
My eating has gone real bad and I gotta try and course correct
On Monday I get meal kits to start playing with at least, maybe I can start searching for more filling low calorie stuff so I can just stop....binging, which I tend to do out of boredom
My eating has gone real bad and I gotta try and course correct
On Monday I get meal kits to start playing with at least, maybe I can start searching for more filling low calorie stuff so I can just stop....binging, which I tend to do out of boredom
Work issues, coupled with Thanksgiving, break destabilized any semblance of a schedule I had.
I'm hoping next week things gets back into the ordinary swing (until Winter break...).
Yeah the holidays got my meal plan hella fucky and I'm sort of course correcting. Problem is I get bored at work and end up hitting the vending machine for those oat and honey bars and fig Newton's throughout the day and I gotta cut that out. Plus I'm nickle and diming the shit out of myself.
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So, if dating, or trying to date is stressful and makes you feel bad, stop dating.
Take some time to love yourself and I don't just mean masturbating, I mean take care of yourself. Try to eat better, try to do one thing every day that makes you happier
Try new things and see what you enjoy
Maybe it's painting, maybe it's writing, maybe it's walking or taking care of an animal.
You should be happy with yourself, or making efforts to get there, before you try to date.
--multiple liquor choices (samplers, the inexpensive but good, unusual like the whiskey brought from Chinese duty-free, etc.),
--multiple board or card games,
--As-Seen-On-TV items (the year i technically won booty pop undies, they made the rounds of the party and ended up who knows where, but i wrangled a Chewbacca rasta tee i actually wore, so i got the better deal, really),
--a shake-weight (initially: fad gift, now: still reliable for a 'batin' joke, but apparently useful?),
--and a box making a return appearance paired with something desirable.
i once crammed two small-medium boxes full of boxes of tea samplers. (sidebar: the beau's grandparents had discovered that i also like tea, so for several gift-giving occasions, had given me boxes of vanilla chai and chai samplers. i had Way Too Much of this tea, i could not drink this much tea, i already had lots of tea before adding this glut of tea, and finally had to ask them to stop; turns out those were extras or freebies they'd been getting with their tea, hah!) these two boxes of similarish size were covered in the exact same wrapping paper and meant as a single gift; the hosts decided my beau WOULD play Dirty Santa, and perfect, you have two boxes already, all set. i did try to tell them. maximum universe-laughing: both boxes went to each half of a couple. after his now-wife opened the second box, the guy, at least, declared that he loved tea, so he was pleased to try it. i think a few boxes made it into their packages the next year.
one year, the beau chose an item that he saw on an Amazon flash sale, knew instinctively i would hate it, but it perfectly fit that gag/possibly useful niche he strives for -- the iPotty. someone with a child thereabouts that age snagged it.
last year, the squatty potty someone brought was both highly reviled by its initial recipient (reminding him of unpleasant encounters with squat toilets), and eagerly 'stolen' by his sibling.
several years ago, someone brought a dildo, lube, and condoms iirc, along with some other banal thing for contrast/to up the appeal. general laughter, passing around of the dildo... but despite attempting to play it off and laugh along with everyone else, it was clearly uncomfortable for the person/couple who had won it. i believe that was their first and last appearance at the party, though i think the fellow, single, showed back up recently. personally, given *gesticulates* repression in our society, i'm okay with some mild discomfort possibly raising one's awareness (especially in the context of a group that takes a subject in stride and is able to find humor), but there are different types and degrees of offensive. i don't recall any sex toys since.
it is always surprising and interesting to me to see what items immediately appeal, keenly, to one person only, or are hotly desired because of, well, broad desirability, or due to in-jokes; one year, there were strong declarations regarding this sealed vintage action figure of ..a singer? wrestler? i clearly don't remember, but it was hilarious at the time. the packaging-taped, original-formula 4-loko sampler + debit giftcard was passed off to one of the youths because none of his elders wanted the booze, hand-imported and bonus cash or no. last year, i stole and secured my brother-outlaw's Christmas present whiskey because his wife accidentally included it in a last-minute package for someone who'd forgotten their gift; pulling off a final steal is a very low-key thrill of the heist.
you definitely have to know your crowd if you want everyone to have fun.
but we generally chow down, get drunk at varying rates, eat oreo cookie balls, play Dirty Santa, snack on artichoke dip, then crack open either one of the new games or old reliables like Trivial Pursuit. it's a fun party anyway -- the Dirty Santa element just adds an event for part of the night, and the challenge/anticipation of finding an appropriate gift for it.
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Like we’re friendly
Dating other ppl etc
Generally converse
But then at times it’s easy for it to turn into just lots of like complaining about things idk, filling up boredom
Too much reliance
Break time
I need one of these gd dates of mine to work out though
Hopefully this Sundays will
But also I need to be better on like... being alone with my brain, because it’s always like I’ll go text someone, or read the forums, or refresh Instagram etc
And that’s the real problem
Baby steps progress on that
Hi Platy!
Important question. After the package is initially picked, is it opened? I'm of the preference that the packages aren't opened until its all over. All the theft is purely based on the weight, shape and decoration of the wrapping. Once everything is said and done then people open up their packages and see what they actually got. It makes it quite thrilling.
One of my favorite things is to buy 4-5 chocolate bars for weight then some small interesting item. People are always curious about a small heavy package, and it usually gets swapped around a few times.
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Depends where you are. It's great in tech-y suburbs or cities. Some places that I've looked at, Zillow or Craigslist are the best options (Hotpads is usually equal to Padmapper). Look at the local newspaper's classifieds, too. Less information but you might see something.
Also sometimes just walking around a neighbourhood you like means you can find spots that may have rental signs up but nothing currently posted
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Specific ones, or any?
Specific ones specifically mine
My condolences/happy birthday.
Look, I’d be willing to take it off your hands so you stay youthful forever, but I will need you to throw in at least one soul.
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I used Zillow and Redfin generally when I was looking for places.
Important note: whose soul is not actually specified....
Jus' saying....
Ocean, tears and heartbreak soup
Half alive in a whitecap foam
Half in love with a white half moon
I've actually had really good luck finding apartments on Craigslist. You have to wade through a lot of crap, but there's definitely good stuff on there, especially if you prefer renting from an individual or smaller company.
It's one of those like, oh I can feel a depressive episode coming on and this sucks
It's just also terrible most of the time
I definitely saw some places for "rent' that were pictures of condos I had seen for sale previously, and I reported them to the actual owners
Kijiji covers the same bases as Craigslist while being less shady/scammy
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All I can do is hope I can reset over the weekend and get in a better headspace for all that
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Thanksgiving break completely threw off my entire pro-healthy schedule.
I'm mostly running on endorphins because things with my girlfriend are going so amazingly well that it's carrying me the rest of the day
That's not even a little bit healthy, so I'm doing a weekend sleep reset somehow? And going to gym Monday
On Monday I get meal kits to start playing with at least, maybe I can start searching for more filling low calorie stuff so I can just stop....binging, which I tend to do out of boredom
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Work issues, coupled with Thanksgiving, break destabilized any semblance of a schedule I had.
I'm hoping next week things gets back into the ordinary swing (until Winter break...).
Commiseration, Diet Thread. Commiseration.
I really look forward to using them for a week and then looking at them every time I go in the garage afterward
On an unrelated note, do you know how much laundry you can hang on an exercise bike? It's more than you'd think.