As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
I am very pro-communal child rearing, which we would do in our communal housing
Eddy on
"and the morning stars I have seen
and the gengars who are guiding me" -- W.S. Merwin
Man I do not like sending or receiving birthday cards
I'm glad people don't send them anymore
I send out Birthday Cards all the freakin' time! But I have noticed that I'm often the only one, and most of my friend group skews younger than I am. We do have this fun "regifting" thing going on where various objects have been gifted and regifted to other friends in this long chain. For example, there's a battery attached to a small red LED and a hairclip that has been passed along to 5 people so far... everyone loves having this glowy thing in their hair or beard.
I'm always perplexed that adult men have like zero friends. Maybe its a generational thing?
Friends are super important!
Men aren't trained to do emotional labor like women are
Most guys, for instance, don't send their friends birthday cards
A-are we supposed to
Happy birthday, eddy
I have sent you a playing card with red X's over the eyes
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I'm not great at this kind of thing, tbh. One thing I used to do is send people thoughtful things, like when my friends got a new apartment and I was able to have delivered some odds and ends that they mentioned needing (paper towel holder, soap dispenser, ice cube trays, etc). No longer using Amazon makes that more difficult, but basically everyone loves presents and it's more special to get one 'just because' than because of a birthday or holiday.
Maybe some of you have examples of thoughtfulness to share?
The trick to dealing with oil changes is apparently to just live in the UK where I don't know anybody who has ever changed their oil.
Maybe our car engines are just full of ancient sludge. Maybe it doesn't matter. Maybe it's part of the mysterious annual service that a good 25% of people bother with.
It's this one, usually.
It's often an upsell from wherever you get your mot but many people genuinely do not bother and it doesn't seem to hurt anything. For most people they will never see the six figure mileages where historic lack of oil changes start to cause problems.
Having said that I bought my last car with 135,000 miles on it and a proper oil system flush and oil change made a huge difference, but that oil was possibly 10+ years old.
Wait, what?
We change oil here every ~3000-5000 miles. Do y'all top it off, or..?
Maybe? Not commonly unless you know it leaks.
Most people regard their car engine as essentially a sealed unit unless it has problems.
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As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
I am very pro communal child rearing, which we would do in our communal housing
as long as i have my own room with attached full bathroom and mini fridge i'm cool with communal housing
and soundproof walls
and no social obligations unless i feel like participating
As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
Do it
Be weird uncle EM, who just kind of sits in the corner and can't figure out what to do when a kid runs over to him.
When my cousin was visiting with the new baby, his wife asked me if I wanted to hold him, and I said "no," and everyone yelled at me
Then I held him, dutifully, and he started crying immediately
The child is weak and I do not respect him
I had to hold my baby cousin last weekend because Querry made me, and it was.. awkward.
How do I hold this tiny meat sack?
Oh no, he is heavy, how do I switch arms? His neck will break if I do this wrong and I will have to run, but I am close to a window so I can jump through it and escape.
I’m so close to deleting FB. It’s a good birthday reminder, though!
This feel ominous to anyone else? Haps all holding the button over facebook as a site "well you've caused more harm in this world than not, time for your DELETION! Ok we're done time to do something else german like sausages or strudel"
I would like some money because these are artisanal nuggets of wisdom philistine.
visiblehwol casts summon Haphazard: It is very successful
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I don't know what to do with babies and if I ever decide to have any I am going to definitely wait until some friends do so I can help out a lot and crib from their journey or whatever
Pinecone's pretty good with kids of all ages but idk how to talk to them until they hit double digits
I’m so close to deleting FB. It’s a good birthday reminder, though!
This feel ominous to anyone else? Haps all holding the button over facebook as a site "well you've caused more harm in this world than not, time for your DELETION! Ok we're done time to do something else german like sausages or strudel"
Haphazard is the sword of Damocles.
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As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
I am very pro-communal child rearing, which we would do in our communal housing
Eddy come start a heretical movement with me
Reclaim The Village! The individual demands community and we will have it! Folks, you have nothing to lose but your late nights aimlessly scrolling away your loneliness!
*steps down from roof of cop car to begin delicately tending spinach plants*
As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
Do it
Be weird uncle EM, who just kind of sits in the corner and can't figure out what to do when a kid runs over to him.
