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So what's up with nerd dating/freinds?

Mr. ClarkMr. Clark Registered User regular
edited October 2010 in Social Entropy++
<--- I live in NY. NY is a horrible place for nerds. There are none of us here, we are some kind of endangered species. It's like a cesspool for my interests, and if you attempt to approach random people and interact with them, they just shut you down. My circle of freinds really isn't into the things i'm into. They are good people, but I just don't have the connection with them that i could have if we shared interests.

Don't even get me started on finding a significant other, either. It has been a sad, sad journey.

I have tried Meetup, Geek2Geek, Facebook, Myspace, etc..and nothing. I am tired of being an outcast, and seem to be seriously unlucky when meeting people into...the things posted on this forum, pretty much.

Is NY just a barren stretch of singular nerdom? What types of stories do you have where your interests have gotten you into similar trouble making and influencing freinds? How many of you feel singled out due to social awkwardness because of this? Discuss.

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    UsagiUsagi Nah Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Man, my nerdy interests are what help me make friends and meet interesting people

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    The Lovely BastardThe Lovely Bastard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    it's pretty easy to make friends

    maybe you are just an awful human being and your interests have nothing to do with it

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    FAQFAQ Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    I don't know, what are your interests and how terrible are they I guess

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    Viscount IslandsViscount Islands [INSERT SoKo HERE] ...it was the summer of my lifeRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    it's pretty easy to make friends

    maybe you are just an awful human being and your interests have nothing to do with it

    Probably this.

    Also New York is a bad place for nerds? What that's where the god damn real life Pokecentre is.

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    AbracadanielAbracadaniel Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    list your nerdy interests


    i bet they don't occur in places where you'd meet new or interesting or social persons

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    KochikensKochikens Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    I generally tend to evaluate my friends as human beings instead, that worked out pretty well for me so far

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    redheadredhead Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    im socially awkward and blame it on literally my entire city

    help me, forum on a website about a webcomic about videogames!

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    HunterHunter Chemist with a heart of Au Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Usagi wrote: »
    Man, my nerdy interests are what help me make friends and meet interesting people

    And Druhim

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    FAQFAQ Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Kochikens wrote: »
    I generally tend to evaluate my friends are human beings instead, that worked out pretty well for me so far

    but all your friends are your cats

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    The Lovely BastardThe Lovely Bastard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Kochikens wrote: »
    I generally tend to evaluate my friends are human beings instead, that worked out pretty well for me so far

    also when the number of friends you have is zero, it doesn't take long to evaluate them

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    MysstMysst King Monkey of Hedonism IslandRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    they have conventions for people like you

    pervert

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    Viscount IslandsViscount Islands [INSERT SoKo HERE] ...it was the summer of my lifeRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Maybe you should use that site that lets you pay ugly girls to play games with you.

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    tynictynic PICNIC BADASS Registered User, ClubPA regular
    edited October 2010
    nerds date like this

    non-nerds date.

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    TasteticleTasteticle Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    I think you are confusing the words 'nerd' and 'spineless'

    there is zero reason being a nerd should get in the way of anything social

    In fact, I am where I am today (happily) because I am a huge nerd

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    SquallSquall hap cloud Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Mr. Clark wrote: »
    There are none of us here, we are some kind of endangered species.

    oh hey found your problem

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    KochikensKochikens Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Kochikens wrote: »
    I generally tend to evaluate my friends as human beings instead, that worked out pretty well for me so far

    also when the number of friends you have is zero, it doesn't take long to evaluate them

    fish make such good friends, TLB.

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    Endless_SerpentsEndless_Serpents Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    redhead wrote: »
    im socially awkward and blame it on literally my entire city

    help me, forum on a website about a webcomic about videogames!

    Haha yes. I won't put you through the trial of Awesome Post, but lets call this a Good One.

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    PonyPony Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    people who define themselves as a person by their nerdy hobbies

    and can only date and/or be good friends with other people with nerdy hobbies

    those people make me sad

    grow up

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    The Lovely BastardThe Lovely Bastard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    like I got so many friends I forget names some times

    ain't need to talk about the hulk all the time to be a good friend

    also I am pretty sure talkin' 'bout the hulk all the time ain't gonna get you no action

    basically, mr. clark, I'm saying you a busta

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    UsagiUsagi Nah Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Hunter wrote: »
    Usagi wrote: »
    Man, my nerdy interests are what help me make friends and meet interesting people

    And Druhim

    This is true

    But I think the bottom line here is that if all you're seeing of NY, or any particular place, is your room hell yeah there will be a dearth of people to hang out with

    Go outside, do stuff, meet people, have fun

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    crwthcrwth THAT'S IT Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    when will my webcomic queen be found...

