And beyond just being generally clueless about that sort of thing I'm generally too shy and too guarded to ever feel comfortable expressing those kinds of feelings. What if I do something that outs me? Plus I feel like I can't take it seriously when I'm in guymode either because their interest is based on their gendered expectations and what they think they see but that's a false face I've presented to the world so I keep everyone at arm's length. Letting anyone in raises my anxiety level and flirting definitely makes me feel kind of vulnerable.
My awareness of flirting tends to be super delayed. I'll be thinking back over a social situation weeks or even months later and go "Oooooh... dammit!"
Partly in reaction to that, when I actually reveal that I'm interested in someone I tend to be very blunt and straightforward about it. The last thing I want is for anyone to doubt where they stand with me. But I can be kind of intimidating in person, and I don't want to freak anybody out by being subtle as a bulldozer, especially if I make them think that they're obligated to respond with similar fervor. I just don't have the instincts to navigate through a subtler approach, so mostly what I do is just shut up and keep it to myself until it's too late to do anything.
I'm told by friends who I trust to accurately measure my behavior that I can be super charming... with people who I don't perceive as viable romantic partners. Abraham Lincoln was apparently just like that - when he met Mary Todd, she was engaged to another man, and Abe was like "whew, no pressure" so he could be like everybody's favorite guy at the party.
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social media has made me weary with strangers flirting. i feel like i need a rapport with someone ive flirted with. i have to have ate food and read something, and then discussed something beginning to end with a person. a lot of people on twitter are like *Catgirl Noise* Pet me!!!
no, man. people need to work on sensible boundaries. stop leading off with flirting just talk like a regular ass person, or like, i dont know, try to come up with an approximation of that. theres also perception, and what people think youre about just because you talk about, or work on specific things. it can lead to a very mistaken perception that you have a way about you, that you most certainly don't.
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No, not that. For bringing this whole fucking mess up.
I’m still so burned after two relationships that had their roots here on the forums, @Gatsby and someone else (I’m sorry. I know you’re angry with me for mentioning it. I can’t pretend it didn’t happen. It fucked us both up.) and I really, really didn’t want to bring forum shipping up and crushes and everything. I didn’t want this. Fuck.
Easy, Hyper. You haven't hurt anybody. Sometimes folks venture into potentially uncomfortable territory without meaning to. It happens all the time. I've done it plenty of times.
Tube stepped in pretty early, before any harm was done, 'cause he's real good at his job.
Stuff like that happens pretty regularly around here, because people can't predict the future and know how everyone around them is gonna respond to everything we say and do.
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Haha! If I could ingest caffeine and get normal human benefits out of it, I would totally write up that kind of contract. As it is, it doesn't really make me feel any more awake in the moment, but then I have trouble sleeping at night. *jazz hands*
Luckily I don't have to drive him anywhere at 5am, but he's not very good at moving around quietly, and is also recovering from pneumonia, so he usually wakes me up as he clomps and coughs around in the kitchen. :rotate: I'm super proud of him though. He's really found work that he's motivated to do, and he's super diligent about getting up stupid early and making his breakfast and lunch, and getting to bed at a reasonable hour in the evening.
I'm mad at myself for not being reflective about this because it seems like it's something significant that's worth observing with solemnity/celebration instead of no thought at all
probably this weekend I should sit down and write a contemplative essay about it
I guess I'm also never really going to get the photos I wanted of me before the surgery, since I am not good at selfies and husband doesn't want to talk about it and has never wanted to take photos of me (we legit fight about this sometimes: he doesn't like being photographed and is just sort of uncomfortable with it all; I love having nice photos of myself and wish someone would take the time to try a bunch of photos so I actually looked good in one or two of them. To me, photographing him is a way of expressing my affection and admiration for his looks, so when he completely won't reciprocate, I feel irrationally slighted).
idk
complex feelings (o no wait it's me so actually pretty much just anger that I let out really unproductively last night, whoops)
I'm going to obsess about roleplaying games instead I think
Yeah, I feel the same way as your husband about photos of myself (I'd divorce Mori if he kept trying to take photos of me) BUT if I knew my partner wanted photos, I'd take them, because that'd be the right and nice thing to do for them. I hope your husband can get over himself and take photos of you before your surgery! And I hope your surgery goes well!
