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Is knocking on someone's door and saying "Hey, are you busy? I was just in the neighbourhood and thought I'd see if you wanted to do something" really that offensive or creepy? Unless the guy just invites himself into your home or doesn't leave if you say you're busy/whatever, I don't see what the problem is. At the least, it doesn't seem to warrant standing in the doorway and glaring at the guy until he leaves or yelling at him about it over MSN.
|EDIT| And I mean regardless of the sex and level of friendship of the two parties.
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edited September 2007
Yeah, I never asked to come in. I just said "Hi, got your phone message just letting you know." since I was, y'know, in the 'area'. I wasn't like "HAI GUYZ CAN I STAY FOR 2 HOURS?!".
Manners are one thing, but even outside of college there are a lot of people I know that I might knock on their door and say "hi" unannounced if I happened to be in the neighborhood. It's always a little risky, and you have to make a judgment call as to how comfortable you feel about it depending on how well you know the person, but it's not always the complete faux pas some people are making it out to be. You just have to be ready to be apologetic, and stay "socially aware".
In college, it's completely normal. Sometimes it pisses me off, sometimes it doesn't, sometimes I wish more people would bother me, and I never lost any friends over it. Students do tend to understand that they do things differently, and are quick to flee if I show signs of not wanting to be bothered. Saying "hello" to someone you talk to a bit because you're right next to their apartment anyway is pretty much the least of social sins being routinely and joyfully committed by students.
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Manners are one thing, but even outside of college there are a lot of people I know that I might knock on their door and say "hi" unannounced if I happened to be in the neighborhood. It's always a little risky, and you have to make a judgment call as to how comfortable you feel about it depending on how well you know the person, but it's not always the complete faux pas some people are making it out to be. You just have to be ready to be apologetic, and stay "socially aware".
This right here.
There are only six or seven people I know that I would feel comfortable dropping in on unannounced, and a few more than that who feel comfortable dropping in on me, and it's really no big deal either way. Maybe this has to do with living in the city, where a decent chunk of my social circle occupies the same ten-block radius. At any rate, these people are adults of both genders, well out of college, and "professional", and I'm reasonably sure that none of them suffers some crippling social disorder.
As to the OP: did he know the girl well enough to make this call? Well, clearly not. On the other hand, if she lives next door or down the hallway from a mutual acquaintance then I certainly wouldn't accuse him of weirdness or creepiness - it's not like he trekked across town to lurk in her bushes.
So you just tell her you were in the neighbourhood and just wanted to stop by and say Hi and what not. No crime against that
That's pretty creepy, dude.
Edit: And not "sometimes can be a little creepy", I mean pretty fucking creepy.
It depends on how well he knows her as a friend. I assumed he knew her at least pretty well. That was an early post in the thread. Considering that the OP made it sound like they were decent friends. If it was just an acquaintance or something I wouldn't have gone near but if it was a good enough friend I probably would have popped by to say the hello.
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That's pretty creepy, dude.
Edit: And not "sometimes can be a little creepy", I mean pretty fucking creepy.
|EDIT| And I mean regardless of the sex and level of friendship of the two parties.
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In college, it's completely normal. Sometimes it pisses me off, sometimes it doesn't, sometimes I wish more people would bother me, and I never lost any friends over it. Students do tend to understand that they do things differently, and are quick to flee if I show signs of not wanting to be bothered. Saying "hello" to someone you talk to a bit because you're right next to their apartment anyway is pretty much the least of social sins being routinely and joyfully committed by students.
This right here.
There are only six or seven people I know that I would feel comfortable dropping in on unannounced, and a few more than that who feel comfortable dropping in on me, and it's really no big deal either way. Maybe this has to do with living in the city, where a decent chunk of my social circle occupies the same ten-block radius. At any rate, these people are adults of both genders, well out of college, and "professional", and I'm reasonably sure that none of them suffers some crippling social disorder.
As to the OP: did he know the girl well enough to make this call? Well, clearly not. On the other hand, if she lives next door or down the hallway from a mutual acquaintance then I certainly wouldn't accuse him of weirdness or creepiness - it's not like he trekked across town to lurk in her bushes.
It depends on how well he knows her as a friend. I assumed he knew her at least pretty well. That was an early post in the thread. Considering that the OP made it sound like they were decent friends. If it was just an acquaintance or something I wouldn't have gone near but if it was a good enough friend I probably would have popped by to say the hello.
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