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Vital Life Lessons (and how you learned them)

FlayFlay Registered User regular
edited April 2009 in Debate and/or Discourse
*hopes this thread will not massively backfire*

So, I'm interested in some of the life-changing experiences that people have had, but first lets establish some grounds on which to start.

It does not have to have been a particularly profound experience, but it must be significant enough to change the way you live your life (this might sound like a contradiction, but I'm sure it will apply to someone). The life lessons you've learnt and the way in which it changed your life may also be all-encompassing or very specific; it will depend on what is being learnt and how. The focus should generally be on experiences that have improved you, but there's no reason not to post if you have something to say that does not fall under this. Make sure you include an explanation of cause and effect (saying 'I learnt to revere the all-knowing all-seeing Flying Spaghetti Monster' without and description as to why will not cut it). If someone has posted a certain life lesson before and you want to post something similar, go ahead; no two people will have the same perspective on a situation. Now let us begin.

These are the first two things that come to mind. It was hard to choose one particular 'lesson' to categorise these, since there are several things that they could be classified as.

Don't believe everything you read/hear OR be critical of everything:

This probably seems like one of the less significant lessons to have learned from this particular situation, but it's the one I'm going to go with.

When I was younger (14 and below, basically) I was a very inactive kid. I never liked team sports and preferred to stay indoors. I was chubby during this time, but not quite fat. However, around the end of this time I became more conscious of my health and physical fitness (puberty had slimmed me down considerably by this point, but I was still thinking about heart, muscles etc...) and decided to change this. I still didn't particularly like team sports, so I chose a simple exercise regime. This started off with me going for a lap around the block every week or two, and as many pushups/situps as I could be bothered doing. At this point I decide to look up some resources on the internet (including our very own fitness thread). This, as it turned out, was a big mistake.

This wasn't bad at first; I was doing a fairly healthy amount of exercise and eating less junk. But as I read more, I found out more about how much exercise I (thought I) was supposed to be doing and, being partly OCD, these became ingrained as 'rules' in my head. The problem is, my mind was selecting the rules it thought were the 'correct' ones and ignoring everything else. I would see advice on how to train as a runner, and combine this with dieting strategies. For some reason it never occurred to me that expending more energy means eating more. You can see where this is going...

At the end of 2007 I was admitted to hospital with an eating disorder (thankfully not bulimia). My weight (if I remember correctly) was 53kg, I was 184.5cm tall. This isn't quite as bad as some of the other adolescents admitted to the hospital for the same reason. The bad thing was my heart: it had gone down to 30 bmp, which I was told by the doctor was basically heart attack level. And yet I never admitted (to myself or anyone else) that anything was wrong - in fact physically I felt fine.

Anyway, long story short, I eventually recovered (mostly, not all the way there yet) both physically and mentally. The point of this story isn't to say that the internet (or any other source) is wrong, or that exercise/healthy eating is bad. But now I understand that not everything is right and that this information may be situation specific, and I've learned to consider everything with a critical eye.

Be yourself:

Sorry about this one. I know it's basically the most generic life lesson there is (along with 'believe in yourself') but I'm sure it'll be repeated a couple of times in this thread. I'll try to make it quick.

Again regressing to childhood: During primary school I was always a bit of a misfit, and typically didn't have a wide circle of friends. People kept telling me that I'd finally make friends in high-school, though, and I assumed this would be due to some magical transformation that came bundled with puberty. Not quite, but the 'friends in high-school' bit did work out pretty well.

It was very lucky that I ended up going to a selective high-school, because this allowed me to meet people who were, in a way, similar to myself. I had always assumed that my lack of many friends was due to myself - and this was in some way true, because I had learned to be very reclusive and automatically assume that someone unknown was hostile. But it was also due in part to the people around me. Having friends was cool, but it also allowed me to develop confidence. I stopped being reclusive, learnt to talk to people and stopped mumbling and stuttering, learnt to make eye contact (at least sometimes) and stopped walking everywhere with my eyes glued to the ground.

