lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
i cannot agree harder.
I look at babies and I'm like "what in the world was I thinking". I'm so much happier now that she's older and can scream "NO" in my face while trying to cuddle me while telling me she doesn't want cuddles.
I can (most of the time) cope with this. The constant neediness of infancy? I don't know how I survived.
Leah is really doing the 5/15 year old thing. Can I assume when she’s 15, she’ll then act stereotypically 5?
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KalnaurI See Rain . . .Centralia, WARegistered Userregular
See, my dude still hasn't really hit actual talking for the most part, so the "I wish they could just talk to me" thing is still going from infancy, but, he knows how to feed himself, mostly dress himself (shoes and shirt are a work in progress), he's good at finding his own fun, he climbs up and just . . . wraps my arms around him when he wants cuddles. And so on. He knows how to mostly get what he wants. Part of me misses the itty bitty critter that needed me, but most of me is like, "thank god he's growing up".
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I miss the cute parts of newborndom, and a small piece of me almost wishes we had gone for 3 just to have those moments at 3 am.
Then I remember they were at 3 am and I'd have to deal with that on top of a 4 and 2 year old and have to suppress involuntary tears.
I am glad we had 2, but 100% understand anyone that doesn't want to do newborn again.
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lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
Her daycare teachers are like "when are you going to give us another one to love?" and I'm like "nope, you got just the one shot. love her all you can cause there will be no follow ups"
and then i see her taking care of her babies and the younger kids at daycare and I momentarily, briefly, fleetingly feel the guilt and the 'but what if...'
I didn't really mind doing everything at all hours for our kiddo, but I hated seeing her so unable to do things for herself and lack many tools to communicate what she wanted. The snuggles and such were nice but I could never shed that feeling, I was just super excited to see what the person hiding inside was like.
There's no way in hell I want another baby. If we ever decide to have another kid we'll adopt a nonbaby.
@SharpyVII It's the Variflow teats on the Closer to Nature bottles. When I quickly looked them up on Amazon there was a little message at the top of the page:
You purchased this item on 25 Dec 2014.
So I guess we were still using these when he was a year old
The one about the fucking space hairdresser and the cowboy. He's got a tinfoil pal and a pedal bin
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We used Dr Brown's for a long time with our girl, they were a lifesaver.
And it seems like all is dying, and would leave the world to mourn
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Mojo_JojoWe are only now beginning to understand the full power and ramifications of sexual intercourseRegistered Userregular
I'm pretty on board with having another baby. Which is good given that one is due in October
Although it does mean I'm pretty house stressed as we'll need a bigger place. But we can't move in the UK until brexit is clearer. Or until we get jobs outside of the UK
The baby itself will be fine
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We had a lady from the local health organisation visit us yesterday. She understood our problems and also confirmed that the kid is fine, just need to find ways for my partner to care for little king without things going wrong. We've been signed up for a program where professionals visit us at home.
I have no clue whether they can help and whether they are actually good at what they do, but at this point I'm willing to give it a try.
Our first kid was a dream baby. Slept well, ate well, a little fussy at times, but not too much.
Second baby had colic. Never took a pacifier. Never slept well. Love him to pieces, but he is 10000x the work his sister was.
Don't let the first child lull you into thinking #2 will be at all similar.
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BrodyThe WatchThe First ShoreRegistered Userregular
I'm pretty on board with having another baby. Which is good given that one is due in October
Although it does mean I'm pretty house stressed as we'll need a bigger place. But we can't move in the UK until brexit is clearer. Or until we get jobs outside of the UK
The baby itself will be fine
I didn't know you two were having another, congrats!
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Our first kid was a dream baby. Slept well, ate well, a little fussy at times, but not too much.
Second baby had colic. Never took a pacifier. Never slept well. Love him to pieces, but he is 10000x the work his sister was.
Don't let the first child lull you into thinking #2 will be at all similar.
Our daughter had a cleft palate and really bad reflux, so we couldn't let her lay down/go in the car seat until 30 minutes after she had eaten, or she would spit up. And often would gurgle up a little bit of milk anyways.
"I will write your name in the ruin of them. I will paint you across history in the color of their blood."
Ours was an awesome baby, slept through the night, potty trained relatively easy, good natured in general.
However the pregnancy was a nightmare, took years of trying and treatment, was considered high risk with tons of doctor visits and spiked my wife's blood pressure even afterwards to the point they threatened to keep her there extra time after sending him home. Also she was at her heaviest in a very hot July and August. So no second was/is in our plans because it was a miserable 9 months (and before that thanks to the hormones they had her on).
I mainly miss the 6-8 month honeymoon. Oliver was basically an angel at that point. He was super cute, very rarely fussy, slept through the night, took two naps a day, didn't crawl and would just chill on/in front of us playing with little mobiles and rattles etc.
I believe I’ve mentioned this before but a Facebook friend of mine confessed to having six ‘easy’ children before her seventh was a nightmare
Her seventh sounds like most typical babies/toddlers to me (from how she describes his sleep patterns/behavior) but apparently her first 6 slept with no issues and she assumed it was her parenting that helped, but no, none of her tricks work with #7 and she has repeatedly said that if #7 had been her firstborn she would have only had the one.
