She doesn't make me unhappy. I'm happier now than I've been for years. But I do miss her terribly. If she calls, or I call her, it makes my day to hear her voice.
Rationally, you're right. But I feel so very strongly about her, and it's very hard to think about letting go because when I do see her, we are so great and it's the easiest thing in the world for us to be together.
Everyone's different, but when I found myself in a somewhat similar situation I asked myself a few tough questions.
- Are both of us actually ready and willing to be in a committed relationship and make it work?
- If not, what would have to happen for that to become the case?
- Is that thing realistic and are we both willing/able to take steps toward it or at least come up with a plan to move forward?
- If one or both of us are unwilling or unable to take those steps, am I willing to remain in a relationship that, as of this moment, has no future?
Basically, you have to decide if you're sacrificing your long-term happiness for this short-term happiness, and if you are, is it worth it? If you think it is, ride that train till it stops (or comes off the rails). But if you answer those questions honestly and decide that you aren't happy with the situation as a whole (where it is now, where it's going, how you feel when you aren't around her/talking to her, etc.) then it's in your own best interest to take steps to fix it, whatever that means in your situation.
I had 4 cookies so now I'm too full for dinner. I'm still incredibly chuffed. I don't have to write those essays again!
Wait, wait, wait. Do you mean to tell me that my parents were telling the truth about appetite spoiling? What the hell?
I think it might be an old person thing. It's never happened to me before, and I turned 31 very recently. Nobody told me this was a side effect of my 30s.
She doesn't make me unhappy. I'm happier now than I've been for years. But I do miss her terribly. If she calls, or I call her, it makes my day to hear her voice.
Rationally, you're right. But I feel so very strongly about her, and it's very hard to think about letting go because when I do see her, we are so great and it's the easiest thing in the world for us to be together.
Everyone's different, but when I found myself in a somewhat similar situation I asked myself a few tough questions.
- Are both of us actually ready and willing to be in a committed relationship and make it work?
- If not, what would have to happen for that to become the case?
- Is that thing realistic and are we both willing/able to take steps toward it or at least come up with a plan to move forward?
- If one or both of us are unwilling or unable to take those steps, am I willing to remain in a relationship that, as of this moment, has no future?
Basically, you have to decide if you're sacrificing your long-term happiness for this short-term happiness, and if you are, is it worth it? If you think it is, ride that train till it stops (or comes off the rails). But if you answer those questions honestly and decide that you aren't happy with the situation as a whole (where it is now, where it's going, how you feel when you aren't around her/talking to her, etc.) then it's in your own best interest to take steps to fix it, whatever that means in your situation.
I had 4 cookies so now I'm too full for dinner. I'm still incredibly chuffed. I don't have to write those essays again!
Wait, wait, wait. Do you mean to tell me that my parents were telling the truth about appetite spoiling? What the hell?
I think it might be an old person thing. It's never happened to me before, and I turned 31 very recently. Nobody told me this was a side effect of my 30s.
I'm getting close to that myself. I'll have to keep this in mind and cherish my remaining days of indiscriminate cookieing while I still can.
Aw butts. I don't think cute, barista lady works at the shop anymore and now I'm kinda bummed. Not so much because she was totally cute but I got to where I really enjoyed our conversations.
Aw butts. I don't think cute, barista lady works at the shop anymore and now I'm kinda bummed. Not so much because she was totally cute but I got to where I really enjoyed our conversations.
It's a really good feeling when you know a person at a place you visit often. I had a coffee shop I visited back in college that I went to often enough that the barista knew my usual order and would start it as soon as I came in, without my having to place it and we'd usually chat a bit. It was really nice.
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Aw butts. I don't think cute, barista lady works at the shop anymore and now I'm kinda bummed. Not so much because she was totally cute but I got to where I really enjoyed our conversations.
This is a good thing though
Like, before you couldn't ask her out, because that's weird and we all know it
But now?
If you see that girl on the street, you've got a good enough reason to say hi, and if she remembers you and you start talking, well you've just set yourself up to ask her out
This Sunday will be all about romance of the man-ape variety. My group's next hike is through a bunch of the areas used for the 1968 Planet of the Apes sets.
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It's snowing like mad out and my college is recessed into the woods so it's closed for the day, but my boyfriend's is staying open since it's in the town proper and more accessible
*shakes fist* it should be a universal rule that nothing should get in the way of snow-day cuddles damn it
I asked my date if she was doing anything Sunday without really thinking of the day's significance. When have I paid attention to Valentine's Day before? She's working anyway though, so I'll wish her a happy "sorry we work weird hours and have a hard time seeing each other" day.
