Doug - the way you post makes it seem like you spend way too much energy obsessing over women. You've mentioned that you feel pretty balanced in other aspects of life - is there anything that you are passionate about?
Yeah, I do have hobbies and passions
This is the love thread though, not the hobbies and passions thread
Yeah, I do spend too much time thinking about women, I guess
Or I post too much
I have this post every couple of weeks, huh
I know I am in control, but people in my life are eager to fix me up with people, and it keeps it in my head
Working two jobs today, that should help
I guess I need to get better at dealing with things that make me acutely lonely?
I went out to dinner with my parents last night, and my dad was talking about this friend of theirs wanting to fix me up with a date, which is a thing I need to get used to, I guess
And I saw a friend of my ex's there too, and she definitely kept looking across the restaurant to scowl at me
I understand this is the love thread. And hobbies are a thing. But I feel like if you were truelypassionate about something - it would consume most of your thoughts, leaving little time left to feel lonely.
Also as a side bonus - having a passion is extremely attractive for both friendships and romantic interests. People naturally gravitate towards those who inspire them.
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Do you ever cook for friends, or your team at work? You might become the talk of the office if you start bringing in made from scratch baked goods (not sure if you're equally passionate about baking?).
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I said "typically" for a reason. I figured there were some exceptions out there but I didn't know any specifically so I wasn't going to try to make any direct claims.
Well, I specifically chose a snake since that's what the question was. There are a variety of animals that count as both poisonous and venomous. There are a couple of frogs that have a nasty venom they can inject, but it's also extremely toxic if you eat them. Then there are the buggers that build up toxicity in their tissues by eating poisonous things while still having venom they use on the reg.
Humor can be dissected as a frog can, but dies in the process.
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Harness that cooking love. For those who have difficulty getting together with friends, may I suggest a weekly dinner?
One of my treasured memories of college was Sunday themed potlucks with my group of friends, and we cooked together.
It's easier with a sizable kitchen and eating space, but my people adjust to the room available.
If your friends don't cook, you can have them buy ingredients, and you cook or cook together, have others pick entree, side, drinks, etc and bring them, or just do a true potluck if, say, the kitchen's too small for multiple cooks. Just depends on your group's comfort.
You can rotate locations so no one feels pressured to always host or always travel, or have a main and a backup. Make sure to clean up so the host doesn't have to do all the work. Any leftovers can go to whoever wants em or brought it.
If you couldn't show, you'd CC everyone who usually showed up so that there was a good estimate on our numbers, no pressure. Even so, someone might bring a friend or visitor unannounced, and there was enough food to easily accommodate.
As mostly-poor, mostly-vegetarion students, it was a nice low-key way to get more variety and probably leftovers, maybe splurge a little, and spend time with friends. Bonus of learning, and meeting new people you'd probably like.
The summer camp i went to growing up had some dedicated noodlers.
Their knuckles get all chewed up and the fish does its best to drown them and if you do catch it now you have to do something with a gross fish.
I never saw the appeal.
The summer camp i went to growing up had some dedicated noodlers.
Their knuckles get all chewed up and the fish does its best to drown them and if you do catch it now you have to do something with a gross fish.
I never saw the appeal.
catfish is delicious, but damned if I'd risk their teeth and/or barbs
especially seeing as how they make these fancy rods with string and hooks and such
Four - five friends is perfect for weekly or bi-weekly dinners. I used to have weekly dinner with 3 co-worker friends where we took turns cooking at each other houses. I feel like 4 people total is the perfect combo to have a good group dynamic and not feel too crowded in a small apartment.
I think it got started by me sending out a work invite where I was like hey let's have a godfather night where I'll cook spaghetti and we can all watch the godfather bc I've never seen it! Very random, kinda scary, but it started a good trend.
Gizzy on
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The catfish we get around here are bullheads and they're fuckin' mudsucking bottom feeders so they're real gross for eatin'.
They were about the only thing that lived in my grandparents' slough tho, so it was primarily what I caught as a kid.
I think they all are?
We have blues here and channel cats and they taste ok
or rather they would if our rivers weren't so polluted
Bullheads live in a variety of habitats, including brackish and/or low oxygen ponds, rivers and lakes, although they are seldom stocked intentionally. They are bottom feeders and eat virtually anything edible, including dead fish, insects, other fish, grain, fruit, crayfish and more. Because of their limited use as for sport, they are usually caught while trying to catch other fish, and few anglers pursue them specifically.
