I lost touch with all my high school friends around my second year of college, I think?
Things started to get awkward towards the last year of high school though, when they found out my ACT scores.
Basically, I'd spent most of high school downplaying my grades, and the fact that I was taking much harder classes. I used my dyslexia to "normalize" any significant academic achievement. Then my friends told me their ACT scores, so I had to share mine, which were about eight points higher... And when I got into the University of Chicago they kind of realized I was waaaaay better at school than I'd let on and started acting uncomfortable around me...
That, coupled with the fact that my adviser lied to the social work department and spent four years suggesting that I either didn't have friends, or people only talked to me out of pity, meant I didn't push to stay in touch because I didn't want to force myself on them. And they're such nice people they'd probably hang out with me a few times even if they didn't want to. (Which is why I haven't tried to reconnect now. Along with the fact that they're all in Library-ish careers and I couldn't act like my state school Master's has made me normal again.)
We weren't super close anyway. Dad basically made it impossible for me to hang out with them outside of school and club days.
Ironically, the only person I still talk to from high school is that guy I used to date. And he HATED me when we were teenagers.
Or, you can find some people who love you for who you are, even if you're different
Hexmage can correct me if I'm mistaken, but we're talking about a different thing. Being accepted by people is pretty easy in that most people have a decent variation in interests that something will overlap. "That's the guy I talk basketball with." "She really likes anime so we talk about that".
What we're going on about is finding a person that clicks to where opening up and being 100% yourself doesn't require effort. In my experience this can be hobby based so long as it's quite a few threads of overlap but it's more likely personality based. E.g. I struggle around people who don't understand or use sarcasm.
It looks like my roommates & I reached a compromise.
At the end of the next month we will renew our lease for a drastically shorter period, 3-5 months, and the roommate who put us into this situation will pay the extra surcharge as penatly for this entire situation.
But now I have to start looking for a two bedroom house/apartment for my best friend & I.
Yay! Woo!
Ahahaha
So apparently me best friend is now trying to push him & I to move back in with our parents for the summer because he is confident he won't have a job for the summer (he works for an elementary school).
He is sure of this because he just won't look for a job (but maybe he will, trust me, maybe? Sure? Nah....)
And when he told our other roommate, the one wanting to move in with his girlfriend, this the guy's eyes got really huge because I don't think he's ready to move out by next month (which is why he agreed to that 3-5 month lease extension).
So now my best friend is trying to pull off some type of gambit to push our other roommate into signing a 10 month lease extension.
It looks like my roommates & I reached a compromise.
At the end of the next month we will renew our lease for a drastically shorter period, 3-5 months, and the roommate who put us into this situation will pay the extra surcharge as penatly for this entire situation.
But now I have to start looking for a two bedroom house/apartment for my best friend & I.
Yay! Woo!
Ahahaha
So apparently me best friend is now trying to push him & I to move back in with our parents for the summer because he is confident he won't have a job for the summer (he works for an elementary school).
He is sure of this because he just won't look for a job (but maybe he will, trust me, maybe? Sure? Nah....)
And when he told our other roommate, the one wanting to move in with his girlfriend, this the guy's eyes got really huge because I don't think he's ready to move out by next month (which is why he agreed to that 3-5 month lease extension).
So now my best friend is trying to pull off some type of gambit to push our other roommate into signing a 10 month lease extension.
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Yeah uh at this point they're both dicking around with your living situation and finding one where you don't have to rely on either of them could be worth it
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Yeah uh at this point they're both dicking around with your living situation and finding one where you don't have to rely on either of them could be worth it
Potentially.
I'm wary of living with strangers though, kind of that Devil You Know situation.
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All right, love thread, I need help.
Donna likes funny presents, and I was thinking of sending her flowers, but I feel the funny gift would be better if it's possible.
Is there anything I can order to be delivered that would be funny? Or what could I possibly do here?
Keep in mind we live in different cities, so I can't deliver it myself, or this wouldn't be an issue.
Edit: I could order something from Amazon.
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Order her a big bag of sugarfree gummy bears from Amazon. That's pretty funny.
Here you go.
Humor is a pretty personal, subjective thing, friend
I am going to try and get a read of things with the restaurant crush, and if things look at all positive, I think I'll ask her if she's free tomorrow night
Gulp
I'm rather tired of my usual routine of crushing on someone for weeks, attempting to decipher gestures and phrases to figure out if we're flirting or not, wondering if we're merely being happy and polite and positive, finally asking her out, maybe getting one date, and then no second date
If she says yes, awesome!
If we have a good time, even better!
Etc
If she says no, that's ok too
But this routine I've had is very tiresome
I would be better served by bravery than by caution
I searched for Butt Vase on Amazon and didn't find anything so I am all out of ideas for funny gifts.
The results page did have an Amazon seller who seems to have grabbed all of the generic cutesy slogans and whatnot that usually go on mugs and baby clothes and put them on thongs. And that is something.
You know though a lot more of my eating preferences that came up when I was dating my ex had to do with the fancier atmosphere of the restaurants she prefered.
I get really uncomfortable when a place feels fancy.
Also kinda don't like that much money to be spent on me sometimes when I am more happy just sharing the other person's company over the experience of eating something fancy.
