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Meeting girls... for my girlfriend
oldsak
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And no, not for hot three way action. Sorry to disappoint.
So, I'm coming up on my 8th year in New York while my girlfriend is approaching her 3rd. We're both originally from Texas (though different parts).
For some reason, it's been coming up a lot lately that she really just doesn't have any friends up here. I met her through her roommate (whom I have known forever), and her first couple years she hung out with her roommate and the group of friends they met up here (they both moved up around the same time). Gradually some of their group have drifted away, but generally, my girlfriend has realized she really doesn't like most of those people.
So the past year to year and a half, she really hasn't had any friends (besides her ones in TX).
I have a few circles of friends and when we're out together she gets along well with all of them. Several of my girl friends have even invited her to hang out without me. I get the feeling she doesn't want to intrude on "my time" and give me room to have "my own life," which is amazing of her, but I want her to have her own fun too.
I'm not really sure how to help her meet her own friends, or at least, friends she doesn't feel like are really just my friends. No chance really for friends at work, she's the youngest person in her office by 8 years and everyone else has families to tend to. She's been thinking about joining a tennis league (she loves tennis) which I think is definitely a step in the right direction, but maybe she can try other things as well.
tldr: Think the setup for I Love You Man, but with the gender roles reversed. How do I help my girlfriend make friends?
So, I'm coming up on my 8th year in New York while my girlfriend is approaching her 3rd. We're both originally from Texas (though different parts).
For some reason, it's been coming up a lot lately that she really just doesn't have any friends up here. I met her through her roommate (whom I have known forever), and her first couple years she hung out with her roommate and the group of friends they met up here (they both moved up around the same time). Gradually some of their group have drifted away, but generally, my girlfriend has realized she really doesn't like most of those people.
So the past year to year and a half, she really hasn't had any friends (besides her ones in TX).
I have a few circles of friends and when we're out together she gets along well with all of them. Several of my girl friends have even invited her to hang out without me. I get the feeling she doesn't want to intrude on "my time" and give me room to have "my own life," which is amazing of her, but I want her to have her own fun too.
I'm not really sure how to help her meet her own friends, or at least, friends she doesn't feel like are really just my friends. No chance really for friends at work, she's the youngest person in her office by 8 years and everyone else has families to tend to. She's been thinking about joining a tennis league (she loves tennis) which I think is definitely a step in the right direction, but maybe she can try other things as well.
tldr: Think the setup for I Love You Man, but with the gender roles reversed. How do I help my girlfriend make friends?
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But you should totally try to find lesbians for threeway fun anyway. Just while your at it.
How old are you guys?
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The thing is, I actually know a lot of women. Maybe it's a result of having more aunts than uncles growing up, but I probably get a long better with women than men. Anyway, she feels like she's intruding on my space or something if she has play dates with my girl friends.
I'm going to be honest and say I don't really know if I'm sexually competent enough to pull off the three way.
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That's actually become my go to answer for any of the threads asking to meet new friends, cause I was in the same situation, and it worked out great.
More on your topic, I met some people through it who are also part of "Girl's NIght out" groups, where girls just get together to do their stuff. So that could work for her. I'm sure NYC has tons of groups she could join.
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Once she's got the list, have her join a league (or take a course, or whatever) for some of them. Really have her extend herself. Book clubs, art classes, CPR training, cooking courses, soccer leagues -- whatever. She'll meet people.
It's easy in New York to sit around thinking "man, I know nobody and city is so cold and everyone's so busy." It's also really easy to fix that, with some effort.
Well I'm 26 and was able to meet people of my age without much of a hassle. I did make sure to join groups marked for 20-30 year olds. She could join some of the volunteer groups, that way she could meet people of wide interests.
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Seriously.
www.kickball.com It's a group called WAKA. The World Adult Kickball Association. It's great.
Bars in the area sponsor it and you can sign up with a team or as a single or small group and be placed on a team. Then, once a week, you play some kickball for an hour or so and then off to the bar for a happy hour with your new friends and teammates.
I did this down in DC for awhile and it was a great time. Just check to see if there are leagues in your area. Athletic ability isn't really required, it does help though.