They're almost never caught as food, unlike other types of catfish, because their diet and habitat makes them significantly less tasty.
Love thread I am depressed for the first time in maybe 3 or 4 years. I miss my girlfriend and am kinda jealous when she sirens time with her friends/coworkers cause I wanna spend time with her and can't cause long distance and she's always working. I still have no word on my job because government bureaucracy is a shit show. I'm happy around her but otherwise I just feel like I'm running in place and wasting away. I am at the point where I go to sleep by 10 every night because I'm so lethargic.
This isn't a cry for help or advice, just a vent cause I'd forgotten what this was like after starting therapy and it really sucks.
Love thread I am depressed for the first time in maybe 3 or 4 years. I miss my girlfriend and am kinda jealous when she sirens time with her friends/coworkers cause I wanna spend time with her and can't cause long distance and she's always working. I still have no word on my job because government bureaucracy is a shit show. I'm happy around her but otherwise I just feel like I'm running in place and wasting away. I am at the point where I go to sleep by 10 every night because I'm so lethargic.
This isn't a cry for help or advice, just a vent cause I'd forgotten what this was like after starting therapy and it really sucks.
Long distance can be really tough, and it's perfectly fine to vent about it sometimes. I'd say having an outlet for that is actually really important for making it work, so don't feel bad about coming to us for that. It's what we're here for.
The further in time it gets from my breakup the worse I'm feeling.
Its odd. We broke up because I felt totally inadequate to handle the reality of being in a serious relationship at that moment and didn't think I could get my brain in order in a time frame that would be fair to her. But outside of that relationship I don't know what point there is to doing anything about anything at all.
I dunno if this perspective helps at all but as someone with basically no romantic history and few if any romantic prospects at the moment, I pretty much have to believe there's a point to doing things outside of relationships because otherwise the last nearly-30 years were a complete waste of time and I reject that notion. I really hope I can find a good relationship one day because I think I would like to be in one, but it's not everything. It can't be.
The sense of lacking one feels without a relationship is a sign that one still has growing to do before becoming a fully self-possessed and confident individual, I think
There is a point where you want to be in a relationship to share the joys of the world, and a point where you want to be in a relationship because you are lacking utterly in joy. We're all somewhere on that spectrum, is my theory, and the further you are to wanting to be in a relationship to share the joys of the world the better and healthier you are.
Had a bunch of weird dreams last night. My pelvis did not want to connect with the rest of my body, also the faerie king and queen were there.
But I'm going out tonight with the hot manager that I've posted about a few times and I'm gonna just suck it up and ask her if she wants to date because she sent me a Snapchat Tuesday that was, quote
"Scorpio and Pisces are supposed to be soulmates I guess thats why we get along so well lol"
And if that ain't dropping signals I don't know what is.
I'd really like to take cooking classes sometime soon
I'm pretty solid at baking when I have the time to invest, but I'm helpless without a recipe for cooking; could be my perfectionism showing, but I'm almost always disappointed in what I cook without a book
Baking is science, cooking is art. I've improved my cooking by.... cooking (practicing). I'm still not great at it, but I look at it at a survivability trait more than anything.
That said, I tend to make dishes that are closer to baking in that I prep ingredients and throw them in a pot (chili, stew, casseroles).
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I understand this is the love thread. And hobbies are a thing. But I feel like if you were truely passionate about something - it would consume most of your thoughts, leaving little time left to feel lonely.
Also as a side bonus - having a passion is extremely attractive for both friendships and romantic interests. People naturally gravitate towards those who inspire them.
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I'm actually passionate about cooking, and I love preparing food and tweaking recipes and seeing if people like my food.
Cooking for family things was one of my favorite things of my marriage
I don't have anyone to eat with me though, so...
I made and ate some really great chili and chicken salad this week
I guess I need to transfer the passion to something else
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Well, I specifically chose a snake since that's what the question was. There are a variety of animals that count as both poisonous and venomous. There are a couple of frogs that have a nasty venom they can inject, but it's also extremely toxic if you eat them. Then there are the buggers that build up toxicity in their tissues by eating poisonous things while still having venom they use on the reg.
Have you thought about entering cooking competitions?
Or taking cooking classes/workshops to expand your skills?