But essentially, I haven't changed that much. I'm still kind of weird. But now I know this isn't a bad thing so long as you have the right attitude.

*exhales* I'm done. Now that's out of my system, lets hear your stories.

Flay on
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  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Esq. Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Don't date crazy chicks.

    I don't think I really need to go into detail on that one.

    Hacksaw on
  • FlayFlay Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Don't date crazy chicks.

    I don't think I really need to go into detail on that one.

    My friend needs to learn this.

    He never does.

    Flay on
  • JebusUDJebusUD Adventure! Candy IslandRegistered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Flay wrote: »
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Don't date crazy chicks.

    I don't think I really need to go into detail on that one.

    My friend needs to learn this.

    He never does.

    eh. The crazy chicks keep it fun. You know, for a while. Then you gotta date not crazy chicks.

    JebusUD on
    and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
    but they're listening to every word I say
  • HacksawHacksaw J. Duggan Esq. Wrestler at LawRegistered User regular
    edited April 2009
    JebusUD wrote: »
    Flay wrote: »
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Don't date crazy chicks.

    I don't think I really need to go into detail on that one.

    My friend needs to learn this.

    He never does.

    eh. The crazy chicks keep it fun. You know, for a while. Then you gotta date not crazy chicks.
    Crazy chicks are something every heterosexual man should get out of his system. You date them, you fuck them, maybe you even settle down with them for a little while, but eventually you get your fill and move the fuck on.

    And you've got to date at least one crazy chick in your lifetime, if only so you learn firsthand that sometimes pussy just ain't worth all the trouble and that there are plenty of perfectly normal women out there who won't threaten to castrate you and hang you from a lamppost by your entrails if you ever break up with them.

    Hacksaw on
  • DalbozDalboz Resident Puppy Eater Right behind you...Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    JebusUD wrote: »
    Flay wrote: »
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Don't date crazy chicks.

    I don't think I really need to go into detail on that one.

    My friend needs to learn this.

    He never does.

    eh. The crazy chicks keep it fun. You know, for a while. Then you gotta date not crazy chicks.
    Crazy chicks are something every heterosexual man should get out of his system. You date them, you fuck them, maybe you even settle down with them for a little while, but eventually you get your fill and move the fuck on.

    And you've got to date at least one crazy chick in your lifetime, if only so you learn firsthand that sometimes pussy just ain't worth all the trouble and that there are plenty of perfectly normal women out there who won't threaten to castrate you and hang you from a lamppost by your entrails if you ever break up with them.

    Every heterosexual male should also date an older chick/cougar at least once. Seriously, they'll rock your world. You don't know what you're missing.

    Dalboz on
  • TalkaTalka Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Even good people are capable of doing incredibly hurtful things. Even people who love you are capable of leaving you.

    I suppose everyone learns this eventually. I can still remember believing that if someone hurt you it was because they were a bad person, and that if someone left you it was because they didn't love you. Life's not that simple, though. Life can shit all over you and it won't necessarily be anyone's fault.

    Talka on
  • PonyPony Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Dalboz wrote: »
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    JebusUD wrote: »
    Flay wrote: »
    Hacksaw wrote: »
    Don't date crazy chicks.

    I don't think I really need to go into detail on that one.

    My friend needs to learn this.

    He never does.

    eh. The crazy chicks keep it fun. You know, for a while. Then you gotta date not crazy chicks.
    Crazy chicks are something every heterosexual man should get out of his system. You date them, you fuck them, maybe you even settle down with them for a little while, but eventually you get your fill and move the fuck on.

    And you've got to date at least one crazy chick in your lifetime, if only so you learn firsthand that sometimes pussy just ain't worth all the trouble and that there are plenty of perfectly normal women out there who won't threaten to castrate you and hang you from a lamppost by your entrails if you ever break up with them.

    Every heterosexual male should also date an older chick/cougar at least once. Seriously, they'll rock your world. You don't know what you're missing.

    I don't lime things.

    I ain't that sort of man.

    But I do firmly agree with this statement.

