VivixenneRemember your training, and we'll get through this just fine.Registered Userregular
edited October 2013
okay so I only just read and caught up with this thread
but from what I've read about the OP's story thus far surely, given that he has a self-reported anxiety problem, it is a better idea to drop it like it's hot and reconcile it as something beyond your scope of control, rather than ruminating on it and causing further anxiety
I mean I know dropping it isn't easy, but surely fixating on it is going to be worse in the long run from an anxiety standpoint
in fact, one could argue that fixating on it is what is causing the anxiety or is even symptomatic of anxiety
but from what I've read about the OP's story thus far surely, given that he has a self-reported anxiety problem, it is a better idea to drop it like it's hot and reconcile it as something beyond your scope of control, rather than ruminating on it and causing further anxiety
Yeah, he's never going to cobble together a story that pleases him or tie up any loose ends. Only going to leave him in knots, and it won't be his sole regret so no sense digging in his heels over the incident. Better he just wags his tongue here about the insolent employees.
This reminds me of that story a few days back about a kid getting arrested for buying a $350 belt. I believe the police found him guilty of shopping while black.
This reminds me of that story a few days back about a kid getting arrested for buying a $350 belt. I believe the police found him guilty of shopping while black.
I only tip in situations that are inappropriate. I tipped an ER doctor who took care of me, a police officer who I thought was doing a great job patrolling, and my bank teller who's always pleasant.
Also I always wink when I tip.
Er... I hope you were joking. Tipping a cop is generally considered bribery (same thing with tipping postal workers.)
I read advice for giving Christmas gifts to postal workers, one should give them cookies or something since cash gifts are illegal.
EDIT: Duhh, of course you were joking.
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SheriResident FlufferMy Living RoomRegistered Userregular
edited October 2013
My parents used to leave our post man a bottle of liquor the day before Christmas
This reminds me of that story a few days back about a kid getting arrested for buying a $350 belt. I believe the police found him guilty of shopping while black.
We were talking about that several pages back but while it's a shitty story the guy will for sure be getting a hefty settlement so at least nowadays it's almost impossible to get away with blatant (and completely baseless in that case) profiling.
okay so I only just read and caught up with this thread
but from what I've read about the OP's story thus far surely, given that he has a self-reported anxiety problem, it is a better idea to drop it like it's hot and reconcile it as something beyond your scope of control, rather than ruminating on it and causing further anxiety
I mean I know dropping it isn't easy, but surely fixating on it is going to be worse in the long run from an anxiety standpoint
in fact, one could argue that fixating on it is what is causing the anxiety or is even symptomatic of anxiety
I'm about 80 to 85% over it now.
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MichaelLCIn what furnace was thy brain?ChicagoRegistered Userregular
Payless is having an 80-85% off sale. Might want to check it out.
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MetalbourneInside a cluster b personalityRegistered Userregular
okay so I only just read and caught up with this thread
but from what I've read about the OP's story thus far surely, given that he has a self-reported anxiety problem, it is a better idea to drop it like it's hot and reconcile it as something beyond your scope of control, rather than ruminating on it and causing further anxiety
I mean I know dropping it isn't easy, but surely fixating on it is going to be worse in the long run from an anxiety standpoint
in fact, one could argue that fixating on it is what is causing the anxiety or is even symptomatic of anxiety
I'm about 80 to 85% over it now.
IM ALLERGIC TO BEES I HAVE TO GET TO THAT BEE HIVE!
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KakodaimonosCode fondlerHelping the 1% get richerRegistered Userregular
This reminds me of that story a few days back about a kid getting arrested for buying a $350 belt. I believe the police found him guilty of shopping while black.
We were talking about that several pages back but while it's a shitty story the guy will for sure be getting a hefty settlement so at least nowadays it's almost impossible to get away with blatant (and completely baseless in that case) profiling.
If I ever get proper wealthy, I'd really like to just start tipping everyone
Anyone whose job demands them doing something for me, they get a tip
I'd have to develop my own percentage rules or whatever, but man, I've worked a lot of shitty jobs (most of them faceless, so I wouldn't even be effected by this, but), and I think people deserve a tip sometimes
When someone gave me a tip for helping them find their seat in the movie theater, literally the only tip I have ever gotten in my life, I was ecstatic
So I got an email on Wednesday from the customer service director that I would be receiving a letter in the mail (I did not ask for a gift card, although she did mention it on the phone last week)
It's unfortunate because while she seemed sincere on the phone, she went to great lengths in this letter to appear in stark contrast to that. The insinuation that the experienced "as I explained it" is anything other than factual, as is the insistence on further requesting in writing that I don't visit their store, is insulting. Frankly, so is the dollar amount of the gift card, which would not even pay for one pair of shoes. I will likely donate it to charity.