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@credeiki I've found a good method is to get sticky tack stuff and put your phone on a mirror or something and set the photo timer to like 5-10 seconds
I wasn't contemplative or particularly celebrative over my GRS.
I can't really say I gave it more thought than I did the surgery to fix my underbite. It was just like, a thing to do.
actually i do not need to be this personally disclosive on the internet all the time
everything should be fine and I will see if I can take selfies in my small dark studio apartment
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Eventually once it gets long enough gravity will take over.
For whatever reason gravity has no interest in my hair until it's much of the way down my back. Like so much of me, it's not what I wanted but it's what I've got.
And it seems like all is dying, and would leave the world to mourn
Eventually once it gets long enough gravity will take over.
For whatever reason gravity has no interest in my hair until it's much of the way down my back. Like so much of me, it's not what I wanted but it's what I've got.
Yeah, it is very... Unpredictable. Like this is the most managed it's been in a while, especially with nothing in it.
No, not that. For bringing this whole fucking mess up.
I’m still so burned after two relationships that had their roots here on the forums, Gatsby and someone else (I’m sorry. I know you’re angry with me for mentioning it. I can’t pretend it didn’t happen. It fucked us both up.) and I really, really didn’t want to bring forum shipping up and crushes and everything. I didn’t want this. Fuck.
My advice would be to keep this off the forums if possible and certainly to not @ Gatsby when talking about it. If I were them, that would make me very uncomfortable. You're certainly not the only person that this has come up with, but it isn't fair to either party or the community at large to bring up relationship grievances on here
Gotta say the hair looks good in that pic. It's got a very 40s businesswoman look to it - all swept back but you can still see the natural waves. It goes exceptionally well with that gorgeous neck adornment you have going on there.
I'm sorry...somewhere between now and a few days ago when I last post I appear to have lost the ability to cogitate in an ordered and rational way :rotate:
It's all saltwater these days:
Ocean, tears and heartbreak soup
Half alive in a whitecap foam
Half in love with a white half moon
Gotta say the hair looks good in that pic. It's got a very 40s businesswoman look to it - all swept back but you can still see the natural waves. It goes exceptionally well with that gorgeous neck adornment you have going on there.
I'm sorry...somewhere between now and a few days ago when I last post I appear to have lost the ability to cogitate in an ordered and rational way :rotate:
I'll take it!
I'm glad some folks like the waves because they're here to stay haha
I feel like farts today. Finished my round of interviews so I get to not wear a suit for a few days though, thank fuck.
BUT tomorrow I am going to the opera and getting a special makeover for the occasion so I shall post a selfie, mark your calendars and such!
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edited February 2018
Sorry you're farty, Rainfall.
I want you to know you're cool as hell and having to dress in suits and stuff you may hate doesn't dull your shine. Keep kicking ass and doing cool hair stuff I can't pull off
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Doing my physical for the first time in 2 years. Looking forward to checking out my stats! I wonder if I have enough CON to get that sweet Feat I’ve been eyeing!
Doing my physical for the first time in 2 years. Looking forward to checking out my stats! I wonder if I have enough CON to get that sweet Feat I’ve been eyeing!
im considering a move to ann arbors queer community, i got a pal i know there whos in college, and some artists i wanna work with. shits looking slightly better, with the books release coming up im looking at where to go that makes sense. its weird being able to fantasize about something better? paying debts, dentist visits, really sick, indulgent shit
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Twitch (I stream most days of the week)
Twitter (mean leftist discourse)
Partly in reaction to that, when I actually reveal that I'm interested in someone I tend to be very blunt and straightforward about it. The last thing I want is for anyone to doubt where they stand with me. But I can be kind of intimidating in person, and I don't want to freak anybody out by being subtle as a bulldozer, especially if I make them think that they're obligated to respond with similar fervor. I just don't have the instincts to navigate through a subtler approach, so mostly what I do is just shut up and keep it to myself until it's too late to do anything.
I'm told by friends who I trust to accurately measure my behavior that I can be super charming... with people who I don't perceive as viable romantic partners. Abraham Lincoln was apparently just like that - when he met Mary Todd, she was engaged to another man, and Abe was like "whew, no pressure" so he could be like everybody's favorite guy at the party.
