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    BeNarwhalBeNarwhal The Work Left Unfinished Registered User regular
    Abdhyius wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    i obviously don't care if someone doesn't drink, but i do feel bad when they're stuck hanging out with a bunch of drunks

    I legit don't mind at all

    My extended family is largely a big bunch of drinkers (with a couple exceptions), and I love 'em all, so if they need a refill I'm the first to go get it for them

    As they get drunker and the conversation gets sillier, I'm allowed to loosen up and be a little sillier too, it's kind of nice!

    My friend group is largely sober, with a couple exceptions, but we'll alternate going to the bar and chilling at someone's house or going for coffee, it's all good

    Ladyfish drinks in moderation, and mostly she's just very cute when she's had a few <3

    The best kind of drunk to be is when other people (that you like when drunk) are drunker than you

    I guess it's only a question of how much of a gap you can take

    That's basically it - building a tolerance for being around progressively drunker people while I'm stone-cold sober.

    I've gotten pretty good at it, but sometimes they're, like, stumbling around the yard drunk, vomiting in the garden and talking about how much they hate that particular fence post and, well

    They won't remember whether or not I was there anyway, so that's my cue to leave :P

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    OnTheLastCastleOnTheLastCastle let's keep it haimish for the peripatetic Registered User regular
    I mean if you can get 2,000 subs at the base level you can make $50,000. Easy peasy. I wonder how many total twitch subs are out there right now.

    How many people seriously try to make fifty grand a year on twitch versus how many people achieve it

    How long do they put in building the steam for no dollars, beyond the initial hobbyist investment

    Would they be better off working minimum wage for that time plus the first year

    I do not think it is easy peasy in practice

    I was being pretty sarcastic with "Easy peasy." I'd say dreaming of being a pro streamer is like dreaming about being a magic the gathering pro except I have lots of MtG pro friends and that now seems way easier because they just had to practice a lot and build teams.

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    ShivahnShivahn Unaware of her barrel shifter privilege Western coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderator mod
    Organichu wrote: »
    being around drunk people is definitely the worst part of not drinking. as aziz ansari said, 'woo girls' especially. i basically can't go out with my college aged female coworkers because jesus christ.

    It depends heavily on the people. My roommate would throw enormous parties where we'd end up with several dozens of people in our house, all drinking until 3AM, and it was awesome, because they were all chill people who were fun (and, in her case, hilariously affectionate) when drunk. But everyone was just cool people in general (late twenties grad students and the periphery of such).

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    AbdhyiusAbdhyius Registered User regular
    edited February 2018
    cptrugged wrote: »
    I've trained myself to be able to drink a glass of wine socially now.

    But I still hate alcohol. And will really only drink heavily on request at special occasions.

    "On request at special occasions" sounds like you get hired to drink heavily on stage, at birthdays, stag dos, bar mitzvahs, etc, as the evening's entertainment

    "And now! Introducing the great Trugged, who will drink heavily but not really enjoy it!"
    "Woooh!"

    Abdhyius on
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    OnTheLastCastleOnTheLastCastle let's keep it haimish for the peripatetic Registered User regular
    Qanamil wrote: »
    New thread friendship rock! @bloodyroarxx

    Wait what?

    Im missing something here.

    *bonks on head, wears BR as hat*

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    DemonStaceyDemonStacey TTODewback's Daughter In love with the TaySwayRegistered User regular
    I mean if you can get 2,000 subs at the base level you can make $50,000. Easy peasy. I wonder how many total twitch subs are out there right now.

    How many people seriously try to make fifty grand a year on twitch versus how many people achieve it

    How long do they put in building the steam for no dollars, beyond the initial hobbyist investment

    Would they be better off working minimum wage for that time plus the first year

    I do not think it is easy peasy in practice

    It's similar to seeing how much an actor gets paid and going "well shit, I should just be an actor then, let's do this!"

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    milskimilski Poyo! Registered User regular
    edited February 2018
    Abdhyius wrote: »
    Oh, the unwanted plate of shots. The definition of read the goddamn room.

    A good plate of shots is when everybody is excited about being stupid and just getting silly drunk together.

    The guy who buys a round of shots to a bunch of people who go "uh" because they were sipping beer while practicing the art of good conversation, is the guy who calls you "buddy" and laughs really loudly at his own jokes with a laugh that makes you want to stab him in the eyes

    At the christmas party I was at last year, the host's next door neighbor came in drunk off his ass from his own combo birthday/fight party and offered us all shots of fireball and a visit to the bar he had set up in his garage.

