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The [Love] thread, for exist's sake.

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  • Shazkar ShadowstormShazkar Shadowstorm Registered User regular
    edited June 2015
    Is there such a thing as being too aggressive on timing a second date?
    Because I am thinking fuck it why not this Friday I know she is free and then I'm gone for all of the next week and then a long weekend after too - and it'd be good to hang

    But I am also hesitant but I had a good time and feel like she did as well so
    (It's not like I have experience to back either thought up hence asking to the crowd)

    There is still that whole mental bit of breaking past that barrier of disbelief of oh, people can actually be into me too, as a thing - so maybe it's not so ludicrous and that the other person is a person who might also enjoy it, and it doesn't have to be some intricate game, or an intimidating thing that I probably subconsciously built up especially due to my age and etc

    ... I was/am doing some high self reflection in bed because I couldn't sleep from the beer. It's helped actually. Honestly I've been surprised by the effect of going to therapy for the last year, meditation on and off, and introspection (often the last bit uh while stupid high) has had though on helping think things through

    Opinions still welcome
    Oh god I made a stupid high post I guess, whatever, it's valid thoughts I ain't embarrassed


    But really ya big dum dum
    If a girl kisses you a buncha times then duh that whole incredulity at the idea that someone might actually find you attractive / capable of invoking attraction in another human being is real dumb

    I feel like that was totally a subconscious lack of confidence thought I had for a while and even when I have had various examples to disprove it now over the last year plus
    Still I totally felt that feel and forgot at times and am in disbelief

    Huh it's kind of like when multiple people comment that I've gotten in shape and am looking more yakked or whatever I'm still like not really believing them and feel puny and like a babby

    Have some self confidence and pride ya dum dum

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  • FAQFAQ Registered User regular
    I still feel like that regularly enough, I think it's common

    I'm very used to my own face after all.

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  • Shazkar ShadowstormShazkar Shadowstorm Registered User regular
    Oh okay I guess I got a second date on Fri in addition to this first date Thurs
    And it's nice out so I'm kind of tempted to ask this other person out tonight ergh

    All this traveling is compressing my available time down like cray

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  • KwoaruKwoaru Registered User regular
    I the weather is as nice tonight as it is right now cause I got a date and it would be fun to go to the patio bar he was talking about

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  • StraightziStraightzi Here we may reign secure, and in my choice, To reign is worth ambition though in HellRegistered User regular
    I'm a narcissist and I still have trouble believing that other people find me attractive

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  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day

    Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell

    Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site

    Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy

    The suspense is murdering me

  • The BetgirlThe Betgirl I'm Molly! Registered User regular
    I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day

    Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell

    Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site

    Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy

    The suspense is murdering me

    speed you're a cool dude, just chillax! (i know this is bad advice bc anxiety doesn't just do that, but try to do something else for a while so you aren't thinking about it)

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  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    nah i'm just gonna keep being a nervous wreck I think

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  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    edited June 2015
    OH FUCK MY PHONE VIBRATED FUMBLE POCKET FUMBLE FUMBLE UNLOCK

    GOD DAMMIT IT'S JUST AN EMAIL FOR 20% OFF OF A RADISSON HOTEL ROOM

    Speed Racer on
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  • chrishallett83chrishallett83 Hi! Registered User regular
    I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day

    Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell

    Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site

    Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy

    The suspense is murdering me

    She is totally making sure she has like a half-day free this weekend with all her prior commitments, then she is going to agree to go on a date with you and you are both going to have a fantastic time.

    So there! :-P

  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel Shell, Teeth, Eyes, Flame, Claws, Breath, Scales, FUN!Registered User regular
    Hey, that's a pretty good deal.

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  • KadithKadith Registered User regular
    I asked her out this morning and while I haven't exactly been spamming refresh on OKC all day I have been checking in pretty frequently and as far as I can tell she hasn't logged in all day

    Which either means she saw the email notification of my message and is now avoiding dealing with telling me no way I smell

    Or she's just you know busy living her life outside of looking at a dating site

    Dangit lady just reject me alreadyyyyyyyyyy

    The suspense is murdering me

    She is totally making sure she has like a half-day free this weekend with all her prior commitments, then she is going to agree to go on a date with you and you are both going to have a fantastic time.

    So there! :-P

    Or she is deciding what accessories would go well with a Speed's skin suit.

    Either way you're clearly working yourself up for the wrong reasons.

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  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    Hey, that's a pretty good deal.