Yeah food choices are food choices, I still get people that try to force raw tomatoes on me, or other foods I dislike, after I tell them I don't like them. As if they have this magical way of cooking that's just going to make it taste amazing and wonderful for me.
People do it with places like red robin even. "Oh you're ordering the chicken tenders, what are you some kind of baby-mouth?" No I just don't feel like a fucking hamburger today get off my ass about it. No one says that out loud, but they sure do bellyache about it online.
I don't know how I'd feel personally about just mac and cheese, but I know how tiring it gets when everyone judges you for your preferences.
not a doctor, not a lawyer, examples I use may not be fully researched so don't take out of context plz, don't @ me
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Things started to get awkward towards the last year of high school though, when they found out my ACT scores.
Basically, I'd spent most of high school downplaying my grades, and the fact that I was taking much harder classes. I used my dyslexia to "normalize" any significant academic achievement. Then my friends told me their ACT scores, so I had to share mine, which were about eight points higher... And when I got into the University of Chicago they kind of realized I was waaaaay better at school than I'd let on and started acting uncomfortable around me...
That, coupled with the fact that my adviser lied to the social work department and spent four years suggesting that I either didn't have friends, or people only talked to me out of pity, meant I didn't push to stay in touch because I didn't want to force myself on them. And they're such nice people they'd probably hang out with me a few times even if they didn't want to. (Which is why I haven't tried to reconnect now. Along with the fact that they're all in Library-ish careers and I couldn't act like my state school Master's has made me normal again.)
We weren't super close anyway. Dad basically made it impossible for me to hang out with them outside of school and club days.
Ironically, the only person I still talk to from high school is that guy I used to date. And he HATED me when we were teenagers.
I'm not moving back there for two and a bit months, we only have two others (iirc) and I think they're okay/don't live near the attack.
Thanks for asking, Veldrin.
Hexmage can correct me if I'm mistaken, but we're talking about a different thing. Being accepted by people is pretty easy in that most people have a decent variation in interests that something will overlap. "That's the guy I talk basketball with." "She really likes anime so we talk about that".
What we're going on about is finding a person that clicks to where opening up and being 100% yourself doesn't require effort. In my experience this can be hobby based so long as it's quite a few threads of overlap but it's more likely personality based. E.g. I struggle around people who don't understand or use sarcasm.
but I need five dollars in quarters
open up you bastard
and it is ruining my dang mornings
Ahahaha
So apparently me best friend is now trying to push him & I to move back in with our parents for the summer because he is confident he won't have a job for the summer (he works for an elementary school).
He is sure of this because he just won't look for a job (but maybe he will, trust me, maybe? Sure? Nah....)
And when he told our other roommate, the one wanting to move in with his girlfriend, this the guy's eyes got really huge because I don't think he's ready to move out by next month (which is why he agreed to that 3-5 month lease extension).
So now my best friend is trying to pull off some type of gambit to push our other roommate into signing a 10 month lease extension.
God, hell really IS other people
I wish I lived alone.
I wish I lived alone.
I WISH I LIVED ALONE!
this feels like a lead up to a front page news story
But that'll be, minimum, two years from now so I'm stuck playing these modern spy-games.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!!!!!!!!!!!
Potentially.
I'm wary of living with strangers though, kind of that Devil You Know situation.
Donna likes funny presents, and I was thinking of sending her flowers, but I feel the funny gift would be better if it's possible.
Is there anything I can order to be delivered that would be funny? Or what could I possibly do here?
Keep in mind we live in different cities, so I can't deliver it myself, or this wouldn't be an issue.
Edit: I could order something from Amazon.
Here you go.
oh has a clown ever wronged her
I am going to try and get a read of things with the restaurant crush, and if things look at all positive, I think I'll ask her if she's free tomorrow night
Gulp
I'm rather tired of my usual routine of crushing on someone for weeks, attempting to decipher gestures and phrases to figure out if we're flirting or not, wondering if we're merely being happy and polite and positive, finally asking her out, maybe getting one date, and then no second date
If she says yes, awesome!
If we have a good time, even better!
Etc
If she says no, that's ok too
But this routine I've had is very tiresome
I would be better served by bravery than by caution
The results page did have an Amazon seller who seems to have grabbed all of the generic cutesy slogans and whatnot that usually go on mugs and baby clothes and put them on thongs. And that is something.
this sentence alone on a shirt may be what you're looking for
it's certainly what I'M looking for
Okay but what if it was on a thong instead?
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
I should have shaved my scruffy face this morning
Get along, same type of humor, yada yada
Literally only eats mac and cheese
so how does that hurt you?
I mean maybe you should eat things other than it too but yeah
Well you can put weinies in it.
That's a little forward for having only just met her, don't you think?
My food preferences are much like a fussy 6 year old. I don't understand why that matters that much.
I get really uncomfortable when a place feels fancy.
Also kinda don't like that much money to be spent on me sometimes when I am more happy just sharing the other person's company over the experience of eating something fancy.
But I probably need something healthy in there. Probably.
I don't think you should let it be a dealbreaker though.
People do it with places like red robin even. "Oh you're ordering the chicken tenders, what are you some kind of baby-mouth?" No I just don't feel like a fucking hamburger today get off my ass about it. No one says that out loud, but they sure do bellyache about it online.
I don't know how I'd feel personally about just mac and cheese, but I know how tiring it gets when everyone judges you for your preferences.