Who would ever want to put his cock in a woman who would be willing to do that to her husband?
If she'll lie to her husband about fucking you, she'll lie to you about fucking that guy with herpes.
You'll get a lot of white knights that will go against the grain of "Once a cheater, always a cheater" as if there's certain circumstances that make cheating okay.
They're wrong, oh boy are they wrong. You're talking about a moral fault, not a lapse in judgement. They are rationalizing their error as okay, and they will always be able to rationalize their error as okay.
I don't agree with "Once a cheater, always a cheater". People, especially young people, will make stupid mistakes based on emotions and raw urges and shit. So yeah, you can have a lapse in judgement, and you can even learn a lesson that will stay with you for a very long time. But just like any lie, there will always be that shadow over you about a certain trust that was lost. And it can take a very long time to get that trust back with a person who you know was a cheater. Even if you were the one cheating with them.
I'm not really worried about 20 year olds and their 4 month long relationship, when I say those things.
But it's soooooo long, it might as well be forever. Because we're soul mates.
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AtomikaLive fast and get fucked or whateverRegistered Userregular
I have an interview with General Dynamics tomorrow.
I was offered another temp job at the IMF but they understand I can't do it tomorrow from the interview but next time.
Get a call from another temp agency and offered a possible 2 month contract doing IT to help replace and get some new computers installed. This would probably pay 15 to 20 an hour.
Is sleeping with a married person morally questionable?
I suppose so, I would personally avoid doing it
but it pales in comparison to the person who is actually cheating on their husband/wife
I'd put pretty much all the blame on the person doing the cheating personally, it's no ones job to preserve the sanctity of someone elses marriage
I have enough respect in myself and my integrity where I would find it incredibly difficult and damaging to my image of self to do or participate in it.
Plus I wouldn't want to hurt my s/o. If I was tempted, and I thought this was something I really wanted, and was sure, I'd have enough respect for myself and my s/o to not break their trust that way. It's still going to hurt them, but cheating has some pretty severe psychological shit associated with it.
I just can't agree with anyone that thinks it's "okay." Is getting laid really that important? It can't wait a few days for you to get your affairs in order?
Yeah sometimes you make mistakes, young people are dumb, I'm not really talking about those people. A 17 year old that's been married for 3 months when their spouse gets deployed into the military isn't what I'm really referencing here.
i dont disagree
i dont put enough value on sex that i'd be willing to get tied up in that sort of mess just for an easy screw
but like i said, if you're in a relationship it's on you to not go out looking for sex with other people or to turn it down if an offer finds you
it's not the job of the person you're offering sex to to turn you down to protect your marriage
(when i say you here I don't mean you you, just you in the general sense because it's the easist way to phrase this)
I'd put pretty much all the blame on the person doing the cheating personally, it's no ones job to preserve the sanctity of someone elses marriage
I disagree with this. Marriage is a social institution, and we do have a moral duty not to be a party to its destruction. That awful behavior harms everyone, and the other man/woman is a despicable person for engaging in it.
I'd put pretty much all the blame on the person doing the cheating personally, it's no ones job to preserve the sanctity of someone elses marriage
I disagree with this. Marriage is a social institution, and we do have a moral duty not to be a party to its destruction. That awful behavior harms everyone, and the other man/woman is a despicable person for engaging in it.
Again, only if the person knew. If they didn't know the person they were in a relationship with was married, I have no problem absolving them for blame, so long as they stopped and issued an ultimatum.
Integrity means a ton to me.
not a doctor, not a lawyer, examples I use may not be fully researched so don't take out of context plz, don't @ me
If I don't cheat on my wife how will I know when I've found someone better? I mean, I could leave her without having cheated, but that try before you buy phase is vital to weighing up my options.
Also the irony I got a master's in a field I love so I wasn't forced into IT which my normal skill set really fits.
At least IT is a lot more relaxed in not wearing a suit all the time.
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My wife makes angostura bitters. It's remarkably easy and saves a ton, granted you don't mind waiting a month or so for them to properly steep. But at the end of that month you have enough bitters for a year or two.
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I'd put pretty much all the blame on the person doing the cheating personally, it's no ones job to preserve the sanctity of someone elses marriage
I disagree with this. Marriage is a social institution, and we do have a moral duty not to be a party to its destruction. That awful behavior harms everyone, and the other man/woman is a despicable person for engaging in it.
Again, only if the person knew. If they didn't know the person they were in a relationship with was married, I have no problem absolving them for blame, so long as they stopped and issued an ultimatum.
I'd put pretty much all the blame on the person doing the cheating personally, it's no ones job to preserve the sanctity of someone elses marriage
I disagree with this. Marriage is a social institution, and we do have a moral duty not to be a party to its destruction. That awful behavior harms everyone, and the other man/woman is a despicable person for engaging in it.
