Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
I asked what people thought of the song Lola once, but no one seemed interested in the topic. I would like to know about all 3. If I remember Lola right, he is also pretty cool with it.
Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
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unless I put up a christmas tree and clean the house and cook
2/3rds of those things are fun but man I don't want to go into the attic
we had bees in the attic while I was unemployed and couldn't afford an exterminator. They stopped being a problem but I've been afraid to look. Maybe they're just comfortable not coming into the house anymore, or maybe they left
Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
I don't think that song has any meaning at all
killers lyrics seem to be rorschach blots
or are we dancer?
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yeah, i just looked at the song lyrics to Lola. I think it has a good message about accepting people.
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finally saw guardians of the galaxy last night since it came out on demand
groot is pretty great
also the lil raccoon bro is p adorbs and reminds me of ludious
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Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
FWIW watching the social justice machine absolutely rage against him was very disrespectful and disproportionate to the attitudes that he maintains.
I support the ever ceasing ouroboros because it is necessary to create better and better iterations of social justice values but the ability and propensity for incredibly young and historically ignorant queer people to froth at the mouth about concepts that they know little of is a very sad thing that I don't think should be encouraged.
i think this is a problem with progressives in general.
like, social justice is about incremental progress. that's how it happens. but of course even the most liberal of people will find their values calcifying as they age, having been informed by the fights of their youth. it's probably better IMO to cut these people a little slack
but then again if it weren't a neverending cycle of nasty infighting and backbiting it wouldn't be progressive culture.
That's not exclusive to liberal culture, that happens to every political clique.
probably so, but i think that the continual progressive bent towards, well, "progress" necessarily means that tradition and age is going to be treated with less respect than the corresponding "conservative" clique (who at least imagines that the political values of their forebears have great merit, even if this recollection is invented out of wholecloth)
Progressives disagree on what progress means just as conservatives disagree on what being conservative is. There are various sub-groups that exist within those political ideologies who also have their own sub-factions. Politics is rarely people agreeing on every detail and conflicts occur from human nature. That's why there are Tea Partiers and Feminists who fight each other on what those terms mean in their sub-groups. It's politics, not the ideology that creates infighting.
edit: Conservatives are very much fighting among themselves, re: Moderate vs Tea Party vs Libertarian wings in the GOP.
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what he does say to bisexual people is that they need to come out, and bi people will not be taken seriously until they do.
this is an unpleasant thing to be told because coming out is terrifying.
this is a fair point
it's also hard to be "out" when you're, say, currently in a hetero relationship when it happens to be mostly coincidental that it happened that way
just as a
yknow
example
like I'm pretty open that I'm not a hetero person (I think) but it's a can of worms I don't feel like getting into with some folks
and that IS actually part of the problem
yeah, like why or even how would you be "open" about it in that situation esp if you're monogamous
I would say a lot of dan savage's former bitterness came from the perception that bisexual men were trying to have their cake and eat it too by retreating to hetrosexuality and then just continuing that part of themselves in secret or not at all, and him being left in the cold by a former lover.
I bring it up because I think a bisexual guest was talking about erasure and other issues, and dan's opinion that it was because most bisexual men and women are not out, far far less than gay men and women (it might have been as drastic as like 30 vs 80 percent).
Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
I don't think that song has any meaning at all
killers lyrics seem to be rorschach blots
or are we dancer?
oh my god one of my best friends was obsessed with that song and it very nearly ended our friendship
I should wear a hat now that I'm a bald for the same reason will
I haven't been able to go for anything other than a dull gray baseball cap thus far
you could almost certainly pull it off
i'm sure it would look fine on you and also gay dudes get a lot more latitude for being fashionably adventurous
and also not suspected of misogyny quite the same way as a straight
tho to be honest a lot of gay dudes have nastily dismissive sorts of attitudes towards women that doesn't usually register as "misogyny" but probably should
yes it's a very unfortunate and baffling problem amongst some gays. I guess that we're 'allowed' to be mean to women or something.
i mean at the end of the day, sexual attraction tends to drive social interest, even just subconsciously. from that particular angle, women don't have much to offer gay guys. it's easy i think to just think "why are these people i am not interested in showing up and making things about them?!"
there is also the whole "hag" phenomenon where self-loathing ladies seek out gay guys for company and end up being kind of pitied and tolerated and that probably drives attitudes too.
and also spurned aggressive sexual interest seems to be a big component of straight dude misogyny.
yeah I am sort of bad at this. my best friend is a lady and I love her but uh
if I'm going to be honest i'm much better at remembering the names of men and things about them because I find them sexually interesting. even if i'm not attracted to them at all. which is something I hate admitting about myself but there you go. on the other hand I am very good friends with some ladies because I feel I can get close to them and not have to worry about falling for them. That hasn't happened to me with a straight dude in a long time, but it's still a concern.
