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Hehe. I spoke with her about the whole asking permission/talking to parents thing, and she pretty much said not to, as she wants to be the one to tell them she got engaged. So while it might be good form, it might get me in hot water with the missus, which I should probably avoid. :P
Going from experience: want to be on your father-in-law's good side forever? Ask him for permission, even if it's just a stupid formality to you.
It will really depend on the girl, who is after all who you are trying to make happy. If she is traditional minded and/or neutral, I'd probably ask. I did with my wife. In this case however I probably would not. I mean, the father in law probably knows his own daughters views on such things, or one would hope he does. So I imagine he would be understanding if she was the one who broke the news. I mean, he could also tell her 'I was going to ask your father, but I figured you wouldn't want me to' afterwords to make his view explicit.
OP, I'd check out greenkarat.com. They have a couple of designs that are way gorgeous (look at the gatsby), and they are also ethical. If that's important to her, you will win sooooo many points for getting a conflict-free ring (Personally, I'd jump my bf's bones on the spot for something like that). Or you could get her wedding band there. Just a suggestion.
Interesting style; I like the third picture (not that my opinion is a major deal, heh). I imagine she wouldn't even want a wedding ring then. Another option for the wedding ring is a companion ring pair that goes around the engagement ring. My dad did this for my mom - it is in all effect, three rings with two made to fit around and complement the main one. However, for her the rings are all relatively simple and thin-band, so a set of three together isn't much larger than the pictures you linked.
While we didn't actually make use of the cool stuff, you can do awesome things with zirconium. It is extremely hard, similar to titanium, but won't scratch on anything short of ruby. The neat thing is that you can carve intricate designs in the ring itself (making it look like a band of ivy or a celtic knot or a geometric pattern) and still keep it lightweight. You can also get inlays of precious metals on top of/inside it. It also looks awesome - like dark hematite - and gets a lot of remarks.
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While we didn't actually make use of the cool stuff, you can do awesome things with zirconium. It is extremely hard, similar to titanium, but won't scratch on anything short of ruby. The neat thing is that you can carve intricate designs in the ring itself (making it look like a band of ivy or a celtic knot or a geometric pattern) and still keep it lightweight. You can also get inlays of precious metals on top of/inside it. It also looks awesome - like dark hematite - and gets a lot of remarks.
That sounds really cool. I'll definitely look into that when shopping for bands. Thanks!
Did I mention indestructible? I am just waiting for the time that a blast door is closing in to trap me and I get my ring in under it just before it seals! Hmm... dunno what I'd do with an inch or so of space there at the bottom...
As for actually buying it, the site I linked to was quick and very good about getting to us on time. Also the bands cost a few hundred bucks and, as I said, won't scratch (the coating can get scratches if you aren't careful, but it is practically immaculate compared to what gold builds up over time).
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I'm in a similar boat as the OP, so thanks to everyone for the advice as well.
I recently came across this site: Brilliant Earth from a story on reddit. It seems legit and prices look okay, but I'd value the opinion of the more learned and experienced individuals here. Thanks.
Hey guys! I'm usually against necro-posting, but I just wanted to extend another big thank you to everyone who chimed in during this thread. Big help, and big ups. :^:
So yeah, I'm all engaged now. As of August 24. Took the then girlfriend on a four day camping trip. On the second day, we went for a long hike through these serene and secluded trails around the lake. After about two hours in, and plenty of psyching myself up, I got down on one knee in this really beautiful spot on the trail and popped the question. She absolutely loves the ring, which has a very vintage/antique look, and we've both been on cloud nine ever since.
And you were all a big help. Cleared up a lot of questions I had, and prepared me well for the ring search I embarked upon. But the journey was fruitful, so again, thank you!
p.s. Best feeling I've ever felt. Just so... right. Woo!
Kris!
Since you are in Edmonton(me as well) and your looking for a good art deco style ring, I recently replaced my lady's ring (she lost the first one) I would recommend my Goldsmith, Jean Carlo, great guy, small shop, great deals and also does CUSTOM work.
He's located Downtown across from the Staples in between there and City hall the Store is Bruno Bossi Goldsmiths
Ask to see the waxes he makes and take the pictures in he has a ton of Knowlege and can get almost anything you are after.
He also has a great selection of vintage rings(my lady's is from the 50's and looks great and is having a custom wedding band carved right now).
I know this sounds like an ad but I was wary at first but his work is solid and he is good people and local and not bloody Spence! annoying mofo ads..grrr
if you want any info PM me.
and that third ring is the dogs balls mate, nice eye!
Glad to hear it! Here's to a future that only gets more fulfilling.
PS - Pictures of the ring? Or at least the material chosen and other sundry details?
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Murphy's Law: Whatever can go wrong will go wrong.
Murphy's Paradox: The more you plan, the more that can go wrong. The less you plan, the less likely your plan will succeed.
Kris!
