I don't think people actually like me, more that they put up with me.
yep
Me too
I'll get invited to things and then not go because I assume it was a pity invite
And then they stop inviting you because you never show up, which you just use to confirm that they never liked you in the first place? Yeah that sounds familiar.
Yes exactly
Or they keep inviting my husband because he goes to more stuff, and I assume all invites are for him exclusively
He is more extroverted than I am by far
My wife does this when I get invited places too. In reality every time she doesn't come with me all my friends ask where she is.
Confession: I enjoy courtship more than actual relationships and am constantly terrified of becoming bored with the lady I'm with (it has happened in the past)
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Larlarconsecutive normal brunchesModerator, ClubPAmod
Confession: I talk about my writing insecurities too much, which is deeply annoying, but I can't seem to stop myself
You and me both. I also can't seem to motivate myself to write, either...which certainly conflicts with my dream of becoming a successful author.
I don't even really dream about that anymore
Now I just write things and sigh when no one reads them, and gripe about how crappy writers have multiple published books and I'm a worthless wannabe
The only reason I'm getting my Masters is because I'm not enough of an idealist to think that I'll be able to support myself by writing fiction.
The problem we face is that writing is more politics than product. You have to sell yourself more than your work, something I'm admittedly terrible at. You also just need one really marketable idea for a series, and then it doesn't seem to matter how poorly executed it is.
it's true, but it makes sense from the money people's perspective, whose job is making money rather than learning to write/tell what is good writing
Oh, I definitely understand why it is the way it is. I just hate it.
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Quoththe RavenMiami, FL FOR REALRegistered Userregular
I don't think people actually like me, more that they put up with me.
yep
Me too
I'll get invited to things and then not go because I assume it was a pity invite
And then they stop inviting you because you never show up, which you just use to confirm that they never liked you in the first place? Yeah that sounds familiar.
Yes exactly
Or they keep inviting my husband because he goes to more stuff, and I assume all invites are for him exclusively
He is more extroverted than I am by far
My wife does this when I get invited places too. In reality every time she doesn't come with me all my friends ask where she is.
My husband tells me this as well
Thankfully now I just use my baby as a social shield
Quoth, I know that feeling, it's one of the reasons why I pulled out of Authonomy
It was a horrible, horrible situation for an editor to be in. If I'm in a circle jerk I at least want it to be properly reciprocated!
It's why this is basically the only forum where I still seek legit critiques, because just about every other place is terrible
I used to seek critiques from WB
Then some dude who was mad cuz no one commented on his mediocre poem said that I only got responses because I'm a chick, resulting in the best WB infraction of all time.
I habitually lurk the YouTube thread and the occasional interesting thread that pops up. Which is funny because I definitely don't have a history as a lurker.
It just sorta happens.
So I'll try and stop the lurking by writing up post that never get posted.
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ButtlordFornicusLord of Bondage and PainRegistered Userregular
I don't think people actually like me, more that they put up with me.
yep
Me too
I'll get invited to things and then not go because I assume it was a pity invite
And then they stop inviting you because you never show up, which you just use to confirm that they never liked you in the first place? Yeah that sounds familiar.
Yes exactly
Or they keep inviting my husband because he goes to more stuff, and I assume all invites are for him exclusively
He is more extroverted than I am by far
yeah
I'm constantly not invited to things, now
either I'm a low mental priority, or my company is not wanted
If this is directed at us, it's just because we don't have much contact
I text Malachi bunches, but I rarely talk to you
You're just as welcome to come over as he is, honestly
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Larlarconsecutive normal brunchesModerator, ClubPAmod
Confession: I talk about my writing insecurities too much, which is deeply annoying, but I can't seem to stop myself
You and me both. I also can't seem to motivate myself to write, either...which certainly conflicts with my dream of becoming a successful author.
I don't even really dream about that anymore
Now I just write things and sigh when no one reads them, and gripe about how crappy writers have multiple published books and I'm a worthless wannabe
The only reason I'm getting my Masters is because I'm not enough of an idealist to think that I'll be able to support myself by writing fiction.
The problem we face is that writing is more politics than product. You have to sell yourself more than your work, something I'm admittedly terrible at. You also just need one really marketable idea for a series, and then it doesn't seem to matter how poorly executed it is.
The whole reciprocity thing is my current bane
People expect you to comment on their work if they comment on yours, and sometimes their work sucks so bad that I am at a loss, and I don't want to be a jerk and say something critical, so I say nothing and they get mad and never read my stuff again and UGH
I feel like I'm developing a terrible reputation, if any at all
IN SHORT I AM A CURMUDGEON HELP
Quoth, do you want to start co-motivating each other? I am the most excellent person you will ever meet at being able to accept criticism and, since I haven't written near anything in the last couple of years, I'm sure my first stuff might very well be...ungood.