    Pony on
  • The CatThe Cat Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited April 2009
    Men Have It Easy.

    Because dating a nutter is viewed as an entertaining diversion rather than a probably-life-threatening mistake which can fuck one over for years afterwards.

    Or maybe you three are just...very young. Sorry, did I kill the buzz?

    hmmm.

    Religion Is Nutty: oh god, my entire life up until about age 19.
    'Pretty' Ain't Worth Shit: First BF.
    probably the most valuable one: You Can Get Damn Near Anywhere If You Stand Tall, Walk Fast and Glare Fiercely At Nothing In Particular. Bonus points for the Holding a Folder trick in office environments :P

    burning out at uni was surprisingly useful. One learns not to sweat the small stuff.

    The Cat on
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  • JebusUDJebusUD Adventure! Candy IslandRegistered User regular
    edited April 2009
    The Cat wrote: »
    Or maybe you three are just...very young. Sorry, did I kill the buzz?

    Maybe you are just... very old. Opps, did I kill the buzz?

    But yeah, dating a nutter chick doesn't usually end up with you dead. Crazy dudes be serious crazy. Wooooo society!

    JebusUD on
    and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
    but they're listening to every word I say
  • MrMisterMrMister Jesus dying on the cross in pain? Morally better than us. One has to go "all in".Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    The Cat wrote: »
    Men Have It Easy.

    Because dating a nutter is viewed as an entertaining diversion rather than a probably-life-threatening mistake which can fuck one over for years afterwards.

    Yeah, I was not really harmonizing with that conversation either. Partially because of the "oh, women"aspect that seemed to be lurking.

    The crazy ones are good fucks but no use spending your life with, m i rite?

    In terms of life lessons, I'm not sure if I'm qualified to give them out.

    MrMister on
  • MalaysianShrewMalaysianShrew Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    The Cat wrote: »
    Men Have It Easy.

    Because dating a nutter is viewed as an entertaining diversion rather than a probably-life-threatening mistake which can fuck one over for years afterwards.

    Or maybe you three are just...very young. Sorry, did I kill the buzz?

    hmmm.

    Religion Is Nutty: oh god, my entire life up until about age 19.
    'Pretty' Ain't Worth Shit: First BF.
    probably the most valuable one: You Can Get Damn Near Anywhere If You Stand Tall, Walk Fast and Glare Fiercely At Nothing In Particular. Bonus points for the Holding a Folder trick in office environments :P

    burning out at uni was surprisingly useful. One learns not to sweat the small stuff.

    To expand on this: Confidence is everything. I don't remember when I learned that but I was always quiet and afraid of ridicule up until around freshman or sophomore year of high school. Then I realized, so what if a bunch of people ridicule you? If a bunch of other people enjoy your company it doesn't matter.

    MalaysianShrew on
    Never trust a big butt and a smile.
  • durandal4532durandal4532 Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    "Don't Piss Into The Wind."


    My dad regularly reminded me and my big sister that we should not piss into the wind, because then the urine would hit us.

    durandal4532 on
    We're all in this together
  • PonyPony Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Fact: No person is incapable of betrayal.

    There is no-one in this world, not a single person you know or love, that is completely incapable of ever betraying you.

    No matter how much you may love or trust them, and no matter how much they might love or trust you, for every person there is the capacity and potential circumstances for them to turn against you.

    It's different for everyone, and varies in their relationships from person to person. For some people, your closest and most trusted friends and loved ones, those circumstances and conditions might be so absurd and narrowly defined that they will (most likely) never come up and aren't worth thinking too much about.

    But they exist, so a rational person always keeps this capacity in mind when dealing with anyone they trust or hold in confidence.

    And ff you're betrayed by someone, truly hurt by them violating your trust and faith in them, your initial response should not be to deny that it is possible, but to understand what has happened to cause it to be this way.

    It doesn't have to be paranoid, or cynical. Just realistic. Trying to pretend love or friendship or trust is unconditional and cannot ever be violated is naive and will end up setting you up to be hurt in a deep and very damaging fashion should that possible betrayal happen.

