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Ok that was cheesy, but I don't want to grill them for trying to shake it up.
Granted that's a McTerrible line, but I'm super-sized surpirised that I've never heard it before.
I left my wife. We could not make each other happy any more. Things had been argumentive and tense for a year. I couldn't do it anymore. I filed for divorce last week.
What are some things to do to help my head?
I need new hobbies, videogames and reading aren't good right now.
I'm going to go for a run today, I think, if it doesn't rain .
And I want to check out archery.
Someone around here is in to archery, I think.
Was it @Grey Ghost ?
I left my wife. We could not make each other happy any more. Things had been argumentive and tense for a year. I couldn't do it anymore. I filed for divorce last week.
What are some things to do to help my head?
I need new hobbies, videogames and reading aren't good right now.
I'm going to go for a run today, I think, if it doesn't rain .
And I want to check out archery.
Someone around here is in to archery, I think.
Was it Grey Ghost?
I'm sorry to hear that, man, that sucks.
I understand that physical hobbies can be real good for dealing with this kind of thing. Exercise, building things, yard/garden work, anything to keep you physically active.
Climbing? Haven't done it often, but it seems to be a great activity to clear your head and focus on the problem - the wall - right in front of you. Also gets you outide and have contact with people which might help.
Archery is great. You can often rent a bow for the first while and have that be included in the price of the range/lessons. Not going to be as good as your own bow, but definitely good while you start to figure things out.
A coach will also help you figure out the right stance much faster than if you tried to learn it on your own. I can't really say for certain how much they'd cost in your area though; the times I've gone have been to a place an hour outside of the city, so they've been pretty cheap. They'll also help you figure out which eye is dominant/suggest which side you should be shooting on.
You can also see if there's an archery tag group in your area, they've been becoming more popular in North America at least. You'll uh, definitely pick up some bruises there, but it's solid exercise and ridiculously fun. They just started a league in my town this year!
Model building was seriously a huge part of my self-care regime these past few months, which have been incredibly tough on me emotionally. If you're down for something that'll take you a few hours and require a lot of concentration, definitely consider it.
40k and MTG were for years my self care/social thing
I was disgusted at some of the people I played with how they talked to and treated women interested in those things
I know I look scary but telling them it's really a time and money sink for wargamming don't let them get to you it's a fun game but you see it's ugly side as well
I am just sad to know the last time I played a 40k game was 2010 and MTG was 2013
I left my wife. We could not make each other happy any more. Things had been argumentive and tense for a year. I couldn't do it anymore. I filed for divorce last week.
What are some things to do to help my head?
I need new hobbies, videogames and reading aren't good right now.
I'm going to go for a run today, I think, if it doesn't rain .
And I want to check out archery.
Someone around here is in to archery, I think.
Was it Grey Ghost?
I got real deep into mtg after my ex-wife left me. It's got a lot to think about and enough events to keep you busy if you're into card games. Just keep busy, really. Mmos are good for that, pick up something like overwatch that has really good replay value, something like that.
40k and MTG were for years my self care/social thing
I was disgusted at some of the people I played with how they talked to and treated women interested in those things
I know I look scary but telling them it's really a time and money sink for wargamming don't let them get to you it's a fun game but you see it's ugly side as well
I am just sad to know the last time I played a 40k game was 2010 and MTG was 2013
That sucks. Did you find that some places were more of a haven than others?
A magician gives you a ring that, when worn, will let you see the world as it truly is.
However, the ring will never leave your finger, and you will be unable to ever describe to another living person what you see.
Ugh it's the worst when a text argument starts up at 11:45pm or so. Why now? Can't it wait? I have to get up early for work.
I have to make tough decisions. I can apply to an incredible professional opportunity, but if I get selected (unlikely) my LDR will become more LD, effectively breaking us up with how things are.
Regardless, it's still two more years until we can be together. Legitimate concerns on whether we can last that long. I mean I'd be fine, but I can't guarantee she can make it. She just has different needs. I mean she is impossibly low maintenance, but this is LD, there is only so much you can do.
Treatment of women in those communities is often dire. Fortunately there's been more awareness of it lately and a move towards pushing back but it's still terrible in many places. I hope that those of us with a better attitude can affect more change, I really do.
40k and MTG were for years my self care/social thing
I was disgusted at some of the people I played with how they talked to and treated women interested in those things
I know I look scary but telling them it's really a time and money sink for wargamming don't let them get to you it's a fun game but you see it's ugly side as well
I am just sad to know the last time I played a 40k game was 2010 and MTG was 2013
That sucks. Did you find that some places were more of a haven than others?
Not really as 40k just evaporated in 2011 for a lot of reasons one of which was the real asses I knew of made a gamming club for just them and no women
MTG I looked and looked since the only shop that played it was more interesting in becoming a one of those shops known for being a top MTG place so it attracted some really interesting people
I just want to throw in that I have no idea how this got to be a thing. I'm an open minded person, and I've had my fair share of experiences, but the idea of doing this or having this done (speaking obliquely for the 13+ rating of the forum), is just something I can't get down with.
