Now let's all talk about when your child should get their own phone.
oh my god all my cousins are getting smartphones when they're like 5 or 6 im like what even the what
I'm sure it's the age when they start school and parents want to be able to keep in touch
My nephew's cousins are a year or two older than him, but their parents have already gotten them their own tablets. According to my roomies, the kids are like zombies and are pretty touchy about things not going well with whatever software they're interacting with.
We're all in agreement that nope no mobiles. And as far as interactive software goes, never alone, not until they're older.
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Got my full inara's set in d3 and jesus I went from being skittish of dipping my toe in torment to being like "FEED ME MORE!!!" And by me I mean my faceless monk buddies who kill everyone while I stand back being pretty.
I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
Oh shit did you troll me with a deadpan and fake link
I yeah did not click because it's not an interesting topic...
nothing about canada is interesting, even potential wheelchair assassins confirmed
no joke the hardest part about getting my fellow Canadians to give a shit about politics isn't like, general sense of disenfranchisement or ennui about choicelessness like in America
it's people rightly considering our own politics to be boring as fuck
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Got my full inara's set in d3 and jesus I went from being skittish of dipping my toe in torment to being like "FEED ME MORE!!!" And by me I mean my faceless monk buddies who kill everyone while I stand back being pretty.
You must be standing really far back to look pretty
Every parent (and aspiring parent) thinks they know what's best for everybody else's kid.
one of the dumbest concepts in modern society is that you can't tell someone how to parent their child, especially if you yourself don't have kids
the fuck i can't
there's objectively wrong ways to raise your kid, especially ones that are abusive or harmful
and you don't need to be like, deep in the weeds of that kid's life to know some of that
like if a parent is just ignoring their child crawling all over store shelves and knocking shit over until someone complains
and their response to that complaint is to smack their kid in the mouth and tell them to behave or they're gonna get it later
that's bad parenting
it's bad
i'm not going to get into the larger "should you hit your kids" convo but i think even people who agree that it's sometimes okay to crack your child will think
okay that's a little ridiculous, get your shit together
where i grew up, people were raised more communally. like a modern corporate bee, i had ten bosses. anyone older than me who wasn't drug addicted was allowed to reprimand me. part of this was they also did some of the work in raising me- babysitting, giving me food, whatever.
and then i came to murrika and man. the child rearing process is so insular and defensive. there is genuine anger if someone makes a suggestion- let alone makes an effort to contribute to your kid's daily guidance. to an extent that makes sense. i imagine i could be a p protective parent. i'm a worrier. and also, not everyone in my community is qualified to give my kid good guidance- plenty of people are thoughtless or assholes.
so idk what kind of parent i'll be. probably not the sort who blows up at my neighbor for asking my kid to stop running through her garden YOU SHOULD COME TO ME YOU DON'T TELL MY KID WHAT TO DO
also i love this louis ck bit where he says that when he tells other parents his kids don't watch television, they just say fuck you, hippie, weirdo, fuck youuuu. and it's like, the very idea of someone doing something atypical or 'try hard-y' offends them, and makes them defensive. it's how some people react when they are confronted with vegetarianism: an innate resentment that someone is doing something different, bundled with what they assume is implied judgment in this alternative lifestyle choice
I was raised by a coterie of individuals, great grandmothers, aunts, uncles, etc, until I was old enough to not drink bleach out of curiosity or whatever, since my mom was single poor and worked full time (this actually seemed to be pretty common in the mostly not white neighborhoods I grew up in pre middle school)
so I also think it's weird how protective parents get of influences on their kids
I almost feel like human children are meant to accept input from a variety of individuals and not just their parents but that's me
I'm at the point of the following routine;
- wake up
- setup play mat for baby
- turn kids stuff on the tv
- bring in the rest of the baby supplies I may need
- bring in the baby
Passive babysitting gooooooooooooooooooo.
idk how old bab is but you may want to consider these AAP recommendations
The AAP is full of reactionary old farts that haven't actually done any long-terms studies on this.* They also made similar recommendations for television and radio use way back when, and it turned out to have little/no effect. The screen time thing is overblown.
* For a good reason, mind you. "Let's set up a bunch of monitors in front of kids, force them to watch it, and then see if it stunts their mental health!"
television is screen time though so these are the same recommendations
please show me where they found little to no effect
Like, the entire generation of Generation X and Millennials?
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people turning out fine, on average, does not mean they couldn't have turned out better, on average
nor does it prove there's no ill effects associated with kids and too much screen time....
True, but honestly kids stuff like reacts, overreacts and then corrects to the overreact. I mean shit I've been a parent for only a year and a half and I swear recommendations on food stuff has changed at least 3 times. And that's not even taking into account difference between doctors/dentists/specialists at various things.