    We had just enough people willing to do it that it resulted in our party spiralling completely out of control because the one drink people got at his bar was a nightmare mix of fireball, rumchata, everclear, and energy drink (what the fuck, bartender?). The one person who tossed it instead of politely finishing it burned his hand because it hit a firepit and flashed back to him.

    milski on
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    Shivahn wrote: »
    Hahnsoo1 wrote: »
    desc wrote: »
    How is PETA even on people's radars as a hate object

    PETA is such a tiny and trivial organization

    I can't remember the last time I actually saw a peta ad outside of some jpg compressed 2004 photo of a guy wrapped in plastic to protest meat being posted on Imgur or something for mockery
    How are Tumblrinas even on people's radars as a hate object? Or reddit redpillers? Tiny and trivial amounts of people can disproportionately represent themselves through being loud and annoying. Signal repeating and reinforcement is part and parcel of the modern Internet.

    Redpillers occasionally go on shooting sprees so...

    (Or at least, the views espoused by them are the kind of thing that gets women killed, and they reflect unpleasant realities of our current society, rather than being weird reactionary outcroppings, even if that is some of the source.)

    And PETA euthanized a bunch of dogs

    Dogs are morally superior to humans

    Therefore PETA is worse

    It's simple ethics please subscribe to my YouTube channel and you donate to my Patreon

    every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.

    the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
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    OrganichuOrganichu poops peesRegistered User, Moderator mod
    Shivahn wrote: »
    Organichu wrote: »
    being around drunk people is definitely the worst part of not drinking. as aziz ansari said, 'woo girls' especially. i basically can't go out with my college aged female coworkers because jesus christ.

    It depends heavily on the people. My roommate would throw enormous parties where we'd end up with several dozens of people in our house, all drinking until 3AM, and it was awesome, because they were all chill people who were fun (and, in her case, hilariously affectionate) when drunk. But everyone was just cool people in general (late twenties grad students and the periphery of such).

    maybe you were drunk on science

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    DemonStaceyDemonStacey TTODewback's Daughter In love with the TaySwayRegistered User regular
    I mean we can't all be this guy:

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    But damn it's a cool dream to have.

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    OrganichuOrganichu poops peesRegistered User, Moderator mod
    are grad students super cool people as a rule, you think

    i know essentially no one irl who has more than a bachelor's

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    BeNarwhalBeNarwhal The Work Left Unfinished Registered User regular
    Shivahn wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Shivahn wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Also hello Shiv how are you doing today

    I like checking in with you because I know some days can suck, but you seem in a decent mood today! <3

    I talked with someone yesterday and she gave advice I have to follow

    Had couples' therapy this morning and this week it ended up mostly being about me. I am sure I should remember more!

    Experiment is happening and I am skilled.

    This all sounds like positive movement! I am glad to hear it <3

    As someone who has weekly therapy where it's always 100% about me, I understand that unique feeling of having a revelation that changes your perspective or your attitude or your behavior

    It's always ... humbling, but also like a burden is being lifted off of you.

    I like it, anyway.

    Oh it is rare that I have revelations in therapy. I talk too much and introspect too much for that to happen super often. I just don't know how to fix my shit, sometimes.

    I mean today it was mostly stuff related to OCD that came out, which I knew but I think was useful for Querry to hear (such as: I have a jealous streak, but it is definitely in the form of obsessive-compulsive intrusive thoughts, rather than a thing in and of itself. Similarly, thoughts of death and dying: how OCD comes out, sometimes.)

    I hear what you're saying

    Yeah, "revelations" might be the wrong word, but more like

    Being able to put words to a feeling you've been having for a while, or identifying a problem behavior / thought pattern and managing to address where it stems from and sort of acknowledging it as a problem, even if you can't immediately solve it

    How unable to advocate for myself and also how mind-bogglingly stubborn I can be are both acknowledged but as-yet unsolved problems, personally :redface:

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    milskimilski Poyo! Registered User regular
    I mean if you can get 2,000 subs at the base level you can make $50,000. Easy peasy. I wonder how many total twitch subs are out there right now.

    How many people seriously try to make fifty grand a year on twitch versus how many people achieve it

    How long do they put in building the steam for no dollars, beyond the initial hobbyist investment

    Would they be better off working minimum wage for that time plus the first year

    I do not think it is easy peasy in practice

    It's similar to seeing how much an actor gets paid and going "well shit, I should just be an actor then, let's do this!"

