My friend is coming over tomorrow for Pal-entine's Day which will consist of eating entirely too much pizza, finishing of the last movie in the Harry Potter series (that we started watching nearly a year ago), and making boozy Butterbeer on a rainy afternoon. Life ain't so bad.
I mean in the same way that any word can be misspelled close enough that the meaning is still clear.
As far as I can tell there isn't really any notable history of "wierdo" being a common/accepted alternate spelling. Just one of those words that gets misspelled often enough (and "ie/ei" rules being vague enough) that people might not notice.
Surprised her with a rose and some lovely fragrant Taiwanese flowers I don’t know the name of and a Coke because she didn’t want chocolate and she looooooves Coke.
My class for the evening was canceled so we walked around and enjoyed each other’s company and did some smooches and had a nice, low key Valentine's Day.
When she got home she told her mom about us. Her mom kept getting stressed out that we wouldn't be able to communicate and she had to keep reminding her that I speak Mandarin. :P
Edit: She then offered not to tell her dad yet because, and I quote "if I tell my dad then my whole family will know" and she didn't want to put that pressure on me
and I'm like "girl, have we met, attention sustains me" and told her she should do whatever she felt comfortable with.
So I think this thing is like, 100% go now, like full out, like totally, like full on.
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Had an Aussie Valentine's double date last night with my partners over there. We drank and played Apex Legends and flirted a bunch and it was real good
Spending tonight with Christine. Making some tasty salmon and mushrooms and a salad with some wine, and ice cream after. Then THINGS and laying in bed watching shows and smooching
Then I have a remote date with a partner tomorrow where we are both cooking the same meal and I'm dressing up and gonna do candles and we are gonna have a dinner date via discord video chat. And then maybe play games?
Then Sunday date with Cali partner who just visited. Busy end of week!
Had an Aussie Valentine's double date last night with my partners over there. We drank and played Apex Legends and flirted a bunch and it was real good
Spending tonight with Christine. Making some tasty salmon and mushrooms and a salad with some wine, and ice cream after. Then THINGS and laying in bed watching shows and smooching
Then I have a remote date with a partner tomorrow where we are both cooking the same meal and I'm dressing up and gonna do candles and we are gonna have a dinner date via discord video chat. And then maybe play games?
This Sunday date with Cali partner who just visited. Busy end of week!
Polyamory is love + calendars
This is awesome and I'm incredibly impressed with your scheduling abilities.
I learned long ago I have the temperament(?) for being poly but not nearly enough drive to actually make it happen in a functional sense, and decided to revel in nice lazy monogamy. :biggrin:
I think you mentioned that the lobster was already prepared? You sure it's not precooked?
And if it's not - yes, you can broil them all if you'd like, but you can't broil them all together for the same time.
Thanks! I haven't cooked any of these things before
All three of them are cleaned and ready to cook
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Once upon a time, I scheduled two dates on the same day and I really thought I had them spaced far enough apart that a sitcom situation would not ensue.
And then the second date got into town early to surprise me.
ceresWhen the last moon is cast over the last star of morningAnd the future has past without even a last desperate warningRegistered User, Moderatormod
Lack of organization and mental fuck-upedness are the reasons I've stopped looking or even bothering with the idea of new partners. I'm decent with calendars and schedules but scatterbrained in general, and I have enough mental health issues that I'm more or less saturated. I just don't have it in me to be responsible for or subject to the erratic moods of others. That means that as far as serious, committed relationships go, I've got what I've got, these two people are more or less what I can handle, and that's it. I am very committed to those two people at this point in my life and it's good, though physical distance can does mean I miss one a whole lot.
I won't go so far as to rule out a more casual relationship (with some caveats, like relative emotional stability), but over the past couple years I've come to the realization that as hard as I was trying to manage my mental health it wasn't good enough. That's been hard for me to admit and I'm sad about it, but I guess it's time to be a grownup sometimes.
And it seems like all is dying, and would leave the world to mourn
TBH I feel like I learn things from each relationship that helps me to be better in the others?
I try very hard to let each one be its own THING, but yeah. Slight things I learn, or changes I make to the way I approach things, etc.
