lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
Everything must come in threes, because she's 3 years old, you see.
"You have to eat your cucumbers and your chicken for dinner"
I'll have 3 bites, mommy. Because I'm 3.
"No, you have to eat all 3 things, chicken, rice, and cucumber"
I'll have 3 bites of those 3 things, Mommy. Cause I'm 3 years old
"I might be able to agree with those terms. But then you have to eat some tomatoes"
I can't, mommy! that's 4 things! I'm not 4 years old, I'm 3 years old! Three things for dinner! and then I can get 3 scoops of ice cream because I'm 3!
"That is not how this works! That is not how any of this works"
*three year old cackling with laughter*
Everything must come in threes, because she's 3 years old, you see.
"You have to eat your cucumbers and your chicken for dinner"
I'll have 3 bites, mommy. Because I'm 3.
"No, you have to eat all 3 things, chicken, rice, and cucumber"
I'll have 3 bites of those 3 things, Mommy. Cause I'm 3 years old
"I might be able to agree with those terms. But then you have to eat some tomatoes"
I can't, mommy! that's 4 things! I'm not 4 years old, I'm 3 years old! Three things for dinner! and then I can get 3 scoops of ice cream because I'm 3!
"That is not how this works! That is not how any of this works"
*three year old cackling with laughter*
Lol my Mum would have looked at my Dad and said "David go fetch me three wooden spoons" ha ha ha!
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Do wooden spoons make ice cream taste better?
“I was quick when I came in here, I’m twice as quick now”
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My son has been idolizing another friend at his daycare the last few months and it's been so aggravating. This friend always brings toys to daycare (we don't allow this, and really, the daycare is supposed to not allow this, but they boys parents just don't care I guess?) so every morning and night is filled with a petulant whiney session about how "so and so does a thing so why can't I".
He also keeps telling my son to just sneak the toys in, which is making me furious. He hasn't done it yet, and he tells me every time instead, which warms my heart, but grumble grumble grumble.
I remember one time I had my daughter in a carrier, and I couldn't stand up because my back was protesting. I was on a subway, and missed my stop. My husband didn't notice, and got off at the correct stop.
This was before they got cell service in all of the stations, so figuring out how to meet up again took a bit. Still kind of salty over not being noticed.
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
I'm a full time dad to a one year old and I'm under Doctors orders to not bend over or pick anything up!
Ha, yeah. From 3 months before my daughter was born to about the one year mark I had a herniated disc. We also had a 2-4 year old.
Do those core exercises and prepare to live with pain. I highly recommend one of those rice packs you can microwave or freeze.
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I think I'm going to need some help explaining death to my three year old.
I'm hoping the cat well bounce back, but I'm trying to be prepared.
I think I'm going to need some help explaining death to my three year old.
I'm hoping the cat well bounce back, but I'm trying to be prepared.
What do I do?
Two of our kids' grandparents have already passed, so whenever they see them in pictures and ask who they were, we just tell them it was my mom and mommy's daddy, but they died which means they aren't around anymore so we can see them. They're still a little too young to really understand what that means, but they kind of "get it". Of course, it's probably a bit easier since they never knew the grandparents vs your cat always being around.
So my wife had her first appointment yesterday and today we got a call that's really upsetting her.
Everything seems to be going fine, and the apps we've used have all guessed - via their various methods - that she's just at the beginning of 6 weeks.
They called her early this morning saying that her hCG level is low for 6 weeks, and they need to have her come back in. It was at 700.
We're kind of complete messes balancing the whole hope with potential reality, but these hCG charts are all over the place, and now I'm even calling into question if she's actually at 6 weeks (hey app - how if the "potential conception date" was 6/19, and today is 7/17, how is that 6 weeks?).
Just sharing to get it off my chest. I really have no idea what to even say to her because I'm much more realistic but don't want to upset her further.
This is way more complicated than high school sex ed makes you think it is!
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So my wife had her first appointment yesterday and today we got a call that's really upsetting her.
Everything seems to be going fine, and the apps we've used have all guessed - via their various methods - that she's just at the beginning of 6 weeks.
They called her early this morning saying that her hCG level is low for 6 weeks, and they need to have her come back in. It was at 700.
