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Major potentionally-life-crushing problem [UPDATE 5]
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Don't go long distance. It's doable, it's just no fun.
I was hanging out with the guy this morning, and was so damn close to telling him, but I just totally chickened out!
I'd say your best option is just to outright tell him. But if you're not quite up to that I have another solution. Tell him you and the girlfriend are over, and if he likes you he'll probably be the one to hint and suggest something. Then when he does just recipricate and you'll be in.
Just be cool.
No need to be worried. Just be chill.
You'll be fine.
Btw what's this guy's name? sorry I just get very nosey about this sort of stuff.
And his names' Kai
So you did it then? How'd it go (give all the :winky: details)
And he took it very, very, very well indeed. Long story short, we made out. I'd expected it to be awkward, kissing a guy, but oh my god! He's, like, the best kisser in the whole world
Haha, awesome. Glad everything is working out well!
Might put up another update in a while if people are still interested.
Oh we would indeed.
Anyway
Just wanted to say congrats, be careful, and keep the updates rolling in ^_^
It is a refreshing change to see people take the advice here
Congrats!
And thanks
Carly (the ex girlfriend) has, sort of, had a late-delay reaction to the breakup and turned into an industrial-strength ultra-bitch about the whole thing. She's apparently been going around telling a whole mess of people, both girls and the big macho anti-gay guys that I'm a "banana crammer" to spite me or some shit, and told people I'm fooling around with Kai.
Now he's out and open about his sexuality so he's got no problem with it, but me meanwhile? I've only really been thinking that I'm bi for a few weeks, and only been sure of it for, like, one week. So while I'm not exactly ashamed of it I'm not really that comfortable with being out about it. But I guess thanks to Carly I won't have to worry about coming out anymore. Fucking terrific...
Oh, and there's the possibility of getting the living shit beaten out of me by the aforementioned macho guys that hate gay people. So that's a constant underlying threat now.
So, in a word: fuck!
Hell hath no fury...
If you wanted to keep it on the down low, you probably shouldn't have discussed it with anyone.
Good luck and hopefully this Kai of yours will keep you safe
Basically it said: "if you take me back I'll tell everyone I was joking. if you don't I'll tell the homophobes where you live."
So: extra fuck!
Also, I would call the police and put a restraining order on this crazy bitch
edit: Not sure if this is applicable, but go ahead and threaten her with this
.... and maybe invest in some self defense classes.
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I don't really think you did the best thing by straight up dumping your girlfriend so you could make out with some guy (I wasn't following too quickly so I am not sure if this is the situation). But your ex is handling this really badly. You do need to talk to her and figure the situation out though.
But now she's done a total U-turn and sped at Mach 5 into Crazytown.
Give a copy of the e-mail to a friend. Call her up (no email) and let her know that if any shit goes down, that e-mail is going to the police. I'm not sure what sort of legal complications would be involved, but that has to be fucking criminal somehow.
You're in high school, right? What would happen if you showed the e-mail to the counselors or principal? Would they suspend her? Personally, if I get disciplinary action recorded on her official transcript I would do it, and would laugh my ass off if her college then chose to rescind its offer of admission. But then I am a bitch like that. On the other hand, would that make more trouble for you socially at school/jeopardize your safety more? The answers to these questions will vary based on what your school is like. Whatever you do, definitely SAVE THE E-MAIL and exercise as much caution as you think is warranted.
In other words, soothe her wounded pride/ego. Dissimilate. Make peace. Take blame. Apologise.
Yes you could call the police, involve schools, fuck everything up. In my experience, that will only keep things messy and uncomfortable, especially with mutual friends. See if a peace can be brokered. Try that before going the destructive route.
Make sense?
I'd say this is more or less the correct advice kind of. I mean, you did leave her. And she reacted very badly.. but yeah. If she still acts like a crazy bitch, if you are still in school I would definitely forward her letter and actions to the school. But I think you are just about to go off to college ?
if it were me I'd probably keep a bat by the door for unwanted guests, but that is because I am also ultra paranoid. Anyone sane would just say that these are empty threats and hate crimes would land these guys in jail real quick