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BrodyThe WatchThe First ShoreRegistered Userregular
I believe I’ve mentioned this before but a Facebook friend of mine confessed to having six ‘easy’ children before her seventh was a nightmare
Her seventh sounds like most typical babies/toddlers to me (from how she describes his sleep patterns/behavior) but apparently her first 6 slept with no issues and she assumed it was her parenting that helped, but no, none of her tricks work with #7 and she has repeatedly said that if #7 had been her firstborn she would have only had the one.
If you have 7 kids, I don't believe you would have stopped with 1.
"I will write your name in the ruin of them. I will paint you across history in the color of their blood."
I feel as if I know more than a handful of people who had 4+ kids in quick succession and later regretted it. Which I can’t imagine myself, but I guess some people just have really great pregnancies and love the baby stage.
My dad definitely regrets having as many kids as he does, but oh well, you gotta deal with us, dad. :P (he’s actually really great with kids, but yeah)
No offense, but 7 kids feels irresponsible. And this is coming from someone who has lots of brothers and sisters.
My dad had 13 brothers and sisters. Of those 14 kids, only two had more than two kids themselves. Those are my cousins. Of all my cousins I have procreated the most with two total kids (and we are done). One of my cousins also has had two kids, not sure if she’s done but probably. There’s time for a few other cousins to get started, but I highly doubt any of them go over two kids each.
We all learned vicariously through our parents that >2 kids is just asking for trouble, and we have discussed such with each other at family reunions through the years. At least in our family!
My brother and I have stopped at 2 kids, my sister may stop at 1 (but may likely have 2, but definitely no more)
Another brother also wishes to stop at 2
The youngest two siblings aren’t ready to have kids yet, but definitely have no interest for quite a while yet
It’s definitely interesting how things balance out!
Also: Anya is 7 and we permit her to use a knife in the kitchen now (she has good, safe knife skills) and she can use a toaster and microwave. I should probably start letting her use the stove with supervision, but does anyone have any ideas for other age-appropriate kitchen skills to have/meals to make?
She regularly makes herself toast for breakfast and she chops up cucumber and bell peppers for snacks!
My husband and I are waiting until next year to see how we feel about having another or letting our son grow up an only child. Both of my mom's pregnancies were fraternal twins so if we do go the sibling route it'll probably be multiples (thanks genetics)
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KalnaurI See Rain . . .Centralia, WARegistered Userregular
My wife and I are each one of three kids, and she comes from a family so large I need a scorecard just to keep track, and my family is so small you could almost count the aunt and uncle pairings on one hand. I feel like between 1-2 is good. I'd like Toby to have a sibling, but by god I'd also like to wait a bit longer.
Speaking of my kid, I placed a load of kid rags on the couch this afternoon, and went back to put a load of towels in the dryer, and when I came back he was sorting the rags neatly into piles based on color, pattern, and texture, so I just let him go for it. Twenty minutes later and my kid of just over two and a half years old has neatly sorted every rag into their own pile. I just gotta say, there's some times where sensory and other issues can be a pain in the ass, but in this case, it was fantastic. The best part was when he was pleased with himself, he'd pat the pile he just successfully placed a rag on. It's the kind of cute only a toddler can summon, I swear.
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BrodyThe WatchThe First ShoreRegistered Userregular
My wife and I agreed a while ago that we figured two would be nice, but if we end up with twins on either attempt we were going to sew/snip/whatever else we can do to make sure we don't end up with more than three.
"I will write your name in the ruin of them. I will paint you across history in the color of their blood."
Our initial thought was one, and that's probably still most likely, but the cute days and the desire to provide a sibling tempt us sometimes. We also would be tempted to adopt for a second child, but boy that's a ton of money and usually a long wait, so the age gap between the kids would be fairly large, so I'm not sure how much this is in the cards for us.
What it really makes me think of is how nice it would be if it was the norm to live in small closely knit communities, like those hippie dippie places in Denmark where people live in what are essentially co-ops, with their own private apartments and share large communal living and kitchen areas. People who want fewer kids can do so and still interact with lots of younger friends' kids, and people who want more can foist them off on friends to act as babysitters. There are people who manage that type of situation in America, but I think it's generally rare, religiously focused, or in low-income situations where all of that is tinged with the stress of the environment.
i brought rex up the coast yesterday on the train for a couple of extra nights at my mum's before the weekend. it's probably an extra hour on a two hour drive, but it was great fun. he was very patient
today we saw some humpbacks from the headland...
and went to an arcade for some games. motogp was hard but he won mario kart with a little help to reach the accelerator
So little Monica starting laughing and it's hilarious.
Her voice is so high but when she laughs it goes low and it kinda sounds like a beavis & butthead laugh. My girlfriend only moved to canada from Ukraine about 5 years ago, so I was surprised she knew B&B but it was her who mentioned it first hehehe
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Edit: well, to be fair, my wife will be doing most of the work. But still, I miss when Sapling was that little.