We're kind of complete messes balancing the whole hope with potential reality, but these hCG charts are all over the place, and now I'm even calling into question if she's actually at 6 weeks (hey app - how if the "potential conception date" was 6/19, and today is 7/17, how is that 6 weeks?).
Just sharing to get it off my chest. I really have no idea what to even say to her because I'm much more realistic but don't want to upset her further.
This is way more complicated than high school sex ed makes you think it is!
The pregnancy date goes from the first day of her last period, not the potential date of conception.
So my wife had her first appointment yesterday and today we got a call that's really upsetting her.
Everything seems to be going fine, and the apps we've used have all guessed - via their various methods - that she's just at the beginning of 6 weeks.
They called her early this morning saying that her hCG level is low for 6 weeks, and they need to have her come back in. It was at 700.
We're kind of complete messes balancing the whole hope with potential reality, but these hCG charts are all over the place, and now I'm even calling into question if she's actually at 6 weeks (hey app - how if the "potential conception date" was 6/19, and today is 7/17, how is that 6 weeks?).
Just sharing to get it off my chest. I really have no idea what to even say to her because I'm much more realistic but don't want to upset her further.
This is way more complicated than high school sex ed makes you think it is!
The pregnancy date goes from the first day of her last period, not the potential date of conception.
That number gave us 6 weeks too. I was more just wondering how when I choose the conception date guesstimate the app does that math.
We’re also kind of curious because the date of her last period was very screwed up too because of the chemical pregnancy last month.
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So my wife had her first appointment yesterday and today we got a call that's really upsetting her.
Everything seems to be going fine, and the apps we've used have all guessed - via their various methods - that she's just at the beginning of 6 weeks.
They called her early this morning saying that her hCG level is low for 6 weeks, and they need to have her come back in. It was at 700.
We're kind of complete messes balancing the whole hope with potential reality, but these hCG charts are all over the place, and now I'm even calling into question if she's actually at 6 weeks (hey app - how if the "potential conception date" was 6/19, and today is 7/17, how is that 6 weeks?).
Just sharing to get it off my chest. I really have no idea what to even say to her because I'm much more realistic but don't want to upset her further.
This is way more complicated than high school sex ed makes you think it is!
Gestational age (which doctors use) is from date of last menstrual period, even though ovulation is ~2 weeks after that. So maybe there is a disconnect from the apps and what your doc calculated. I looked at a chart on wikipedia (because IANAD) and it said an hCG level of 700 is within spec for 5 weeks, only a bit low for 6 weeks, and it's pretty much an exponential growth rate. So I wouldn't worry too much if you're only at 6 weeks along. Just tell the Mrs you love her and support her and that every pregnancy is different.
Even if your period is irregular, they’ll give you a date based on ~2 weeks prior to estimated conception.
That happened to me! I had a period in May 2014, then nothing after that. Based on when I got a positive test my conception date with Niko was ~3-5 July 2014 (this was later verified by the first ultrasound). So the number of weeks was calculated as if I had had a period that ended around June 18th 2014.
Just had our first ever babysitters outside the family (couple of neighbor kids we met, girl and a boy) test drive watching my two big guys while we went out to lunch for an hour. They called three times. Little Man was an angel, but I guess Middle Guy really doesn't take feedback from anyone except me and my wife well, because he locked himself in his bedroom, and then a bathroom, and finally in the corner of the baby's room where he acted like a feral animal towards anyone who came near him (or as I translated it to my wife as I was on the phone, "he went the Full Calvin")
The babysitters luckily didn't run off screaming, but I absolutely would not have blamed them if they had. Middle Guy was nearly crying he was so happy to see my partner and I, and the babysitters did offer to watch them again, so hopefully this gets easier in the future because the hour of near-freedom was amazing
A sad update that I will put behind spoilers as not to be a gigantic downer:
We got the results of the 2nd blood test back, and the numbers are not good. The hGC level didn't even come close to doubling - it rose, but only from 700 to 856. The doctor on the phone asked for one more blood test tomorrow, and told us to expect a miscarriage.