Since you are in Edmonton(me as well) and your looking for a good art deco style ring, I recently replaced my lady's ring (she lost the first one) I would recommend my Goldsmith, Jean Carlo, great guy, small shop, great deals and also does CUSTOM work.
He's located Downtown across from the Staples in between there and City hall the Store is Bruno Bossi Goldsmiths
Ask to see the waxes he makes and take the pictures in he has a ton of Knowlege and can get almost anything you are after.
He also has a great selection of vintage rings(my lady's is from the 50's and looks great and is having a custom wedding band carved right now).
I know this sounds like an ad but I was wary at first but his work is solid and he is good people and local and not bloody Spence! annoying mofo ads..grrr
if you want any info PM me.
and that third ring is the dogs balls mate, nice eye!
I appreciate the advice, but I've already bought a ring and proposed. Anyone else in Edmonton though, listen up!
Congratulations, Kris! I have read this far too late in the process (today was my first glimpse of the thread) to be of any help.
But for future grooms-to-be, maybe we should put this thread in the accumulated knowledge sticky? Just a thought. I found alot of information that Forbe put out there very educational.
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It will really depend on the girl, who is after all who you are trying to make happy. If she is traditional minded and/or neutral, I'd probably ask. I did with my wife. In this case however I probably would not. I mean, the father in law probably knows his own daughters views on such things, or one would hope he does. So I imagine he would be understanding if she was the one who broke the news. I mean, he could also tell her 'I was going to ask your father, but I figured you wouldn't want me to' afterwords to make his view explicit.
CUZ THERE'S SOMETHING IN THE MIDDLE AND IT'S GIVING ME A RASH
I didn't bother with a ring for my wife because she hates jewelery (won't wear anything of the sort). We did end up buying wedding rings, but they were simple zirconium bands (that is zirconium as in Zr as in the metal as in http://www.absolutetitanium.com/order_cart_new.php?task=load&ring=HALF-ROUND-CLASSIC-BLK&default_grade=ZB specifically).
While we didn't actually make use of the cool stuff, you can do awesome things with zirconium. It is extremely hard, similar to titanium, but won't scratch on anything short of ruby. The neat thing is that you can carve intricate designs in the ring itself (making it look like a band of ivy or a celtic knot or a geometric pattern) and still keep it lightweight. You can also get inlays of precious metals on top of/inside it. It also looks awesome - like dark hematite - and gets a lot of remarks.
Murphy's Paradox: The more you plan, the more that can go wrong. The less you plan, the less likely your plan will succeed.
That sounds really cool. I'll definitely look into that when shopping for bands. Thanks!
As for actually buying it, the site I linked to was quick and very good about getting to us on time. Also the bands cost a few hundred bucks and, as I said, won't scratch (the coating can get scratches if you aren't careful, but it is practically immaculate compared to what gold builds up over time).
Murphy's Paradox: The more you plan, the more that can go wrong. The less you plan, the less likely your plan will succeed.
I recently came across this site: Brilliant Earth from a story on reddit. It seems legit and prices look okay, but I'd value the opinion of the more learned and experienced individuals here. Thanks.
So yeah, I'm all engaged now. As of August 24. Took the then girlfriend on a four day camping trip. On the second day, we went for a long hike through these serene and secluded trails around the lake. After about two hours in, and plenty of psyching myself up, I got down on one knee in this really beautiful spot on the trail and popped the question. She absolutely loves the ring, which has a very vintage/antique look, and we've both been on cloud nine ever since.
And you were all a big help. Cleared up a lot of questions I had, and prepared me well for the ring search I embarked upon. But the journey was fruitful, so again, thank you!
p.s. Best feeling I've ever felt. Just so... right. Woo!
Since you are in Edmonton(me as well) and your looking for a good art deco style ring, I recently replaced my lady's ring (she lost the first one) I would recommend my Goldsmith, Jean Carlo, great guy, small shop, great deals and also does CUSTOM work.
He's located Downtown across from the Staples in between there and City hall the Store is Bruno Bossi Goldsmiths
Ask to see the waxes he makes and take the pictures in he has a ton of Knowlege and can get almost anything you are after.
He also has a great selection of vintage rings(my lady's is from the 50's and looks great and is having a custom wedding band carved right now).
I know this sounds like an ad but I was wary at first but his work is solid and he is good people and local and not bloody Spence! annoying mofo ads..grrr
if you want any info PM me.
and that third ring is the dogs balls mate, nice eye!
PS - Pictures of the ring? Or at least the material chosen and other sundry details?
Murphy's Paradox: The more you plan, the more that can go wrong. The less you plan, the less likely your plan will succeed.
Thanks man.
I appreciate the advice, but I've already bought a ring and proposed. Anyone else in Edmonton though, listen up!
But for future grooms-to-be, maybe we should put this thread in the accumulated knowledge sticky? Just a thought. I found alot of information that Forbe put out there very educational.