I kind of want a game in the ME universe where I'm not on the clock or the plot has a part where I can just stop space pirates and shit
I felt like ME1 was better at that particular thing
Just like the newest call of duty game, there's a part of the game, I think it's literally one mission, where you work for Kevin Spacey stabalizing war torn regions. That mission was pretty sweet! Instead of turning Kevin Spacey into Cobra Commander if they had just had me pick and chose missions and go shoot bad guys around the world (before eventually resuming the main plot, dumb as it was) it would have been a much better game
In that way I didn't like ME3, the clock was kind of necessary for the plot but I didn't like the rush rush rush rush rush feeling
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someone come rub me down like i'm a turkish oil wrestler
i am tired and sore and need to be treated like a prince or duke of a middling noble house
I should wear a hat now that I'm a bald for the same reason will
I haven't been able to go for anything other than a dull gray baseball cap thus far
you could almost certainly pull it off
i'm sure it would look fine on you and also gay dudes get a lot more latitude for being fashionably adventurous
and also not suspected of misogyny quite the same way as a straight
tho to be honest a lot of gay dudes have nastily dismissive sorts of attitudes towards women that doesn't usually register as "misogyny" but probably should
yes it's a very unfortunate and baffling problem amongst some gays. I guess that we're 'allowed' to be mean to women or something.
i mean at the end of the day, sexual attraction tends to drive social interest, even just subconsciously. from that particular angle, women don't have much to offer gay guys. it's easy i think to just think "why are these people i am not interested in showing up and making things about them?!"
there is also the whole "hag" phenomenon where self-loathing ladies seek out gay guys for company and end up being kind of pitied and tolerated and that probably drives attitudes too.
and also spurned aggressive sexual interest seems to be a big component of straight dude misogyny.
yeah I am sort of bad at this. my best friend is a lady and I love her but uh
if I'm going to be honest i'm much better at remembering the names of men and things about them because I find them sexually interesting. even if i'm not attracted to them at all. which is something I hate admitting about myself but there you go. on the other hand I am very good friends with some ladies because I feel I can get close to them and not have to worry about falling for them. That hasn't happened to me with a straight dude in a long time, but it's still a concern.
I don't really have any gay friends except for gays I've met on the boards, and I think a big part of that is that I can't deal with someone who might want to sleep with me and I might actually want to sleep with them back, especially if I'm with a dude i'm probably going to marry. It's just a tension I've avoided like the plague most of my life, and oddly enough it's served me quite well.
but If i'm going to put on my psychologist hat, I would say some gays hate women because they grew up falling for dudes who like women, and they feel that the women (who sometimes cheat, are bad partners, and don't like having giving sex - just like men) don't deserve the dudes they spend so many years pining for.
I should wear a hat now that I'm a bald for the same reason will
I haven't been able to go for anything other than a dull gray baseball cap thus far
you could almost certainly pull it off
i'm sure it would look fine on you and also gay dudes get a lot more latitude for being fashionably adventurous
and also not suspected of misogyny quite the same way as a straight
tho to be honest a lot of gay dudes have nastily dismissive sorts of attitudes towards women that doesn't usually register as "misogyny" but probably should
yeah, it's still misogyny, just a completely different kind
it is definitely still misogyny
eww vagina
eww what is it even
so gross
how can you like that
way to come full circle vapid-gays
way to come full circle
Dan Savage is pretty notable for this kind of casual sexism, for example
Yeah. I adore him for everything he has done. Unfortunately he has published some very terrible things and will never escape them. I think he does great work for bringing queerness to straight people: I.E. its okay to butt play, its okay to want something other than feudal monogamy, its okay to be in to different things. Also he has done a great job bringing queerness to main-line LG folk.
But his attitude towards trans and bi folk is classic terrible.
yeah, used to really like his column and I appreciate the "It Gets Better" movement, because teenage me would have really benefited from it
but there's a lot of his shtick that I find genuinely unpleasant
I think the tipping point was some commentary he did on NPR which made me feel like
this guy should maybe not be the figurehead of a movement about being OK as a queer person
because clearly he doesn't think it's OK to be something other than a gay dude or a straight-but-openminded person
I don't think that's true. I think he listens to his readers and viewers, they took him to task, and I think he's evolved his views on just about all of that stuff. I listen to him every week and trans and bi people call every week and he usually gives good advice.