To say we're devastated would be an understatement. We're older (Im 36, she's 34) and feel this is it. My wife is at work but I just keep getting frantic text messages about how upset she is. She has made it very clear she does not want to try anymore, and I'm really hoping that's being said in the heat of the moment and not really how she feels. I don't know what I'd do if it is how she really feels.
This whole thing is just pretty terrible. I'm very thankful to have this board to just get these thoughts out into the world, and appreciate everyone allowing me to do that.
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A sad update that I will put behind spoilers as not to be a gigantic downer:
We got the results of the 2nd blood test back, and the numbers are not good. The hGC level didn't even come close to doubling - it rose, but only from 700 to 856. The doctor on the phone asked for one more blood test tomorrow, and told us to expect a miscarriage.
To say we're devastated would be an understatement. We're older (Im 36, she's 34) and feel this is it. My wife is at work but I just keep getting frantic text messages about how upset she is. She has made it very clear she does not want to try anymore, and I'm really hoping that's being said in the heat of the moment and not really how she feels. I don't know what I'd do if it is how she really feels.
This whole thing is just pretty terrible. I'm very thankful to have this board to just get these thoughts out into the world, and appreciate everyone allowing me to do that.
Man, I'm so sorry to hear that man.
"I will write your name in the ruin of them. I will paint you across history in the color of their blood."
A sad update that I will put behind spoilers as not to be a gigantic downer:
We got the results of the 2nd blood test back, and the numbers are not good. The hGC level didn't even come close to doubling - it rose, but only from 700 to 856. The doctor on the phone asked for one more blood test tomorrow, and told us to expect a miscarriage.
To say we're devastated would be an understatement. We're older (Im 36, she's 34) and feel this is it. My wife is at work but I just keep getting frantic text messages about how upset she is. She has made it very clear she does not want to try anymore, and I'm really hoping that's being said in the heat of the moment and not really how she feels. I don't know what I'd do if it is how she really feels.
This whole thing is just pretty terrible. I'm very thankful to have this board to just get these thoughts out into the world, and appreciate everyone allowing me to do that.
Sorry, man. That sucks, I know.
How many times has this happened/how long have you been trying? I say this only because it took us 3 years, and at least 3 miscarriages (that we know of) before we had our first kid. We were very nearly at that point of giving up, and had even started talking to adoption agencies when Mallory finally came along. It just takes that one time to finally stick, but believe me I know how hard it can be to get to that time. And your wife at 34 is definitely not that old for kids.
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At 34, there is still plenty of juice left for making babies, but also you guys are in a window where the chances of another miscarriage are higher, and that might just be a lot for wife to try and handle.
"I will write your name in the ruin of them. I will paint you across history in the color of their blood."
My husband and I are the youngest of the parents in our parent group, and I had my youngest at 35. I had a scare with him, too (bleeding during the first trimester), and wish you the best.
If that's all there is my friends, then let's keep dancing
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KalnaurI See Rain . . .Centralia, WARegistered Userregular
When we had our kiddo the wife was 34, and I was 37. He's almost 3 now, and there were numerous complications, including what was suspected to be an unknown miscarriage directly before him, and my wife's blood pressure issues keeping her way to close to pre-eclampsia for comfort during basically the entire pregnancy. She had a specialist (apparently one of the best in his field) to keep her blood pressure halfway reasonable, and we still had to have him delivered before the due date via c-section because he just wasn't responding at one point (too much or too little blood is no bueno). He was small for gestational age, but fantastic. And he continues to be.
These are problems that can come about, and sometimes you can make it through, and sometimes not. It's also important to remember that most pregnancy knowledge is cribbed from, like, over four centuries ago? Modern research mainly says that the whole "kids at 35 or GTFO" is outdated, provided you can afford modern care, though yes, miscarriage can increase.
Now, I'm not a doctor, so do your own research and talk to doctors because health issues such as high blood pressure or diabetes can cause more wrinkles and require special care to nudge the kiddo in the right direction.
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lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
I was also 34 when we had our daughter, now 3.5 years old.
I'm so sorry that you guys are going through this, and this is why we're here. Please give your wife our best.
Not to raise hopes, but a friend of mine had the hormone tests stall out at around 6 weeks as well, the numbers just weren't budging. She's now at 21 weeks and everything looks great. So anything can happen.