    Pony on
  • MrMisterMrMister Jesus dying on the cross in pain? Morally better than us. One has to go "all in".Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Pony wrote: »
    Fact: No person is incapable of betrayal.

    Well, that sounds creepy. Of course you might eventually be 'betrayed,' especially if you construe the term broadly, but still. That doesn't need bear on your relationships.

    MrMister on
  • GreeperGreeper Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    We die.

    I knew that already I guess, but I didn't really get it until a couple of years back. I was sitting reading an essay, I can't remember which, something like 'On the American Fear of Dying' or something and it just hit me. People try to dress it up like something it isn't. We try to forget about it, trivialize or glorify or ignore it or say that it isn't the end, but it is.

    And it made me deliriously happy to finally realize that truth, to... grok it in a way I never had. I'm not sure why it wasn't morbidly depressing, but it wasn't, it was liberating, wonderful, beautiful. I'm not sure if I was capable of appreciating life that much before. Or since, maybe.

    Greeper on
  • The CatThe Cat Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited April 2009
    JebusUD wrote: »
    The Cat wrote: »
    Or maybe you three are just...very young. Sorry, did I kill the buzz?

    Maybe you are just... very old. Opps, did I kill the buzz?

    Wait, was this supposed to be some kind of burn? Hilarity.


    'Grok' Is Not A Word One Should Admit to Knowing.

    The Cat on
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  • KyouguKyougu Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Online Relationships DO NOT work out.

    I'm not talking about online dating like OkCupid and Craiglist and what not. I'm talking about relationships which much of their interaction happens through online, specially without rarely meeting in person.

    I know we have a couple of people here in PA who are the exception to the rule and were able to make a real relationship out them, but for 99% of the time this is not the case.

    When you start one, you think it's great, because you're connecting so well with a person. Probably cause you're just typing to a screen, you feel like you can be more open, and when the other person is being just as open you feel so close to them. Eventually though the whole distance/lack of touch and contact starts creeping up.

    Worse yet, I found that many times one of the person's in the relationship is just looking for a bf/gf substitute. It will eventually happen that they will meet someone in real life that they can start a real relationship and they pull away from the previous online relationship, leaving the other person devastated. Yes, I speak from experience and yes, I was the one devastated. And on that note...

    Friendships and relationships aren't 50/50.

    This one killed me for a while. I am the type of person that really puts himself into any sort of friendship or relationship. I always care, always make sure to keep up with what's happening in people's live, try to offer advice, just really show I care. And all that care is not always returned as much.

    For the longest time that annoyed me and hurt me. I expected everyone to put as much effort as I did, and it started messing with my head, and making me bitter towards some relationships. Finally it dawned on me that people did care, they just showed it their way. And I shouldn't expect them to do something out of their comfort feel, and I shouldn't change myself either.

    Kyougu on
  • JohannenJohannen Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Everything is mortal.

    Eventually you're all alone in the world.

    Confidence is a very useful character trait.

    Don't be afraid to do things outside of your comfort zone, usually doing this results in great things happening.

    Don't take shit off people just because you think it will make things easier, it'll blow up in your face in the long run.

    The whole Love and leave thing people have already said.

    Johannen on
  • QuidQuid Definitely not a banana Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    The Cat wrote: »
    probably the most valuable one: You Can Get Damn Near Anywhere If You Stand Tall, Walk Fast and Glare Fiercely At Nothing In Particular. Bonus points for the Holding a Folder trick in office environments :P
    I do this when I need a fax machine.

    Quid on
  • Chrono HelixChrono Helix Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    I find that it's easier to be happy when I don't worry about what others think of me.

    Chrono Helix on
  • The CatThe Cat Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited April 2009
    I find that it's easier to be happy when I don't worry about what others think of me.

    Being Happy Isn't Everything?

    The Cat on
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  • Robos A Go GoRobos A Go Go Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    I find that it's easier to be happy when I don't worry about what others think of me.

