on the same token, though, i knew i was going to be referring to my kid in gendered terms. doing my best to avoid the pitfalls of slotting kids into the day-one gender norms EVERYone is trying to slot your kid into, but I still call him a boy, even if I also know that at the end of the day, the kid's gender is "is a baby." I'm hopeful that assigning the kid a gender won't limit any of their own discovery of the self in the future if we start with that in mind, though that might sound foolish.
I asked my DayZ/PUBG group for different pronouns because I thought it would help me normalize my transness and maybe make me feel more confident. This is actually my second attempt, but it looks they're going to keep using male pronouns. I wish this wouldn't feel so disheartening. They're good people but I'm not sure what I can do.
Don't sound like that good of people. That fuckin' sucks
I talked to them again and one person essentially asked me for a doctor's note to prove I'm really trans. He also said he wasn't really into altering the way he speaks.
In the end, he said he understood better, so I'll have to see how it goes.
I would have other things to say but I feel they would be unkind.
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FencingsaxIt is difficult to get a man to understand, when his salary depends upon his not understandingGNU Terry PratchettRegistered Userregular
Fucking right they're unkind
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I asked my DayZ/PUBG group for different pronouns because I thought it would help me normalize my transness and maybe make me feel more confident. This is actually my second attempt, but it looks they're going to keep using male pronouns. I wish this wouldn't feel so disheartening. They're good people but I'm not sure what I can do.
Don't sound like that good of people. That fuckin' sucks
I talked to them again and one person essentially asked me for a doctor's note to prove I'm really trans. He also said he wasn't really into altering the way he speaks.
In the end, he said he understood better, so I'll have to see how it goes.
I would have other things to say but I feel they would be unkind.
That's fuckin' shitty. I'm sorry you have to deal with friends like that, Platy.
Ah, it stinks, it sucks, it's anthropologically unjust
I asked my DayZ/PUBG group for different pronouns because I thought it would help me normalize my transness and maybe make me feel more confident. This is actually my second attempt, but it looks they're going to keep using male pronouns. I wish this wouldn't feel so disheartening. They're good people but I'm not sure what I can do.
Don't sound like that good of people. That fuckin' sucks
I talked to them again and one person essentially asked me for a doctor's note to prove I'm really trans. He also said he wasn't really into altering the way he speaks.
In the end, he said he understood better, so I'll have to see how it goes.
I would have other things to say but I feel they would be unkind.
I also have things to say and "unkind" does not fucking begin to cover it.
I asked my DayZ/PUBG group for different pronouns because I thought it would help me normalize my transness and maybe make me feel more confident. This is actually my second attempt, but it looks they're going to keep using male pronouns. I wish this wouldn't feel so disheartening. They're good people but I'm not sure what I can do.
Don't sound like that good of people. That fuckin' sucks
I talked to them again and one person essentially asked me for a doctor's note to prove I'm really trans. He also said he wasn't really into altering the way he speaks.
In the end, he said he understood better, so I'll have to see how it goes.
I would have other things to say but I feel they would be unkind.
Demand they produce a doctors note to prove they are actually sentient.
Who the fuck do they think they are? I'm sorry, fuckin' PROOF? The proof is "hey I'm me and I said this is who I am" and that is the only proof anyone outside of a legal context ever needs to receive.
This yahoo can fuck ALL the way off
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lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
Seriously. I don't know how you didn't punch a person.
“I’m not into altering the way I speak” is code for “I will not make even the tiniest effort to respect you as a human being”
Fuck this asshole two times
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This is where cishet people really need to be stepping in and saying "hey fuckwit do the thing" so that it's not a single trans* person trying to fight this battle by themselves (while already having to constantly justify their existence in the broader scheme of the world, apparently, for some fucking reason that no one can actually articulate) and let me express my genuine and deep embarrassment and apology that the ones around you are not doing that.
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I finally met some other trans people. They do actually exist.
I work with this girl, she's pretty awesome. We get a lot of people coming in temporarily to do random work. A lot of them will say "is PERSON a..." before I hit them with a "yes, PERSON is a she".