I asked my wife if I should respond to her email and let her know my feelings, or if I should just let it go. At first she said just to let it go, but after reading the letter she is not so sure...
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Big Red Tiebeautiful clydesdale style feettoo hot to trotRegistered Userregular
The language in that letter is clearly designed to be as neutral as possible because while they want to be courteous to you they are not going to throw themselves under the bus
You are reading a malice into those words that does not exist
You got thirty dollars towards a new pair of shoes for doing literally nothing, use it and let it go
Ah, I think that letter is fine. I'd just not go to that store anymore anyhow.
This director probably is just trying to make everyone happy. You get a gift card and an honest talk. The nerds who kicked you out, get a suggestion put in, of ya not coming back to that location.
If it was me, at this point, I'd probably just wear the story as a badge of honor or whatever.
re: tipping, I always pay with a debit card and I always make my tip an amount that brings the bill to a round dollar figure because I am weird like that
like if I get a meal that is 12.75, I'll tip 2.25 so it's an even 15.00
while you're telling darlene about how horribly you were mistreated at one of her stores, she's hearing from her employees about how you're a shoplifter that's throwing a tantrum over getting caught and you're just trying to make trouble in retaliation
darlene can't assume that either one of you is telling the truth because she wasn't there
so even though you know that you're right, she lacks the perspective necessary to take your word for it, and the best she can do is offer a small gesture of apology
So I got an email on Wednesday from the customer service director that I would be receiving a letter in the mail (I did not ask for a gift card, although she did mention it on the phone last week)
It's unfortunate because while she seemed sincere on the phone, she went to great lengths in this letter to appear in stark contrast to that. The insinuation that the experienced "as I explained it" is anything other than factual, as is the insistence on further requesting in writing that I don't visit their store, is insulting. Frankly, so is the dollar amount of the gift card, which would not even pay for one pair of shoes. I will likely donate it to charity.
I asked my wife if I should respond to her email and let her know my feelings, or if I should just let it go. At first she said just to let it go, but after reading the letter she is not so sure...
AAHHH BEES! IM ALLERGIC AND IVE BEEN STUNG BY A BEE
I won't get a pair of shoes for that much money and I'm not giving them any of mine. I think I'm just going to donate the gift card, and burn the letter so I can't re-read it a thousand times.
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Big Red Tiebeautiful clydesdale style feettoo hot to trotRegistered Userregular
I won't get a pair of shoes for that much money and I'm not giving them any of mine. I think I'm just going to donate the gift card, and burn the letter so I can't re-read it a thousand times.
Sounds like Shoes at Payless are too expensive anyhow.
You can get good shoes for about that much in most department stores- if you wait for a sale.
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MichaelLCIn what furnace was thy brain?ChicagoRegistered Userregular
So I got an email on Wednesday from the customer service director that I would be receiving a letter in the mail (I did not ask for a gift card, although she did mention it on the phone last week)
It's unfortunate because while she seemed sincere on the phone, she went to great lengths in this letter to appear in stark contrast to that. The insinuation that the experienced "as I explained it" is anything other than factual, as is the insistence on further requesting in writing that I don't visit their store, is insulting. Frankly, so is the dollar amount of the gift card, which would not even pay for one pair of shoes. I will likely donate it to charity.
I asked my wife if I should respond to her email and let her know my feelings, or if I should just let it go. At first she said just to let it go, but after reading the letter she is not so sure...
I've had some fun here but in seriousness, that letter, and more so the GC, is kind of an insult. It's just like "here's some money, go away." But whatever, let it go. Use the card or give it away.
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VivixenneRemember your training, and we'll get through this just fine.Registered Userregular
edited November 2013
It's not an insult. Stop calling it that. The people making the decision have no way of verifying whose story is true, so they have to make a gesture that the dude has been heard but not outright say YUP YOU'RE RIGHT WE ARE WRONG GONNA FIRE THEM KIDS.
If you are interpreting it as an insult or a slap in the face I strongly encourage you to take some time and reflect on that.