I should wear a hat now that I'm a bald for the same reason will
I haven't been able to go for anything other than a dull gray baseball cap thus far
you could almost certainly pull it off
i'm sure it would look fine on you and also gay dudes get a lot more latitude for being fashionably adventurous
and also not suspected of misogyny quite the same way as a straight
tho to be honest a lot of gay dudes have nastily dismissive sorts of attitudes towards women that doesn't usually register as "misogyny" but probably should
yes it's a very unfortunate and baffling problem amongst some gays. I guess that we're 'allowed' to be mean to women or something.
i mean at the end of the day, sexual attraction tends to drive social interest, even just subconsciously. from that particular angle, women don't have much to offer gay guys. it's easy i think to just think "why are these people i am not interested in showing up and making things about them?!"
there is also the whole "hag" phenomenon where self-loathing ladies seek out gay guys for company and end up being kind of pitied and tolerated and that probably drives attitudes too.
and also spurned aggressive sexual interest seems to be a big component of straight dude misogyny.
yeah I am sort of bad at this. my best friend is a lady and I love her but uh
if I'm going to be honest i'm much better at remembering the names of men and things about them because I find them sexually interesting. even if i'm not attracted to them at all. which is something I hate admitting about myself but there you go. on the other hand I am very good friends with some ladies because I feel I can get close to them and not have to worry about falling for them. That hasn't happened to me with a straight dude in a long time, but it's still a concern.
I don't really have any gay friends except for gays I've met on the boards, and I think a big part of that is that I can't deal with someone who might want to sleep with me and I might actually want to sleep with them back, especially if I'm with a dude i'm probably going to marry. It's just a tension I've avoided like the plague most of my life, and oddly enough it's served me quite well.
but If i'm going to put on my psychologist hat, I would say some gays hate women because they grew up falling for dudes who like women, and they feel that the women (who sometimes cheat, are bad partners, and don't like having giving sex - just like men) don't deserve the dudes they spend so many years pining for.
huh that is interesting. all of it. you are an astute dude casual eddy.
i tend not to have close lady friends also, probably for the same reason that you avoid gay dude friends, but i had never really thought about it.
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i tried to listen to dan savage's podcast but the episode i chose started with him ranting for 10 minutes about how someone was mad at him or something and he didn't actually hate all straight people or some group. it sounded very petulant with him blasting off about this... one tweet... someone had sent to him or something
I should wear a hat now that I'm a bald for the same reason will
I haven't been able to go for anything other than a dull gray baseball cap thus far
you could almost certainly pull it off
i'm sure it would look fine on you and also gay dudes get a lot more latitude for being fashionably adventurous
and also not suspected of misogyny quite the same way as a straight
tho to be honest a lot of gay dudes have nastily dismissive sorts of attitudes towards women that doesn't usually register as "misogyny" but probably should
yeah, it's still misogyny, just a completely different kind
it is definitely still misogyny
eww vagina
eww what is it even
so gross
how can you like that
way to come full circle vapid-gays
way to come full circle
Dan Savage is pretty notable for this kind of casual sexism, for example
Yeah. I adore him for everything he has done. Unfortunately he has published some very terrible things and will never escape them. I think he does great work for bringing queerness to straight people: I.E. its okay to butt play, its okay to want something other than feudal monogamy, its okay to be in to different things. Also he has done a great job bringing queerness to main-line LG folk.
But his attitude towards trans and bi folk is classic terrible.
yeah, used to really like his column and I appreciate the "It Gets Better" movement, because teenage me would have really benefited from it
but there's a lot of his shtick that I find genuinely unpleasant
I think the tipping point was some commentary he did on NPR which made me feel like
this guy should maybe not be the figurehead of a movement about being OK as a queer person
because clearly he doesn't think it's OK to be something other than a gay dude or a straight-but-openminded person
I don't think that's true. I think he listens to his readers and viewers, they took him to task, and I think he's evolved his views on just about all of that stuff. I listen to him every week and trans and bi people call every week and he usually gives good advice.