    IT AIN'T BAD BUT I DON'T REALLY NEED A HOTEL ROOM RIGHT NOW

  • MadEddyMadEddy Creepy house watching youRegistered User regular
    OH FUCK MY PHONE VIBRATED FUMBLE POCKET FUMBLE FUMBLE UNLOCK

    GOD DAMMIT IT'S JUST AN EMAIL FOR 20% OFF OF A RADISSON HOTEL ROOM

    Radisson's all, so you got a date coming up? :winky:

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  • KadithKadith Registered User regular
    Hey, that's a pretty good deal.

    IT AIN'T BAD BUT I DON'T REALLY NEED A HOTEL ROOM RIGHT NOW

    Or do you?

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  • ToxTox I kill threads Punch DimensionRegistered User regular
    OH FUCK MY PHONE VIBRATED FUMBLE POCKET FUMBLE FUMBLE UNLOCK

    GOD DAMMIT IT'S JUST AN EMAIL FOR 20% OFF OF A RADISSON HOTEL ROOM

    WHEN DOES IT EXPIRE?

    I could use one of those...
    MadEddy wrote: »
    Radisson's all, so you got a date coming up? :winky:

    ^^ better answer ^^

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel Shell, Teeth, Eyes, Flame, Claws, Breath, Scales, FUN!Registered User regular
    MadEddy wrote: »
    OH FUCK MY PHONE VIBRATED FUMBLE POCKET FUMBLE FUMBLE UNLOCK

    GOD DAMMIT IT'S JUST AN EMAIL FOR 20% OFF OF A RADISSON HOTEL ROOM

    Radisson's all, so you got a date coming up? :winky:

    If we're to the point where companies know about our dates before we do, this targeted advertising thing has gone way too far.

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  • ChicoBlueChicoBlue Registered User regular
    I don't know much about love.

    Why would a hotel be interested in someone going on a date?

    Geth
  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel Shell, Teeth, Eyes, Flame, Claws, Breath, Scales, FUN!Registered User regular
    well maybe it's a long distance date and they need a place to stay after the date

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  • Munkus BeaverMunkus Beaver Registered User, ClubPA regular
    Hey, that's a pretty good deal.

    IT AIN'T BAD BUT I DON'T REALLY NEED A HOTEL ROOM RIGHT NOW

    But you will.

    Just see if they charge by the hour.

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  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    edited June 2015
    Tam as someone who also has anxiety

    Think of this as a win win

    Either she says yes and hooray a date

    Or she says no, which sucks in the short term, but it will let you actually experience rejection instead of just being afraid of it, and it will be less of a bogeyman for you in the future

    Either you get what you want or you get some actual experiential data on what the worst case scenario feels like

    ha remember that time I was acting like I'm not a complete basket case

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  • LiiyaLiiya Registered User regular
    Speed

    http://www.calm.com/

    do some meditation mate. Calm your mind. You'll feel better.

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  • ChicoBlueChicoBlue Registered User regular
    Ooh!

    Use calm.com alongside this

    mynoise.net/NoiseMachines/catPurrNoiseGenerator.php

    It's like you're outside in the mountains

    with a cat on your lap.

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel Shell, Teeth, Eyes, Flame, Claws, Breath, Scales, FUN!Registered User regular
    I'm a big fan of the rain and/or distant thunder sounds myself, but all good choices.

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  • UrielUriel Registered User regular
    No good storms this year yet means no good thunder naps.

    Also still haven't settled any solid plans with the lady I was introduced to last week but hopefully soon will figure something out.

  • minirhyderminirhyder BerlinRegistered User regular
    So that guy I've been talking to on okcupid tried to invite himself to the fair with me and my friends and I didn't really like it. it was kinda pushy and a red flag for me. Friends thought it was cute but I didn't because we haven't met yet....when I was standoffish about him coming instead of going to work he got a bit quiet and I don't think he liked that I didn't want to meet him at the fair...
    He knew I was going with friends and he was like "I think I'm going to take off work tonight" and when I asked why he was like "to go to the fair ;) lol" it just made me uncomfortable :/ .....if it was like oh I'm at the fair too! we should meet (and didn't know I was there), it would have been different...

    That's not cute at all and is creepy as fuck. What was he thinking, holy shit.

    He's pretty much saying "I'm gonna go stalk you at the fair that you are going to. Just so you know."

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  • durandal4532durandal4532 Registered User regular
    One of the people I'm seeing told me that I should be sure to be ready to talk about all my science shit on our picnic date because it's fascinating.

    Even though I'm no longer a grad student, this is still the way to my heart yes.

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  • OmnipotentBagelOmnipotentBagel Shell, Teeth, Eyes, Flame, Claws, Breath, Scales, FUN!Registered User regular
    I'm not sure there's anything quite as attractive as someone who's genuinely interested in things you're passionate about.