Provided that you are actually willing to speak your mind.
Yes, I used a word that isn't a word on purpose. I'm that supergood.
Quoth, I know that feeling, it's one of the reasons why I pulled out of Authonomy
It was a horrible, horrible situation for an editor to be in. If I'm in a circle jerk I at least want it to be properly reciprocated!
It's why this is basically the only forum where I still seek legit critiques, because just about every other place is terrible
I used to seek critiques from WB
Then some dude who was mad cuz no one commented on his mediocre poem said that I only got responses because I'm a chick, resulting in the best WB infraction of all time.
I don't think people actually like me, more that they put up with me.
yep
Me too
I'll get invited to things and then not go because I assume it was a pity invite
And then they stop inviting you because you never show up, which you just use to confirm that they never liked you in the first place? Yeah that sounds familiar.
Yes exactly
Or they keep inviting my husband because he goes to more stuff, and I assume all invites are for him exclusively
He is more extroverted than I am by far
yeah
I'm constantly not invited to things, now
either I'm a low mental priority, or my company is not wanted
If this is directed at us, it's just because we don't have much contact
I text Malachi bunches, but I rarely talk to you
You're just as welcome to come over as he is, honestly
@Dubh sometimes I don't invite ya because I get the sense you're really stressed/have too much work to do
Honestly feel free to come over when ya want
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That's our Edcrab.
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Quoththe RavenMiami, FL FOR REALRegistered Userregular
Confession: I talk about my writing insecurities too much, which is deeply annoying, but I can't seem to stop myself
You and me both. I also can't seem to motivate myself to write, either...which certainly conflicts with my dream of becoming a successful author.
I don't even really dream about that anymore
Now I just write things and sigh when no one reads them, and gripe about how crappy writers have multiple published books and I'm a worthless wannabe
The only reason I'm getting my Masters is because I'm not enough of an idealist to think that I'll be able to support myself by writing fiction.
The problem we face is that writing is more politics than product. You have to sell yourself more than your work, something I'm admittedly terrible at. You also just need one really marketable idea for a series, and then it doesn't seem to matter how poorly executed it is.
The whole reciprocity thing is my current bane
People expect you to comment on their work if they comment on yours, and sometimes their work sucks so bad that I am at a loss, and I don't want to be a jerk and say something critical, so I say nothing and they get mad and never read my stuff again and UGH
I feel like I'm developing a terrible reputation, if any at all
IN SHORT I AM A CURMUDGEON HELP
Quoth, do you want to start co-motivating each other? I am the most excellent person you will ever meet at being able to accept criticism and, since I haven't written near anything in the last couple of years, I'm sure my first stuff might very well be...ungood.
Provided that you are actually willing to speak your mind.
Yes, I used a word that isn't a word on purpose. I'm that supergood.
I confess: I read every relationship thread I find in H/A. I do not read them to help, and I never post in them, I just enjoy schadenfreude.
I also really love the word schadenfreude.
Before following any advice, opinions, or thoughts I may have expressed in the above post, be warned: I found Keven Costners "Waterworld" to be a very entertaining film.
Quoth, do you want to start co-motivating each other? I am the most excellent person you will ever meet at being able to accept criticism and, since I haven't written near anything in the last couple of years, I'm sure my first stuff might very well be...ungood.
Provided that you are actually willing to speak your mind.
Yes, I used a word that isn't a word on purpose. I'm that supergood.
Yes let us do this thing, COME AT ME BRO
Maybe you should do it somewhere nice and public, like a certain subforum, so I can JUDGE YOU ALL, WITH MY JUDGMENTAL EYEBALLS
DOES JUDGMENTAL HAVE ONLY ONE E IN IT I CAN'T REMEMBER
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ButtlordFornicusLord of Bondage and PainRegistered Userregular
Quoth, do you want to start co-motivating each other? I am the most excellent person you will ever meet at being able to accept criticism and, since I haven't written near anything in the last couple of years, I'm sure my first stuff might very well be...ungood.
Provided that you are actually willing to speak your mind.
Yes, I used a word that isn't a word on purpose. I'm that supergood.
Yes let us do this thing, COME AT ME BRO
Maybe you should do it somewhere nice and public, like a certain subforum, so I can JUDGE YOU ALL, WITH MY JUDGMENTAL EYEBALLS
DOES JUDGMENTAL HAVE ONLY ONE E IN IT I CAN'T REMEMBER
All you budding artists, musicians, writers, especially writers. I want to support you and I do mentally; I wish for you to succeed. However I have little patience for reviewing "the arts" as it were. I just want to listen to or read something and have it be good. So I never end up reading, commenting, or critiquing ever. I feel like I've failed you because I want to help, and yet the biggest thing I can do to help, I don't do.
