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Erin The Red
The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMABaton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
The Name's Erin! Woman, Podcaster, Dungeon Master, IT nerd, Parent, Trans. AMABaton Rouge, LARegistered User regular
Hey! The other thread was at 100 so I'm gonna make a new one!
Come and talk about stuff. How are things?
Quick summary of me:
I'm Erin, I came out as trans almost a year ago? (Fuck, that long already?) I've got an awesome wife named Christine, two kids, and a cat and dog. We live down in Louisiana and are taking everything a day at a time. I feel like Christine and I get closer every day and I wouldn't trade that for anything. We are exploring our Poly side and seeing how that goes. So far it's pretty great. We are talking to a beautiful and amazing woman from this very thread! (Hi Danielle
)
I had a nice old man come up to me at the store and say "excuse me ma'am are you familiar with wines?" And I spent like 20 minutes helping him pick a bottle for his wife
Also next week I'm interviewing Austin Walker
And next next week I'm interviewing Adam Koebel
Relationship stuff
Come and talk about stuff. How are things?
Quick summary of me:
I'm Erin, I came out as trans almost a year ago? (Fuck, that long already?) I've got an awesome wife named Christine, two kids, and a cat and dog. We live down in Louisiana and are taking everything a day at a time. I feel like Christine and I get closer every day and I wouldn't trade that for anything. We are exploring our Poly side and seeing how that goes. So far it's pretty great. We are talking to a beautiful and amazing woman from this very thread! (Hi Danielle
)I had a nice old man come up to me at the store and say "excuse me ma'am are you familiar with wines?" And I spent like 20 minutes helping him pick a bottle for his wife
Also next week I'm interviewing Austin Walker
And next next week I'm interviewing Adam Koebel
Relationship stuff
Also I found out a lot of my friends (more than I thought, anyway) are poly and then Christine and I started talking about stuff and we aren't there yet, but she's said she is fine with flirty stuff, so long as she is in the loop.
Then earlier this week this awesome person from the thread told me she had a crush on me and we've been talking about stuff and it's really nice! She's very sweet (and cute!) and great to talk to.
It's been an unexpected week for sure, but I'm not complaining
Then earlier this week this awesome person from the thread told me she had a crush on me and we've been talking about stuff and it's really nice! She's very sweet (and cute!) and great to talk to.
It's been an unexpected week for sure, but I'm not complaining
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Since the start of the last thread I have:
1. Bought a crapload of makeup
2. Got on hormones
3. Bought a crapload of lady clothes.
4. Took a crapload of selfies.
5. Put in legal name change papers(as of this morning)
It was an exciting 100 pages!
This has been a crazy week with lots of fun bits! Learning a lot more stuff about some long time friends (and finding out very interesting things about more recent friends too!) Talking to cool people, playing cool games. It's been pretty good, overall. Here's hoping for more to come
I ordered a whole bunch of clothes on Monday (and I'm already thinking about more), but thus far only one item has arrived.
Also my life is hilarious, I've met Adam K a couple of times in passing and had no idea they were D&D famous
That's a good look! Looks like you're about to drop some serious business on someone.
Adam has the best hair. Is it as lovely in person?
oh, yeah, also I'm bi/pan and this twitter meme will tell you everything you need to know about me and what I'm about
In my scifi smut game, I've created a hermaphroditic alien race that goes by they pronouns, and both I and my bonus features writer have had trouble with letting shes and hers slip in when writing scenes for them. I guess because in their (clothed) visuals, breasts are apparent but dongs aren't? And when you're putting down the story, there isn't really a part of the brain that's wired to see she/he pronouns as being bad in this particular case, so you don't even notice you did it.
At least with writing I can catch it in editing, but if it was some sort of in-person live thing I imagine it would take a lot of practice to subconsciously see 'they' as a pronoun in and of itself and not just something to use for variety's sake.
Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)
You've got this. You're a strong independent woman who doesn't need a burg for nothin!
yeah I get that it's difficult
I had to do writing where I deliberately made a character who uses they pronouns in order to get used to the whole concept. But actually I have not fucked it up at all. Not saying people are being malicious or anything, but I believe it's possible to make the effort and be really quite accurate.
I'd think that since these friends are close with at least two people I can think of who use they pronouns, they'd have internalized at this point that it's a legit choice. Whatever. It makes me angry but it does not matter. At least it's not like my other game where everyone uses the wrong pronouns for me. The people from my first game haven't referred to me ever so idk if they do.
if I had the right food it wouldn't be as bad
like, veggies are lower in calories and can be quite filling
but doing normal human things like cooking on a regular basis is extremely difficult for me
so now I get to complain
Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)
Nah I get that. It's a lot of time and effort and then cleanup after.
Hopefully things work out better next time!
I forgot to eat dinner and I'm too lazy to get up and eat now
Also, hey. This is gonna be a year of a lot of changes. And it may be stressful as hell, but that doesn't mean it can't also be the best year of your life at the same time. You're learning a BUNCH of stuff about yourself! And you're working towards following that stuff and seeing where it goes. That's a commendable thing that tons of people never do. Worrying about stuff means you care about it and there's nothing wrong with that.
