there is no "the one" out there for you. there is no fate. there are just people, and some people work out and some don't and sometimes you think you're with the person you're going to marry and a long time later it doesn't work out and it sucks so bad
but you need to not set yourself up for failure by putting your expectations on a pedestal
You know, I totally realize that. I really do. But subconsciously, I still believe in fate and "the one" and the whole "pussy on a pedestal" (to quote The 40 Year Old Virgin) business.
Right now, while my head is clear, I think I know what to do about all this; how to alleviate my "situation", as it were. But it doesn't take long for my ego to slip into some deluded and hopeless mode of thought; the idea that it'll never happen. Even though I've had many opportunities present themselves to me in the past.
It's partly due to procrastination, and partly due to unrealistic expectations, just as you described.
I see this a lot, and it's unfortunately a self-sabotaging situation. The more you desire this, the less likely it is to happen. A much healthier attitude is to just take your days and months and the people you meet as they come, and be happy and confident and friendly. Cause man, deep down we're all people.
Train yourself to act like you would if you had just downed 4 shots 20 minutes ago and you start to realize the only thing stopping you from talking to a perfect stranger is your silly little made-up insecurities.
I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
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You shouldn't think too hard. Creativity's just one of those things that just *happens* when you're inspired by something. I would say that it's something that just happens when you're deeply passionate about something, be it a significant other, a hobby, an imaginary situation (which you could then make *interesting* by adding elements of science fiction or fantasy), or even a video game. What on earth would ever possess a person to write a video game guide?
there is no "the one" out there for you. there is no fate. there are just people, and some people work out and some don't and sometimes you think you're with the person you're going to marry and a long time later it doesn't work out and it sucks so bad
but you need to not set yourself up for failure by putting your expectations on a pedestal
You know, I totally realize that. I really do. But subconsciously, I still believe in fate and "the one" and the whole "pussy on a pedestal" (to quote The 40 Year Old Virgin) business.
Right now, while my head is clear, I think I know what to do about all this; how to alleviate my "situation", as it were. But it doesn't take long for my ego to slip into some deluded and hopeless mode of thought; the idea that it'll never happen. Even though I've had many opportunities present themselves to me in the past.
It's partly due to procrastination, and partly due to unrealistic expectations, just as you described.
I see this a lot, and it's unfortunately a self-sabotaging situation. The more you desire this, the less likely it is to happen. A much healthier attitude is to just take your days and months and the people you meet as they come, and be happy and confident and friendly. Cause man, deep down we're all people.
Train yourself to act like you would if you had just downed 4 shots 20 minutes ago and you start to realize the only thing stopping you from talking to a perfect stranger is your silly little made-up insecurities.
I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
The game is kind of rough till you get the feel for it. First enemy on hard killed me, with some practice I could take 2-3 of those guys down without getting it.
Aim for the limbs, specifically the arms on the basic enemy type.
So hey, my idea of Dead Space is:
Horror Game, basically RE4 but in space, shock-scares but not real ones, storyline isn't that amazing, gameplay slightly repetitive, but pretty neat looking anyways. Buy when it hits $40.
Is that reasonably accurate?
The demo gave me lots of 'oh fuck don't kill me!' scares over shock scares. But then, the demo also doesn't have shit leap out at you in a supposedly empty room.
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The game is kind of rough till you get the feel for it. First enemy on hard killed me, with some practice I could take 2-3 of those guys down without getting it.
Aim for the limbs, specifically the arms on the basic enemy type.
Horror Game, basically RE4 but in space, shock-scares but not real ones, storyline isn't that amazing, gameplay slightly repetitive, but pretty neat looking anyways. Buy when it hits $40.
Is that reasonably accurate?
Kind of.
I wouldn't say shock-scares. I'd say a very, very, tense atmosphere. Like, the kind of game that if you are playing and then your cat knocks something over you will jump, scream and crap your pants.
I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
This sounds like an opportunity for therapy to help you train yourself out of these mental habits. See a therapist. They really can help.
I can break you of this, but you have to not block images.
Also you may need a therapist afterwards.
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Dead Space made me afraid to go into a bathroom. It's very tense and it only lets up once you've cleared a room or you're in the presence of other human beings.
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I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
At the gay bar?
That is a shame. It is a kick-ass book. You should read it if you have time.
Do the impossible.
See the invisible.
ROW ROW FIGHT THE POWER
Man Thor is soooo gay.
The demo gave me lots of 'oh fuck don't kill me!' scares over shock scares. But then, the demo also doesn't have shit leap out at you in a supposedly empty room.
Every year I get my father a pair of nice gloves and a scarf. Every year, because he always loses them.
yeah, I thought I was.
Kind of.
I wouldn't say shock-scares. I'd say a very, very, tense atmosphere. Like, the kind of game that if you are playing and then your cat knocks something over you will jump, scream and crap your pants.
:winky:
I'm addicted to the internet
there I said it
well then carry on
What if they are very big lizards.
You should be popping off a limb for every two rounds fired, popping off both arms should kill the basic dude.
You can always try hitting RB to turn the reticle sideways to hit the limbs easier if they are holding their arms vertically.
I can break you of this, but you have to not block images.
Also you may need a therapist afterwards.
I think this is the case for all of us.
24/7 365
constantly posting, constantly here for you...
oh god we're all fucked aren't we
I'm not addicted to the internet, I just wonder sometimes, if I hit the F5 key again, what are the chances of something different happening?
I still completely and utterly hate my exs guts and would not feel bad if she was to get mangled by a bus. Fuck that whore.
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Any time this addiction becomes too much, just come over to D&D forum, we'll make sure you stay away from the internet.
I don't think anyone is the "Right" person to say that to unless they're also being paid.
Such attempts tend not to last more than 10 minutes.
I'm going to go sleep now though, later lovelies.
I'm not getting fucked
Why am I missing out.
*runs off crying*