This is a pretty long story, and I'm not sure how specific or general I should be, so I'll keep it pretty general at first, and if you guys ask, I'll provide the details.
Anyways, a guest writer has been writing a column for our university's newspaper every week or so. In my opinion, these articles are completely retarded with no logical or moral sense, and my friends agree. In fact sometimes these articles seem so bad that I think she's doing it on purpose just to cause controversy. There is a clear divide between people who agree with her and people who disagree with her, there happens to be two facebook groups, one pro and one con. There are a lot more people who are for her than against her. At my roommate's beckoning I join the anti-writer group. To anyone who does not know what facebook is, it's like myspace. There's a comment wall on the front page of the group, and everyone's written something, so I decided to write my own comment.
"I want to put out my cigarette in *********'s vagina."
At that time it seemed pretty clever and funny. Anyways, the other group finds out about our group, votes to shut it down, and succeeds. Then, a few days later (now), it's my time to register for classes, and I find out that I'm locked. So I check my email, and there's a notice saying that I have to hold a meeting with the university judicial officer about what I said because of "Alleged Violation of the Student Rights and Responsibilities Code".
Specifically, the email said this: "As University Judicial Officer, it is my responsibility to determine the validity of this allegation. In order to complete my review, I need to meet with you"
I know what I did was pretty immature, but my feeling right now is: "Are you serious? You're going to charge me for making a pussy comment? I mean c'mon, it's freaking college."
Now of course I do not actually want to put out my cigarettes in this person's vagina, I don't want to do anything to her.
I'm curious if anyone's been in a situation like this or knows of someone who has, and know what they went through. How serious is this? What should I say?
I know I should apologize and acknowledge that what I did was wrong, and that I would never do anything like that to anyone. But is there anything else?
Thanks.
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And people area getting fired over facebook profiles..so yeah, its smart not to write anything you wouldn't say outloud.
Is it stupid? Yes. Is it something that any rational person would realize was just a joke (albeit poor taste)? Yes.
Unfortunately, we both know that rational people are not exactly in great abundance in this world, so we have to take than into account when dealing with idiots. My advice is to go to the judicial officer, explain that what you did was stupid, immature and you realize that now. Hopefully, the officer will be reasonable and let you register anyways. You may end up on some sort of probabtion, but I don't think it will be much more than that. I would also go to the meeting with some copies of the other postings on the site (PRO site and CON site) and try to locate other postings that could be taken out of context as a threat. This is just incase he wants to make a big deal about it and push the issue.
The other option you have is claiming that you did not put that post on the site, but if they can prove that you did then you might be screwed....
I hope I don't get punished and have to do community service or anything like that.
I'll update you guys on what happened after the meeting. Thanks for all the help.