A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.
Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.
I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.
Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.
I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.
A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.
Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.
I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.
Currently, when I hear the woman say "stop, wait," it is generally code for "you are somehow pressing on my bladder and now i need to pee."
A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.
Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.
I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.
Currently, when I hear the woman say "stop, wait," it is generally code for "you are somehow pressing on my bladder and now i need to pee."
Yeah. I understand what Thomamelas is saying- it's not so much that the safeword becomes a replacement for no or stop so much as it is that no or stop no longer mean the person saying them wants you to actually stop. It's a similar disctinction.
Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
Edit: Im not deriding the need for safewords, but I don't think they should be the first stop, if you know what i mean. Otherwise it seems to encourage causing pain to the opposite party purely by dint that it is encouraging me to continue against looks of obvious pain and distress while my lady thinks of saying the safeword. For the BDSM crowd, and for me if I start doing that sort of thing, its perfect. But otherwise, if i ever encounter a situation like Incenj describes, if my lady says "ow ow ow, stop" and we are trying anal sex, well.... i definatly don't need clarification that my wang is in a place that is hurting too much to be pleasurable.
Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.
Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.
I laughed. I guess that is possible, but if you actually have a relationship with such a lass, im pretty sure you would pick up on that. It only takes once for her to say "why did you stop" for that to no longer be a problem. I don't have that problem since my lass doesn't make those particular noises.
Edit: Also, that doesn't stop you looking at your partner and seeing them in pain. Is everyone here boning with their eyes closed the whole time?
Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.
I laughed. I guess that is possible, but if you actually have a relationship with such a lass, im pretty sure you would pick up on that. It only takes once for her to say "why did you stop" for that to no longer be a problem. I don't have that problem since my lass doesn't make those particular noises.
Edit: Also, that doesn't stop you looking at your partner and seeing them in pain. Is everyone here boning with their eyes closed the whole time?
Well, there's doggy.
And not everyone's orgasm face is all that different from their "owww horrible cramp" face.
Seriously, if my lady says 'Owww' in pain or "Stop!" and looks in pain, I stop. Admittedly this is regular old love making, but it doesn't take a rocket wizard to see that if something is actually not fun for the opposite party.
Yes. However, you also have to account that some girls make sex noises that might sound a lot like 'oww' but are not. I have not had activities with such a person yet, but they're obviously around. Hiding. Like snakes in the grass.
I laughed. I guess that is possible, but if you actually have a relationship with such a lass, im pretty sure you would pick up on that. It only takes once for her to say "why did you stop" for that to no longer be a problem. I don't have that problem since my lass doesn't make those particular noises.
Edit: Also, that doesn't stop you looking at your partner and seeing them in pain. Is everyone here boning with their eyes closed the whole time?
Well, there's doggy.
And not everyone's orgasm face is all that different from their "owww horrible cramp" face.
You can still see their face? Normally both partners want to look at each other after all.
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You can still see their face? Normally both partners want to look at each other after all.
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There is very little "normally" when it comes to sex. People shut their eyes, bury their face into the bed, whatever. I'm not a contortionist, I'm not going to twist around to make sure I can see the guy's face during doggy-style; it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
But what if he WAS!?
She might as well finish (hopefully) before the screaming (in shock, this time) and the terror and the reasonable deals on food of questionable quality.
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First they came for the Muslims, and we said NOT TODAY, MOTHERFUCKER!
it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
I can't stop laughing
Next time I do my girlfriend doggy style I'm going to slip on a Burger King mask while she's unaware. When we go to change positions she's going to get a royal surprise!
it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
I can't stop laughing
Next time I do my girlfriend doggy style I'm going to slip on a Burger King mask while she's unaware. When we go to change positions she's going to get a royal surprise!
Take it a step farther and hide a burger and a platter near the bed, when she turns around offer it to her.
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it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
I can't stop laughing
Next time I do my girlfriend doggy style I'm going to slip on a Burger King mask while she's unaware. When we go to change positions she's going to get a royal surprise!
Take it a step farther and hide a burger and a platter near the bed, when she turns around offer it to her.
I'd favorite that youtube vid.
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Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?
Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
Yes, I made that all up.
Or did I?
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Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?
Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
Yes, I made that all up.
Or did I?
So, did the scientists measure that with a tape measure, or.....?
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Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?
Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
Yes, I made that all up.
Or did I?
So, did the scientists measure that with a tape measure, or.....?
If I were a scientist, I would measure it with a Dong-Imitating Libido-Discharging Object.
My love of wordplay is probably the reason that there are few people who'd let me test that.
A safeword is just a very specific word so that your partner knows you're telling them to stop and does not confuse it with anything else or try to argue with it.
Say you're trying out anal - I expect that there is going to be a lot of "oh ow oh stop wait" and so forth, but that doesn't automatically mean the same thing as "remove thyself from mine anus!" to all people, it might just mean ease up or simply be an uncontrolled response.
