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When I got mine at 11 (in 1993 in Ireland), we didn't have proper sex ed. So I wake up one day, toss my covers back, and there's blood everywhere. I panic and try hiding it. I almost got away with it, except my sister found my bloody underwear. So she drags me to the living room where the rest of our family is, holds up my undies, and happily announces that I got my period. Our dad then starts clapping and says that I'm now a woman. I really wasn't happy at all.
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There is something weird going on in this theme vocally. The singer seems to sing the name using a different intonation or vocalization Every Single Time.
You’ve got extra syllables sometimes, coupled with super-quick-words other times.
Probably an attempt to make it feel less like the whole theme is just them repeating the name 15 times in the song.
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Why does this make me think of this Carmen Sandiego song?
However I'm now working evenings followed by nights for the next few days.
He just doesn't seem to sleep well at all when I'm at work.
He's way more whiny and cries alot whenever it's just my wife home at night.
He has the same routine regardless of who puts him to bed.
Any suggestions? My wife is exhausted.
It's more or less the same. He was at nursery yesterday afternoon so had plenty of fun.
Tonight has been the complete opposite. Nursery in the afternoon as I'm at work, wife has put him to bed and he's slept through.
There is nothing different between yesterday and today yet he's slept so much better.
So who knows!
He has the same routine but doesn't sleep as well for your wife? I'm just making sure I'm reading that right.
He is worse for my wife when she's on her own more often than not. But these last two days have been polar opposites despite everything being the same including me not being there.
When he does wake he shouts for my wife so I wonder if he's got some separation anxiety with her.
Just wish I knew why he's slept so well tonight, can't think of anything that would make a difference!
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I'm wracking my brain with what I'm going to do for Little King's 5th birthday party. We know who he wants to invite, don't know if they can make it. We live in an apartment, so we can't have them running around the place too much. We don't have a garden or shared outdoor space for parties, so we need to go somewhere. It will be in August, so there is a good chance that the weather is going to be nice and we can go to a public park. The nearest ones are rather small, so we would need to move slightly further afield. That means it'll be difficult as there are no public restrooms anywhere.
It'll be mostly me running the show, so I don't want to go to an indoor playground, as that's a logistical and emotional nightmare with six 4-5 year olds with very different energy levels.
My preliminary plan so far is for them to start in our apartment, then go outside for a scavenger hunt ending with whacking a pinata and playing in a public playground. Then head back to the apartment for pancakes and decorating tote bags or some other creative activity.
This is all playing right into my brain spiders.
Take them to the park, let them run around like children. You don't even need to do the tote bags or anything else like that.
They're 5. They literally will not care about that bag the instant they get home, at which point is just another thing that another parent is stepping over and tripping on in the night.
Ellie's birthday is in Feb, which is basically the same weather as your August
We took the kids outside with buckets of water and sponges and had them a water fight. Then we gave them cake, pizza, sushi. And then let them just run around in our yard/park.
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It's been three days of this and I'm exhausted. It was so loud yesterday that a neighbor came round to check everything was alright.
The scavenger hunt is good! And it's not so much as it's wasted, but better saved for next year when they might care a bit more.
I did some finger painting canvas things for Ellie's first and second birthdays, and nobody even took them home.
But next year it might be worth trying again. Providing I want to clean it up after.
You can be creative without making yourself crazy, or going too big.
Want to make pancakes? Set up a topping table for the kids to do their own. Or do a pizza making party or something like that. They'll remember the party, but you won't need to tidy up more than you would have normally, and the other parents might not hate you for setting the bar too high (yes this is a thing I worry about).
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Soft surface, helmet, saddle low enough for them to put a foot on the ground.
Balancing your bike is all about speed, so make sure there's enough space for them to accelerate a bit.
Uh besides that, practice practice practice.
They started by lowering the seat (as above) and taking off the pedals. Then, they worked on pushing with your feet. After they got that done, then they did “push 3 times, big, then pick your feet up and coast.” Then that again, but push once more in the middle. Then do it with some turns.
Only after all of that - which was more than half the class? - did they put the pedals back on. At that point, instead of just picking their feat up after the first three pushes, they’d pick them up and put them on the pedals and go.
Class was taught in a parking lot, so it was nice and flat and they had enough room to go for a bit without running into things.