I definitely checked out at that point, this was a few years ago
so it's quite possible he, like many people, have opinions that evolve
I should wear a hat now that I'm a bald for the same reason will
I haven't been able to go for anything other than a dull gray baseball cap thus far
you could almost certainly pull it off
i'm sure it would look fine on you and also gay dudes get a lot more latitude for being fashionably adventurous
and also not suspected of misogyny quite the same way as a straight
tho to be honest a lot of gay dudes have nastily dismissive sorts of attitudes towards women that doesn't usually register as "misogyny" but probably should
yes it's a very unfortunate and baffling problem amongst some gays. I guess that we're 'allowed' to be mean to women or something.
i mean at the end of the day, sexual attraction tends to drive social interest, even just subconsciously. from that particular angle, women don't have much to offer gay guys. it's easy i think to just think "why are these people i am not interested in showing up and making things about them?!"
there is also the whole "hag" phenomenon where self-loathing ladies seek out gay guys for company and end up being kind of pitied and tolerated and that probably drives attitudes too.
and also spurned aggressive sexual interest seems to be a big component of straight dude misogyny.
yeah I am sort of bad at this. my best friend is a lady and I love her but uh
if I'm going to be honest i'm much better at remembering the names of men and things about them because I find them sexually interesting. even if i'm not attracted to them at all. which is something I hate admitting about myself but there you go. on the other hand I am very good friends with some ladies because I feel I can get close to them and not have to worry about falling for them. That hasn't happened to me with a straight dude in a long time, but it's still a concern.
I don't really have any gay friends except for gays I've met on the boards, and I think a big part of that is that I can't deal with someone who might want to sleep with me and I might actually want to sleep with them back, especially if I'm with a dude i'm probably going to marry. It's just a tension I've avoided like the plague most of my life, and oddly enough it's served me quite well.
but If i'm going to put on my psychologist hat, I would say some gays hate women because they grew up falling for dudes who like women, and they feel that the women (who sometimes cheat, are bad partners, and don't like having giving sex - just like men) don't deserve the dudes they spend so many years pining for.
i tried to listen to dan savage's podcast but the episode i chose started with him ranting for 10 minutes about how someone was mad at him or something and he didn't actually hate all straight people or some group. it sounded very petulant with him blasting off about this... one tweet... someone had sent to him or something
i turned it off
i have listened to one episode also.....it was all about butt stuff....it didnt turn me off from the podcast, i just thought it was only a podcast about buttstuff and i figured I didn't have much else to learn after the one episode
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Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
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i tried to listen to dan savage's podcast but the episode i chose started with him ranting for 10 minutes about how someone was mad at him or something and he didn't actually hate all straight people or some group. it sounded very petulant with him blasting off about this... one tweet... someone had sent to him or something
i turned it off
i have read his column quite a few times and he's really into celebrating and talking about sex things that i don't have much interest in
so like if his column is right there in an indie paper or something i'll read it because it's convenient and might teach me something i didn't know about
but it's not interesting enough for me to seek it out or anything
Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
I don't think that song has any meaning at all
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Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
"dude looks like a lady" seems to be kind of a low-rent "lola"
which maybe is kind of a trap narrative i guess but the narrator straight up falls in love with lola so
Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
I asked what people thought of the song Lola once, but no one seemed interested in the topic. I would like to know about all 3. If I remember Lola right, he is also pretty cool with it.
I should wear a hat now that I'm a bald for the same reason will
I haven't been able to go for anything other than a dull gray baseball cap thus far
you could almost certainly pull it off
i'm sure it would look fine on you and also gay dudes get a lot more latitude for being fashionably adventurous
and also not suspected of misogyny quite the same way as a straight
tho to be honest a lot of gay dudes have nastily dismissive sorts of attitudes towards women that doesn't usually register as "misogyny" but probably should
yes it's a very unfortunate and baffling problem amongst some gays. I guess that we're 'allowed' to be mean to women or something.
i mean at the end of the day, sexual attraction tends to drive social interest, even just subconsciously. from that particular angle, women don't have much to offer gay guys. it's easy i think to just think "why are these people i am not interested in showing up and making things about them?!"
there is also the whole "hag" phenomenon where self-loathing ladies seek out gay guys for company and end up being kind of pitied and tolerated and that probably drives attitudes too.
and also spurned aggressive sexual interest seems to be a big component of straight dude misogyny.
yeah I am sort of bad at this. my best friend is a lady and I love her but uh
if I'm going to be honest i'm much better at remembering the names of men and things about them because I find them sexually interesting. even if i'm not attracted to them at all. which is something I hate admitting about myself but there you go. on the other hand I am very good friends with some ladies because I feel I can get close to them and not have to worry about falling for them. That hasn't happened to me with a straight dude in a long time, but it's still a concern.