When my cousin was visiting with the new baby, his wife asked me if I wanted to hold him, and I said "no," and everyone yelled at me
Then I held him, dutifully, and he started crying immediately
The child is weak and I do not respect him
I've told this before i'm sure but not too long ago porp was at a playgroup thing and a mom was there with a newborn
mom handed said newborn over to porp to hold for a bit as she needed her hands free and porp audibly said "gross"
oops
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As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
I am very pro-communal child rearing, which we would do in our communal housing
I love the idea of communal housing. But I would be the bad roommate. It would only work if someone was in charge of giving me things to do and somehow enforcing them. Otherwise there would be dishes everywhere and the bathroom would never get cleaned.
Friends and I have been toying around the idea of doing something like a multi-unit building with common areas. Everyone gets their own kitchen or bathroom for themselves and maybe a partner or roommate, but the whole building is styled as a community.
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I would love it if you all came and lived on my block and helped raise my kids kthx also then maybe porp would let me adopt more like I want
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As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
Do it
Be weird uncle EM, who just kind of sits in the corner and can't figure out what to do when a kid runs over to him.
When my cousin was visiting with the new baby, his wife asked me if I wanted to hold him, and I said "no," and everyone yelled at me
Then I held him, dutifully, and he started crying immediately
The child is weak and I do not respect him
I've told this before i'm sure but not too long ago porp was at a playgroup thing and a mom was there with a newborn
mom handed said newborn over to porp to hold for a bit as she needed her hands free and porp audibly said "gross"
oops
I really don't understand the holding of the baby thing. I don't want to drop the little tyke!
But holding kittehs, that is good and noble and right, even if the kitteh doesn't want to be held.
As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
I am very pro-communal child rearing, which we would do in our communal housing
I love the idea of communal housing. But I would be the bad roommate. It would only work if someone was in charge of giving me things to do and somehow enforcing them. Otherwise there would be dishes everywhere and the bathroom would never get cleaned.
Friends and I have been toying around the idea of doing something like a multi-unit building with common areas. Everyone gets their own kitchen or bathroom for themselves and maybe a partner or roommate, but the whole building is styled as a community.
My Bay Area friends and I have been toying with that idea as well, the idea of a TotallyNotACult commune. But mostly because of housing prices.
Everyone thinks communal housing is great until they have a truly bad roommate, ie me.
Sure, I'll do those dishes when I get a chance, I say, sitting bare-assed on the couch, industrial nail clippers making upsetting crunches as they grind through the thick wedges of fungal devastation I call my toenails, crescents of mottled beige flying into the air and lurking in the carpet to stab your foot three days later
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As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
I am very pro-communal child rearing, which we would do in our communal housing
I love the idea of communal housing. But I would be the bad roommate. It would only work if someone was in charge of giving me things to do and somehow enforcing them. Otherwise there would be dishes everywhere and the bathroom would never get cleaned.
Friends and I have been toying around the idea of doing something like a multi-unit building with common areas. Everyone gets their own kitchen or bathroom for themselves and maybe a partner or roommate, but the whole building is styled as a community.
As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
Do it
Be weird uncle EM, who just kind of sits in the corner and can't figure out what to do when a kid runs over to him.
When my cousin was visiting with the new baby, his wife asked me if I wanted to hold him, and I said "no," and everyone yelled at me
Then I held him, dutifully, and he started crying immediately
The child is weak and I do not respect him
I've told this before i'm sure but not too long ago porp was at a playgroup thing and a mom was there with a newborn
mom handed said newborn over to porp to hold for a bit as she needed her hands free and porp audibly said "gross"
oops
I really don't understand the holding of the baby thing. I don't want to drop the little tyke!
But holding kittehs, that is good and noble and right, even if the kitteh doesn't want to be held.
I've never once asked to hold a friend's baby cuz ya, sorry I don't have any fkin interest in your own personal little stinky blob
get back to me when it can hold a conversation
Please consider the environment before printing this post.
As my friends have their social lives obliterated by children, thus destabilizing mine as well, I can't help but think that our weird, isolated traditions of child-rearing also contribute
Of course if it were different, I'd have to like, deal with their kids more often, which sounds terrible tbh
Do it
Be weird uncle EM, who just kind of sits in the corner and can't figure out what to do when a kid runs over to him.