My kink isn't your kink, and that's fine, as long as everyone is safe, go for it, have your fun. But for me, non-starter.
$0.02 for the prudes.
I got a lot of people asking if I would do drugs and sex with them Or be the third or did it while someone watched or would do their boyfriend then them or a number of other odd sex acts
I really did put the message in my message me about please don't ask me to do those and thank you for taking the time to read and not do it
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I left my wife. We could not make each other happy any more. Things had been argumentive and tense for a year. I couldn't do it anymore. I filed for divorce last week.
What are some things to do to help my head?
I need new hobbies, videogames and reading aren't good right now.
I'm going to go for a run today, I think, if it doesn't rain .
And I want to check out archery.
Someone around here is in to archery, I think.
Was it @Grey Ghost ?
Archery is awesome! Also I'd Recommend Disc Golf, it is cheap to get into (like $40 will get you the discs you need) and can be as chill or competitive as you want. Lots of great people in the sport too. You could also get into Star Wars X-wing minis. Not as cheap as disc golf but its a great game if you have a local game store, and we have a thriving community that plays online over in Critical Failures.
Also I'd say get out and go hiking, take some pictures. There are awesome places everywhere to go explore, and usually there are local hiking groups that know all the great places.
I just want to throw in that I have no idea how this got to be a thing. I'm an open minded person, and I've had my fair share of experiences, but the idea of doing this or having this done (speaking obliquely for the 13+ rating of the forum), is just something I can't get down with.
My kink isn't your kink, and that's fine, as long as everyone is safe, go for it, have your fun. But for me, non-starter.
$0.02 for the prudes.
This thread has been very helpful while going through a divorce, @DouglasDanger. Very good people around that help and try to get you through the emotional turmoil and mental anguish.
40k and MTG were for years my self care/social thing
I was disgusted at some of the people I played with how they talked to and treated women interested in those things
I know I look scary but telling them it's really a time and money sink for wargamming don't let them get to you it's a fun game but you see it's ugly side as well
I am just sad to know the last time I played a 40k game was 2010 and MTG was 2013
That sucks. Did you find that some places were more of a haven than others?
My local shops are wonderful about being welcoming and not full of jerks, usually. I think it really helps that one of them got a new manager and she's dedicated to making events both frequent and enticing to more than the standard "play MtG for 15 hours straight every Friday" crowd. It makes a huge difference just having some employees who are willing to chat with folks and be actually nice instead of being gatekeepy and standoffish.
40k and MTG were for years my self care/social thing
I was disgusted at some of the people I played with how they talked to and treated women interested in those things
I know I look scary but telling them it's really a time and money sink for wargamming don't let them get to you it's a fun game but you see it's ugly side as well
I am just sad to know the last time I played a 40k game was 2010 and MTG was 2013
Those are games for people with infinite disposable income. At least if your want to win.
Drafts are alright, mitigate that factor somewhat. But the people who are really good at that spend time knowing the good cards in advance.
It was a major factor in why I moved to boardgames. It is nice to have a fixed setup at a fixed price, and still have plenty of replay value.
Sorry you have ended up in perpetual macho man misogynistic purgatory, Brainleech.
You've definitely revised my previously nonexistent opinion of Albequrque down.
and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
but they're listening to every word I say
Whatever you do, you should probably do around other people. It's easy to sequester yourself off, but it doesn't really help. Being around friends will though.
and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
but they're listening to every word I say
Whatever you do, you should probably do around other people. It's easy to sequester yourself off, but it doesn't really help. Being around friends will though.
So much this.
It's very easy, and extremely tempting, to just stay shuttered up inside. Which is fine to do every once in a while. But try not to make it a habit. Try to go outside. Hang out with friends. Go to the park. The archery idea sounds absolutely fantastic. If you are a drinker ask some friends out for a beer and pool at a shitty dive bar. Try not to isolate yourself and get stuck in your own stupid brain. Hopefully you have a decent support system around like friends and/or family. This is the time to use them.
This thread has a few people who give out excellent advice that doesn't always directly reflect what you are experiencing. But their perspective is great and a lot of times can be internally adapted to your own situation.
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I keep thinking about getting back into mtg but ultimately don't. It's one of the things that's been on my mind lately since I felt done with my previous mmo. I might bring it up in the MTG thread at some point.
As far as whether MMOs and other stuff are useful for coping I've found it to be hit and miss. Gw2 helped me through some of the darker periods of my recent life but that was more because of the people who played it and the commonality of experience than it was because it distracted me. If you can find the right group then gaming is definitely one of the places It's at, but you have to be careful with it. When I was in that period I found that I didn't want to play a game with a constant fear of betrayal or a game where players are just a little too friendly, but I wanted a space where I would log on and people would be like "wahoo zoel is on lets do a thing."