My wife was 35 for daughter and 38 for son. She wanted vaginal but it wasn't in the cards for either one. Daughter was emergency csec after many hours of labor, son was planned csec due to beach position. It took us a long time of trying for both of them (we started on second about a year after first).
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Modern research mainly says that the whole "kids at 35 or GTFO" is outdated, provided you can afford modern care, though yes, miscarriage can increase.
Risk of miscarriage increases in the 30s, before 35 the average risk of miscarriage is 10%, after 35 it's 45%.
This doesn't mean the risk jumps on your 35th birthday, it's a gradual increase and that "over 35" group includes all premenopausal women so that's a long window.
There are other risk factors associated with an older mother, but they're much lower than most folks think. At 35 the risk of Down Syndrome is much higher than at 25, but it's still 1 in 350.
Baby’s napping/feeding schedule has shifted recently. Older kid is not amused. Kindergarten starts up next month. That’ll be a welcome shift for everyone I think. Summer has gotten boring now that we are in the oppressive heat portion.
Here ends my inconsistently timed update.
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So today is Peanuts birthday. Had his party Thur and follow up family festivities Friday.
Seeing his face when he realized I was leaving (mixture of sad/upset and a tiny hesitant bye)
Still makes me cry when I think about it.
But!!! I’ll see him in 2 weeks so.. that is what is making me keep chugging along.
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"You have to eat your cucumbers and your chicken for dinner"
I'll have 3 bites, mommy. Because I'm 3.
"No, you have to eat all 3 things, chicken, rice, and cucumber"
I'll have 3 bites of those 3 things, Mommy. Cause I'm 3 years old
"I might be able to agree with those terms. But then you have to eat some tomatoes"
I can't, mommy! that's 4 things! I'm not 4 years old, I'm 3 years old! Three things for dinner! and then I can get 3 scoops of ice cream because I'm 3!
"That is not how this works! That is not how any of this works"
*three year old cackling with laughter*
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"Dad! DAD! Grayson said Tupac is scary but it wasn't even Tupac! TUPAC SHAKUR!"
Kids, eh?
Lol my Mum would have looked at my Dad and said "David go fetch me three wooden spoons" ha ha ha!
-Indiana Solo, runner of blades
I'm a full time dad to a one year old and I'm under Doctors orders to not bend over or pick anything up!
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
yeah I immediately managed to hurt my back as soon as I had my kid
although I think for me it was actually the act of picking the kid up and down that caused the injury
i'm too damn inflexible - I can pretty much sit in a chair, stand up, and walk
anything else that requires more flexibility leaves me sore for a week
He also keeps telling my son to just sneak the toys in, which is making me furious. He hasn't done it yet, and he tells me every time instead, which warms my heart, but grumble grumble grumble.
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This was before they got cell service in all of the stations, so figuring out how to meet up again took a bit. Still kind of salty over not being noticed.
whoa. It looks like they are doing everything I wanted them to do in the movie.
(in particular, the second picture there)
yeah I'm seriously considering picking this up just to have something weird I can eventually give to my kid
what
the
fuck
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I asked Anya why she looked sad and she replied ‘I didn’t want to get out of bed this morning’
Yeah, me neither, kiddo.
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Is it just Dora being obviously insane?
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I don't know, but it's fucking incredible
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Ha, yeah. From 3 months before my daughter was born to about the one year mark I had a herniated disc. We also had a 2-4 year old.
Do those core exercises and prepare to live with pain. I highly recommend one of those rice packs you can microwave or freeze.
I'm hoping the cat well bounce back, but I'm trying to be prepared.
What do I do?
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Two of our kids' grandparents have already passed, so whenever they see them in pictures and ask who they were, we just tell them it was my mom and mommy's daddy, but they died which means they aren't around anymore so we can see them. They're still a little too young to really understand what that means, but they kind of "get it". Of course, it's probably a bit easier since they never knew the grandparents vs your cat always being around.
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Everything seems to be going fine, and the apps we've used have all guessed - via their various methods - that she's just at the beginning of 6 weeks.
They called her early this morning saying that her hCG level is low for 6 weeks, and they need to have her come back in. It was at 700.