Best of luck. We're all rooting for you!
(Narrator's Voice: Little did smof know, that time would never come)
I'm so damn scared.
I keep thinking about going for a PhD as being a 'Dr' would solve everything, buuuuuut I'd probably need to move and I'm quite content where I am. (Which is working in academia anyhow but hey.)
3DS FCode: 1993-7512-8991
Supreme Overlord?
Hey it works for Stormageddon.
Whatever happens we're rooting for you.
/hugs
Can be emphasised with expletive of choice when the situation deems it appropriate.
Also i'm increasingly uncomfortable with my body, feels like.
This morning i was waking up and seeing my hairy arms and feeling uncomfortable about those.
I'm not sure I like the direction i'm heading in.
Check out my site, the Bismuth Heart | My Twitter
Anyway. Since The Big Revelation I've been wondering if what I feel for guys is not so much attraction but a kind of... envy? As in I look at guys and wish I could be like that rather than have that.
Weirdly since I had that thought I think my actual feelings of attraction towards women have increased, or I've become more aware of them. And if I can separate out the 'envy' from actual attraction wrt dudes it feels kind of the same?
I'm not sure if any of those words make sense, but essentially if I were asked on a platonic date by both Tom Hardy and Natalie Dormer I would have real difficulty choosing, but I would want to borrow something of Hardy's to wear for it.
...sometimes I worry about saying this kind of personal stuff in a public arena. But I know how much reading other people's experiences has helped me so I feel like if putting my mental diarrhoea out there might help someone else with something they're working through then I should do it
*I dunno a concise term for "attraction to people but not wanting to bump uglies with them"
I had a look back at the last thread and realised it was only started in October of last year - for some reason, that thread felt like it covered a much longer time period than it in fact actually had. Huh, go figure!
So, let's see, in the past few months I have: survived Christmas, gotten a pay rise at work (which is just as well, seeing as I'm paying off a car that I also had to acquire for said work) and had recent confirmation that the project I head up will definitely be continuing for at least another year, so that's good news. I took (for me) an insane number of selfies (some of which I even posted in the old thread and the holiday hangout) in an ongoing (and increasingly futile) attempt by me to actually try and feel better about the way I look, and even recorded some snippets of my voice so that folks could hear my accent/way I speak (I still blame credit you for that one Erin
I've been trying to be a lot more open generally about my HIV status; partly because it is a part of me and shapes a lot of the ways in which I interact (or don't) with people, but in recent months I've also become very aware that I'm of that generation that grew up during the height of the 'gay plague', and I've been seeing a lot of posts on various social media sites in recent months where its becoming apparent (along with so many other aspects of queer history, like trans erasure at Stonewall) that a lot of younger folks really aren't aware of that sort of thing. I dunno...its complicated, and still stuff I'm processing in my own head, over a decade after my own diagnosis. I'm also finding myself yo-yo'ing far too rapidly between wanting to be a bit more sociable with folks and wanting to slither under a rock and never interact with another human being again.
Hmmm...well, this has ended up being a bit more of a downer post than I was initially aiming for (yay for good intentions!) so...um....er....oh, I know! One goal I have set myself this year is to try and save up as much money as possible so that I have a financial buffer if/when my current job/income ends, but more importantly, because I still intend to have enough money saved up where I can treat myself to a proper, 'getting on a plane' type vacation next year, and I still want that vacation to involve going to one of the PAX events (probably PAX South).
So...(re) hi all o/
EDIT: Because I'm not entirely sure what 'getting on a plan' would involve, but I think I'd rather fly to America.
Ocean, tears and heartbreak soup
Half alive in a whitecap foam
Half in love with a white half moon
On the plus side, I'm talking with some of my history friends about possibly reenacting an 18th century molly house: https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/regency-gay-bar-molly-houses?utm_source=facebook.com&utm_medium=keywee&kwp_0=643930
(Though we want to do it more inclusively.)
Steam: Chagrin LoL: Bonhomie
Captain, Commander, The Honorable, Darth
I'll occasionally use Mx but usually that means I have to sit and explain wtf that is, so ymmv
They could probably still use Dr.
I'm pretty sure Andre Young, Julius Erving, and John Cena don't have their PhD's. And Dr Pepper isn't a real person so they can't even GET a PhD!
As far as I can tell people use Mx. pronounced 'mix'. Can you actually make this stick in everyday life? I mean, probably not--I'm Dr. and people mostly call me Ms. anyway because there isn't always a place to fill out your preferred title before interacting with someone. But it might be worth a try.
Also grad school blows; don't do it!
I love this lady. Spending time with her is very good. Now we both can get dressed up and have a hot lady date
Imperator
Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)
I've been trying to sync up my online presence to match my new identity which is kinda tough when I had everything distributed to avoid identity prior, but it's coming together well. Feels weird to be on social media, yknow, socially.
well this is awkward
my brother wrote that article
transitioning made me so much more social its unreal
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Yeppppp. Being comfortable with myself and not feeling like I'm always lying is a completely new experience
Also I apparently can't have gluten, but this cake...