Have you guys found that it's more the distractability than anything else, or some other aspect?
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However, the ring will never leave your finger, and you will be unable to ever describe to another living person what you see.
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I had a fun time when I had a group to play MTG in pauper style, go to sealed events, or use the ol' Commander deck. You know, kitchen top style.
Humor can be dissected as a frog can, but dies in the process.
My date went basically as well as it's possible for a date to go, and I'm definitely seeing this person again soon.
Dang she's wonderful.
She swept you off your feet? Pretty sweet. What did she say to tug at your heart strings?
Honestly the thing I recall most fondly at the moment was when we were cuddling and she said "Oh hey! Thanks for not murdering me."
That, and her extreme interest in whether Cary Grant was wearing a tight turtleneck, a tiny scarf, an ascot, or some kind of large choker in the movie "To Catch a Thief". It turned out to be an ascot, but she had very convincing arguments for all possibilities.
She's got a nice sense of humor.
Ha! That reminds me of my first date with my wife. We fell in love while watching Kirk battle his doppelganger in Star Trek 6. So romantic.
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My date went basically as well as it's possible for a date to go, and I'm definitely seeing this person again soon.
Dang she's wonderful.
She swept you off your feet? Pretty sweet. What did she say to tug at your heart strings?
Honestly the thing I recall most fondly at the moment was when we were cuddling and she said "Oh hey! Thanks for not murdering me."
That, and her extreme interest in whether Cary Grant was wearing a tight turtleneck, a tiny scarf, an ascot, or some kind of large choker in the movie "To Catch a Thief". It turned out to be an ascot, but she had very convincing arguments for all possibilities.
She's got a nice sense of humor.
Ha! That reminds me of my first date with my wife. We fell in love while watching Kirk battle his doppelganger in Star Trek 6. So romantic.
Hey, if you're interested in romantic Kirk-on-Kirk action I have a fanfic to show you...
My date went basically as well as it's possible for a date to go, and I'm definitely seeing this person again soon.
Dang she's wonderful.
She swept you off your feet? Pretty sweet. What did she say to tug at your heart strings?
Honestly the thing I recall most fondly at the moment was when we were cuddling and she said "Oh hey! Thanks for not murdering me."
That, and her extreme interest in whether Cary Grant was wearing a tight turtleneck, a tiny scarf, an ascot, or some kind of large choker in the movie "To Catch a Thief". It turned out to be an ascot, but she had very convincing arguments for all possibilities.
She's got a nice sense of humor.
Ha! That reminds me of my first date with my wife. We fell in love while watching Kirk battle his doppelganger in Star Trek 6. So romantic.
Hey, if you're interested in romantic Kirk-on-Kirk action I have a fanfic to show you...
Star Trek 3: The Search for Cock
and I wonder about my neighbors even though I don't have them
but they're listening to every word I say
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If you were a burger I'd call you McGorgeous
Can I be your Whopper?"
hmm.
He wants to be the marquee burger at a franchise that is directly competing with yours, no dice
Granted that's a McTerrible line, but I'm super-sized surpirised that I've never heard it before.
I left my wife. We could not make each other happy any more. Things had been argumentive and tense for a year. I couldn't do it anymore. I filed for divorce last week.
What are some things to do to help my head?
I need new hobbies, videogames and reading aren't good right now.
I'm going to go for a run today, I think, if it doesn't rain .
And I want to check out archery.
Someone around here is in to archery, I think.
Was it @Grey Ghost ?
I'm sorry to hear that, man, that sucks.
I understand that physical hobbies can be real good for dealing with this kind of thing. Exercise, building things, yard/garden work, anything to keep you physically active.
Just... prepare for the possibility of some wicked forearm bruises after your first time.
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A coach will also help you figure out the right stance much faster than if you tried to learn it on your own. I can't really say for certain how much they'd cost in your area though; the times I've gone have been to a place an hour outside of the city, so they've been pretty cheap. They'll also help you figure out which eye is dominant/suggest which side you should be shooting on.
You can also see if there's an archery tag group in your area, they've been becoming more popular in North America at least. You'll uh, definitely pick up some bruises there, but it's solid exercise and ridiculously fun. They just started a league in my town this year!
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It was so weirdly expensive here previously though. Hopefully that's changed.
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I was disgusted at some of the people I played with how they talked to and treated women interested in those things
I know I look scary but telling them it's really a time and money sink for wargamming don't let them get to you it's a fun game but you see it's ugly side as well
I am just sad to know the last time I played a 40k game was 2010 and MTG was 2013
I know I'm right eyed, I shot a bow years ago, I hunt and shoot guns sometimes.
I moved back to my parents house for now.