We're kind of complete messes balancing the whole hope with potential reality, but these hCG charts are all over the place, and now I'm even calling into question if she's actually at 6 weeks (hey app - how if the "potential conception date" was 6/19, and today is 7/17, how is that 6 weeks?).
Just sharing to get it off my chest. I really have no idea what to even say to her because I'm much more realistic but don't want to upset her further.
This is way more complicated than high school sex ed makes you think it is!
The pregnancy date goes from the first day of her last period, not the potential date of conception.
PSN/Steam/NNID: SyphonBlue | BNet: SyphonBlue#1126
That number gave us 6 weeks too. I was more just wondering how when I choose the conception date guesstimate the app does that math.
We’re also kind of curious because the date of her last period was very screwed up too because of the chemical pregnancy last month.
Gestational age (which doctors use) is from date of last menstrual period, even though ovulation is ~2 weeks after that. So maybe there is a disconnect from the apps and what your doc calculated. I looked at a chart on wikipedia (because IANAD) and it said an hCG level of 700 is within spec for 5 weeks, only a bit low for 6 weeks, and it's pretty much an exponential growth rate. So I wouldn't worry too much if you're only at 6 weeks along. Just tell the Mrs you love her and support her and that every pregnancy is different.
That happened to me! I had a period in May 2014, then nothing after that. Based on when I got a positive test my conception date with Niko was ~3-5 July 2014 (this was later verified by the first ultrasound). So the number of weeks was calculated as if I had had a period that ended around June 18th 2014.
The babysitters luckily didn't run off screaming, but I absolutely would not have blamed them if they had. Middle Guy was nearly crying he was so happy to see my partner and I, and the babysitters did offer to watch them again, so hopefully this gets easier in the future because the hour of near-freedom was amazing
To say we're devastated would be an understatement. We're older (Im 36, she's 34) and feel this is it. My wife is at work but I just keep getting frantic text messages about how upset she is. She has made it very clear she does not want to try anymore, and I'm really hoping that's being said in the heat of the moment and not really how she feels. I don't know what I'd do if it is how she really feels.
This whole thing is just pretty terrible. I'm very thankful to have this board to just get these thoughts out into the world, and appreciate everyone allowing me to do that.
Man, I'm so sorry to hear that man.
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Steam: Korvalain
Sorry, man. That sucks, I know.
How many times has this happened/how long have you been trying? I say this only because it took us 3 years, and at least 3 miscarriages (that we know of) before we had our first kid. We were very nearly at that point of giving up, and had even started talking to adoption agencies when Mallory finally came along. It just takes that one time to finally stick, but believe me I know how hard it can be to get to that time. And your wife at 34 is definitely not that old for kids.
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The Monster Baru Cormorant - Seth Dickinson
Steam: Korvalain
These are problems that can come about, and sometimes you can make it through, and sometimes not. It's also important to remember that most pregnancy knowledge is cribbed from, like, over four centuries ago? Modern research mainly says that the whole "kids at 35 or GTFO" is outdated, provided you can afford modern care, though yes, miscarriage can increase.
Now, I'm not a doctor, so do your own research and talk to doctors because health issues such as high blood pressure or diabetes can cause more wrinkles and require special care to nudge the kiddo in the right direction.
I'm so sorry that you guys are going through this, and this is why we're here. Please give your wife our best.
Not to raise hopes, but a friend of mine had the hormone tests stall out at around 6 weeks as well, the numbers just weren't budging. She's now at 21 weeks and everything looks great. So anything can happen.
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Risk of miscarriage increases in the 30s, before 35 the average risk of miscarriage is 10%, after 35 it's 45%.
This doesn't mean the risk jumps on your 35th birthday, it's a gradual increase and that "over 35" group includes all premenopausal women so that's a long window.
There are other risk factors associated with an older mother, but they're much lower than most folks think. At 35 the risk of Down Syndrome is much higher than at 25, but it's still 1 in 350.
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
Here ends my inconsistently timed update.
Seeing his face when he realized I was leaving (mixture of sad/upset and a tiny hesitant bye)
Still makes me cry when I think about it.
But!!! I’ll see him in 2 weeks so.. that is what is making me keep chugging along.
Now for some good time!