Imagine how I feel. (if you can't, I have a poem that will explain.)
I wouldn't mind seeing it.
To be honest, I've never been in a situation where something like that was an imposing issue on my life choices.
Here's the poem:
Predestination
by Evan M. Rosenberg
The most important thing to ever happen to me
Never happened to me.
I owe my life to the deaths of six million.
I'm alive thanks to them and in spite of them.
Every mistake I make is like spitting on their unmarked graves.
Every error makes a mockery of their memory.
On some days, I want to rebel.
But I am just one, and they are six million.
I see a parade of great uncles and aunts,
Of cousins and landsmen,
Of strangers who have no one left to speak for them.
Who am I to represent them?
Who am I to deny them?
I see my great grandfather, the consummate businessman,
Whose lumber business made him famous through the land.
He asks me why I don't have a career yet,
Why I'm not rebuilding his fortune.
Why I’m content to settle for what I have,
Rather than making something better for the future,
Like he did.
I see my great grandmother, the devout believer.
Who refused to accept it could happen,
Who thought salvation was around the corner.
She asks why I never go to synagogue.
Why I haven't met a nice Jewish girl yet,
and settled down.
Why I don’t keep a good kosher home,
Like she did.
Then I see my own grandparents, who survived.
But who have since gone to join the rest, in their own time.
They don't ask me for anything; they don't have to.
It is all understood.
I never had any choice in the matter.
I've met a few people who have been in a long-term happy relationship, but been divided entirely on religious or political issues. I guess it is just a matter of how important to you your significant other's beliefs are. On the other hand, it can probably be argued that someone who isn't going to freak out when you believe something different from them isn't the sort to be classified as a problem in the first place.
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I came from small town saskatchewan which is about as close as you're going to get to the south, and it was kind of tricky to grow up and not be a bit of a racist
but that was more because of the fact that I didn't see a black dude in real life until I was like 10, and most of my friends grew up to be jackasses who still live in that small town and will probably die in a drinking and driving accident in the next 2 years
No, there's a difference. Growing up in a racist household gives you a constant filter that you have to consciously push aside. Just because something is there in your mind doesn't mean that you can't do anything about it. Blaming your presuppositions about race on your upbringing has zero legitimacy.
I grew up in Memphis and Alabama. Once you get to the point where you can decide for yourself, it's your decision on how you perceive people, not your background. It's still always there, but it's up to you to go with it or to think differently.
The black kids I went to school with were, on the whole, fucking intolerable. But they weren't representative of any other black people. The black people in my neighborhood in college beat their kids on the porch and kicked their dogs in the street. They weren't the representatives for black people as a whole either. I'm saying those people in particular were terrible.
This isn't based on any presupposition or background. Just personal experience.
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edited November 2009
no more racism talk in the dating thread
this thread is for equal-opportunity miscegenation only
Munkus BeaverYou don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPAregular
edited November 2009
I keep forgetting that you are an Alabama man, langly.
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Munkus BeaverYou don't have to attend every argument you are invited to.Philosophy: Stoicism. Politics: Democratic SocialistRegistered User, ClubPAregular
you could spice it up with a little humor, though, and cut that mention of your previous relationship right the fuck out no one wants to hear about that
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Having grown up in Retard City I do not appreciate this kind of statement.
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But the underlying issue taught me a lesson about what I'm willing to bput up with, belief-wise, in a significant other.
Honestly, I think I'd have the same issue with a devoutly believing Jewish woman.
Here's the poem:
by Evan M. Rosenberg
The most important thing to ever happen to me
Never happened to me.
I owe my life to the deaths of six million.
I'm alive thanks to them and in spite of them.
Every mistake I make is like spitting on their unmarked graves.
Every error makes a mockery of their memory.
On some days, I want to rebel.
But I am just one, and they are six million.
I see a parade of great uncles and aunts,
Of cousins and landsmen,
Of strangers who have no one left to speak for them.
Who am I to represent them?
Who am I to deny them?
I see my great grandfather, the consummate businessman,
Whose lumber business made him famous through the land.
He asks me why I don't have a career yet,
Why I'm not rebuilding his fortune.
Why I’m content to settle for what I have,
Rather than making something better for the future,
Like he did.
I see my great grandmother, the devout believer.
Who refused to accept it could happen,
Who thought salvation was around the corner.
She asks why I never go to synagogue.
Why I haven't met a nice Jewish girl yet,
and settled down.
Why I don’t keep a good kosher home,
Like she did.
Then I see my own grandparents, who survived.
But who have since gone to join the rest, in their own time.
They don't ask me for anything; they don't have to.
It is all understood.
I never had any choice in the matter.
wait nooo come back
I updated mine and I want your input
that's just one side of it.
There's plenty of good that comes from it too.
If there wasn't, I wouldn't bother with it.
I came from small town saskatchewan which is about as close as you're going to get to the south, and it was kind of tricky to grow up and not be a bit of a racist
but that was more because of the fact that I didn't see a black dude in real life until I was like 10, and most of my friends grew up to be jackasses who still live in that small town and will probably die in a drinking and driving accident in the next 2 years
of course, this doesn't justify bein racist
I grew up in Memphis and Alabama. Once you get to the point where you can decide for yourself, it's your decision on how you perceive people, not your background. It's still always there, but it's up to you to go with it or to think differently.
Neither am I.
The black kids I went to school with were, on the whole, fucking intolerable. But they weren't representative of any other black people. The black people in my neighborhood in college beat their kids on the porch and kicked their dogs in the street. They weren't the representatives for black people as a whole either. I'm saying those people in particular were terrible.
This isn't based on any presupposition or background. Just personal experience.
this thread is for equal-opportunity miscegenation only
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TVicCD8FmMs
Racist.
Goddamnit.
I shoulda seen this coming.
everyone's got baggage.
Mine is just more socially acceptable.
Race and Dating Success on OkCupid
I, for one, am less than surprised.
ok slay me
It's good if you like Comedies about relationships
the first one has some interesting trends in it, though
though I'm surprised white dudes have so much relative success across other races
For the most part, all men are racist toward black women.
Though Indian males really hate them pacific islanders.
We're like vanilla ice cream.
We go well with almost any topping under the sun.
good first profile picture :^:
you could spice it up with a little humor, though, and cut that mention of your previous relationship right the fuck out no one wants to hear about that