When my cousin was visiting with the new baby, his wife asked me if I wanted to hold him, and I said "no," and everyone yelled at me
Then I held him, dutifully, and he started crying immediately
The child is weak and I do not respect him
I've told this before i'm sure but not too long ago porp was at a playgroup thing and a mom was there with a newborn
mom handed said newborn over to porp to hold for a bit as she needed her hands free and porp audibly said "gross"
oops
I really don't understand the holding of the baby thing. I don't want to drop the little tyke!
But holding kittehs, that is good and noble and right, even if the kitteh doesn't want to be held.
babs are so warm and sometimes they grab onto you with their teeny little hands so tight and their heads release an inexplicably alluring odor that i think is basically like a cat's poop toxins that makes you want to take care of them
Allegedly a voice of reason.
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Except he actually missed 2017, so never mind, he's garbage just like the rest of you.
I just spend a lot of time looking at older men and trying to figure out what things they might have wished to do when they were my age
I bet bros who are hanging around hardware stores desperately trying to strike up conversation wish they had more longtime friends, is all
I am very pro-communal child rearing, which we would do in our communal housing
and the gengars who are guiding me" -- W.S. Merwin
Guys I know would rather get a pizza with their friends or a nice dinner and keep wastes of money at the store where they belong.
You don't need to buy cards to bond with a person, you just have to know what they like.
"Hey bro it's your birthday let's go do some laser tag" or "hey let's have a gaycation" whatever y'all are comfortable with
"Its your birthday bro, here's some 4 ply, it's like wiping your ass with god."
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Happy birthday, eddy
I have sent you a playing card with red X's over the eyes
Maybe some of you have examples of thoughtfulness to share?
Maybe? Not commonly unless you know it leaks.
Most people regard their car engine as essentially a sealed unit unless it has problems.
as long as i have my own room with attached full bathroom and mini fridge i'm cool with communal housing
and soundproof walls
and no social obligations unless i feel like participating
i think that's all my demands
I had to hold my baby cousin last weekend because Querry made me, and it was.. awkward.
How do I hold this tiny meat sack?
Oh no, he is heavy, how do I switch arms? His neck will break if I do this wrong and I will have to run, but I am close to a window so I can jump through it and escape.
This feel ominous to anyone else? Haps all holding the button over facebook as a site "well you've caused more harm in this world than not, time for your DELETION! Ok we're done time to do something else german like sausages or strudel"
pleasepaypreacher.net
i probably would
but then i also got a video from my brother yesterday watching his youngest crawl for the first time
so like
i dunno i could set up that kind of infrastructure with my family elsewhere but
for now this is fine, i don't really use it otherwise
Pinecone's pretty good with kids of all ages but idk how to talk to them until they hit double digits
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
Eddy come start a heretical movement with me
Reclaim The Village! The individual demands community and we will have it! Folks, you have nothing to lose but your late nights aimlessly scrolling away your loneliness!
*steps down from roof of cop car to begin delicately tending spinach plants*
pleasepaypreacher.net
I've told this before i'm sure but not too long ago porp was at a playgroup thing and a mom was there with a newborn
mom handed said newborn over to porp to hold for a bit as she needed her hands free and porp audibly said "gross"
oops
I'm a big fan of "I feel dead inside let's bankrupt TGIFridays"
Friends and I have been toying around the idea of doing something like a multi-unit building with common areas. Everyone gets their own kitchen or bathroom for themselves and maybe a partner or roommate, but the whole building is styled as a community.
But holding kittehs, that is good and noble and right, even if the kitteh doesn't want to be held.
I prefer "My parents fucked me, but tell me I'm to blame"
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Sure, I'll do those dishes when I get a chance, I say, sitting bare-assed on the couch, industrial nail clippers making upsetting crunches as they grind through the thick wedges of fungal devastation I call my toenails, crescents of mottled beige flying into the air and lurking in the carpet to stab your foot three days later
That's the dream.
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
I've never once asked to hold a friend's baby cuz ya, sorry I don't have any fkin interest in your own personal little stinky blob
get back to me when it can hold a conversation
babs are so warm and sometimes they grab onto you with their teeny little hands so tight and their heads release an inexplicably alluring odor that i think is basically like a cat's poop toxins that makes you want to take care of them
hahahahahahahano
Shit, I think you're right.
Okay, Haps is back to Good Guy status.