he already has some sunglasses Spec otherwise that's a good idea
How about a sweet lighter, or a flask.
not really a smoker or drinker
Uh, uh, wallet.
What about a book he might want? Or a really cool edition of a book he already owns? Although that second one might be risky since people grow attached to their stuff.
A certified therapist from the APA is trained in how we think. Most of the bad press is just ignorance. There's nuffin wrong with em, or wrong with you for using them.
It's like seeing a doctor for a checkup.
I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
This sounds like an opportunity for therapy to help you train yourself out of these mental habits. See a therapist. They really can help.
Well I don't know if I want to see a therapist, as much as it might help. I'm partly confident that I'll be able to work myself through this (with help and advice from others, of course). Granted, my mode of thinking is still in the state of self-sabotage, even as I write this. Because there's that little part of me that says I won't be able to work through it, or that I don't want this issue to be resolved.
Talking it out and bouncing it off you guys seems to help a great deal, though.
Awesome.
Yeah talking helps no matter what.
The one thing I hate about our society is there's still this stigma against therapists. It's like "oh you have to see a therapist, huh? That sucks"
When really therapists see therapists of their own. It's just a way to realize goals, not necessarily a way of fixing some horrible fuckup of your life. They're just a way to talk things out.
On the other hand, in my experience talking things out can also slow you down.
On the other OTHER hand, I have a similarly self-destructive personality, and everyone knows most angsting consists of me turning any ideas down as impossible or illogical.
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A certified therapist from the APA is trained in how we think. Most of the bad press is just ignorance. There's nuffin wrong with em, or wrong with you for using them.
It's like seeing a doctor for a checkup.
I demand you come onto MSN morninglord, so I may ravage you like an Orc ravages lord Absentinos.
You know, I totally realize that. I really do. But subconsciously, I still believe in fate and "the one"
Man, that kind of thinking makes no sense if you really sit down and think about it, you know that, right?
Jemaine: It's just that I think she might be the one.
Bret: Sally?
Jemaine: Yeah.
Bret: What makes you think that?
Jemaine: You just know. When it happens to you you'll know.
Bret: You said Michelle was the one.
Jemaine: Yeah she's the one.
Bret: You said Claire was the one.
Jemaine: Yeah, she's another one.
Bret: So you get more than one one.
Jemaine: Some people are lucky, I've had a few ones.
Bret: So how many ones can you have?
Jemaine: Five.
Bret: How many have you had?
Jemaine: Three. How many have you had?
Bret: Just one. Just one.
My troubles with the fairer sex is that I can count the number of women I've had any decent connection with on one hand, and out of those, only a few I'd want to be more than friends with. Out of the ones who remained, they were either unavailable or not attracted to me.
You know, I totally realize that. I really do. But subconsciously, I still believe in fate and "the one"
Man, that kind of thinking makes no sense if you really sit down and think about it, you know that, right?
Jemaine: It's just that I think she might be the one.
Bret: Sally?
Jemaine: Yeah.
Bret: What makes you think that?
Jemaine: You just know. When it happens to you you'll know.
Bret: You said Michelle was the one.
Jemaine: Yeah she's the one.
Bret: You said Claire was the one.
Jemaine: Yeah, she's another one.
Bret: So you get more than one one.
Jemaine: Some people are lucky, I've had a few ones.
Bret: So how many ones can you have?
Jemaine: Five.
Bret: How many have you had?
Jemaine: Three. How many have you had?
Bret: Just one. Just one.
You know, I totally realize that. I really do. But subconsciously, I still believe in fate and "the one"
Man, that kind of thinking makes no sense if you really sit down and think about it, you know that, right?
Jemaine: It's just that I think she might be the one.
Bret: Sally?
Jemaine: Yeah.
Bret: What makes you think that?
Jemaine: You just know. When it happens to you you'll know.
Bret: You said Michelle was the one.
Jemaine: Yeah she's the one.