I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
It's insurance. You're entering uncharted territory, you don't know what's necessarily going to happen and people by all accounts say weird things in the moment (I don't, to an extent this disappoints me). And hell, even for normal sex - most people eventually figure out that when "I can't take anymore gets said" it can often be code to keep doing or do more of exactly what you're currently doing.
Currently, when I hear the woman say "stop, wait," it is generally code for "you are somehow pressing on my bladder and now i need to pee."
I thought it meant "hang on a sec, I want to fart on your balls." :?
Safewords for vanilla sex: Totally not overkill. It takes a great deal more effort to pull yourself out of the moment to utter a firm and unambiguous "no" or "stop" than it does to remember and squeak out a mutually agreed-upon "STOP" word.
Safewords for vanilla sex: Totally not overkill. It takes a great deal more effort to pull yourself out of the moment to utter a firm and unambiguous "no" or "stop" than it does to remember and squeak out a mutually agreed-upon "STOP" word.
"Yellow light" for 'slow down, too fast, too hard, too much stimulation'
"Red light" for 'okay, time to stop, put on a robe, have a glass of water, and talk about this'
It's a system that works really well for BDSM, because it's pretty much impossible to forget (people do forget their safewords in the heat of the moment); and it's not so silly that you feel goofy saying it during vanilla sex.
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Did you know that when startled enough to prompt the fight or flight response, accompanied by the adrenaline surge, the muscles along the vaginal passage contract with a force akin to that of a steel vice, closing to a roughly 2 mm aperture diameter?
Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
Yes, I made that all up.
Or did I?
So, did the scientists measure that with a tape measure, or.....?
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I know what a safeword is. What I'm saying is for me, in normal sex, it's overkill. For even just lightly kinky play between two vanilla people I'm not sure it's a super needed thing. For your example, do I need to agree upon red and yellow instead of slow down, or stop or no more?
Currently, when I hear the woman say "stop, wait," it is generally code for "you are somehow pressing on my bladder and now i need to pee."
Edit: Im not deriding the need for safewords, but I don't think they should be the first stop, if you know what i mean. Otherwise it seems to encourage causing pain to the opposite party purely by dint that it is encouraging me to continue against looks of obvious pain and distress while my lady thinks of saying the safeword. For the BDSM crowd, and for me if I start doing that sort of thing, its perfect. But otherwise, if i ever encounter a situation like Incenj describes, if my lady says "ow ow ow, stop" and we are trying anal sex, well.... i definatly don't need clarification that my wang is in a place that is hurting too much to be pleasurable.
I laughed. I guess that is possible, but if you actually have a relationship with such a lass, im pretty sure you would pick up on that. It only takes once for her to say "why did you stop" for that to no longer be a problem. I don't have that problem since my lass doesn't make those particular noises.
Edit: Also, that doesn't stop you looking at your partner and seeing them in pain. Is everyone here boning with their eyes closed the whole time?
Well, there's doggy.
And not everyone's orgasm face is all that different from their "owww horrible cramp" face.
You can still see their face? Normally both partners want to look at each other after all.
Obviously not enough people dating screamers.
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There is very little "normally" when it comes to sex. People shut their eyes, bury their face into the bed, whatever. I'm not a contortionist, I'm not going to twist around to make sure I can see the guy's face during doggy-style; it's not like I have to keep checking to see if he was replaced by the Burger King.
God damnit, now people are asking what's so funny here at work.
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She might as well finish (hopefully) before the screaming (in shock, this time) and the terror and the reasonable deals on food of questionable quality.
Thank god the guy I share an office with isn't in here right now. I need a paper towel to clean up my coffee.
It'd be immediately apparent. You can tell through his tights that he's packing.
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Did you really need to bump a thread from 16 months ago just to say that?
I can't stop laughing
Oh, sorry about that. Someone linked me to the thread and I didn't notice the dates.
And you'll never walk alone
Take it a step farther and hide a burger and a platter near the bed, when she turns around offer it to her.
I'd favorite that youtube vid.
Just asking, because if you didn't, this might be a joke with all sorts of punchlines. :rotate:
So, did the scientists measure that with a tape measure, or.....?
If I were a scientist, I would measure it with a Dong-Imitating Libido-Discharging Object.
My love of wordplay is probably the reason that there are few people who'd let me test that.
I thought it meant "hang on a sec, I want to fart on your balls." :?
Safewords for vanilla sex: Totally not overkill. It takes a great deal more effort to pull yourself out of the moment to utter a firm and unambiguous "no" or "stop" than it does to remember and squeak out a mutually agreed-upon "STOP" word.
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Too bad I missed it. I'll just have to wait until everyone forgets about it and someone starts a new topic I guess.
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"Yellow light" for 'slow down, too fast, too hard, too much stimulation'
"Red light" for 'okay, time to stop, put on a robe, have a glass of water, and talk about this'
It's a system that works really well for BDSM, because it's pretty much impossible to forget (people do forget their safewords in the heat of the moment); and it's not so silly that you feel goofy saying it during vanilla sex.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
We can start a new thread entitled "Describe the weirdest internet porn you've ever seen!"
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