I confess: I read every relationship thread I find in H/A. I do not read them to help, and I never post in them, I just enjoy schadenfreude.
I also really love the word schadenfreude.
it's like straight a students getting bs
or exes getting stds
Or watching a frat boy realize just what he put his dick in.
Before following any advice, opinions, or thoughts I may have expressed in the above post, be warned: I found Keven Costners "Waterworld" to be a very entertaining film.
All you budding artists, musicians, writers, especially writers. I want to support you and I do mentally; I wish for you to succeed. However I have little patience for reviewing "the arts" as it were. I just want to listen to or read something and have it be good. So I never end up reading, commenting, or critiquing ever. I feel like I've failed you because I want to help, and yet the biggest thing I can do to help, I don't do.
All you budding artists, musicians, writers, especially writers. I want to support you and I do mentally; I wish for you to succeed. However I have little patience for reviewing "the arts" as it were. I just want to listen to or read something and have it be good. So I never end up reading, commenting, or critiquing ever. I feel like I've failed you because I want to help, and yet the biggest thing I can do to help, I don't do.
That's like... everyone, though
You shouldn't feel bad about that
We all just want to read/view/hear good stuff
why everyone should just listen to my music, objectively the best Art ever
I always hoped of writing a book and simply publishing it online with a donation button if anyone wanted to throw money for the work that was done. In practice however this is a rather difficult goal and I have a great amount of respect for people who can make literary works that don't end up making me feel like I'm chewing chalk.
It's like having awesome ideas isn't the difficult part. It's making those ideas belong in a format that's 200-400 pages that's the trick.
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fortunately for you guys I don't put up with people I don't like!
My wife does this when I get invited places too. In reality every time she doesn't come with me all my friends ask where she is.
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Oh, I definitely understand why it is the way it is. I just hate it.
It's why this is basically the only forum where I still seek legit critiques, because just about every other place is terrible
My husband tells me this as well
Thankfully now I just use my baby as a social shield
I used to seek critiques from WB
Then some dude who was mad cuz no one commented on his mediocre poem said that I only got responses because I'm a chick, resulting in the best WB infraction of all time.
P. S. @Edcrab
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It just sorta happens.
So I'll try and stop the lurking by writing up post that never get posted.
excuse me no fuck you
i said my wardrobe was band tees
not that i'm some stupid jackass teenager
I can see them and understand what some solutions might be but I almost never actually do anything about it
If this is directed at us, it's just because we don't have much contact
I text Malachi bunches, but I rarely talk to you
You're just as welcome to come over as he is, honestly
Quoth, do you want to start co-motivating each other? I am the most excellent person you will ever meet at being able to accept criticism and, since I haven't written near anything in the last couple of years, I'm sure my first stuff might very well be...ungood.
Provided that you are actually willing to speak your mind.
Yes, I used a word that isn't a word on purpose. I'm that supergood.
I can say without hyperbole that that statement is absolutely true
@Dubh sometimes I don't invite ya because I get the sense you're really stressed/have too much work to do
Honestly feel free to come over when ya want
Yes let us do this thing, COME AT ME BRO
I also really love the word schadenfreude.
no, you fucking do it.
It was extremely refreshing and mind clearing.
Maybe you should do it somewhere nice and public, like a certain subforum, so I can JUDGE YOU ALL, WITH MY JUDGMENTAL EYEBALLS
DOES JUDGMENTAL HAVE ONLY ONE E IN IT I CAN'T REMEMBER
it's like straight a students getting bs
or exes getting stds
I think both spellings are technically acceptable
We can do it wherever
Anytime
Anywhere
:winky:
Me too :oops:
Or watching a frat boy realize just what he put his dick in.
Yeah, schadenfreude is an awesome word.
being on an elevator when somebody shouts "hold the door"
That's like... everyone, though
You shouldn't feel bad about that
We all just want to read/view/hear good stuff
When I post photos, whether it's here or on Facebook or my blog or whatever, if I don't get any sort of response I get really disappointed
But like
Feedback shouldn't be the reason I'm sharing this photo
BUT I WANTS IT
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why everyone should just listen to my music, objectively the best Art ever
It's like having awesome ideas isn't the difficult part. It's making those ideas belong in a format that's 200-400 pages that's the trick.
I never know what to do on Facebook
I know dozens of artists and writers but I've never been quite sure if constant likes get right up their noses
"Dammit Ed you like everything! Stop it!"
I'm afraid that if I don't fix that soon, I never will
This is nothing to be ashamed about. Schadenfreude is what separates us from the animals.
Fuck you lady that's what stairs are for
Also there's gotta be some kind of interplay between the characters beyond just them fucking
some kind of joke or banter is nice
need a humanizing element to my porn
nahhhhh