Bret: You said Claire was the one.
Jemaine: Yeah, she's another one.
Bret: So you get more than one one.
Jemaine: Some people are lucky, I've had a few ones.
Bret: So how many ones can you have?
Jemaine: Five.
Bret: How many have you had?
Jemaine: Three. How many have you had?
Bret: Just one. Just one.
I better get to sleep. I have to work on a letter asking the EPA to help keep California from fucking itself over extra hard while letting it fuck itself just a little bit so that it can loosen up for later.
And then I need to look up some stats on a fire truck.
I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
This sounds like an opportunity for therapy to help you train yourself out of these mental habits. See a therapist. They really can help.
Well I don't know if I want to see a therapist, as much as it might help. I'm partly confident that I'll be able to work myself through this (with help and advice from others, of course). Granted, my mode of thinking is still in the state of self-sabotage, even as I write this. Because there's that little part of me that says I won't be able to work through it, or that I don't want this issue to be resolved.
Talking it out and bouncing it off you guys seems to help a great deal, though.
Awesome.
Yeah talking helps no matter what.
The one thing I hate about our society is there's still this stigma against therapists. It's like "oh you have to see a therapist, huh? That sucks"
When really therapists see therapists of their own. It's just a way to realize goals, not necessarily a way of fixing some horrible fuckup of your life. They're just a way to talk things out.
I'll say that I really wouldn't mind developing a relationship with someone over the internet. It's not something I've ever done. We have this social stigma that long distance relationships are for "desperate losers", but I believe that only holds true if people hide behind faux personas.
I just think that maybe I'd be able to 'click' with someone who embraces the internet as much as I do much more fully than someone who thinks it's just a toy, a joke or superfluous bullshit.
Granted, a real physical relationship is definitely the "end-goal" to all of this, because how else could I fully share my life's pursuits with my significant other? In any case, I don't think that there's anything really wrong in getting to know a person over the internet.
Some of the people I've gotten to know in real life just left me completely turned off, and it's not because I'd formed any expectations for them.
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I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
This sounds like an opportunity for therapy to help you train yourself out of these mental habits. See a therapist. They really can help.
Well I don't know if I want to see a therapist, as much as it might help. I'm partly confident that I'll be able to work myself through this (with help and advice from others, of course). Granted, my mode of thinking is still in the state of self-sabotage, even as I write this. Because there's that little part of me that says I won't be able to work through it, or that I don't want this issue to be resolved.
Talking it out and bouncing it off you guys seems to help a great deal, though.
Awesome.
Yeah talking helps no matter what.
The one thing I hate about our society is there's still this stigma against therapists. It's like "oh you have to see a therapist, huh? That sucks"
When really therapists see therapists of their own. It's just a way to realize goals, not necessarily a way of fixing some horrible fuckup of your life. They're just a way to talk things out.
I'll say that I really wouldn't mind developing a relationship with someone over the internet. It's not something I've ever done. We have this social stigma that long distance relationships are for "desperate losers", but I believe that only holds true if people hide behind faux personas.
I just think that maybe I'd be able to 'click' with someone who embraces the internet as much as I do much more fully than someone who thinks it's just a toy, a joke or superfluous bullshit.
Granted, a real physical relationship is definitely the "end-goal" to all of this, because how else could I fully share my life's pursuits with my significant other? In any case, I don't think that there's anything really wrong in getting to know a person over the internet.
Some of the people I've gotten to know in real life just left me completely turned off, and it's not because I'd formed any expectations for them.
My friend moved to atlanta to sex up his long term online gf. She's goddam hot, I've seen a picture.
Has a kid now, a steady job, a working family.
Smallminded thinking is small minded thinking.
I personally couldn't do it, but he's a unique guy. He has a strong self identity and cast iron patience. It wasn't his first relationship either.
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(PSN: Morninglord) (Steam: Morninglord) (WiiU: Morninglord22) I like to record and toss up a lot of random gaming videos here.