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    The Lovely BastardThe Lovely Bastard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Kochikens wrote: »
    Kochikens wrote: »
    I generally tend to evaluate my friends as human beings instead, that worked out pretty well for me so far

    also when the number of friends you have is zero, it doesn't take long to evaluate them

    fish make such good friends, TLB.

    well with their short memories, they can constantly forget how awful you are

    so yes

    they are the battered wives of pets

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    Viscount IslandsViscount Islands [INSERT SoKo HERE] ...it was the summer of my lifeRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    And I mean of all the cities New York. I would kind of understand if it were someplace in Iowa or some shit.

    But you're in the city where you could probably find anything if you look for it.

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    T. J. Nutty Nub T. J. Nutty Nub Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Pony wrote: »
    people who define themselves as a person by their nerdy hobbies

    and can only date and/or be good friends with other people with nerdy hobbies

    those people make me sad

    grow up

    You grow up

    Segregation is in

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    Bad-BeatBad-Beat Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    I went to New York a while back and made quite a few friends. You just aren't doing it right.

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    The Lovely BastardThe Lovely Bastard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    one time I went to new york for an hour and made 50 friends and dated 10 girls

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    PeenPeen Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    My thought is that ending a post with "discuss" is lazy and annoying. Discuss.

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    HunterHunter Chemist with a heart of Au Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Usagi wrote: »
    Hunter wrote: »
    Usagi wrote: »
    Man, my nerdy interests are what help me make friends and meet interesting people

    And Druhim

    This is true

    But I think the bottom line here is that if all you're seeing of NY, or any particular place, is your room hell yeah there will be a dearth of people to hang out with

    Go outside, do stuff, meet people, have fun

    I was going more for there are friend, interesting people, and then there's Druh.

    I thought it was funny. I've also been working with chloroform extractions.

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    DichotomyDichotomy Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    you can accurately date a nerd by analyzing the layers of grime found on its surface

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    LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    crwth wrote: »
    when will my webcomic queen be found...

    Kate Beaton is your true love.

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    redheadredhead Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Kochikens wrote: »
    Kochikens wrote: »
    I generally tend to evaluate my friends as human beings instead, that worked out pretty well for me so far

    also when the number of friends you have is zero, it doesn't take long to evaluate them

    fish make such good friends, TLB.

    i can't tell if this means you have a lot of fish and consider them your friends or if you just threatened to drown him

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    Viscount IslandsViscount Islands [INSERT SoKo HERE] ...it was the summer of my lifeRegistered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Mr. Clark expects to round the corner and suddenly him and a stranger share a long, soulful moment of eye contact.

    "You're...like me..."

    "...yes. I too play the..."bideogames"..."

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    TasteticleTasteticle Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    the cad forums are a good read if you hate yourself

    so many 'do girls like Lelah exist??' topics

    Tasteticle on

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    PonyPony Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    i actually went through a period in my early 20's where i realized that i had a lot of "friends" who i actually really disliked as people

    they played warhammer or D&D or liked comic books or otherwise shared hobbies with me

    but outside of those shared hobbies they were fucking losers and i actually didn't enjoy doing anything with them except playing those games with them or whatever

    i realized that these people are best defined as acquaintances and are not worth my time trying to invest a great deal of effort into being close with

    because the truth is, i don't really like them very much

    in some cases, they felt the same way about me but were too polite to really broach the subject

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    LexxyLexxy Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Places where nerds gather: Hobby/Gaming stores & arcades. New York has to have places like this. Go to them!

    If you play any kind of tabletop, Hobby/Gaming stores always have open and planned gaming session. That is like an instant social circle right there. If you do video games, figure out when the tourneys are, or just go during high traffic days. I went downtown to play DDR on Saturdays when I was in high school and frequently ran into the same group of people.

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    crwthcrwth THAT'S IT Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    my ideal girlfriend is one who actually is a videogame

    i wish

    tifa weren't taken

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    Mr. ClarkMr. Clark Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Anime, Video Games, WoW, some comics (mostly Spawn), Sci-fi/Steampunk books (boy howdy i loves me some china mieville) D&D, etc.

    Typical nerdball.

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    StaleghotiStaleghoti Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    Relationships are for the needy

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    KochikensKochikens Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    there was just NYCC, seriously.

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    The Lovely BastardThe Lovely Bastard Registered User regular
    edited October 2010
    redhead wrote: »
    Kochikens wrote: »
    Kochikens wrote: »
    I generally tend to evaluate my friends as human beings instead, that worked out pretty well for me so far

    also when the number of friends you have is zero, it doesn't take long to evaluate them

    fish make such good friends, TLB.

    i can't tell if this means you have a lot of fish and consider them your friends or if you just threatened to drown him

    she would never drown me

    I give her more attention than any other human being to ever cross her path

    including her parents

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