I friended my high school girlfriend, then she went off on a tangent about immigration and said I was part of the problem when I pointed out the errors in her logic.
That's what I was thinking, but gave in to curiosity
Doesn't look like there are any surprise kids.
One obnoxious post bad-mouthing chemical-dependency rehab, but nothing overtly racist or hateful.
I'll give her a few days to see if there was anything specific she needed to say, and then probably unfriend her.
ADDENDUM: she wanted to reach out and see if I was on FB after having a "great dream" about me. I'm asking what she ate before bed last night, and will give her until her first hateful/racist comment before I unfriend her.
The huge drawback to meeting people online is the overwhelming detachment inherent to the form: it's hard to convey any kind of emotion through text alone.
So now I will spend the next day wondering, "Was that an excited 'Sure' (just like that, no punctuation) agreeing to go out with me tomorrow night, or was that a 'Yeah, whatever, sure'?"
Consequently, the excitement I was hoping I'd feel in anticipation of a date with a pretty woman is all but gone, replaced by apprehension.
I know, I know it's kind of dumb to judge a book by its texts, I just can't help but feel she could've thrown an exclamation point in there or something, maybe a smiley. Bleh.
Made it, what? 2 days? talking to the ex about catching up on life before a comment about hating all the [2 separate racial group epithets that I don't believe are forum-banned words but still don't need repeating].
Made it, what? 2 days? talking to the ex about catching up on life before a comment about hating all the [2 separate racial group epithets that I don't believe are forum-banned words but still don't need repeating].
Dammit, I shoulda started a pool!
Hoooly shit. Bullet: Dodged.
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Made it, what? 2 days? talking to the ex about catching up on life before a comment about hating all the [2 separate racial group epithets that I don't believe are forum-banned words but still don't need repeating].
Dammit, I shoulda started a pool!
Fucking called it
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Made it, what? 2 days? talking to the ex about catching up on life before a comment about hating all the [2 separate racial group epithets that I don't believe are forum-banned words but still don't need repeating].
I thought I had her well and truly blocked after that, but a msg got through saying she thought I was like that.
Which is really disheartening.
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Thought you were like... what, exactly?
And it seems like all is dying, and would leave the world to mourn
I wonder why we both have developed this interest in the past few weeks! Good old Gumpy spreading the tabletop game interest.
(also I played Settlers of Catan for the first time last month and got really competitive and won).
If this Manchester job works out we could go look about some board game cafes? They're supposed to be a good place to meet people and try out new games I can't afford to outright buy
Had the conversation with the girlfriend last night.
For entertainment's sake, I'll offer two versions. The first will be the story as told by overly emotional songs on youtube that make me a sap. The other will be what actually happened.
I asked if she was making plans to move. Of course she is, her semester starts end of Sept. I asked if she wanted us to go forward...and if the answer was yes, we'd figure it out. If the answer was no, we'd figure that out too. Seems the answer was no.
Turns out that she hasn't been feeling this relationship for awhile now (which is no surprise) and that she needs more time alone than "normal people". Her words, not mine. Not ever mine. I was blamed for being around a lot (reminder: we live together). That I complain about work too much, which was essentially countered by her complaining about our apartment all the time.
Right after she said no, I said I don't know that I could live with someone I'm not dating. Which sparked a whooooole lot of yelling on her part. Though, we kept on talking. And crying. And not talking. Then repeating the process. Clothes were thrown in bags, I told her to stop. She has nobody here, so I offered to leave. More talking. Her complaining that her whole life she hasn't focused on friends, just boyfriends so she doesn't have anyone to turn to.
But...we don't fight, we don't argue, we care for each other, trust each other (both of our words).
There's a lot more, but I can't keep typing...I just needed to get this out.
We both acknowledge that it's pretty much over. We'll stay together (in a manner of speaking) until she moves out in a few weeks. Then...that'll probably be that.
I wonder why we both have developed this interest in the past few weeks! Good old Gumpy spreading the tabletop game interest.
(also I played Settlers of Catan for the first time last month and got really competitive and won).
If this Manchester job works out we could go look about some board game cafes? They're supposed to be a good place to meet people and try out new games I can't afford to outright buy
@Gumpy ooh I did not know you were applying for a Manchester job! There are two I can think of, one is Traveling Man which is a comic book shop that is great, one I walk past but don't know the name of, I see people playing Magic there though all the time! Be good if its something I could dip into, third year of uni is going to be cray!
Not sure, just saw it the message preview. I assume she thought I was racist like her; I have a shaved head (hence the chromdom handle) and a German last name, and used to be fairly conservative.
Had the conversation with the girlfriend last night.
For entertainment's sake, I'll offer two versions. The first will be the story as told by overly emotional songs on youtube that make me a sap. The other will be what actually happened.
I asked if she was making plans to move. Of course she is, her semester starts end of Sept. I asked if she wanted us to go forward...and if the answer was yes, we'd figure it out. If the answer was no, we'd figure that out too. Seems the answer was no.
