Like the title says, I have a clingy and controlling girlfriend.
The clingy part is mainly that I am almost always
in contact with her. At work, at school, at home, always. We usually see each other from Thursday afternoon until Monday morning each week, and that entire time is spent with each other, unless I am at work, in which case she is texting me. When we are together, I have to cater to her, because if I do something that doesn't interest her, like watch a show that she doesn't like, she gets bored and starts demanding I take her somewhere to entertain her. I love her, but after all this time together, I always want some time alone, but I can't get it. If she wants to talk or see me, I have to respond or drive to her house without complaint, or she gets upset and argues with me for hours about how it doesn't feel like I love her. She personally doesn't like to be alone, so she thinks it is weird and shady that I want to ever be alone or not talk. Right now, we are having a big fight because she wanted me to come and see her after I got off work, but I wanted to go and get her tomorrow when I wake up. We have been fighting about it for about two and a half hours at this point.
The controlling part is pretty much all female related. I have had to delete every single female from my Facebook and my phone, unless they are a relative, or one of her friends. At first, it was just girls that I had crushes on in the past, or had done anything physical with. Then it became girls that she thought were too attractive. Then it was just every girl. Some of the people I had to delete, I had been friends with for over a decade, and she will still get angry at the very mention of other's names. She has told me I am never allowed to make new female friends, or hang out with any of my male friends if there are women present, unless she is there. She will be upset with me if thinks a cashier flirted with me. I am not allowed to watch porn. And I am not supposed to speak with any female unless strictly necessary, even to the point where I'm supposed to ask my professors to put me in different groups for group work if my group contains a girl. Speaking to girls in the WoW guild she had me join is also banned, as is talking to a girl on any forum. She doesn't like me watching shows that feature women that she thinks I find attractive, but I am allowed to watch those as long as she is not present.
I really do love her, and I am normally happy with her. We're both in our mid twenties, this is my first relationship, she has had several before me. I realize this looks really bad written out like this, but I don't want to break up with her. When we are actually together and she isn't upset, I really love being with her. I just wish there was some way to like...get her to understand where I am coming from on the personal space issue, and maybe get her to understand that I can talk to a girl without having sex with her. Any suggestions?