Usually get a bunch of "rabble rabble guy rabble rabble" before I annoyedly repeat myself.
I work with this girl, she's pretty awesome. We get a lot of people coming in temporarily to do random work. A lot of them will say "is PERSON a..." before I hit them with a "yes, PERSON is a she".
Usually get a bunch of "rabble rabble guy rabble rabble" before I annoyedly repeat myself.
“I’m not into altering the way I speak” is code for “I will not make even the tiniest effort to respect you as a human being”
Fuck this asshole two times
I mean even calling it 'code' is a stretch. It's just flat out saying that.
The only meager silver lining to that cloud of assholishness is that they've given carte-blanche to be completely dismissive and disrespectful right back and, after what they said right in front of the HR person, can never complain to HR about it.
I finally met some other trans people. They do actually exist.
I realised after posting this that I have met 2 people from this forum who I believe are actually trans. So sorry to those people if this was a dismissive thing to say. I guess what I meant was I met other trans people for the first time since realising that about myself.
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During my programming class lecture today our lecturer was using a theoretical database storing personal data as an example for the particular programming concept the lecture was about. He fielded suggestions for attributes for a person in said database, and someone called out "biological sex" and without skipping a beat he gave the guy a weird look and wrote "gender" on the whiteboard instead
then later he mentioned how you'd want to have multiple options for the gender choice, and someone was like "don't you mean two?" and that person also got the weird look and "no, you want at the very least 3" in response
kinda felt nice to see this grumpy old guy lecturer just nonchalantly being up with the times
During my programming class lecture today our lecturer was using a theoretical database storing personal data as an example for the particular programming concept the lecturer was about. He fielded suggestions for attributes for a person in said database, and someone called out "biological sex" and without skipping a beat he gave the guy a weird look and wrote "gender" on the whiteboard instead
then later he mentioned how you'd want to have multiple options for the gender choice, and someone was like "don't you mean two?" and that person also got the weird look and "no, you want at the very least 3" in response
kinda felt nice to see this grumpy old guy lecturer just nonchalantly being up with the times
That's good, because in my programming classes we definitely used gender as like, an example of something there is exactly two of.
During my programming class lecture today our lecturer was using a theoretical database storing personal data as an example for the particular programming concept the lecturer was about. He fielded suggestions for attributes for a person in said database, and someone called out "biological sex" and without skipping a beat he gave the guy a weird look and wrote "gender" on the whiteboard instead
then later he mentioned how you'd want to have multiple options for the gender choice, and someone was like "don't you mean two?" and that person also got the weird look and "no, you want at the very least 3" in response
kinda felt nice to see this grumpy old guy lecturer just nonchalantly being up with the times
That's good, because in my programming classes we definitely used gender as like, an example of something there is exactly two of.
iirc when we started talking about datatypes for the class constructors he stated that "gender" would be char (this is java, btw) and that you'd only need to validate inputs to ensure they were the right datatype, nothing more
which is quietly saying "literally any letter in the alphabet would be an acceptable input"
During my programming class lecture today our lecturer was using a theoretical database storing personal data as an example for the particular programming concept the lecturer was about. He fielded suggestions for attributes for a person in said database, and someone called out "biological sex" and without skipping a beat he gave the guy a weird look and wrote "gender" on the whiteboard instead
then later he mentioned how you'd want to have multiple options for the gender choice, and someone was like "don't you mean two?" and that person also got the weird look and "no, you want at the very least 3" in response
kinda felt nice to see this grumpy old guy lecturer just nonchalantly being up with the times
That's good, because in my programming classes we definitely used gender as like, an example of something there is exactly two of.
iirc when we started talking about datatypes for the class constructors he stated that "gender" would be char (this is java, btw) and that you'd only need to validate inputs to ensure they were the right datatype, nothing more
which is quietly saying "literally any letter in the alphabet would be an acceptable input"
Hell fuckin' yeah. What a great professor.
I cannot even imagine being that guy who goes out of their way to make sure everyone knows exactly what they think about trans people, in a lecture about databases. What a fucking tool.