I'ma get Cliffhanger which is a DVD he wants and I will look for another thing to get him and I am getting the free shipping by also ordering an Elvis CD for my grandma
I'ma get Cliffhanger which is a DVD he wants and I will look for another thing to get him and I am getting the free shipping by also ordering an Elvis CD for my grandma
Oh, wait... I'm referring to a local commercial for a singles line or whatever that used to air at this time at night years ago. It played that song in the background. Was just so odd.
Now I am single and lonely, though, and I totally get it now.
My troubles with the fairer sex is that I can count the number of women I've had any decent connection with on one hand, and out of those, only a few I'd want to be more than friends with. Out of the ones who remained, they were either unavailable or not attracted to me.
Yeah. I met a few girls whose only interests were guys who looked like models. They wanted nothing else out of a guy. Shit like that is a major turn off. I'm not the best looking guy in the world, but I'm certainly uninterested in a relationship like that.
It's like, oh, you think the internet is a joke and that books aren't worth reading? I don't think we should see each other.
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What about a book he might want? Or a really cool edition of a book he already owns? Although that second one might be risky since people grow attached to their stuff.
Last night I convinced [chat] that Confederation had fallen apart as a result of the federal crisis. You should have seen it. It was awesome.
On the other hand, in my experience talking things out can also slow you down.
On the other OTHER hand, I have a similarly self-destructive personality, and everyone knows most angsting consists of me turning any ideas down as impossible or illogical.
Well, uh, smash them.
With a mallet.
And get him another one.
Man I don't know.
I demand you come onto MSN morninglord, so I may ravage you like an Orc ravages lord Absentinos.
lol yesss...when's the new season start?
and the finish line
is just around the bend
i'll pause the game
so our song will never end:whistle:
usb drive
sunglasses
books
lighter
flask
all of these have been eliminated
Good work, you hippy.
Good work.
January 18th, apparently.
yessssssssssssssssssssssssssssss
And then I need to look up some stats on a fire truck.
o_O
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Medo: Art. Literature. Culinary Delights.
I'll say that I really wouldn't mind developing a relationship with someone over the internet. It's not something I've ever done. We have this social stigma that long distance relationships are for "desperate losers", but I believe that only holds true if people hide behind faux personas.
I just think that maybe I'd be able to 'click' with someone who embraces the internet as much as I do much more fully than someone who thinks it's just a toy, a joke or superfluous bullshit.
Granted, a real physical relationship is definitely the "end-goal" to all of this, because how else could I fully share my life's pursuits with my significant other? In any case, I don't think that there's anything really wrong in getting to know a person over the internet.
Some of the people I've gotten to know in real life just left me completely turned off, and it's not because I'd formed any expectations for them.
and we are surprised?
I am not a woman.
Do not give up on me, Zen.
My friend moved to atlanta to sex up his long term online gf. She's goddam hot, I've seen a picture.
Has a kid now, a steady job, a working family.
Smallminded thinking is small minded thinking.
I personally couldn't do it, but he's a unique guy. He has a strong self identity and cast iron patience. It wasn't his first relationship either.
About damn time.
Take a chance on meeeee :whistle:
Good deal!
Have you also ruled out movies and music?
What about some nice pj's?
And we all know the night time is the right time.
It is about that time...
Oh, wait... I'm referring to a local commercial for a singles line or whatever that used to air at this time at night years ago. It played that song in the background. Was just so odd.
Now I am single and lonely, though, and I totally get it now.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Exactly.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.
Yeah. I met a few girls whose only interests were guys who looked like models. They wanted nothing else out of a guy. Shit like that is a major turn off. I'm not the best looking guy in the world, but I'm certainly uninterested in a relationship like that.
It's like, oh, you think the internet is a joke and that books aren't worth reading? I don't think we should see each other.
the "no true scotch man" fallacy.