You still listen to what the doctors recommend though right?
Doctors being sometimes wrong is not an excuse to throw out their recommendations! That's the same line of reasoning many anti-vaxers use!
I'm really hypercritical of what doctors say, mostly due to my education level. But I know when a doctor is bullshitting and when they are telling me something that is well-studied... I cribbed off the same pages! But I'm also heavily biased when it comes to interactions with doctors, obviously.
Doctors make the worst patients. The Worst.
What's your education level? I forget
MD. I stopped being a doctor a decade ago, but I keep up, much like a Lady Who Lunches keeps up by clutching a copy of Life. :-P
It's less "I'm so SMARTZ" and more of "I've seen how the sausage is made "
i have these glasses now. trying to figure out a good vantage point and lighting for photographing them. also balancing trying to make the picture flattering because of course with needing to show accurate angles for useful feedback.
making an effort to improve one's appearance: not even once
Got my full inara's set in d3 and jesus I went from being skittish of dipping my toe in torment to being like "FEED ME MORE!!!" And by me I mean my faceless monk buddies who kill everyone while I stand back being pretty.
You must be standing really far back to look pretty
I heard in the new guardians film Rocket dies.
I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
I'm at the point of the following routine;
- wake up
- setup play mat for baby
- turn kids stuff on the tv
- bring in the rest of the baby supplies I may need
- bring in the baby
Passive babysitting gooooooooooooooooooo.
idk how old bab is but you may want to consider these AAP recommendations
The AAP is full of reactionary old farts that haven't actually done any long-terms studies on this.* They also made similar recommendations for television and radio use way back when, and it turned out to have little/no effect. The screen time thing is overblown.
* For a good reason, mind you. "Let's set up a bunch of monitors in front of kids, force them to watch it, and then see if it stunts their mental health!"
television is screen time though so these are the same recommendations
please show me where they found little to no effect
Like, the entire generation of Generation X and Millennials?
o.0
people turning out fine, on average, does not mean they couldn't have turned out better, on average
nor does it prove there's no ill effects associated with kids and too much screen time....
True, but honestly kids stuff like reacts, overreacts and then corrects to the overreact. I mean shit I've been a parent for only a year and a half and I swear recommendations on food stuff has changed at least 3 times. And that's not even taking into account difference between doctors/dentists/specialists at various things.
You still listen to what the doctors recommend though right?
Doctors being sometimes wrong is not an excuse to throw out their recommendations! That's the same line of reasoning many anti-vaxers use!
I'm really hypercritical of what doctors say, mostly due to my education level. But I know when a doctor is bullshitting and when they are telling me something that is well-studied... I cribbed off the same pages! But I'm also heavily biased when it comes to interactions with doctors, obviously.
Doctors make the worst patients. The Worst.
What's your education level? I forget
MD. I stopped being a doctor a decade ago, but I keep up, much like a Lady Who Lunches keeps up by clutching a copy of Life. :-P
i know lots of lawyers who don't practice. don't think i've ever in my life heard about a doctor! that is bananas to me. what do you do for a living?
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LudiousI just wanted a sandwich A temporally dislocated QuiznosRegistered Userregular
Got my full inara's set in d3 and jesus I went from being skittish of dipping my toe in torment to being like "FEED ME MORE!!!" And by me I mean my faceless monk buddies who kill everyone while I stand back being pretty.
You must be standing really far back to look pretty
This all feels eerily similar to arguments that were had about the correlation with aggressive behavior and violent video games
I was seriously just trying to be helpful. porp and I both spent a lot of time researching things from screen time to sleep training to correcting behavior to aggressive media because shit, we didn't know how to handle all of this! being a parent makes you something of an expert on your own kids, but it certainly doesn't make you an expert on child development.
idk
It's okay shark, when your kids are the only ones in their classes who know how to make eye contact or communicate outside of emoji you'll know you were right
I'm at the point of the following routine;
- wake up
- setup play mat for baby
- turn kids stuff on the tv
- bring in the rest of the baby supplies I may need
- bring in the baby
Passive babysitting gooooooooooooooooooo.
idk how old bab is but you may want to consider these AAP recommendations
The AAP is full of reactionary old farts that haven't actually done any long-terms studies on this.* They also made similar recommendations for television and radio use way back when, and it turned out to have little/no effect. The screen time thing is overblown.
* For a good reason, mind you. "Let's set up a bunch of monitors in front of kids, force them to watch it, and then see if it stunts their mental health!"
television is screen time though so these are the same recommendations
please show me where they found little to no effect
Like, the entire generation of Generation X and Millennials?
o.0
people turning out fine, on average, does not mean they couldn't have turned out better, on average
nor does it prove there's no ill effects associated with kids and too much screen time....