I don't really have any gay friends except for gays I've met on the boards, and I think a big part of that is that I can't deal with someone who might want to sleep with me and I might actually want to sleep with them back, especially if I'm with a dude i'm probably going to marry. It's just a tension I've avoided like the plague most of my life, and oddly enough it's served me quite well.
but If i'm going to put on my psychologist hat, I would say some gays hate women because they grew up falling for dudes who like women, and they feel that the women (who sometimes cheat, are bad partners, and don't like having giving sex - just like men) don't deserve the dudes they spend so many years pining for.
huh that is interesting. all of it. you are an astute dude casual eddy.
i tend not to have close lady friends also, probably for the same reason that you avoid gay dude friends, but i had never really thought about it.
I wonder I'd this is just a guy thing? I am much better at remembering guys but am not gay. I put it down to going to a guys only school. I've put a lot of effort to cultivating women friends since school, which has helped with that but there is still an imbalance, maybe 70-30.
Is "dude looks like a lady" the classic trap story? Obviously it's not using accepted modern language for transfolk but is it demeaning? Maybe I'm reading it wrong but it sounds like at the end of the song the singer gets with dude-who-looks-like-a-lady and is cool with that.
Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
I don't think that song has any meaning at all
killers lyrics seem to be rorschach blots
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i tried to listen to dan savage's podcast but the episode i chose started with him ranting for 10 minutes about how someone was mad at him or something and he didn't actually hate all straight people or some group. it sounded very petulant with him blasting off about this... one tweet... someone had sent to him or something
i turned it off
i have read his column quite a few times and he's really into celebrating and talking about sex things that i don't have much interest in
so like if his column is right there in an indie paper or something i'll read it because it's convenient and might teach me something i didn't know about
but it's not interesting enough for me to seek it out or anything
i used to read his column off and on, and it was always just 'do what comes naturally, be up for reasonable requests, don't be a jerk to people'
FWIW watching the social justice machine absolutely rage against him was very disrespectful and disproportionate to the attitudes that he maintains.
I support the ever ceasing ouroboros because it is necessary to create better and better iterations of social justice values but the ability and propensity for incredibly young and historically ignorant queer people to froth at the mouth about concepts that they know little of is a very sad thing that I don't think should be encouraged.
i think this is a problem with progressives in general.
like, social justice is about incremental progress. that's how it happens. but of course even the most liberal of people will find their values calcifying as they age, having been informed by the fights of their youth. it's probably better IMO to cut these people a little slack
but then again if it weren't a neverending cycle of nasty infighting and backbiting it wouldn't be progressive culture.
That's not exclusive to liberal culture, that happens to every political clique.
what he does say to bisexual people is that they need to come out, and bi people will not be taken seriously until they do.
this is an unpleasant thing to be told because coming out is terrifying.
this is a fair point
it's also hard to be "out" when you're, say, currently in a hetero relationship when it happens to be mostly coincidental that it happened that way
just as a
yknow
example
like I'm pretty open that I'm not a hetero person (I think) but it's a can of worms I don't feel like getting into with some folks
and that IS actually part of the problem
FWIW watching the social justice machine absolutely rage against him was very disrespectful and disproportionate to the attitudes that he maintains.
I support the ever ceasing ouroboros because it is necessary to create better and better iterations of social justice values but the ability and propensity for incredibly young and historically ignorant queer people to froth at the mouth about concepts that they know little of is a very sad thing that I don't think should be encouraged.
i think this is a problem with progressives in general.
like, social justice is about incremental progress. that's how it happens. but of course even the most liberal of people will find their values calcifying as they age, having been informed by the fights of their youth. it's probably better IMO to cut these people a little slack
but then again if it weren't a neverending cycle of nasty infighting and backbiting it wouldn't be progressive culture.
That's not exclusive to liberal culture, that happens to every political clique.
probably so, but i think that the continual progressive bent towards, well, "progress" necessarily means that tradition and age is going to be treated with less respect than the corresponding "conservative" clique (who at least imagines that the political values of their forebears have great merit, even if this recollection is invented out of wholecloth)
what he does say to bisexual people is that they need to come out, and bi people will not be taken seriously until they do.
this is an unpleasant thing to be told because coming out is terrifying.