The college in town does do cooking classes, but they're expensive
My work situation doesn't really allow for me to cook for people too often, but I do enjoy it when we have some kind of bring a dish type thing
I'm excited for my bar tender job, if my feet/ plantar fasciitis allow me to do it
I really, really wanted to cook for the ok classmate I took out several times back in January, but that didn't get to that stage
One of my treasured memories of college was Sunday themed potlucks with my group of friends, and we cooked together.
It's easier with a sizable kitchen and eating space, but my people adjust to the room available.
If your friends don't cook, you can have them buy ingredients, and you cook or cook together, have others pick entree, side, drinks, etc and bring them, or just do a true potluck if, say, the kitchen's too small for multiple cooks. Just depends on your group's comfort.
You can rotate locations so no one feels pressured to always host or always travel, or have a main and a backup. Make sure to clean up so the host doesn't have to do all the work. Any leftovers can go to whoever wants em or brought it.
If you couldn't show, you'd CC everyone who usually showed up so that there was a good estimate on our numbers, no pressure. Even so, someone might bring a friend or visitor unannounced, and there was enough food to easily accommodate.
As mostly-poor, mostly-vegetarion students, it was a nice low-key way to get more variety and probably leftovers, maybe splurge a little, and spend time with friends. Bonus of learning, and meeting new people you'd probably like.
like where they catch the fish by getting in the river and using their hands?
could be worse
I'd use some thick gloves personally
The fish will only go for the naked arm, as it is the most tender.
Their knuckles get all chewed up and the fish does its best to drown them and if you do catch it now you have to do something with a gross fish.
I never saw the appeal.
catfish is delicious, but damned if I'd risk their teeth and/or barbs
especially seeing as how they make these fancy rods with string and hooks and such
and now we are enemies
OR we could be best of friends
I'll take your catfish so you don't have to deal with it
So of course I am at Latin Night at a local bar, 10pm-4am.
(I will be leaving around midnight, when things actually get started, most likely)
I only have like four or five friends I see regularly though
And one of them is the recurring crush
They were about the only thing that lived in my grandparents' slough tho, so it was primarily what I caught as a kid.
I think they all are?
We have blues here and channel cats and they taste ok
or rather they would if our rivers weren't so polluted
I think it got started by me sending out a work invite where I was like hey let's have a godfather night where I'll cook spaghetti and we can all watch the godfather bc I've never seen it! Very random, kinda scary, but it started a good trend.
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They're almost never caught as food, unlike other types of catfish, because their diet and habitat makes them significantly less tasty.
This isn't a cry for help or advice, just a vent cause I'd forgotten what this was like after starting therapy and it really sucks.
I hope that your situation changes for the better soon
Long distance can be really tough, and it's perfectly fine to vent about it sometimes. I'd say having an outlet for that is actually really important for making it work, so don't feel bad about coming to us for that. It's what we're here for.
Its odd. We broke up because I felt totally inadequate to handle the reality of being in a serious relationship at that moment and didn't think I could get my brain in order in a time frame that would be fair to her. But outside of that relationship I don't know what point there is to doing anything about anything at all.
I know how you feel
I don't know why. It was very stupid of me to to do that, and immediately that became entirely apparent, and now I am just
fuckin
sad
The sense of lacking one feels without a relationship is a sign that one still has growing to do before becoming a fully self-possessed and confident individual, I think
There is a point where you want to be in a relationship to share the joys of the world, and a point where you want to be in a relationship because you are lacking utterly in joy. We're all somewhere on that spectrum, is my theory, and the further you are to wanting to be in a relationship to share the joys of the world the better and healthier you are.
I think, anyway.
But I'm going out tonight with the hot manager that I've posted about a few times and I'm gonna just suck it up and ask her if she wants to date because she sent me a Snapchat Tuesday that was, quote
"Scorpio and Pisces are supposed to be soulmates I guess thats why we get along so well lol"
And if that ain't dropping signals I don't know what is.
I'm pretty solid at baking when I have the time to invest, but I'm helpless without a recipe for cooking; could be my perfectionism showing, but I'm almost always disappointed in what I cook without a book
Lessons seem kinda pricy around here though
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And the tiny instructions on the side of the box or can.
That's what I have found, anyway.
That said, I tend to make dishes that are closer to baking in that I prep ingredients and throw them in a pot (chili, stew, casseroles).