    My boss does this all the time and its really annoying and I can't do anything about it.

    I ate an engineer
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    bloodyroarxxbloodyroarxx Casa GrandeRegistered User regular
    Oh my god, the new Zarya skin


    hnnnnnnggggg

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    DemonStaceyDemonStacey TTODewback's Daughter In love with the TaySwayRegistered User regular
    Organichu wrote: »
    are grad students super cool people as a rule, you think

    i know essentially no one irl who has more than a bachelor's

    Am I cool?

    wait... shit don't answer that.

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    OrganichuOrganichu poops peesRegistered User, Moderator mod
    Organichu wrote: »
    are grad students super cool people as a rule, you think

    i know essentially no one irl who has more than a bachelor's

    Am I cool?

    wait... shit don't answer that.

    i haven't seen enough of your dogs or your ballsack lately

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    ThomamelasThomamelas Only one man can kill this many Russians. Bring his guitar to me! Registered User regular
    Pony wrote: »
    People who feel entitled to know why I don't drink and inquire with mocking hostility get a pretty shitty response from me.

    Like, that kind of shit doesn't happen much anymore nowadays because I'm older and don't go to like, shitty house parties or whatever much, but every now and again I'll still be over at somebody's place and they'll offer me something to drink and go over a list of options and they're all booze and I'll politely decline or ask for a water or soda or something

    And they'll wrinkle their nose like I farted in church and be like "what're you, a Mormon? It's a party, man"

    At which point I will like, do a sharp exhale through my nose, sigh and say "Sure, and if I have serious health reasons I don't drink and I fucking die on your couch just because you felt insulted I didn't want some of your IPA would that bring the room down?" and then my wife sighs at me and I shrug.

    Fuck off with that shit.

    If someone is the kind of person who wants you to know why they don't drink, then brother, trust me they will fucking tell you.

    Otherwise, leave them alone and just say "Okay, no problem."

    I have a varying set of responses I use for people that tend to range from cryptic "I'm a friend of Bill W" followed by changing the subject. Or me trying to be funny and tell them I used to be really good at it and thought of going pro. Also just telling them I'm an alcoholic in a conversational tone. And for the really stubborn pricks get the weaponized version where I explain to them in detail the idea of using alcohol in a coping mechanism and how I realized I might have an issue while having my stomach pumped. The later doesn't happen often, it's only people who are real pricks about it.

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    DoodmannDoodmann Registered User regular
    Whippy wrote: »
    nope nope nope nope abort abort talk about anime
    I like to ART
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    AbdhyiusAbdhyius Registered User regular
    jakobagger wrote: »
    wandering wrote: »
    Pre-fried chicken

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    I mean, it's not like you can't bread and fry free range or organic chickens instead of caged

    but in the case of literally every chain restaurant, picture is probably accurate yeah

    Fuck organic. Luxury bullshit.

    But free range is iffy and can be a copout. We need another term, and a good one. Free range summons idyllic ideas that can be far from the truth and free range can be far worse than caged. Chickens peck each other to death. It is in no way a given that a free range barn floor covered wall to wall in chickens is going to be better than caged. But it sells like it is.

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    ShivahnShivahn Unaware of her barrel shifter privilege Western coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderator mod
    Feral wrote: »
    Shivahn wrote: »
    Hahnsoo1 wrote: »
    desc wrote: »
    How is PETA even on people's radars as a hate object

    PETA is such a tiny and trivial organization

    I can't remember the last time I actually saw a peta ad outside of some jpg compressed 2004 photo of a guy wrapped in plastic to protest meat being posted on Imgur or something for mockery
    How are Tumblrinas even on people's radars as a hate object? Or reddit redpillers? Tiny and trivial amounts of people can disproportionately represent themselves through being loud and annoying. Signal repeating and reinforcement is part and parcel of the modern Internet.

    Redpillers occasionally go on shooting sprees so...

    (Or at least, the views espoused by them are the kind of thing that gets women killed, and they reflect unpleasant realities of our current society, rather than being weird reactionary outcroppings, even if that is some of the source.)

    And PETA euthanized a bunch of dogs

    Dogs are morally superior to humans

    Therefore PETA is worse

    It's simple ethics please subscribe to my YouTube channel and you donate to my Patreon

    I can't really argue, here, have fifty dollars
    Organichu wrote: »
    are grad students super cool people as a rule, you think

    i know essentially no one irl who has more than a bachelor's

    Grad students surely run the gamut of cool to turboasshole (after all, where to professors come from? maek u think), but are pretty self-selected to be a generally intelligent, liberal group of people going through the same shit and basically having slow-motion trauma-related bonding. Good programs also have some sense of cameraderie, though there are also super competitive spaces, obviously (and that can be a big problem).