Helps a lot
Also fuck I feel like I've gotten so much better at communication in the past year. SO MANY PROBLEMS can be solved by sitting down and just talking about shit, however uncomfortable it may be in the moment.
Also I'm a huge sap so having 4 people to pour love at helps me keep from being too smothery I guess
I think you mentioned that the lobster was already prepared? You sure it's not precooked?
And if it's not - yes, you can broil them all if you'd like, but you can't broil them all together for the same time.
Thanks! I haven't cooked any of these things before
All three of them are cleaned and ready to cook
Yeah you CAN broil them all but I feel like crab cakes would do well in a lightly buttered pan maybe? If you don't mind some active time. Probably want to bake/broil the stuffed shrimp and the lobster if it's not cooked yet can be butter poached and you can feel like royalty
i am kind of sad because my best friend of late, who used to try and get me to hang out like every week or multiple times a week (and sometimes he felt too needy about that), has been dating person since the summer, and i am glad for him because he is happy; and is spending almost all his time with her
but now i've barely seen him outside of work, (luckily?) i work at the same company as him now and he is on my floor so we have that
he admitted unprompted that he has been a bad friend of late
and i know there is the honeymoon period of new infatuation but now it's been 3/4 of a year and they've had chances to travel together for a while and all... but i want some attention and friendship back
but at the same time i don't want to try too hard or put pressure. for most of our friendship though he was always kind of the lazy one and i was the one who was inviting him out to things etc, and often had to drag him or convince him to go to other social activities or events, which he always enjoyed but convincing him to do things has been a feature of the friendship
and i accepted that i was the one who did most of the work in it, though it was tiring
it helps now that he stopped smoking weed for the last 4 months or so though, as that was a big factor before
but anyway, he still promised he'd go on friend a trip with me (i tried in past year) but he is a self proclaimed commitment phobe. we chatted a bit about where to go, and he said he wanted to go to spain. I was so so on it since i've been to europe a lot lately. but yesterday i saw cheap cheap direct flights to madrid, and tried to convince him to go, and he was like it is tempting but I am scared to commit. and it is sad, and i'm kind of sad about it all in general.
I think polyamory is rad and love saying "polycule" but I am working at peak performance just emotionally processing a relationship with a single person, I ain't got no emotional threads available for more romance.
I cant do a relationship much less multiple simultaneously. Too much stigma on mental health and disability. Can't date.
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There's a lot of circumstances out there that make different kind of relationships (or any relationship) hard or unfeasible or outright impossible for some folks.
Just know that regardless, you are worthy and you are loved and that you are deserving of love and happiness. You are valid, and your worth as a human is not determined by your bank account, your work output, or how many fights to the death you've lost.
Y'all are great and good and grand and I have nothing but love for the lot of you
Happy Valentine's Day from your made up forums swamp girlfriend
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I mean in the same way that any word can be misspelled close enough that the meaning is still clear.
As far as I can tell there isn't really any notable history of "wierdo" being a common/accepted alternate spelling. Just one of those words that gets misspelled often enough (and "ie/ei" rules being vague enough) that people might not notice.
We live in a weird society
Ocean, tears and heartbreak soup
Half alive in a whitecap foam
Half in love with a white half moon
Yeah
English is a really weird language
I made it there before she did, successful on that front
Got a lovely little salvo of texts when she got in
She was very appreciative and happy
Now I just need to figure out how to cook lobster, crab cakes and shrimp
I think I can broil them all
My class for the evening was canceled so we walked around and enjoyed each other’s company and did some smooches and had a nice, low key Valentine's Day.
When she got home she told her mom about us. Her mom kept getting stressed out that we wouldn't be able to communicate and she had to keep reminding her that I speak Mandarin. :P
Edit: She then offered not to tell her dad yet because, and I quote "if I tell my dad then my whole family will know" and she didn't want to put that pressure on me
and I'm like "girl, have we met, attention sustains me" and told her she should do whatever she felt comfortable with.
So I think this thing is like, 100% go now, like full out, like totally, like full on.