I have a bias because lots of bi friends are very very bi but very very very loving of straight privilege
I'm really torn on it
its their choice
it sucks all around
I think I will LoL tonight instead of aging some dragons
unless I put up a christmas tree and clean the house and cook
2/3rds of those things are fun but man I don't want to go into the attic
we had bees in the attic while I was unemployed and couldn't afford an exterminator. They stopped being a problem but I've been afraid to look. Maybe they're just comfortable not coming into the house anymore, or maybe they left
idk
I haven't been in the attic since August
I don't know what I will find up there.
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I felt like ME1 was better at that particular thing
Just like the newest call of duty game, there's a part of the game, I think it's literally one mission, where you work for Kevin Spacey stabalizing war torn regions. That mission was pretty sweet! Instead of turning Kevin Spacey into Cobra Commander if they had just had me pick and chose missions and go shoot bad guys around the world (before eventually resuming the main plot, dumb as it was) it would have been a much better game
In that way I didn't like ME3, the clock was kind of necessary for the plot but I didn't like the rush rush rush rush rush feeling
i am tired and sore and need to be treated like a prince or duke of a middling noble house
*contented sigh*
I don't think that's true. I think he listens to his readers and viewers, they took him to task, and I think he's evolved his views on just about all of that stuff. I listen to him every week and trans and bi people call every week and he usually gives good advice.
they tell me I have kind eyes
huh that is interesting. all of it. you are an astute dude casual eddy.
i tend not to have close lady friends also, probably for the same reason that you avoid gay dude friends, but i had never really thought about it.
i turned it off
I definitely checked out at that point, this was a few years ago
so it's quite possible he, like many people, have opinions that evolve
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I don't think this has been the case for several years
because you're gay?
this is an unpleasant thing to be told because coming out is terrifying.
today i google 'flu related hallucinations'
pa was the 3rd result
Arch,
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Another one that has always puzzled me is Somebody Told Me by The Killers.
i have read his column quite a few times and he's really into celebrating and talking about sex things that i don't have much interest in
so like if his column is right there in an indie paper or something i'll read it because it's convenient and might teach me something i didn't know about
but it's not interesting enough for me to seek it out or anything
straight dudes never show me their dicks
maybe they would if I didn't ask so much
at the urinal
i need to clean the heck out of my bathroom before i take a big vacation on wednesday
but i am so tired
need motivate
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I don't think that song has any meaning at all
"dude looks like a lady" seems to be kind of a low-rent "lola"
which maybe is kind of a trap narrative i guess but the narrator straight up falls in love with lola so
also the kinks are baller as fk
I don't remember this at all! you're a lying liar who lies
I asked what people thought of the song Lola once, but no one seemed interested in the topic. I would like to know about all 3. If I remember Lola right, he is also pretty cool with it.
I wonder I'd this is just a guy thing? I am much better at remembering guys but am not gay. I put it down to going to a guys only school. I've put a lot of effort to cultivating women friends since school, which has helped with that but there is still an imbalance, maybe 70-30.
like he has this really good doctor who comes on a lot because people have a lot of health questions about drinking pee, and he's like
very knowledgable about it and answers all these questions about drinking pee
killers lyrics seem to be rorschach blots
i used to read his column off and on, and it was always just 'do what comes naturally, be up for reasonable requests, don't be a jerk to people'
which is my normal advice to people too
i sure hope it's not that salmonella
the internet says it takes like more than a day to manifest
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That's not exclusive to liberal culture, that happens to every political clique.
this is a fair point
it's also hard to be "out" when you're, say, currently in a hetero relationship when it happens to be mostly coincidental that it happened that way
just as a
yknow
example
like I'm pretty open that I'm not a hetero person (I think) but it's a can of worms I don't feel like getting into with some folks
and that IS actually part of the problem
Uncanny Magazine!
The Mad Writers Union
I am also recalling like five years ago.
skippy or dan savage
probably so, but i think that the continual progressive bent towards, well, "progress" necessarily means that tradition and age is going to be treated with less respect than the corresponding "conservative" clique (who at least imagines that the political values of their forebears have great merit, even if this recollection is invented out of wholecloth)
I'm really torn on it
its their choice
it sucks all around
skippysavage
unless I put up a christmas tree and clean the house and cook
2/3rds of those things are fun but man I don't want to go into the attic
we had bees in the attic while I was unemployed and couldn't afford an exterminator. They stopped being a problem but I've been afraid to look. Maybe they're just comfortable not coming into the house anymore, or maybe they left
idk
I haven't been in the attic since August
I don't know what I will find up there.
i knew it