I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
This sounds like an opportunity for therapy to help you train yourself out of these mental habits. See a therapist. They really can help.
Seriously, Cognitive Behavior Therapy might help reasonably well. It's pretty much designed to break those sorts of habits, be they clinical or not. It's one of the few things to have a decent success rate with Generalized Anxiety Disorder.
I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
This sounds like an opportunity for therapy to help you train yourself out of these mental habits. See a therapist. They really can help.
Well I don't know if I want to see a therapist, as much as it might help. I'm partly confident that I'll be able to work myself through this (with help and advice from others, of course). Granted, my mode of thinking is still in the state of self-sabotage, even as I write this. Because there's that little part of me that says I won't be able to work through it, or that I don't want this issue to be resolved.
Talking it out and bouncing it off you guys seems to help a great deal, though.
I'm wondering how much time I'll actually spend on the internet after I have access to sex.
You can't do it 24/7 dude
I have a lot of time to make up for.
A lot of time.
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edited December 2008
oh, so valkyria profile is, in fact, awesome. no idea why I doubted that, I should hav ejust bought it. no I gotta wait til christmas. booo. still worth it though.
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edited December 2008
Next semester if I spend as much time as I do now on the internet I will be doomed to failure, lucky University God and four ranks in Bullshitting be damned.
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I feel slightly hollow inside, since we are posting about ourselves, tonight. I need to have some fun over winter break. I've been working way too hard.
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I feel as if I am constantly setting up myself for failure, subconsciously, just so the reward will be even more rewarding when I eventually succeed. The problem is that every time my ego tells me that "It's too hard!", the challenge becomes ever greater, to the point of becoming an impossible challenge. I seem to do this with everything, ranging from relationships (as I've mentioned) to not being able to bring myself to beating a computer game, or sometimes even finishing a book. I breathe a sigh of relief each time I finish a book, as if it was hard work, even when it wasn't.
Self-actualization is all well and good, but how do I prevent my ego from setting up these mental hurdles?
This sounds like an opportunity for therapy to help you train yourself out of these mental habits. See a therapist. They really can help.
Well I don't know if I want to see a therapist, as much as it might help. I'm partly confident that I'll be able to work myself through this (with help and advice from others, of course). Granted, my mode of thinking is still in the state of self-sabotage, even as I write this. Because there's that little part of me that says I won't be able to work through it, or that I don't want this issue to be resolved.
Talking it out and bouncing it off you guys seems to help a great deal, though.
Awesome.
Yeah talking helps no matter what.
The one thing I hate about our society is there's still this stigma against therapists. It's like "oh you have to see a therapist, huh? That sucks"
When really therapists see therapists of their own. It's just a way to realize goals, not necessarily a way of fixing some horrible fuckup of your life. They're just a way to talk things out.
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You should be popping off a limb for every two rounds fired, popping off both arms should kill the basic dude.
You can always try hitting RB to turn the reticle sideways to hit the limbs easier if they are holding their arms vertically.
I'm assuming I was just missing. I also kept screwing up the controls and weapons. no big deal I wa sjust playing the demo to see what the game looked like.
MorninglordI'm tired of being Batman,so today I'll be Owl.Registered Userregular
edited December 2008
A certified therapist from the APA is trained in how we think. Most of the bad press is just ignorance. There's nuffin wrong with em, or wrong with you for using them.
It's like seeing a doctor for a checkup.
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(PSN: Morninglord) (Steam: Morninglord) (WiiU: Morninglord22) I like to record and toss up a lot of random gaming videos here.
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Maybe even Teh Specs.
Exactly.
I should get myself my own copy finally, I suppose.
Also, I should look into the "sequel" or whatever it is.
Seriously, Cognitive Behavior Therapy might help reasonably well. It's pretty much designed to break those sorts of habits, be they clinical or not. It's one of the few things to have a decent success rate with Generalized Anxiety Disorder.
Better sunglasses? :P
Locate an e-copy of the book, then.
seriously you guys
awesome song
Well I don't know if I want to see a therapist, as much as it might help. I'm partly confident that I'll be able to work myself through this (with help and advice from others, of course). Granted, my mode of thinking is still in the state of self-sabotage, even as I write this. Because there's that little part of me that says I won't be able to work through it, or that I don't want this issue to be resolved.
Talking it out and bouncing it off you guys seems to help a great deal, though.
On, that was good, you West-Coaster. Even for a West-Coaster.
You can't do it 24/7 dude
I wonder how much time I will have for DnD if things work out with this woman I'm seeing shortly.
IT IS THE NIGHT TIME.
I only just now learned what it was from.
I DO NOT WANT TO FUCK
8 people + nerf guns + giant house + alcohol = creepy good times.
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not really a smoker or drinker
I have a lot of time to make up for.
A lot of time.
Go on a date with me.
An E-date.
I'm the prettiest princess in all the land.
One time I didn't post for something like two or three weeks.
Another time I stopped posting for a really long time, but I think that would have been in 2006 so it doesn't really count.
See you in 10 minutes.
Yeah talking helps no matter what.
The one thing I hate about our society is there's still this stigma against therapists. It's like "oh you have to see a therapist, huh? That sucks"
When really therapists see therapists of their own. It's just a way to realize goals, not necessarily a way of fixing some horrible fuckup of your life. They're just a way to talk things out.
I'm assuming I was just missing. I also kept screwing up the controls and weapons. no big deal I wa sjust playing the demo to see what the game looked like.
Shhhh.
Yeah he does
several, probably
Needs more broccolis.
It's like seeing a doctor for a checkup.
I know guys it's a tough nut to crack
last year I got him a new zip up fleece cause he really needed one
anything interesting happened while the civilised world has been sleeping?