Including the marriages and children
Especially the marriages and children
https://xkcd.com/592/
How very tsundere of you
He says, sliding his personal phone number across the table with a wink
no, man. people need to work on sensible boundaries. stop leading off with flirting just talk like a regular ass person, or like, i dont know, try to come up with an approximation of that. theres also perception, and what people think youre about just because you talk about, or work on specific things. it can lead to a very mistaken perception that you have a way about you, that you most certainly don't.
Ship me.
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edit: she keeps sending emojis as well. i dont think seeing a strangers genitals is gonna be made any better by slapping a few hearts on it!
I’m still so burned after two relationships that had their roots here on the forums, @Gatsby and someone else (I’m sorry. I know you’re angry with me for mentioning it. I can’t pretend it didn’t happen. It fucked us both up.) and I really, really didn’t want to bring forum shipping up and crushes and everything. I didn’t want this. Fuck.
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Tube stepped in pretty early, before any harm was done, 'cause he's real good at his job.
Stuff like that happens pretty regularly around here, because people can't predict the future and know how everyone around them is gonna respond to everything we say and do.
How's everyone's day going?
*drags self to the shower*
Luckily I don't have to drive him anywhere at 5am, but he's not very good at moving around quietly, and is also recovering from pneumonia, so he usually wakes me up as he clomps and coughs around in the kitchen. :rotate: I'm super proud of him though. He's really found work that he's motivated to do, and he's super diligent about getting up stupid early and making his breakfast and lunch, and getting to bed at a reasonable hour in the evening.
I'm mad at myself for not being reflective about this because it seems like it's something significant that's worth observing with solemnity/celebration instead of no thought at all
probably this weekend I should sit down and write a contemplative essay about it
I guess I'm also never really going to get the photos I wanted of me before the surgery, since I am not good at selfies and husband doesn't want to talk about it and has never wanted to take photos of me (we legit fight about this sometimes: he doesn't like being photographed and is just sort of uncomfortable with it all; I love having nice photos of myself and wish someone would take the time to try a bunch of photos so I actually looked good in one or two of them. To me, photographing him is a way of expressing my affection and admiration for his looks, so when he completely won't reciprocate, I feel irrationally slighted).
idk
complex feelings (o no wait it's me so actually pretty much just anger that I let out really unproductively last night, whoops)
I'm going to obsess about roleplaying games instead I think
Pose, shoot, eventually you will like one!
Best of luck on surgery!!
I can't really say I gave it more thought than I did the surgery to fix my underbite. It was just like, a thing to do.
everything should be fine and I will see if I can take selfies in my small dark studio apartment
Eventually once it gets long enough gravity will take over.
For whatever reason gravity has no interest in my hair until it's much of the way down my back. Like so much of me, it's not what I wanted but it's what I've got.
@Dubh
GASP
Yeah, it is very... Unpredictable. Like this is the most managed it's been in a while, especially with nothing in it.
Hair is weird. Bodies are weird.
My advice would be to keep this off the forums if possible and certainly to not @ Gatsby when talking about it. If I were them, that would make me very uncomfortable. You're certainly not the only person that this has come up with, but it isn't fair to either party or the community at large to bring up relationship grievances on here
Gotta say the hair looks good in that pic. It's got a very 40s businesswoman look to it - all swept back but you can still see the natural waves. It goes exceptionally well with that gorgeous neck adornment you have going on there.
I'm sorry...somewhere between now and a few days ago when I last post I appear to have lost the ability to cogitate in an ordered and rational way :rotate:
Ocean, tears and heartbreak soup
Half alive in a whitecap foam
Half in love with a white half moon
why, my day is going fine! I got dressed up to work from home. :rotate:
You're doing better than I would have! It'd be pajamas all day for me if that were the case.
Also yay I got a heart! What'd I do
I'll take it!
I'm glad some folks like the waves because they're here to stay haha
BUT tomorrow I am going to the opera and getting a special makeover for the occasion so I shall post a selfie, mark your calendars and such!
I want you to know you're cool as hell and having to dress in suits and stuff you may hate doesn't dull your shine. Keep kicking ass and doing cool hair stuff I can't pull off
When all else fails, roll bluff