I thought he was talking about Ben Pack and my heart dropped.
Ben Pack is a good millenial boy*
*We regret to inform you that Ben Pack is a racist
He just really hates anyone shorter than him.
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I think that's what trips these dudes up in the long run - no one calls them on their shit, there's no immediate consequences, so they think their behaviour is okay, or at least that they're getting away with it. Meanwhile their victims are comparing notes and warning others who may be vulnerable, and sooner or later shit boils over.
Something I learned a few years ago, and again when a prominent Canadian radio host turned out to be an abuser, is that women talk to each other. it shouldn't really come as a surprise, but it turns out that when there's a problem with a dude and women don't feel safe coming forward, they warn each other.
The guy behind the JL8 comic is another example. Dudes will often be completely oblivious that anything is going on, even while every single woman in the community/social circle has been quietly warned about it.
When there was first mention of something like this a month or so ago, it seemed all too familiar. For a reason, it turns out.
There's a lot in common between the Nick stuff and the Jian Ghomeshi stuff, though hopefully the Nick stuff didn't go quite so far
It was to the point where women would be strongly advised not to take co-op positions with the specific show on CBC Radio that he ran, because of the threat of harassment or assault in or outside the workplace
It was just common knowledge in the music industry, but he was too powerful to report it, and his company willingly covered it up to capitalize on his popularity, so it didn't emerge on the public sphere until all of a sudden the dam burst and people came out with their stories
I finally thought of something to ask in this conversation that I feel like I can't add anything too.
What is "soft boy culture" that Austin mentioned in one of his tweets?
reliance on an appearance of being "soft" - feminist, empathetic, approachable - as a predatory tactic, and also glamorizing those aspects of masculinity to cover up for it
The fact that an utterly pointless and stupid tweet about a shoddy port was the tipping point for this dumb ass finally getting his is crazy.
I don't even want to know what he did, because it's none of my business, but I hope the lightning fast reaction to this empowers others to report abuse/and or shitty behavior.
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Something I learned a few years ago, and again when a prominent Canadian radio host turned out to be an abuser, is that women talk to each other. it shouldn't really come as a surprise, but it turns out that when there's a problem with a dude and women don't feel safe coming forward, they warn each other.
The guy behind the JL8 comic is another example. Dudes will often be completely oblivious that anything is going on, even while every single woman in the community/social circle has been quietly warned about it.
When there was first mention of something like this a month or so ago, it seemed all too familiar. For a reason, it turns out.
There's a lot in common between the Nick stuff and the Jian Ghomeshi stuff, though hopefully the Nick stuff didn't go quite so far
It was to the point where women would be strongly advised not to take co-op positions with the specific show on CBC Radio that he ran, because of the threat of harassment or assault in or outside the workplace
It was just common knowledge in the music industry, but he was too powerful to report it, and his company willingly covered it up to capitalize on his popularity, so it didn't emerge on the public sphere until all of a sudden the dam burst and people came out with their stories
I've got a friend who did a small two-person music podcast in PEI and even she was warned about Ghomeshi
A little after that there was a story about a bunch of dudes freaked out because someone found a list in the women's washroom at a Toronto bar during a comedy fest warning each other about rapists/harassers in the community
The fact that an utterly pointless and stupid tweet about a shoddy port was the tipping point for this dumb ass finally getting his is crazy.
I don't even want to know what he did, because it's none of my business, but I hope the lightning fast reaction to this empowers others to report abuse/and or shitty behavior.
Its not that crazy
It was so openly shitty for NO REASON to a complete stranger
just to clarify, all the nice guys got together and decided a rebranding was in order after everyone figured out "nice guy" meant "creep" and settled on "soft boy," right
just to clarify, all the nice guys got together and decided a rebranding was in order after everyone figured out "nice guy" meant "creep" and settled on "soft boy," right
just to clarify, all the nice guys got together and decided a rebranding was in order after everyone figured out "nice guy" meant "creep" and settled on "soft boy," right
I guess? Though I wasn't aware softboys called themselves that, the way "nice guys" did. I thought softboy was an offshoot of fuccboi from day one, and hence a bad thing you never want to give yourself the label of.
The lyrics
"I've surrounded myself with doctors and deep thinkers
Their big heads and soft bodies make for lousy lovers"
Is a thing I think about when I hear soft boys.