Sesame Street released a statement after a former writer, in an interview with Queerty, said he always felt (when writing Bert and Ernie) that they were in a gay relationship symbolic of his own relationship with his partner
3cl1ps3I will build a labyrinth to house the cheeseRegistered Userregular
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One the one hand that sucks and is cowardly.
On the other I can sort of see why a show that relies heavily on public/government funding (and just narrowly avoided getting defunded because the GOP are fucking idiots within the last year) would not come out and say "they are gay puppets to teach kids that gay people are okay" in the current political dumpster fire.
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Isn't that exactly the same statement they put out last time this came up like 5 years ago
Bert and Ernie would be a bad couple anyway
It would be rad if sesame street introduced a gay human couple as part of the cast though
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The wording of the statement is the same sort of equivocating for homophobia that people trot out whenever they're making excuses for not showing queer content in kids' media. "They're <blank> they can't be gay, even though we have no issues implying or assuming heterosexual norms onto them".
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Yo @Theodore Floosevelt.
You thinking and considering all of these factors & considerations shows that your kid will be supported in their own journey of self discovery.
Good on you and keep it up.
I talked to them again and one person essentially asked me for a doctor's note to prove I'm really trans. He also said he wasn't really into altering the way he speaks.
In the end, he said he understood better, so I'll have to see how it goes.
I would have other things to say but I feel they would be unkind.
That's fuckin' shitty. I'm sorry you have to deal with friends like that, Platy.
I also have things to say and "unkind" does not fucking begin to cover it.
Hi yes hello excuse me but whAT THE F U C C
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Demand they produce a doctors note to prove they are actually sentient.
This yahoo can fuck ALL the way off
I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
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"I got a note right here from Dr. Knuckle and her assistant, Nurse Practitioner Sandwich."
Fuck this asshole two times
Usually get a bunch of "rabble rabble guy rabble rabble" before I annoyedly repeat myself.
Is annoyedly even a word?
My own head-canon:
Name: Waluigi. Species: Waluigi. Gender: Vectorized.
I would go with 'irritably'
I mean even calling it 'code' is a stretch. It's just flat out saying that.
The only meager silver lining to that cloud of assholishness is that they've given carte-blanche to be completely dismissive and disrespectful right back and, after what they said right in front of the HR person, can never complain to HR about it.
You look real cute!
Also fuck those people that were giving you shit last week, I’m still pissed about that!
I realised after posting this that I have met 2 people from this forum who I believe are actually trans. So sorry to those people if this was a dismissive thing to say. I guess what I meant was I met other trans people for the first time since realising that about myself.
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Hope all you lovelies are doing well! As always, please feel free to reach out if you aren't doing so great
then later he mentioned how you'd want to have multiple options for the gender choice, and someone was like "don't you mean two?" and that person also got the weird look and "no, you want at the very least 3" in response
kinda felt nice to see this grumpy old guy lecturer just nonchalantly being up with the times
That's good, because in my programming classes we definitely used gender as like, an example of something there is exactly two of.
iirc when we started talking about datatypes for the class constructors he stated that "gender" would be char (this is java, btw) and that you'd only need to validate inputs to ensure they were the right datatype, nothing more
which is quietly saying "literally any letter in the alphabet would be an acceptable input"
Hell fuckin' yeah. What a great professor.
I cannot even imagine being that guy who goes out of their way to make sure everyone knows exactly what they think about trans people, in a lecture about databases. What a fucking tool.
smh were they really pressured enough to just immediately denounce a random harmless quote in an interview
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On the other I can sort of see why a show that relies heavily on public/government funding (and just narrowly avoided getting defunded because the GOP are fucking idiots within the last year) would not come out and say "they are gay puppets to teach kids that gay people are okay" in the current political dumpster fire.
Bert and Ernie would be a bad couple anyway
It would be rad if sesame street introduced a gay human couple as part of the cast though
I mean ffs Gonzo fucks chickens.
Notice they specify "Sesame Street Muppets"
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