Title a little overblown, but maybe not.
So father has some big mass of something
in his head. Been messing up his balance and motor control. In hospital, scheduled for surgery on the 24th where they'll either remove or decide on radiation/non surgery. Hospital is local for everyone.
We (wife & I) are scheduled to host Christmas Eve with primary his side of the family. He is all for us doing the party since there's not much we can do.
However, I received an email tonight from one of the relatives saying it would be ok if we cancelled, which to me basically means I'd be the asshole now if I don't, despise father's wishes.
Not really sure what advice I'm asking for, partially just venting.
But I assumed I have to cancel, right? We're not really it any big money yet, was going to buy food, etc. this weekend.
Something working on the first try is a source of great suspicion.