I don't really have any gay friends except for gays I've met on the boards, and I think a big part of that is that I can't deal with someone who might want to sleep with me and I might actually want to sleep with them back, especially if I'm with a dude i'm probably going to marry. It's just a tension I've avoided like the plague most of my life, and oddly enough it's served me quite well.
but If i'm going to put on my psychologist hat, I would say some gays hate women because they grew up falling for dudes who like women, and they feel that the women (who sometimes cheat, are bad partners, and don't like having giving sex - just like men) don't deserve the dudes they spend so many years pining for.
huh that is interesting. all of it. you are an astute dude casual eddy.
i tend not to have close lady friends also, probably for the same reason that you avoid gay dude friends, but i had never really thought about it.
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Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
I don't think that song has any meaning at all
killers lyrics seem to be rorschach blots
or are we dancer?
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oh my god one of my best friends was obsessed with that song and it very nearly ended our friendship
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It's so wonderful for adding sweetness and bitterness and elevating flavor all at once. Maybe the best non-dessert balsamic.
I have a raspberry balsamic that you can sprinkle on strawberries and eat, no other adornment necessary.
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i don't remember the voice acting and animation from spider-man and his amazing friends being quite so bad
then again i was 10 the last time i saw it probably
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or are we dancer?
fucking bee voltron is what you will find
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and it will sting you right in the dick
don't go into the attic ever again
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groot is pretty great
also the lil raccoon bro is p adorbs and reminds me of ludious
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Progressives disagree on what progress means just as conservatives disagree on what being conservative is. There are various sub-groups that exist within those political ideologies who also have their own sub-factions. Politics is rarely people agreeing on every detail and conflicts occur from human nature. That's why there are Tea Partiers and Feminists who fight each other on what those terms mean in their sub-groups. It's politics, not the ideology that creates infighting.
edit: Conservatives are very much fighting among themselves, re: Moderate vs Tea Party vs Libertarian wings in the GOP.
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put in pot, stew for 1 hour, thicken w/ corn starch
make rice
pour your gravy meat concoction onto rice
use salt from tears to spice as needed
Seems legit
I am doing cube steak with lima beans tonight.
yeah, like why or even how would you be "open" about it in that situation esp if you're monogamous
I would say a lot of dan savage's former bitterness came from the perception that bisexual men were trying to have their cake and eat it too by retreating to hetrosexuality and then just continuing that part of themselves in secret or not at all, and him being left in the cold by a former lover.
I bring it up because I think a bisexual guest was talking about erasure and other issues, and dan's opinion that it was because most bisexual men and women are not out, far far less than gay men and women (it might have been as drastic as like 30 vs 80 percent).
oh my god one of my best friends was obsessed with that song and it very nearly ended our friendship
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And then you found out you were dancer?
did you know drinking someone's pee who takes drugs can make you test positive for those drugs!
thats what the doctor said
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Cheeses: cheddar, colby, jack, asadero
Meats: ground beef, steak, chicken, pork shoulder
Spices: salt, cayenne, paprika, black pepper, cumin, cilantro
Produce: Jalapeños, onion, lettuce, avocado, tomato, lime
Dry goods: Tortillas (corn or flour), rice
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we've all been there, Spider-Man
i hadn't thought about SWARM forever
i remember seeing this cartoon saturday morning when i was a kid and just thought it was the most amazing thing
spoilers: in addition to flash thompson, aunt may gets turned into a swarm
It's so wonderful for adding sweetness and bitterness and elevating flavor all at once. Maybe the best non-dessert balsamic.
I have a raspberry balsamic that you can sprinkle on strawberries and eat, no other adornment necessary.
then again i was 10 the last time i saw it probably
and like, there really isn't anything you can like do to be "openly bi"
you just say "yeah, if things were different I could have been in a same sex relationship but they aren't and I'm not"
and that's about it
give yourself a salmon ladder