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  • mosssnackmosssnack Yeah right, man, Bishop should go! Good idea!Registered User regular
    minirhyder wrote: »
    So that guy I've been talking to on okcupid tried to invite himself to the fair with me and my friends and I didn't really like it. it was kinda pushy and a red flag for me. Friends thought it was cute but I didn't because we haven't met yet....when I was standoffish about him coming instead of going to work he got a bit quiet and I don't think he liked that I didn't want to meet him at the fair...
    He knew I was going with friends and he was like "I think I'm going to take off work tonight" and when I asked why he was like "to go to the fair ;) lol" it just made me uncomfortable :/ .....if it was like oh I'm at the fair too! we should meet (and didn't know I was there), it would have been different...

    That's not cute at all and is creepy as fuck. What was he thinking, holy shit.

    He's pretty much saying "I'm gonna go stalk you at the fair that you are going to. Just so you know."

    Yeah, that's no bueno.

    First time I talked to my wife via okcupid, she was telling me about the last guy she was conversing with. He was trying to invite himself to her house to watch the superbowl with her and the rest of her family. You know, after she had told him it was a family tradition kinda thing they did.

    Then she says, "Soooo, that's why I decided to message you."

    Score.

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  • TamTam Le Buggeur Risible Registered User regular
    Tam as someone who also has anxiety

    Think of this as a win win

    Either she says yes and hooray a date

    Or she says no, which sucks in the short term, but it will let you actually experience rejection instead of just being afraid of it, and it will be less of a bogeyman for you in the future

    Either you get what you want or you get some actual experiential data on what the worst case scenario feels like

    ha remember that time I was acting like I'm not a complete basket case

    Speed you're gonna be fine

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  • Munkus BeaverMunkus Beaver Registered User, ClubPA regular
    Unless Racer X comes in and steals the girl at the last second!

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  • WeedLordVegetaWeedLordVegeta Registered User regular
    Carla's heere

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  • PassionateLoviePassionateLovie Registered User regular
    minirhyder wrote: »
    So that guy I've been talking to on okcupid tried to invite himself to the fair with me and my friends and I didn't really like it. it was kinda pushy and a red flag for me. Friends thought it was cute but I didn't because we haven't met yet....when I was standoffish about him coming instead of going to work he got a bit quiet and I don't think he liked that I didn't want to meet him at the fair...
    He knew I was going with friends and he was like "I think I'm going to take off work tonight" and when I asked why he was like "to go to the fair ;) lol" it just made me uncomfortable :/ .....if it was like oh I'm at the fair too! we should meet (and didn't know I was there), it would have been different...

    That's not cute at all and is creepy as fuck. What was he thinking, holy shit.

    He's pretty much saying "I'm gonna go stalk you at the fair that you are going to. Just so you know."



    I know right....I felt so creeped out and gross....I couldn't even really enjoy the fair after he said that....I'm just not talking to him anymore and hoping he gets that he really messed up and leaves me alone :X

  • MadEddyMadEddy Creepy house watching youRegistered User regular
    This guy is the first guy who's ever gotten me flowers. Literally no one else I've dated has done that, and I didn't realize how nice it is when someone does. (I've only ever gotten flowers for hospitalizations before.)

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  • TamTam Le Buggeur Risible Registered User regular
    second date went well
    she kind of schooled me in the kissing department

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  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    Oh god she's been online for like half an hour

  • Shazkar ShadowstormShazkar Shadowstorm Registered User regular
    second date successfully scheduled for friday with yest lady, yus, gonna get dope food and see mad max again which she not seen
    and thus the test for if she enjoys it or not to prove if she is cool or not i guess

    girl for first date tomorrow responded, but she forgot her phone at home all day which is why she didn't respond earlier
    which then meant she apparently got her mother worried she was dead or something who then asked her to go visit, so, date cancelled
    but this is bad, because... basically there are only 3 weeknights between now and july 13 when i am free and in nyc, since i am traveling so much - she said we will hang out when i am back, but i worry that the almost 3.5 weeks till then is unfortunate. oh well. maybe i can think of things to converse about via text. probably not.. i dunno what to converse about via text with people i have not met, i don't wanna ask a bunch of questions. so hopefully she will still want to meet up by then

    poo
  • Speed RacerSpeed Racer Scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratch scritch scratchRegistered User regular
    Oh god she's been online for like half an hour

    Ughhhhhh she got back off without responding to me I'm dyingggggff

  • TamTam Le Buggeur Risible Registered User regular
    Sorry buddy
    try not to think too hard about it
    have some ice cream instead

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  • builderr0rbuilderr0r Registered User regular
    Hopefully she'd just tell you if she's not interested, instead of ignoring you. Still crossing my fingers for you that she'll accept the date though! Try to keep busy and eat lots of ice cream (or frozen yogurt, because it's better :P).

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