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    BeNarwhalBeNarwhal The Work Left Unfinished Registered User regular
    Organichu wrote: »
    being around drunk people is definitely the worst part of not drinking. as aziz ansari said, 'woo girls' especially. i basically can't go out with my college aged female coworkers because jesus christ.

    My entire friend group is now 25+ and I'm very grateful for it :P

    If someone of any gender is in danger of reaching "woo girl" status, often times another party-goer will quietly escort them to another room, sit them down, get them some gatorade or a glass of water, etc.

    Defuse the situation, if you will

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    ShivahnShivahn Unaware of her barrel shifter privilege Western coastal temptressRegistered User, Moderator mod
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Shivahn wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Shivahn wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Also hello Shiv how are you doing today

    I like checking in with you because I know some days can suck, but you seem in a decent mood today! <3

    I talked with someone yesterday and she gave advice I have to follow

    Had couples' therapy this morning and this week it ended up mostly being about me. I am sure I should remember more!

    Experiment is happening and I am skilled.

    This all sounds like positive movement! I am glad to hear it <3

    As someone who has weekly therapy where it's always 100% about me, I understand that unique feeling of having a revelation that changes your perspective or your attitude or your behavior

    It's always ... humbling, but also like a burden is being lifted off of you.

    I like it, anyway.

    Oh it is rare that I have revelations in therapy. I talk too much and introspect too much for that to happen super often. I just don't know how to fix my shit, sometimes.

    I mean today it was mostly stuff related to OCD that came out, which I knew but I think was useful for Querry to hear (such as: I have a jealous streak, but it is definitely in the form of obsessive-compulsive intrusive thoughts, rather than a thing in and of itself. Similarly, thoughts of death and dying: how OCD comes out, sometimes.)

    I hear what you're saying

    Yeah, "revelations" might be the wrong word, but more like

    Being able to put words to a feeling you've been having for a while, or identifying a problem behavior / thought pattern and managing to address where it stems from and sort of acknowledging it as a problem, even if you can't immediately solve it

    How unable to advocate for myself and also how mind-bogglingly stubborn I can be are both acknowledged but as-yet unsolved problems, personally :redface:

    Well yes, because it's impossible to advocate for yourself, what if you hurt someone else?

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    AbdhyiusAbdhyius Registered User regular
    Feral wrote: »
    jakobagger wrote: »
    Feral wrote: »
    Abdhyius wrote: »
    Organichu wrote: »
    Abdhyius wrote: »
    Let's be real: teetotallers can possibly be as annoying as an annoying vegan

    My experience is similar to that of a vegan: people treat me like shit out of defensiveness that I’m like, implicitly criticizing their lifestyle. Give me a vegan over a ‘for every cow you don’t eat I’ll eat three lol!!’ person any day. Same thing here.

    Comparing just vegan to militantly anti-vegan is unfair

    The equivalent is the evangelical vegan who is dumb as rocks. Your PETA people.

    If I was locked in a room with one of those and one of the for every cow you don't eat I'll eat three lol people and I had a gun with two bullets I'd shoot myself twice

    The point is that there aren't actually that many militant vegans. I've encountered militant vegans but they're pretty rare, and it's been a very long time.

    While the opposite, somebody who responds with defensiveness and derision to the mere suggestion that somebody in their presence is vegan, is all too common.

    there aren't many militant vegans in general, true

    however, if you ever hang out in certain parts of the Northern European radical left, hoo boy

    Oh, I bet.

    I used to live in Santa Cruz, which is a town that really wishes it was Berkeley circa 1968.

    The combination of being a college town, a hippie town, and having a strong culture of political protest meant that you could find aggressive crusaders for just about any left-wing cause.

    A lot of my stories about dumb protests gone awry come from Santa Cruz.

    And, yeah, I met militant vegans there. Usually college kids who felt like they were changing the world by harassing customers outside of a restaurant.

    But not so much after I left.

    Do we, honestly, have to give young people the right to opinions

    Like do we have to have to?