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I look at babies and I'm like "what in the world was I thinking". I'm so much happier now that she's older and can scream "NO" in my face while trying to cuddle me while telling me she doesn't want cuddles.
I can (most of the time) cope with this. The constant neediness of infancy? I don't know how I survived.
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On the other hand I can't wait for him to get older so we can do stuff together. Looking forward to taking him to zoo's and so on.
Whilst the sleepless nights have been horrible I've actually starting dreading the thought of him sleeping longer at night.
Those early morning snuggle sessions are nice sometimes.
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Then I remember they were at 3 am and I'd have to deal with that on top of a 4 and 2 year old and have to suppress involuntary tears.
I am glad we had 2, but 100% understand anyone that doesn't want to do newborn again.
and then i see her taking care of her babies and the younger kids at daycare and I momentarily, briefly, fleetingly feel the guilt and the 'but what if...'
and then I remember 3am and just. nope.
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There's no way in hell I want another baby. If we ever decide to have another kid we'll adopt a nonbaby.
So I guess we were still using these when he was a year old
Although it does mean I'm pretty house stressed as we'll need a bigger place. But we can't move in the UK until brexit is clearer. Or until we get jobs outside of the UK
The baby itself will be fine
I have no clue whether they can help and whether they are actually good at what they do, but at this point I'm willing to give it a try.
Second baby had colic. Never took a pacifier. Never slept well. Love him to pieces, but he is 10000x the work his sister was.
Don't let the first child lull you into thinking #2 will be at all similar.
I didn't know you two were having another, congrats!
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Our daughter had a cleft palate and really bad reflux, so we couldn't let her lay down/go in the car seat until 30 minutes after she had eaten, or she would spit up. And often would gurgle up a little bit of milk anyways.
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However the pregnancy was a nightmare, took years of trying and treatment, was considered high risk with tons of doctor visits and spiked my wife's blood pressure even afterwards to the point they threatened to keep her there extra time after sending him home. Also she was at her heaviest in a very hot July and August. So no second was/is in our plans because it was a miserable 9 months (and before that thanks to the hormones they had her on).
Her seventh sounds like most typical babies/toddlers to me (from how she describes his sleep patterns/behavior) but apparently her first 6 slept with no issues and she assumed it was her parenting that helped, but no, none of her tricks work with #7 and she has repeatedly said that if #7 had been her firstborn she would have only had the one.
If you have 7 kids, I don't believe you would have stopped with 1.
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My dad definitely regrets having as many kids as he does, but oh well, you gotta deal with us, dad. :P (he’s actually really great with kids, but yeah)
I don’t know anyone quiverfull but I do have several friends who only had children because their religion prescribed it (largely Catholics)
They feel very differently since leaving their religions
My dad had 13 brothers and sisters. Of those 14 kids, only two had more than two kids themselves. Those are my cousins. Of all my cousins I have procreated the most with two total kids (and we are done). One of my cousins also has had two kids, not sure if she’s done but probably. There’s time for a few other cousins to get started, but I highly doubt any of them go over two kids each.
We all learned vicariously through our parents that >2 kids is just asking for trouble, and we have discussed such with each other at family reunions through the years. At least in our family!
My brother and I have stopped at 2 kids, my sister may stop at 1 (but may likely have 2, but definitely no more)
Another brother also wishes to stop at 2
The youngest two siblings aren’t ready to have kids yet, but definitely have no interest for quite a while yet
It’s definitely interesting how things balance out!
Also: Anya is 7 and we permit her to use a knife in the kitchen now (she has good, safe knife skills) and she can use a toaster and microwave. I should probably start letting her use the stove with supervision, but does anyone have any ideas for other age-appropriate kitchen skills to have/meals to make?
She regularly makes herself toast for breakfast and she chops up cucumber and bell peppers for snacks!
Speaking of my kid, I placed a load of kid rags on the couch this afternoon, and went back to put a load of towels in the dryer, and when I came back he was sorting the rags neatly into piles based on color, pattern, and texture, so I just let him go for it. Twenty minutes later and my kid of just over two and a half years old has neatly sorted every rag into their own pile. I just gotta say, there's some times where sensory and other issues can be a pain in the ass, but in this case, it was fantastic. The best part was when he was pleased with himself, he'd pat the pile he just successfully placed a rag on. It's the kind of cute only a toddler can summon, I swear.
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She always talked about having three kids and we've bought a house that could accomodate three children.
However, 7 weeks in with our first baby and she's already taking about only having two :P
We have three embryos on ice at the IVF clinic but they're definitely not all going back in.
today we saw some humpbacks from the headland...
and went to an arcade for some games. motogp was hard but he won mario kart with a little help to reach the accelerator
Her voice is so high but when she laughs it goes low and it kinda sounds like a beavis & butthead laugh. My girlfriend only moved to canada from Ukraine about 5 years ago, so I was surprised she knew B&B but it was her who mentioned it first hehehe