It was pretty amazing. We used the same method on my youngest (without the class, because of COVID) and it took him only a couple of days of “light trying” to go from training wheels to bike rider.
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How long does this phase last
You could consider also temporarily removing the pedals and making it into a balance bike. Once they get the balance part down without constantly kicking the pedals, put 'em back on and it'll be an even simpler transition.
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Near as I can tell, never.
Until you loudly announce it yourself
I'm hoping for a little encouragement about our Bean's development, as we're a little worried about various kinds of progress. He seems to have kind of just stopped, developmentally, some time ago and it's starting to freak us out.
We've wanted to take him to a pediatrician for a while now but we lost our family doctor and needed to find a new one before we could be referred. It's also worth noting that he's had essentially zero in-person interaction with anyone other than me and his mum since Covid started a few weeks after his second birthday, and it really does seem like he just hasn't had any cognitive or social development in that entire time, but the thing with the hair cuts and the public bathrooms was around before then too.
He's starting preschool in September and we're both super worried. I see it going one of two ways - he's going to be shoved into a social situation where his mum and dad aren't around for him to fall back on and he'll just get on with it and progress, or he'll have a complete melt-down and not know how to interact with anyone and they'll send him home.
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Preschool will probably help regardless, and I wouldn't worry about the potty training (unless it's required for the aforementioned preschool...). Some kids just aren't ready to be potty trained even by 3.5. I'd say keep up with giving him opportunities, but don't stress out about progress, he'll make it when he does.
Are you able to schedule some get-togethers with other adults so he can get more experience with them? Even better if they have kids too. Outdoors and vaccinated and masked and honestly the chance of Covid is basically nil, imo. Maybe that would be all he needs
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I am not a medical professional, so understand this comes from a parent not a medical perspective. Our kiddo did all these things, and we had him evaluated for autism, which yes, he is.
Our kiddo is now 4, almost 5 (in October). He still uses one word answers most commonly if he speaks at all, he still uses a lot of "that one" type pointing requests, his first bouts of mimicry were around your kiddo's age and were from shows not people. He hated being around too many people, the toilet freaks him out and used to induce full on panicked crying. Once he'd been evaluated, we took him to a special class with kiddos like him, and he got better at being around people after about a month at that class. He's got an IEP for preschool, and we work with him throughout the day.
He also loves music, understands everything I say (way too much, in fact) and he can already spell easily, and he can type words which is how when his show was talking about the Mariana Trench he went to the Chromebook and looked up the Mariana Trench. And then started clicking on videos about it and opened the Wikipedia page for it, and I just watched to see how far he'd get, and when I said that the Wiki page had a lot of words and I wasn't sure if he'd get it, he said "I det et."
He's way smart, he learns from screens better than people, and he's hilarious and helpful. He can fully dress himself, knows how way too many things work, and is very independent if he can be. He just also happens to still not talk much, eats only pureed food, and still has issues with the bathroom.
If you even think he might have developmental delays (and it sounds like some of it has been) having him evaluated sooner rather than later will help loads.
This is a real kick in the pants because no, not really. We don't really have any friends here who are into get-togethers, especially during covid. We've tried, it's like pulling teeth. My family is all overseas, my wife's family is weirdly standoffish right now which is a whole other layer of stress. I wish... I really do.
And just in general, @Kalnaur thank you for your post, it almost made me cry. Your little guy sounds amazing and I've been so anxious about finding out if Bean is on the spectrum that it's nice to remember even if he is he'll be ok. Thank you.
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Ugh, that sucks
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My son has a hard time with impulse control, was a late talker, and has a very hard time playing with other kids/ interacting with other people. He's not diagnosed with anything ( trying to get a diagnosis seems to be very expensive or nearly impossible currently), but he was able to get evaluated by his school for services. We weren't sure if he needed the extra help, so even going through the process was helpful in seing what was expected at his age. I highly suggest, if you can, trying to set if there's a process to help. It could just be socialization is needed, and preschool could jump- start his process. But my son was able to get somebody who worked one-on-one with him, and it was amazing how he progressed.
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Hey do I remember right that you’re in BC? I am and we have two families we’re friends with that have recently gone through the process of having kids diagnosed with either autism or ADHD or both, I don’t remember the specifics, but I can find out how the process works here.
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