True, but honestly kids stuff like reacts, overreacts and then corrects to the overreact. I mean shit I've been a parent for only a year and a half and I swear recommendations on food stuff has changed at least 3 times. And that's not even taking into account difference between doctors/dentists/specialists at various things.
You still listen to what the doctors recommend though right?
Doctors being sometimes wrong is not an excuse to throw out their recommendations! That's the same line of reasoning many anti-vaxers use!
I'm really hypercritical of what doctors say, mostly due to my education level. But I know when a doctor is bullshitting and when they are telling me something that is well-studied... I cribbed off the same pages! But I'm also heavily biased when it comes to interactions with doctors, obviously.
Doctors make the worst patients. The Worst.
What's your education level? I forget
MD. I stopped being a doctor a decade ago, but I keep up, much like a Lady Who Lunches keeps up by clutching a copy of Life. :-P
It's less "I'm so SMARTZ" and more of "I've seen how the sausage is made "
Oh yeah!
What would you recommend for parents looking for advice on screen time and that type of stuff for raising babbies? Any good child development books?
I got my wife a vintage emerald with baguette diamonds on the side at an antique shop down by the ocean. I paid cash and she will never know how much it was. Also she loves it and people always complement her on it.
But seriously guys... Emeralds are for reals expensive, not like diamonds.
I'm at the point of the following routine;
- wake up
- setup play mat for baby
- turn kids stuff on the tv
- bring in the rest of the baby supplies I may need
- bring in the baby
Passive babysitting gooooooooooooooooooo.
idk how old bab is but you may want to consider these AAP recommendations
The AAP is full of reactionary old farts that haven't actually done any long-terms studies on this.* They also made similar recommendations for television and radio use way back when, and it turned out to have little/no effect. The screen time thing is overblown.
* For a good reason, mind you. "Let's set up a bunch of monitors in front of kids, force them to watch it, and then see if it stunts their mental health!"
television is screen time though so these are the same recommendations
please show me where they found little to no effect
Like, the entire generation of Generation X and Millennials?
o.0
people turning out fine, on average, does not mean they couldn't have turned out better, on average
nor does it prove there's no ill effects associated with kids and too much screen time....
True, but honestly kids stuff like reacts, overreacts and then corrects to the overreact. I mean shit I've been a parent for only a year and a half and I swear recommendations on food stuff has changed at least 3 times. And that's not even taking into account difference between doctors/dentists/specialists at various things.
You still listen to what the doctors recommend though right?
Doctors being sometimes wrong is not an excuse to throw out their recommendations! That's the same line of reasoning many anti-vaxers use!
I'm really hypercritical of what doctors say, mostly due to my education level. But I know when a doctor is bullshitting and when they are telling me something that is well-studied... I cribbed off the same pages! But I'm also heavily biased when it comes to interactions with doctors, obviously.
Doctors make the worst patients. The Worst.
What's your education level? I forget
MD. I stopped being a doctor a decade ago, but I keep up, much like a Lady Who Lunches keeps up by clutching a copy of Life. :-P
i know lots of lawyers who don't practice. don't think i've ever in my life heard about a doctor! that is bananas to me. what do you do for a living?
I work in the video game industry. And I'm much happier. Although, truth be told, I gave it all up because I was unhappy, and I escaped that career to be with a girl (who became my wife).
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I'm at the point of the following routine;
- wake up
- setup play mat for baby
- turn kids stuff on the tv
- bring in the rest of the baby supplies I may need
- bring in the baby
Passive babysitting gooooooooooooooooooo.
idk how old bab is but you may want to consider these AAP recommendations
The AAP is full of reactionary old farts that haven't actually done any long-terms studies on this.* They also made similar recommendations for television and radio use way back when, and it turned out to have little/no effect. The screen time thing is overblown.
* For a good reason, mind you. "Let's set up a bunch of monitors in front of kids, force them to watch it, and then see if it stunts their mental health!"
television is screen time though so these are the same recommendations
please show me where they found little to no effect
Like, the entire generation of Generation X and Millennials?
o.0
people turning out fine, on average, does not mean they couldn't have turned out better, on average
nor does it prove there's no ill effects associated with kids and too much screen time....
True, but honestly kids stuff like reacts, overreacts and then corrects to the overreact. I mean shit I've been a parent for only a year and a half and I swear recommendations on food stuff has changed at least 3 times. And that's not even taking into account difference between doctors/dentists/specialists at various things.
You still listen to what the doctors recommend though right?
Doctors being sometimes wrong is not an excuse to throw out their recommendations! That's the same line of reasoning many anti-vaxers use!
I'm really hypercritical of what doctors say, mostly due to my education level. But I know when a doctor is bullshitting and when they are telling me something that is well-studied... I cribbed off the same pages! But I'm also heavily biased when it comes to interactions with doctors, obviously.