I think there is an archery shop near by ish
I got real deep into mtg after my ex-wife left me. It's got a lot to think about and enough events to keep you busy if you're into card games. Just keep busy, really. Mmos are good for that, pick up something like overwatch that has really good replay value, something like that.
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That sucks. Did you find that some places were more of a haven than others?
However, the ring will never leave your finger, and you will be unable to ever describe to another living person what you see.
I have to make tough decisions. I can apply to an incredible professional opportunity, but if I get selected (unlikely) my LDR will become more LD, effectively breaking us up with how things are.
Regardless, it's still two more years until we can be together. Legitimate concerns on whether we can last that long. I mean I'd be fine, but I can't guarantee she can make it. She just has different needs. I mean she is impossibly low maintenance, but this is LD, there is only so much you can do.
It just sucks.
I like this thread, I can vent here safely.
Not really as 40k just evaporated in 2011 for a lot of reasons one of which was the real asses I knew of made a gamming club for just them and no women
MTG I looked and looked since the only shop that played it was more interesting in becoming a one of those shops known for being a top MTG place so it attracted some really interesting people
I just want to throw in that I have no idea how this got to be a thing. I'm an open minded person, and I've had my fair share of experiences, but the idea of doing this or having this done (speaking obliquely for the 13+ rating of the forum), is just something I can't get down with.
My kink isn't your kink, and that's fine, as long as everyone is safe, go for it, have your fun. But for me, non-starter.
$0.02 for the prudes.
I really did put the message in my message me about please don't ask me to do those and thank you for taking the time to read and not do it
Archery is awesome! Also I'd Recommend Disc Golf, it is cheap to get into (like $40 will get you the discs you need) and can be as chill or competitive as you want. Lots of great people in the sport too. You could also get into Star Wars X-wing minis. Not as cheap as disc golf but its a great game if you have a local game store, and we have a thriving community that plays online over in Critical Failures.
Also I'd say get out and go hiking, take some pictures. There are awesome places everywhere to go explore, and usually there are local hiking groups that know all the great places.
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Ain't everybody gotta like everything.
It's going to be hard. It's going to suck.
It's going to be worth it.
Hang in there.
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My local shops are wonderful about being welcoming and not full of jerks, usually. I think it really helps that one of them got a new manager and she's dedicated to making events both frequent and enticing to more than the standard "play MtG for 15 hours straight every Friday" crowd. It makes a huge difference just having some employees who are willing to chat with folks and be actually nice instead of being gatekeepy and standoffish.
Those are games for people with infinite disposable income. At least if your want to win.
Drafts are alright, mitigate that factor somewhat. But the people who are really good at that spend time knowing the good cards in advance.
It was a major factor in why I moved to boardgames. It is nice to have a fixed setup at a fixed price, and still have plenty of replay value.
Sorry you have ended up in perpetual macho man misogynistic purgatory, Brainleech.
You've definitely revised my previously nonexistent opinion of Albequrque down.
but they're listening to every word I say
SE is good people
Whatever you do, you should probably do around other people. It's easy to sequester yourself off, but it doesn't really help. Being around friends will though.
but they're listening to every word I say
So much this.
It's very easy, and extremely tempting, to just stay shuttered up inside. Which is fine to do every once in a while. But try not to make it a habit. Try to go outside. Hang out with friends. Go to the park. The archery idea sounds absolutely fantastic. If you are a drinker ask some friends out for a beer and pool at a shitty dive bar. Try not to isolate yourself and get stuck in your own stupid brain. Hopefully you have a decent support system around like friends and/or family. This is the time to use them.
This thread has a few people who give out excellent advice that doesn't always directly reflect what you are experiencing. But their perspective is great and a lot of times can be internally adapted to your own situation.
Be well.
Steam Me
As far as whether MMOs and other stuff are useful for coping I've found it to be hit and miss. Gw2 helped me through some of the darker periods of my recent life but that was more because of the people who played it and the commonality of experience than it was because it distracted me. If you can find the right group then gaming is definitely one of the places It's at, but you have to be careful with it. When I was in that period I found that I didn't want to play a game with a constant fear of betrayal or a game where players are just a little too friendly, but I wanted a space where I would log on and people would be like "wahoo zoel is on lets do a thing."
Have you guys found that it's more the distractability than anything else, or some other aspect?
However, the ring will never leave your finger, and you will be unable to ever describe to another living person what you see.
Ha! That reminds me of my first date with my wife. We fell in love while watching Kirk battle his doppelganger in Star Trek 6. So romantic.
Hey, if you're interested in romantic Kirk-on-Kirk action I have a fanfic to show you...
Star Trek 3: The Search for Cock
but they're listening to every word I say
but they're listening to every word I say
Star Trek VI: The Undie Covered Crunchy
...
sorry.
Well, credit for not going the obvious route, I guess.