My mother passed away when I was 3-4. Less than a year later, my father married another lady. Despite my suspicions (I was raised on fairytails with 'evil' stepmothers), they got together because of love, and are still together.
We don't talk about my mother, nor do we contact her relatives, whom I've been told were very close to us before my mother passed away.
Now, over 20 years later, I no next to nothing about her, and have never worked up the courage to ask my father about her, in case I upset him. It's gotten to the point as if she doesn't exist. I'm angry at my mom for 'stealing' my father, my father for not telling me about my mother, and myself for not bringing up the nerve to question his decision to ignore her. As far as I can tell, their marriage was a happy one, and there were no issues.
I just don't know why he dropped her memory, unlike everyone else who knew her.
My mother passed away when I was 3-4. Less than a year later, my father married another lady. Despite my suspicions (I was raised on fairytails with 'evil' stepmothers), they got together because of love, and are still together.
We don't talk about my mother, nor do we contact her relatives, whom I've been told were very close to us before my mother passed away.
Now, over 20 years later, I no next to nothing about her, and have never worked up the courage to ask my father about her, in case I upset him. It's gotten to the point as if she doesn't exist. I'm angry at my mom for 'stealing' my father, my father for not telling me about my mother, and myself for not bringing up the nerve to question his decision to ignore her. As far as I can tell, their marriage was a happy one, and there were no issues.
I just don't know why he dropped her memory, unlike everyone else who knew her.
Spoiling this, because I would hate to drop opinions or thoughts on something so personal, without their permission to be exposed to it.
I could see losing a spouse crushing a person permanently, so maybe he's been able to cope because of it. He might think that you're all the memory of her that he needs, or at times can bear.
My mother passed away when I was 3-4. Less than a year later, my father married another lady. Despite my suspicions (I was raised on fairytails with 'evil' stepmothers), they got together because of love, and are still together.
We don't talk about my mother, nor do we contact her relatives, whom I've been told were very close to us before my mother passed away.
Now, over 20 years later, I no next to nothing about her, and have never worked up the courage to ask my father about her, in case I upset him. It's gotten to the point as if she doesn't exist. I'm angry at my mom for 'stealing' my father, my father for not telling me about my mother, and myself for not bringing up the nerve to question his decision to ignore her. As far as I can tell, their marriage was a happy one, and there were no issues.
I just don't know why he dropped her memory, unlike everyone else who knew her.
Spoiling this, because I would hate to drop opinions or thoughts on something so personal, without their permission to be exposed to it.
I could see losing a spouse crushing a person permanently, so maybe he's been able to cope because of it. He might think that you're all the memory of her that he needs, or at times can bear.
Oh absolutely, that's probably why. My father is a man who never expresses any emotions of sadness. I've never seen him cry, get drunk, or act despondent about anything. He's quite possibly the most emotionally stable of the family. I'm terrified that if I say something, his facade will crack and I'll just make him feel miserable.
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How topical. My wife's aunt just died.
I didn't really know her, nor did my wife, particularly, but it will be hard for her mother and family back in Canada.
In a way it is a bit of a relief, as she had suffered health difficulties all her life, back to when all the siblings were children, which had only got worse in recent years.
It was particularly defvestating because in adult life, she was too often exploited and taken advantage of by people more interested in their own well-being than hers, and she suffered because of it. Her enormous kindness and gentle nature were used against her, and her tale is marked by too much suffocation of potential, health, and happiness.
That said, she was loved and cared for by her family throughout, and was never absent or removed from those who loved her. It's a sad end to a life filled with too much tragedy, but she was, until the end, a person blessed with kindness in her life, both as a giver and a recipient. There are worse things.
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I also hope that I will have loved enough.
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We don't talk about my mother, nor do we contact her relatives, whom I've been told were very close to us before my mother passed away.
Now, over 20 years later, I no next to nothing about her, and have never worked up the courage to ask my father about her, in case I upset him. It's gotten to the point as if she doesn't exist. I'm angry at my mom for 'stealing' my father, my father for not telling me about my mother, and myself for not bringing up the nerve to question his decision to ignore her. As far as I can tell, their marriage was a happy one, and there were no issues.
I just don't know why he dropped her memory, unlike everyone else who knew her.
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Most of all I wanna be put on a Viking funeral boat, pushed out to sea and set on fire with ACDC's Big Balls blaring in the background
Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better
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Spoiling this, because I would hate to drop opinions or thoughts on something so personal, without their permission to be exposed to it.
Oh absolutely, that's probably why. My father is a man who never expresses any emotions of sadness. I've never seen him cry, get drunk, or act despondent about anything. He's quite possibly the most emotionally stable of the family. I'm terrified that if I say something, his facade will crack and I'll just make him feel miserable.
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Dear Satan.....
I didn't really know her, nor did my wife, particularly, but it will be hard for her mother and family back in Canada.
In a way it is a bit of a relief, as she had suffered health difficulties all her life, back to when all the siblings were children, which had only got worse in recent years.
It was particularly defvestating because in adult life, she was too often exploited and taken advantage of by people more interested in their own well-being than hers, and she suffered because of it. Her enormous kindness and gentle nature were used against her, and her tale is marked by too much suffocation of potential, health, and happiness.
That said, she was loved and cared for by her family throughout, and was never absent or removed from those who loved her. It's a sad end to a life filled with too much tragedy, but she was, until the end, a person blessed with kindness in her life, both as a giver and a recipient. There are worse things.
not right now. but eventually.
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No way, man. I'd do anything to live for forever.
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he is from a strict scottish family who discouraged showing emotion, the polar opposite of mums family who all but raised me when she died
now my gramgrams in her 86th year, going blind and getting depressed since she lost grandad in 2011
making the most of the time I still have with her
Story of my life.
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