Doctors make the worst patients. The Worst.
What's your education level? I forget
MD. I stopped being a doctor a decade ago, but I keep up, much like a Lady Who Lunches keeps up by clutching a copy of Life. :-P
i know lots of lawyers who don't practice. don't think i've ever in my life heard about a doctor! that is bananas to me. what do you do for a living?
i know several former doctors
they were all gen-pracs who got tired of essentially being small businessmen and all the pressures that go with that, and just stopped keeping up with their license or practicing medicine
most of them are writers nowadays, one of them's an actor
1. At that point there's a chance they'll say no.
2. Statistically not an optimal idea.
3. Seems difficult: either you steal from your savings account which could be a bad idea, or you somehow hide the fact that your budget is much lower for a long while.
Yeah, I spent less than a month's salary on my fiancee's ring. Which is still expensive, but more affordable. I got a good ring out of it! If I had spent more I could've gone nicer, but there's a limit to how much you can go. Should someone in the upper class still be spending two/three months salary on a ring? Eventually you get to a point where the ring is more a caricature than an actual piece of jewelry. Should someone who's living paycheck to paycheck be spending that amount? Fuck no, eating is more important.
Spend what you want to and afford to spend. No rule of thumb on price, set your own budget. Or skip getting a ring entirely. DeBeers isn't your dad, they can't tell you what to do.
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I mean it seems interesting, but the story just doesn't have legs.
We're all in agreement that nope no mobiles. And as far as interactive software goes, never alone, not until they're older.
That just makes two bad people
One sec...
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Okay, I punched your Bad Opinions card. Only three more until you get a free burrito!
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Hey I spent like 20 minutes filling out a bullshit questionnaire, and when I got back folks were arguing about child rearing
no joke the hardest part about getting my fellow Canadians to give a shit about politics isn't like, general sense of disenfranchisement or ennui about choicelessness like in America
it's people rightly considering our own politics to be boring as fuck
I like Trivium, the best Final Fantasy was 8, and Iron Man 3 is better than Iron Man 1.
Give me my damn burrito.
You must be standing really far back to look pretty
I was raised by a coterie of individuals, great grandmothers, aunts, uncles, etc, until I was old enough to not drink bleach out of curiosity or whatever, since my mom was single poor and worked full time (this actually seemed to be pretty common in the mostly not white neighborhoods I grew up in pre middle school)
so I also think it's weird how protective parents get of influences on their kids
I almost feel like human children are meant to accept input from a variety of individuals and not just their parents but that's me
It's less "I'm so SMARTZ" and more of "I've seen how the sausage is made
dude this is like trying to fill out your starbucks card with stuff you get for free on coupons
doesn't work that way
making an effort to improve one's appearance: not even once
I heard in the new guardians film Rocket dies.
pleasepaypreacher.net
with daggers like that you could probably qualify for a preliminary membership
but....your legs....
i know lots of lawyers who don't practice. don't think i've ever in my life heard about a doctor! that is bananas to me. what do you do for a living?
He's just playing possum
(And I loved Inside Out, but I'm a sentimental sap who lives in the Bay Area, so a lot of it hit home for me.)
https://www.google.com/search?q=disappointing+burrito&source=lnms&tbm=isch
It's okay shark, when your kids are the only ones in their classes who know how to make eye contact or communicate outside of emoji you'll know you were right
Oh yeah!
What would you recommend for parents looking for advice on screen time and that type of stuff for raising babbies? Any good child development books?
Okay sure but the first Iron Man movie is the best Iron Man movie.
Also hello.
The optimal way to raise a child is just to do whatever the child tells you to do.
If it can't talk yet, just leave it in a basket and look over at it every once in a while to make sure it's still breathing / isn't hungry.
as actual entertaining movies, I'm not sure either qualify tho?
But seriously guys... Emeralds are for reals expensive, not like diamonds.
what the fuck arch
i know several former doctors
they were all gen-pracs who got tired of essentially being small businessmen and all the pressures that go with that, and just stopped keeping up with their license or practicing medicine
most of them are writers nowadays, one of them's an actor
help im a bug
Iron Man 3 is the second or third worst Marvel film.
Yeah, I spent less than a month's salary on my fiancee's ring. Which is still expensive, but more affordable. I got a good ring out of it! If I had spent more I could've gone nicer, but there's a limit to how much you can go. Should someone in the upper class still be spending two/three months salary on a ring? Eventually you get to a point where the ring is more a caricature than an actual piece of jewelry. Should someone who's living paycheck to paycheck be spending that amount? Fuck no, eating is more important.
Spend what you want to and afford to spend. No rule of thumb on price, set your own budget. Or skip getting a ring entirely. DeBeers isn't your dad, they can't tell you what to do.