    Still, if a doctor thinks you need surgery, it'd probably be best to heed his opinion.

    Robos A Go Go on
  • poshnialloposhniallo Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    I find that it's easier to be happy when I don't worry about what others think of me.

    Still, if a doctor thinks you need surgery, it'd probably be best to heed his opinion.

    Depends - does he think you need surgery because of A Life Threatening Condition or because He Thinks You Have Ugly Hair?

    poshniallo on
    I figure I could take a bear.
  • Robos A Go GoRobos A Go Go Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    poshniallo wrote: »
    I find that it's easier to be happy when I don't worry about what others think of me.

    Still, if a doctor thinks you need surgery, it'd probably be best to heed his opinion.

    Depends - does he think you need surgery because of A Life Threatening Condition or because He Thinks You Have Ugly Hair?

    Ugly hair is a quality of life threatening condition.

    Robos A Go Go on
  • poshnialloposhniallo Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    The Media Lie. Not Twist. Not Prevaricate. Flat Out Unashamed Lies.

    I learned this when I went on demonstrations against the miner's strike, the poll tax, and student loans.

    The demos I was at were peaceful and massive. They became small and violent in the news. That was a big shock to me at the time.

    poshniallo on
    I figure I could take a bear.
  • LeitnerLeitner Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    poshniallo wrote: »
    The Media Lie. Not Twist. Not Prevaricate. Flat Out Unashamed Lies.

    I learned this when I went on demonstrations against the miner's strike, the poll tax, and student loans.

    The demos I was at were peaceful and massive. They became small and violent in the news. That was a big shock to me at the time.

    God yes. Linked to this, all journalists are scum sucking parasites outside of a very small number of exceptions. Their entire career is founded on creating as much drama as they can and reducing ridiculously complicated events to be consumable by the lowest common denominator. The only reason I say exceptions is those who fall into bringing attention to events which do need uncovering. Risking life and lim for such. Truly the epitome of a necessary evil.

    Leitner on
  • a penguina penguin Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    The Cat wrote: »


    probably the most valuable one: You Can Get Damn Near Anywhere If You Stand Tall, Walk Fast and Glare Fiercely At Nothing In Particular. Bonus points for the Holding a Folder trick in office environments :P

    burning out at uni was surprisingly useful. One learns not to sweat the small stuff.


    This, all of this.

    It's amazing how far the first point has gotten me. Acting like you're supposed to be there will get you everywhere.

    And the last part I think is one of the msot important things that you're really supposed to get out of college. The 'book learnin' is secondary to stuff like that.

    a penguin on
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  • TubularLuggageTubularLuggage Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Friendships and relationships aren't 50/50.

    This one killed me for a while. I am the type of person that really puts himself into any sort of friendship or relationship. I always care, always make sure to keep up with what's happening in people's live, try to offer advice, just really show I care. And all that care is not always returned as much.

    This man speaks the truth.

    TubularLuggage on
  • JebusUDJebusUD Adventure! Candy IslandRegistered User regular
    edited April 2009
    The Cat wrote: »
    'Grok' Is Not A Word One Should Admit to Knowing.

    Which is ironic, because you just admited to knowing it.

    Grok is a word everyone should grok though.

    JebusUD on
    and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
    but they're listening to every word I say
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  • TubeTube Registered User admin
    edited April 2009
    Your message is what you communicate, not what you intend.

    and the corollary; Pretending to be confident and being confident are the same thing.

    Also; there's no such thing as motivation, just doing something or not doing it

    Tube on
  • kaz67kaz67 Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    I had a tendency to obsess about my appearance, but as I grew older I realized very few people cared nearly as much as I thought they did. Also, it isn't necessary to leave a good impression on every single person you meet.

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  • EndomaticEndomatic Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Also, it isn't necessary to leave a good impression on every single person you meet.

    Especially on the internet.

    Endomatic on
  • KidDynamiteKidDynamite Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Very over generalized, but,

    Two things.

    Don't sweat the small stuff.

    It's all small stuff.