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    OrganichuOrganichu poops peesRegistered User, Moderator mod
    HEY JOHN HAHAHA, HEY GUY OVER THERE, DAB!! DABBBBBBBBBBBBBBB GUY IN THE RED

    OK SORRY SO HEY JOHN YOU'RE LIKE GREAT YOU KNOW? BUT FUCK THAT GIRL OVER THERE FUCKING CUNT HAHA

    *spills drink*

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    AbdhyiusAbdhyius Registered User regular
    Because the only topic in which young people's opinions are worth listening to is favourite dinosaurs

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    AbdhyiusAbdhyius Registered User regular
    What's your favourite dinosaur

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    thatassemblyguythatassemblyguy Janitor of Technical Debt .Registered User regular
    That pencil+pad pro looks really slick.

    If I actually had time to do anything but work-work (ok, i do technically have time, but wow, am I all burnt-out so I just veg), I'd love to pick a set up just to see if it can help me with prototype drawings, writing lists (I like to write a list vs. typing it sometimes because it feels better), etc.

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    BeNarwhalBeNarwhal The Work Left Unfinished Registered User regular
    @DemonStacey

    I love QTpie

    His stream is usually hilarious ill-timed for my viewing pleasure, but he's just so chill and so rich

    The other day on stream he was like "I was going to wait for the PC release of Monster Hunter, because I didn't even have a PS4 ... but then I realized I'm rich and can do what I want."

    He's the best :P

    His cat-buddy in MonHun is name SmolCat, after the real life SmolCat :D

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    OrganichuOrganichu poops peesRegistered User, Moderator mod
    Abdhyius wrote: »
    What's your favourite dinosaur

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cm5BalnWDFg

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    TavTav Irish Minister for DefenceRegistered User regular
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    QanamilQanamil x Registered User regular
    My grad program group was mostly okay. One... savant with no social skills that knew the year and location for every modern Olympics held. But he wasn't a bad person, just a doof. Copious drinkers including myself, some pretty heavily. Nobody particularly turboasshole, but some significantly more driven and willing to climbing over the lifeless bodies of others. Which I don't particularly mind, grad school was definitely not for me.

    A professor told another student I was "wildly intelligent but completely unmotivated" and yeah yup you got it.

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    ElkiElki get busy Moderator, ClubPA mod
    In my experience, if you have some kind of Muslim name, no ever bothers you if you don't want to drink.

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    Jubal77Jubal77 Registered User regular
    Abdhyius wrote: »
    What's your favourite dinosaur

    Threehorn for life!

    pjqo36sl03eg.jpg

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    OrganichuOrganichu poops peesRegistered User, Moderator mod
    Elki wrote: »
    In my experience, if you have some kind of Muslim name, no ever bothers you if you don't want to drink.

    every thug ass muslim dude in philly is named abdullah

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    AthenorAthenor Battle Hardened Optimist The Skies of HiigaraRegistered User regular
    Yay! YNAB is finally working with my bank again so I can import purchases!


    ... Holy fuck no wonder I'm fat. :(

    *sighs* Now to actually budget this.

    He/Him | "A boat is always safest in the harbor, but that’s not why we build boats." | "If you run, you gain one. If you move forward, you gain two." - Suletta Mercury, G-Witch
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    SniperGuySniperGuy SniperGuyGaming Registered User regular
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    SniperGuy wrote: »
    SniperGuy wrote: »
    JebusUD wrote: »
    SniperGuy wrote: »
    I'm glad I got Shadow of the Colossus but also I've been streaming it. Hard Mode actually quite hard!

    I will probably never be able to compete with other streamers because I have a day job but it's still fun.

    Most of them started with day jobs too. Probably a bit harder to break through these days though.

    Still it could happen.

    If someone influential hosted you would probably be the easiest way.

    I'm still confused why I often have a woman with 10,600 followers watching me. I assume for the feet.

    Yeah a big host so that people might actually see you for a few seconds and decide to stick around is a huuuge deal. I guess if I want to grow my stream more I should do more networking. I did get a sea of thieves host once of like 50 people that rapidly dropped down to 20 but that was still pretty cool. And/or get a camera for feet.

    are you trying to do this as a second job type thing?

    I was under the impression that most of the chat stream community was just into it as like a way to hang out with their internet friends

    growing beyond chat would probably take a lot of effort. good luck!

    Second job is probably a bit too serious, but I would love to build an actual following and get a twitch paycheck every once in a while. I'm getting pretty close to my first twitch paycheck actually. I definitely want to focus on it more as a hobby, but part of the fun of the hobby for me is trying to grow the stream I think. Fiddling with audio and video settings and making things look/sound as professional as I can has been really fun and interesting.