I won't get a pair of shoes for that much money and I'm not giving them any of mine. I think I'm just going to donate the gift card, and burn the letter so I can't re-read it a thousand times.
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but from what I've read about the OP's story thus far surely, given that he has a self-reported anxiety problem, it is a better idea to drop it like it's hot and reconcile it as something beyond your scope of control, rather than ruminating on it and causing further anxiety
I mean I know dropping it isn't easy, but surely fixating on it is going to be worse in the long run from an anxiety standpoint
in fact, one could argue that fixating on it is what is causing the anxiety or is even symptomatic of anxiety
Yeah, he's never going to cobble together a story that pleases him or tie up any loose ends. Only going to leave him in knots, and it won't be his sole regret so no sense digging in his heels over the incident. Better he just wags his tongue here about the insolent employees.
A couple of pages late, but I once got drunk during a bachelor party and tipped the cashier of this fast food burger joint $11 for my $9 meal.
also holy shit it is raining pretty hard i love this shit
i don't wanna go to bed
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Holy shit, where have you been?
Yeah, that's what I thought this thread was about at first. http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/28/us/new-york-profiling-claims/index.html
Er... I hope you were joking. Tipping a cop is generally considered bribery (same thing with tipping postal workers.)
I read advice for giving Christmas gifts to postal workers, one should give them cookies or something since cash gifts are illegal.
EDIT: Duhh, of course you were joking.
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We were talking about that several pages back but while it's a shitty story the guy will for sure be getting a hefty settlement so at least nowadays it's almost impossible to get away with blatant (and completely baseless in that case) profiling.
I'm about 80 to 85% over it now.
IM ALLERGIC TO BEES I HAVE TO GET TO THAT BEE HIVE!
Remember that you should always do the sniff test on children's shoes before buying them. To see how odor resistant the shoes are.
Nah it kinda happens all the time
If I ever get proper wealthy, I'd really like to just start tipping everyone
Anyone whose job demands them doing something for me, they get a tip
I'd have to develop my own percentage rules or whatever, but man, I've worked a lot of shitty jobs (most of them faceless, so I wouldn't even be effected by this, but), and I think people deserve a tip sometimes
When someone gave me a tip for helping them find their seat in the movie theater, literally the only tip I have ever gotten in my life, I was ecstatic
This arrived today.
It's unfortunate because while she seemed sincere on the phone, she went to great lengths in this letter to appear in stark contrast to that. The insinuation that the experienced "as I explained it" is anything other than factual, as is the insistence on further requesting in writing that I don't visit their store, is insulting. Frankly, so is the dollar amount of the gift card, which would not even pay for one pair of shoes. I will likely donate it to charity.
I asked my wife if I should respond to her email and let her know my feelings, or if I should just let it go. At first she said just to let it go, but after reading the letter she is not so sure...
sue them
The language in that letter is clearly designed to be as neutral as possible because while they want to be courteous to you they are not going to throw themselves under the bus
You are reading a malice into those words that does not exist
You got thirty dollars towards a new pair of shoes for doing literally nothing, use it and let it go
http://www.audioentropy.com/
Doesn't exactly sound like a slap in the face to me...
This director probably is just trying to make everyone happy. You get a gift card and an honest talk. The nerds who kicked you out, get a suggestion put in, of ya not coming back to that location.
If it was me, at this point, I'd probably just wear the story as a badge of honor or whatever.
like if I get a meal that is 12.75, I'll tip 2.25 so it's an even 15.00
darlene can't assume that either one of you is telling the truth because she wasn't there
so even though you know that you're right, she lacks the perspective necessary to take your word for it, and the best she can do is offer a small gesture of apology
http://www.audioentropy.com/
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AAHHH BEES! IM ALLERGIC AND IVE BEEN STUNG BY A BEE
HEY THERES A HIVE LETS STOP HERE FOR A MINUTE
I was innocently sniffing children's shoes while sensually rubbing myself when...
And be sure to include writing directly to the CEO.
Sounds like Shoes at Payless are too expensive anyhow.
You can get good shoes for about that much in most department stores- if you wait for a sale.
I've had some fun here but in seriousness, that letter, and more so the GC, is kind of an insult. It's just like "here's some money, go away." But whatever, let it go. Use the card or give it away.
If you are interpreting it as an insult or a slap in the face I strongly encourage you to take some time and reflect on that.
Good. Do this.