    As I get older I realized that the things which have been the hardest/most trouble I never saw coming. Worrying didn't help a thing.

    Also from Being an EMT, the very first question I ask myself when something bad is happening, is

    Is anyone dying? That always helps bring the paper due for class, or a meeting that i'm late for back to perspective.

    KidDynamite on
  • TerrendosTerrendos Decorative Monocle Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    I've learned that I regret most the risks I never took. Even the risks I've taken that didn't pay back in actual dividends, I accrued mental ones in the form of life lessons.

    Terrendos on
  • JohannenJohannen Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Leitner wrote: »
    poshniallo wrote: »
    The Media Lie. Not Twist. Not Prevaricate. Flat Out Unashamed Lies.

    I learned this when I went on demonstrations against the miner's strike, the poll tax, and student loans.

    The demos I was at were peaceful and massive. They became small and violent in the news. That was a big shock to me at the time.

    God yes. Linked to this, all journalists are scum sucking parasites outside of a very small number of exceptions. Their entire career is founded on creating as much drama as they can and reducing ridiculously complicated events to be consumable by the lowest common denominator. The only reason I say exceptions is those who fall into bringing attention to events which do need uncovering. Risking life and lim for such. Truly the epitome of a necessary evil.

    The mother of a family friend was stabbed a few years back, and the newspapers published a tonne of "quotes" when he had never had contact with any reporters from that paper and when he hadn't uttered a single word of what they had said. I now think of the media as a soap opera of horrors.

    Johannen on
  • durandal4532durandal4532 Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    I'm not sure what the lesson is, precisely, because it isn't something that I can pin down and I'm not sure if I want to do it exactly the same way but: my mom makes friends with every single person she spends any amount of time with. All of them. People in the same elevator. Cashiers. Telemarketers. Hell, she used to wave excitedly to the kids who threw snowballs at cars when she was in Providence, because it made them assume she knew them and wave back instead of pelting her.

    I think she's a bit excessive, but lately I've been trying to have more conversations with people who I may not meet again about things that I might not even be incredibly interested in, and it's been fun. You never know what may come of it, and it's really rarely a bad experience.

    I may have just argued that small talk can be nice which is not exactly a big lesson, but you have to understand that until I was 10 I did not smile when other people were around, and until I was 15 I spent most of my time in school reading novels.

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  • PotatoNinjaPotatoNinja Fake Gamer Goat Registered User regular
    edited April 2009

    Also; there's no such thing as motivation, just doing something or not doing it

    Do or do not, there is no try?

    Hmm, as for me...

    Misery, depression, and sadness are natural (at least in limited quantities) and, more importantly, temporary. Just as all good things must come to an end, all tragedies eventually fade. Being unhappy now does not mean one will be unhappy forever, it just feels a bit like it.

    No matter how nice, polite, friendly, intelligent, or awesome you are, there will always be a significant bloc of people who hate you with or without a good reason.

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  • Grid SystemGrid System Registered User regular
    edited April 2009
    Is anyone dying? That always helps bring the paper due for class, or a meeting that i'm late for back to perspective.
    On the flip side though, just because something is not a massive tragedy or major triumph does not mean that it is not--or cannot be or should not be--of particular importance to the person experiencing it.

    Grid System on
  • ViolentChemistryViolentChemistry __BANNED USERS regular
    edited April 2009
    The Cat wrote: »
    Men Have It Easy.

    Because dating a nutter is viewed as an entertaining diversion rather than a probably-life-threatening mistake which can fuck one over for years afterwards.

    Or maybe you three are just...very young. Sorry, did I kill the buzz?

    My mom never actually threatened my dad's life, but she did do a pretty thorough job of fucking him over for years afterwards. She's almost done at this point, I think, 7 years after the divorce was finalized and finished in the courts. He's going to find that his current wife is going to do the same. Inflicting death and physical injury aren't the only ways to harm someone. Furthering the assumption that men don't have anything to fear from psychologically/emotionally unstable partners because women are too weak to beat us to death isn't quite the burn you might have hoped.

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