    Your new mic is A+, by the way! <3

    Hooray! It's huuuuge compared to the rock band mic I was using so it feels 1000x more professional. Still gotta get an arm and a shock mount for it sometime so I can position it a little better.

    And figure out how waffles and I are doing voice tonight. Last time worked well with one mic but it wasn't the fancy one. I'll flip it into stereo mode and try that I think.

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    BeNarwhalBeNarwhal The Work Left Unfinished Registered User regular
    Shivahn wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Shivahn wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Shivahn wrote: »
    BeNarwhal wrote: »
    Also hello Shiv how are you doing today

    I like checking in with you because I know some days can suck, but you seem in a decent mood today! <3

    I talked with someone yesterday and she gave advice I have to follow

    Had couples' therapy this morning and this week it ended up mostly being about me. I am sure I should remember more!

    Experiment is happening and I am skilled.

    This all sounds like positive movement! I am glad to hear it <3

    As someone who has weekly therapy where it's always 100% about me, I understand that unique feeling of having a revelation that changes your perspective or your attitude or your behavior

    It's always ... humbling, but also like a burden is being lifted off of you.

    I like it, anyway.

    Oh it is rare that I have revelations in therapy. I talk too much and introspect too much for that to happen super often. I just don't know how to fix my shit, sometimes.

    I mean today it was mostly stuff related to OCD that came out, which I knew but I think was useful for Querry to hear (such as: I have a jealous streak, but it is definitely in the form of obsessive-compulsive intrusive thoughts, rather than a thing in and of itself. Similarly, thoughts of death and dying: how OCD comes out, sometimes.)

    I hear what you're saying

    Yeah, "revelations" might be the wrong word, but more like

    Being able to put words to a feeling you've been having for a while, or identifying a problem behavior / thought pattern and managing to address where it stems from and sort of acknowledging it as a problem, even if you can't immediately solve it

    How unable to advocate for myself and also how mind-bogglingly stubborn I can be are both acknowledged but as-yet unsolved problems, personally :redface:

    Well yes, because it's impossible to advocate for yourself, what if you hurt someone else?

    Right?! I just wanna sit quietly in the corner with my panic-brain and not create any waves and I don't want anyone to notice me and I don't want to bother anyone and I hope everyone else is happy I hope I'm not causing any trouble I'm just sitting here quietly hopefully that's okay oh god what should I do with my hands I don't want to upset anyone!

    ... We've made some major inroads compared to where I was, obviously :P

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    BeNarwhalBeNarwhal The Work Left Unfinished Registered User regular
    Abdhyius wrote: »
    What's your favourite dinosaur

    Albertosaurus, purely for patriotic reasons

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    Thomamelas wrote: »
    Pony wrote: »
    People who feel entitled to know why I don't drink and inquire with mocking hostility get a pretty shitty response from me.

    Like, that kind of shit doesn't happen much anymore nowadays because I'm older and don't go to like, shitty house parties or whatever much, but every now and again I'll still be over at somebody's place and they'll offer me something to drink and go over a list of options and they're all booze and I'll politely decline or ask for a water or soda or something

    And they'll wrinkle their nose like I farted in church and be like "what're you, a Mormon? It's a party, man"

    At which point I will like, do a sharp exhale through my nose, sigh and say "Sure, and if I have serious health reasons I don't drink and I fucking die on your couch just because you felt insulted I didn't want some of your IPA would that bring the room down?" and then my wife sighs at me and I shrug.

    Fuck off with that shit.

    If someone is the kind of person who wants you to know why they don't drink, then brother, trust me they will fucking tell you.

    Otherwise, leave them alone and just say "Okay, no problem."

    I have a varying set of responses I use for people that tend to range from cryptic "I'm a friend of Bill W" followed by changing the subject. Or me trying to be funny and tell them I used to be really good at it and thought of going pro. Also just telling them I'm an alcoholic in a conversational tone. And for the really stubborn pricks get the weaponized version where I explain to them in detail the idea of using alcohol in a coping mechanism and how I realized I might have an issue while having my stomach pumped. The later doesn't happen often, it's only people who are real pricks about it.

    When we went on a Princess cruise, somebody in our group was mulling over the events list and said something like "Why are there so many events for Bill W.?"

    every person who doesn't like an acquired taste always seems to think everyone who likes it is faking it. it should be an official fallacy.

    the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
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    HerrCronHerrCron It that wickedly supports taxation Registered User regular
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    Threehorn for life!

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    Sharptooth rules,
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