Then we shall have to agree to disagree.
Like I said I'm not advocating it as a positive course of action, or even morally neutral all things speaking. Obviously it's situational, breaking up happy homes on purpose is pretty scummy, there's a million and one factors to take into account.
But, the other man/woman didn't stand on the altar and take a vow. Call it a social institution if you like, it's as useful a term as any but bandying about terms like "moral duty" to preserve other peoples marriages is pretty subjective. You'll find a lot of people who don't feel like they took on or accepted that responsibility.
It's not like it's a law you have to obey. It's a moral judgement, which of course is subjective.
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The only time I ever cheated on anyone I wound up marrying the girl I was cheating with. I don't really know how to feel about that.
Same here. The beginning of my relationship with my wife was a cheating situation. So yeah, In the end we ended up in a long lasting marriage. But holy shit did it make the beginning our relationship hell. Just hell. It would have saved me years of grief if I'd just played by the rules.
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I'd put pretty much all the blame on the person doing the cheating personally, it's no ones job to preserve the sanctity of someone elses marriage
I disagree with this. Marriage is a social institution, and we do have a moral duty not to be a party to its destruction. That awful behavior harms everyone, and the other man/woman is a despicable person for engaging in it.
Again, only if the person knew. If they didn't know the person they were in a relationship with was married, I have no problem absolving them for blame, so long as they stopped and issued an ultimatum.
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I have an interview with General Dynamics tomorrow.
I was offered another temp job at the IMF but they understand I can't do it tomorrow from the interview but next time.
Get a call from another temp agency and offered a possible 2 month contract doing IT to help replace and get some new computers installed. This would probably pay 15 to 20 an hour.
So yay work!
i dont disagree
i dont put enough value on sex that i'd be willing to get tied up in that sort of mess just for an easy screw
but like i said, if you're in a relationship it's on you to not go out looking for sex with other people or to turn it down if an offer finds you
it's not the job of the person you're offering sex to to turn you down to protect your marriage
(when i say you here I don't mean you you, just you in the general sense because it's the easist way to phrase this)
I disagree with this. Marriage is a social institution, and we do have a moral duty not to be a party to its destruction. That awful behavior harms everyone, and the other man/woman is a despicable person for engaging in it.
slow down there hot rod
this is a BBS, not a MUD
homemade orgeat or I feed
twitch.tv/tehsloth
and the gengars who are guiding me" -- W.S. Merwin
Fuck that shit, rad is still dope as fk.
Again, only if the person knew. If they didn't know the person they were in a relationship with was married, I have no problem absolving them for blame, so long as they stopped and issued an ultimatum.
Integrity means a ton to me.
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At least IT is a lot more relaxed in not wearing a suit all the time.
ugh. fffiiiiinnnnneeeeee
*slices almonds*
*grabs rosewater*
"Tubular" is still great to casually use once in a blue moon
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I don't even know how to pronounce orgeat but I felt pretty emasculated I tell you hwat
and the gengars who are guiding me" -- W.S. Merwin
Are you sharing or....?
Gnarly bro, gnarly.
If you are cheated on it makes it hard to trust people next time
If you cheat it stays with you and really undermines your impression of yourself
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and the gengars who are guiding me" -- W.S. Merwin
where?
twitch.tv/tehsloth
it was more of a verb-noun thing
and the gengars who are guiding me" -- W.S. Merwin
Then we shall have to agree to disagree.
Like I said I'm not advocating it as a positive course of action, or even morally neutral all things speaking. Obviously it's situational, breaking up happy homes on purpose is pretty scummy, there's a million and one factors to take into account.
But, the other man/woman didn't stand on the altar and take a vow. Call it a social institution if you like, it's as useful a term as any but bandying about terms like "moral duty" to preserve other peoples marriages is pretty subjective. You'll find a lot of people who don't feel like they took on or accepted that responsibility.
It's not like it's a law you have to obey. It's a moral judgement, which of course is subjective.
unless youre a bro with no remorse
i know a few
Same here. The beginning of my relationship with my wife was a cheating situation. So yeah, In the end we ended up in a long lasting marriage. But holy shit did it make the beginning our relationship hell. Just hell. It would have saved me years of grief if I'd just played by the rules.
This makes me sad.
Being reminded of being cheated on makes me sad.
I get like PTSD when i see things like this.
Arch,
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_goGR39m2k
I suppose so
Augh
*thousand yard stare*
:l
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But if I know a friend is being cheated on?
I'm going to tell them.
Fuck that it's not my place shit. I'd want to know. So I'm doing the same for them.