I also think about an ex who used me as a pillow.
I guess, I also think about the term, "nice guys', and the derogatory "white knight", or the more current iteration of "beta" which can both refer to a "dishonest creep", and "anyone who isn't a blatantly gross asshole".
There's altrusitic, sensitive, kind folk who aren't trying to get in someone's pants,
and there's absolutely a common immature mindset of horny that falls into "nice guy" description,
that will love to be friends right until they perceive an opening to take advantage.
It's super shitty that we as a society don't have kids study romantic relationships in a classroom setting ANNUALLY and diligently,
and we unfortunately get to learn from it via personal experience
or from our family and friends or the various victimized folk on twitter.
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What a fuckbag
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Ben Pack is a good millenial boy*
*We regret to inform you that Ben Pack is a racist
He just really hates anyone shorter than him.
What is "soft boy culture" that Austin mentioned in one of his tweets?
That would mean he would only hang out with basketball players, so I would hope he wasn't a racist.
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There's a lot in common between the Nick stuff and the Jian Ghomeshi stuff, though hopefully the Nick stuff didn't go quite so far
It was to the point where women would be strongly advised not to take co-op positions with the specific show on CBC Radio that he ran, because of the threat of harassment or assault in or outside the workplace
It was just common knowledge in the music industry, but he was too powerful to report it, and his company willingly covered it up to capitalize on his popularity, so it didn't emerge on the public sphere until all of a sudden the dam burst and people came out with their stories
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being a "soft boy" is to be sensitive and emotional and is not necessarily a bad thing
Until shitty dudes use performative softness to camouflage shitty behaviour/bait potential victims
reliance on an appearance of being "soft" - feminist, empathetic, approachable - as a predatory tactic, and also glamorizing those aspects of masculinity to cover up for it
Basically dudes who cultivate an appearance of being safe and nonthreatening
Folks describe the McElroys as it a lot, and by association Nick fell under the same umbrella
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(whole thread is worth reading)
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I'm the worst boy. I make all the other boys look better in contrast.
I don't even want to know what he did, because it's none of my business, but I hope the lightning fast reaction to this empowers others to report abuse/and or shitty behavior.
Enjoy the show, Jack!
This reload time is exhilarating.
Drippin' all over the place
Eww
Like the enemy from Mario.
wait what
what are we talking about
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Sonic fan art?
Thou art I
You're not a snake boy, and I'm not an ocelot boy
We're boys, with names
I've got a friend who did a small two-person music podcast in PEI and even she was warned about Ghomeshi
A little after that there was a story about a bunch of dudes freaked out because someone found a list in the women's washroom at a Toronto bar during a comedy fest warning each other about rapists/harassers in the community
Women talk to each other, y'all
Its not that crazy
It was so openly shitty for NO REASON to a complete stranger
multiple people can have giant girl brands Mori
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What no they can't
Who told you that
Was it Russel Brand
tbh that "'soft boy' culture" quote alone is worth the price of admission
I don't think this was necessarily a subtweet towards Nick Robinson. The softboy/fuccboi thing has been a thing for a while, really.
Though it certainly seems applicable in this situation.
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That's my understanding from this page as well
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I guess? Though I wasn't aware softboys called themselves that, the way "nice guys" did. I thought softboy was an offshoot of fuccboi from day one, and hence a bad thing you never want to give yourself the label of.
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"I've surrounded myself with doctors and deep thinkers
Their big heads and soft bodies make for lousy lovers"
Is a thing I think about when I hear soft boys.
I also think about an ex who used me as a pillow.
I guess, I also think about the term, "nice guys', and the derogatory "white knight", or the more current iteration of "beta" which can both refer to a "dishonest creep", and "anyone who isn't a blatantly gross asshole".
There's altrusitic, sensitive, kind folk who aren't trying to get in someone's pants,
and there's absolutely a common immature mindset of horny that falls into "nice guy" description,
that will love to be friends right until they perceive an opening to take advantage.
It's super shitty that we as a society don't have kids study romantic relationships in a classroom setting ANNUALLY and diligently,
and we unfortunately get to learn from it via personal experience
or from our family and friends or the various victimized folk on twitter.