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Dear Women: What's Wrong with the Doggy-Style?
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Thank you.
Says you.
This is from women I have talked to. The girlrfriend has absolutely no problem with it.
I mean you are in bed so intimacy is already there, is it that hard to ask what they would prefer?
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Well, he is a Rear Admiral.
*rimshot*
But seriously, what ever happened to 'consenting adults' here? Don't consenting adults have adult, mature discussions about things in their sex life that they want or are uncomfortable with? If two people are going to engage in intercourse for pleasure or an act of love and intimacy, in either case they should at least be able to discuss the matter in advance and after the fact.
If you can't have that open a discussion with your partner, you shouldn't be having sex. One might point out that many cultures have taboos about such things, but open communication (in my opinion) is vital for a healthy and fulfilling sex life. Just because some (if not many) people feel it's impossible to talk about doesn't make it alright not to talk about it. Shame, inadequacy and other negative thoughts and emotions in regards to sex does nothing to further our understanding of one another, and as such, shouldn't be supported as a sterling example of how to be intimate with another person.
Aww, Cass, I wuvs you.
A thousand times yes.
Are you insane?
"Well, here we are at last. Now, what positions would you prefer to partake in tonight? Does 'doggy' sound okay?"
What the fuck, people can't talk during sex? Or discuss their sex life while they're not having sex?
The correct response to that is "Yes, yes it is."
During, yes. But actually having a discussion beforehand regarding the particulars can be a moodkill. At least for the girls I've been with. Sometimes you have to find out along the way. If there's communication, your partner will tell you during and you'll actually be sensitive enough to listen.
Oh my god. You're a "slip it in on accident" kind of guy. I just know it!
I'd guess this is where the myth that it's thought of as demeaning comes into play. From an abstract point of view, yeah, that makes the woman a bitch. Of course, from a realistic point of view, that's the classic "book by its cover" situation.
I'm really starting to warm up to this thread.
Oop ya caught me.
Shocking expose; craftily designed banter, inuendo and outright discussion can be part of foreplay! The mind is the most powerful sexual organ that you can stimulate, and a little warming up chatter can be just as effective as a 'cold' talk while lounging around.
Pro tip; unless you know your partner REALLY well, I find it's often best to err on the side of caution.
Then again we're both pretty weird.
1) The idea that men get all the pleasure out of it, or that men want to feel dominant in their sexual position, and that doggystyle is a mild form of submission
2) The idea that doggystyle is the manner in which animals have sex, and that it reduces the sexual act to an animalistic one, or the woman to an animal
That makes sense. If you've been together a while, you'll obviously want to explore your options more in-depth.
How can you make that comment without ending it with a :winky:?
That almost certainly would've killed it.
These are pretty lame. I mean, that position is one of the most pleasurable for me and a number of women I know. And also, there are plenty of people that get off on submission, and that includes women too! And I don't see how if you're reducing the sex to an animalistic thing (which isn't all sex animalistic no matter what position you're in?) that the woman would be reduced to an animal while the man would not.
I mean, this really seems like a non issue, just as much as men complaining about girl-on-top sex is a non issue.
"Can't it be about feeling good without caring who is on top/on bottom/in front/behind the other person?"
I don't like being on the bottom because I want to submit to my partner/be dominated by them.
I like being on the bottom because I'm lazy.
But it would have been a good death.
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They're pretty poor objections
I mean, we are animals, and we are animalistic, and that's an important thing to realize and come to terms with
Also doggystyle is awesome for all involved as long the anatomy matches up
IN DA BUTT
Literally lolled.
http://cfp.english.upenn.edu/archive/1999-12/0059.html
Has anybody read that book? Does it say anything about doggy style?
I will laugh openly and uproariously in the face of anyone who suggests that sex can be reduced to an animalistic act.
You can't reduce something to what it already is
Just because as far as we know, humans are the only animals to make sex intimate as well as physical/reproductive, doesn't mean its any less physical or animalistic.
Also, I talk with my girlfriend about sex all the time. It's actually a lot more awkward if you don't talk about it, even during.
Same here.
Anways, I've dated girls who just didn't doggy but I never got a full explanation. Oh well, their loss.
No kidding. I've also heard that it's more enjoyable from quite a few women.
Now anal sex, that's demeaning. Or so I'm told. Hell I don't know, it's awesome, who cares if a third party personally finds it to be demeaning
CUZ THERE'S SOMETHING IN THE MIDDLE AND IT'S GIVING ME A RASH
Indeed. I've never heard this; in fact, my girlfriend says she loves it because she feels like it is mildly submissive, which evidently makes her hot.
Also, no objections to anal sex. Maybe I'm just dating someone awesome.
And you will find a GREAT MANY WOMEN who think this way.
I'd even go so far as to say more women think this way than those who do not. Feel free to correct me on that though, thats just a hunch I have.
I think most of the negative feelings towards anal sex is about the physical obstacles that are involved. Some women uncomfortable with anal sex because it can really hurt if couples don't know what they're doing. Some women/men think it's really dirty because...well I don't think I need to go into the details. Both reasons are very understandable. However, anal sex can be very pleasurable for both parties and the woman can orgasm from it because it feels really intense.
She also prefers penetrative sex to cunnilingus in general. She doesn't dislike cunnilingus, just in her personal hierarchy, anal sex > vaginal sex > cunnilingus.
Generalizations suck.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.