A fry up, a pizza, and some cheesecake. I miss those so much.
I'm heading back to a place I used to live this weekend to see people I love very much and I'm so excited. I have also reached out to an old friend from there who had to stop talking to me because his feelings were too strong to spend time with me any more. This was 2 years ago and losing him was so painful, I really hope I see him on my night out. I would kill to have friends like my Dorset ones here.
Man, two really good friends broke from our circle broke up around October. The breakup was thanfully amicable and there was no drama.
Now another common friend has started dating one of them, and has been for the past five weeks. They're not hiding it and he talked to the ex before hand, but man, that seems, way too soon. Specially since all three of them constantly hung out, went on trips together, etc.
Like if it was me, I couldn't help but wonder how long this had been brewing for.
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I hope you learned you lesson. Never do coursework until the last second.
Satans..... hints.....
I'm really good at bullshitting and speed hunting supporting studies.
Biology I've started studying now, I can't bullshit a biology exam.
It also sucks to be told 'don't worry, it doesn't actually mean anything!' Then why fucking do it?
For real I'm glad you're enjoying it more now!
This is the problem, it hasn't failed me yet!
Thanks Liiya, I really am now and I'm glad I stuck with it. I'm eating cookies to celebrate.
Edit: I'm really bad at sneaky class posting.
Everyone's different, but when I found myself in a somewhat similar situation I asked myself a few tough questions.
- Are both of us actually ready and willing to be in a committed relationship and make it work?
- If not, what would have to happen for that to become the case?
- Is that thing realistic and are we both willing/able to take steps toward it or at least come up with a plan to move forward?
- If one or both of us are unwilling or unable to take those steps, am I willing to remain in a relationship that, as of this moment, has no future?
Basically, you have to decide if you're sacrificing your long-term happiness for this short-term happiness, and if you are, is it worth it? If you think it is, ride that train till it stops (or comes off the rails). But if you answer those questions honestly and decide that you aren't happy with the situation as a whole (where it is now, where it's going, how you feel when you aren't around her/talking to her, etc.) then it's in your own best interest to take steps to fix it, whatever that means in your situation.
but with the gooder words
Fingers or toes?
Both, hopefully!
Wait, wait, wait. Do you mean to tell me that my parents were telling the truth about appetite spoiling? What the hell?
I think it might be an old person thing. It's never happened to me before, and I turned 31 very recently. Nobody told me this was a side effect of my 30s.
I guess I have to give this some serious thought
I'm getting close to that myself. I'll have to keep this in mind and cherish my remaining days of indiscriminate cookieing while I still can.
Really
Interested in if I have plans for valentines day
crying and masturbation
if she ever mentions al capone or chicago
run
It's a really good feeling when you know a person at a place you visit often. I had a coffee shop I visited back in college that I went to often enough that the barista knew my usual order and would start it as soon as I came in, without my having to place it and we'd usually chat a bit. It was really nice.
This is a good thing though
Like, before you couldn't ask her out, because that's weird and we all know it
But now?
If you see that girl on the street, you've got a good enough reason to say hi, and if she remembers you and you start talking, well you've just set yourself up to ask her out
Straight bustin'
*shakes fist* it should be a universal rule that nothing should get in the way of snow-day cuddles damn it
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
nuts.
Also I'm still talking to cute tinder guy! Hopefully it keeps going well I like him
This was my motto in high school. I was homeschooled, so I had more leeway to live by this. Unfortunately, I only graduated with a 2.4 GPA.
I can teach you my method for a small fee.
My friend said "I bet they had sex on that"
I was like, who cares, it's free and you can wipe leather down
I'm heading back to a place I used to live this weekend to see people I love very much and I'm so excited. I have also reached out to an old friend from there who had to stop talking to me because his feelings were too strong to spend time with me any more. This was 2 years ago and losing him was so painful, I really hope I see him on my night out. I would kill to have friends like my Dorset ones here.
Now another common friend has started dating one of them, and has been for the past five weeks. They're not hiding it and he talked to the ex before hand, but man, that seems, way too soon. Specially since all three of them constantly hung out, went on trips together, etc.
Like if it was me, I couldn't help but wonder how long this had been brewing for.