Turns out that she hasn't been feeling this relationship for awhile now (which is no surprise) and that she needs more time alone than "normal people". Her words, not mine. Not ever mine. I was blamed for being around a lot (reminder: we live together). That I complain about work too much, which was essentially countered by her complaining about our apartment all the time.
Right after she said no, I said I don't know that I could live with someone I'm not dating. Which sparked a whooooole lot of yelling on her part. Though, we kept on talking. And crying. And not talking. Then repeating the process. Clothes were thrown in bags, I told her to stop. She has nobody here, so I offered to leave. More talking. Her complaining that her whole life she hasn't focused on friends, just boyfriends so she doesn't have anyone to turn to.
But...we don't fight, we don't argue, we care for each other, trust each other (both of our words).
There's a lot more, but I can't keep typing...I just needed to get this out.
We both acknowledge that it's pretty much over. We'll stay together (in a manner of speaking) until she moves out in a few weeks. Then...that'll probably be that.
@DrZiplock I know you had been dreading this conversation, but I'm glad you finally got everything out in the open. If she hasn't been feeling it for a while she should have actually said something. It's not all on you.
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Doesn't look like there are any surprise kids.
One obnoxious post bad-mouthing chemical-dependency rehab, but nothing overtly racist or hateful.
I'll give her a few days to see if there was anything specific she needed to say, and then probably unfriend her.
ADDENDUM: she wanted to reach out and see if I was on FB after having a "great dream" about me. I'm asking what she ate before bed last night, and will give her until her first hateful/racist comment before I unfriend her.
So now I will spend the next day wondering, "Was that an excited 'Sure' (just like that, no punctuation) agreeing to go out with me tomorrow night, or was that a 'Yeah, whatever, sure'?"
Consequently, the excitement I was hoping I'd feel in anticipation of a date with a pretty woman is all but gone, replaced by apprehension.
I know, I know it's kind of dumb to judge a book by its texts, I just can't help but feel she could've thrown an exclamation point in there or something, maybe a smiley. Bleh.
http://www.audioentropy.com/
Reading too much into the way a person you barely know types in instant message format is a path to madness
Take it at face value
can confirm
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Only 10?
Psh, amateur 8-)
Clearly there is an imbalance here. A cruel joke by fate, because I've spent nearly the last 10 years with a near pathological lack of fretting.
Turns out you should be concerned with what the hell is going on and how and why sometimes.
Maybe we can set up a fretting exchange. Mind meld!
but they're listening to every word I say
Given that I'm a trans woman with a sexual appetite that would give hr Giger a boner, I'm pretty proud of the fact that I had a dating pool at all.
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Edit: Better-looking Link
Dammit, I shoulda started a pool!
Hoooly shit. Bullet: Dodged.
Being a cis white male, Giger has never been a dating prospect for me.
Fucking called it
It's not a bad story, so, to be fair, so did I
Oh, and by the way, no kid I hadn't been informed of. And of course, FB friendship contact has been severed.
Which is really disheartening.
Personal pics.
Of his black eye.
Jesus Christ I want to make out with his bruised, swollen flesh.
I have butterflies.
If this Manchester job works out we could go look about some board game cafes? They're supposed to be a good place to meet people and try out new games I can't afford to outright buy
For entertainment's sake, I'll offer two versions. The first will be the story as told by overly emotional songs on youtube that make me a sap. The other will be what actually happened.
I asked if she was making plans to move. Of course she is, her semester starts end of Sept. I asked if she wanted us to go forward...and if the answer was yes, we'd figure it out. If the answer was no, we'd figure that out too. Seems the answer was no.
Turns out that she hasn't been feeling this relationship for awhile now (which is no surprise) and that she needs more time alone than "normal people". Her words, not mine. Not ever mine. I was blamed for being around a lot (reminder: we live together). That I complain about work too much, which was essentially countered by her complaining about our apartment all the time.
Right after she said no, I said I don't know that I could live with someone I'm not dating. Which sparked a whooooole lot of yelling on her part. Though, we kept on talking. And crying. And not talking. Then repeating the process. Clothes were thrown in bags, I told her to stop. She has nobody here, so I offered to leave. More talking. Her complaining that her whole life she hasn't focused on friends, just boyfriends so she doesn't have anyone to turn to.
But...we don't fight, we don't argue, we care for each other, trust each other (both of our words).
There's a lot more, but I can't keep typing...I just needed to get this out.
We both acknowledge that it's pretty much over. We'll stay together (in a manner of speaking) until she moves out in a few weeks. Then...that'll probably be that.
That's rough stuff man. I'm sorry. The lack of separation things sounds tough.
Satans..... hints.....
@Gumpy ooh I did not know you were applying for a Manchester job! There are two I can think of, one is Traveling Man which is a comic book shop that is great, one I walk past but don't know the name of, I see people playing Magic there though all the time! Be good if its something I could dip into, third year of uni is going to be cray!
Not sure, just saw it the message preview. I assume she thought I was racist like her; I have a shaved head (hence the chromdom handle) and a German last name, and used to be fairly conservative.
That's rough, man.
Well played and an excellent suggestion.
It was extremely good and just the sort of thing I needed
I'm pretty fucking excited.