Spending tonight with Christine. Making some tasty salmon and mushrooms and a salad with some wine, and ice cream after. Then THINGS and laying in bed watching shows and smooching
Then I have a remote date with a partner tomorrow where we are both cooking the same meal and I'm dressing up and gonna do candles and we are gonna have a dinner date via discord video chat. And then maybe play games?
Then Sunday date with Cali partner who just visited. Busy end of week!
Polyamory is love + calendars
I think you mentioned that the lobster was already prepared? You sure it's not precooked?
And if it's not - yes, you can broil them all if you'd like, but you can't broil them all together for the same time.
This is awesome and I'm incredibly impressed with your scheduling abilities.
I learned long ago I have the temperament(?) for being poly but not nearly enough drive to actually make it happen in a functional sense, and decided to revel in nice lazy monogamy. :biggrin:
So yea, way to rock it.
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I would never be able to keep track of all the cousins/family/friends and stories. I would need to take actual notes during dates.
I fuck up enough in my ONE relationship
one from her, and one from our cats
I love my moooommmm
Thanks! I haven't cooked any of these things before
All three of them are cleaned and ready to cook
"Or when sounding like 'ay' as in 'neighbor' or 'weigh'"
And then the second date got into town early to surprise me.
So that was my hubris.
I won't go so far as to rule out a more casual relationship (with some caveats, like relative emotional stability), but over the past couple years I've come to the realization that as hard as I was trying to manage my mental health it wasn't good enough. That's been hard for me to admit and I'm sad about it, but I guess it's time to be a grownup sometimes.
though i prob wouldn't be cut out for it emotionally, i had a hard enough time giving attention to the person i was dating at first
i mean who knows
i've only ever dated 1 person and i started later on in life
TBH I feel like I learn things from each relationship that helps me to be better in the others?
I try very hard to let each one be its own THING, but yeah. Slight things I learn, or changes I make to the way I approach things, etc.
Helps a lot
Also fuck I feel like I've gotten so much better at communication in the past year. SO MANY PROBLEMS can be solved by sitting down and just talking about shit, however uncomfortable it may be in the moment.
Also I'm a huge sap so having 4 people to pour love at helps me keep from being too smothery I guess
Yeah you CAN broil them all but I feel like crab cakes would do well in a lightly buttered pan maybe? If you don't mind some active time. Probably want to bake/broil the stuffed shrimp and the lobster if it's not cooked yet can be butter poached and you can feel like royalty
but now i've barely seen him outside of work, (luckily?) i work at the same company as him now and he is on my floor so we have that
he admitted unprompted that he has been a bad friend of late
and i know there is the honeymoon period of new infatuation but now it's been 3/4 of a year and they've had chances to travel together for a while and all... but i want some attention and friendship back
but at the same time i don't want to try too hard or put pressure. for most of our friendship though he was always kind of the lazy one and i was the one who was inviting him out to things etc, and often had to drag him or convince him to go to other social activities or events, which he always enjoyed but convincing him to do things has been a feature of the friendship
and i accepted that i was the one who did most of the work in it, though it was tiring
it helps now that he stopped smoking weed for the last 4 months or so though, as that was a big factor before
but anyway, he still promised he'd go on friend a trip with me (i tried in past year) but he is a self proclaimed commitment phobe. we chatted a bit about where to go, and he said he wanted to go to spain. I was so so on it since i've been to europe a lot lately. but yesterday i saw cheap cheap direct flights to madrid, and tried to convince him to go, and he was like it is tempting but I am scared to commit. and it is sad, and i'm kind of sad about it all in general.
i know to some degree it's normal
but oh well
i guess i can be sad about it
*shrug*
Well I'm stealing that name if I ever want to host a speed-dating event at a gaming convention.
Isn't that just speed dating, but more depressing?
that's difficult
Just know that regardless, you are worthy and you are loved and that you are deserving of love and happiness. You are valid, and your worth as a human is not determined by your bank account, your work output, or how many fights to the death you've lost.
Y'all are great and good and grand and I have nothing but love for the lot of you
Happy Valentine's Day from your made up forums swamp girlfriend
it's Valentine's Day, so that means I've been listening to the Mountain Goats, and now you are too
happy valentine's day !
Tudder is a phenomenal name for a cow dating app tho gotta be honest.