Yeah, this whole wedding is basically a big long list of stuff that I don't know how to afford for. But hey, hopefully this is a one shot deal, right?
And if it's not, and it's your second time around, well... good God. I don't know how you deal with doing this twice.
But yeah, we also (as someone mentioned before) have a photo booth and we're thinking of doing cheap flash drives as part of the favors so people can just plug them in and save whatever pictures they take to take with them afterward. We're thinking the most opportune spot for this is right by the open bar.
I'm glad we're giving ourselves a lot of time, because if it were this October I would be in full on panic mode right now. There's so much stuff you don't think about that you have to plan!
We're thinking of having about 80-90 guests for the wedding, and I asked my mom to come up with a list of must-haves for our side of the family. The list she sent me was 75 guests long.
No mom, we need to invite some of the groom's family as well
My wedding was in an old, makeshift chapel in the country. The place was built by hand with cedar from the surrounding woods. The whole place smelled like cedar.
I will never forget walking out that chapel with my new wife. We stopped outside after the doors had closed and before anyone else had walked out. That tiny moment together...
I'm glad we're giving ourselves a lot of time, because if it were this October I would be in full on panic mode right now. There's so much stuff you don't think about that you have to plan!
We're thinking of having about 80-90 guests for the wedding, and I asked my mom to come up with a list of must-haves for our side of the family. The list she sent me was 75 guests long.
No mom, we need to invite some of the groom's family as well
My only stipulation in this entire thing was a 5-hour open bar. I wouldn't even go to my own wedding if we didn't have one.
I'm very Irish, so yeah... an open bar is pretty much a requirement. Stereotypes ahoy.
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My wife and I got married at Disneyland (well, the disneyland hotel, techinically) in the rose court garden. The reception was at the sleeping beauty pavilion.
We were talking the other day about things that we wished we had done differently, and man dancing lessons would have been a good idea. Since, you know, we didn't know how to dance and man what an exciting first dance.
Also wished we had gotten a different DJ - Disney did a lot of the planning and things for us including the DJ, so we didn't really get a chance to pick out a guy that we liked.
On balance though it turned out pretty terrific! We were able to do a photo shoot in front of the castle in the park the next morning too!
protip trying to please both an asian family and a white family is...difficult. For me it was, anyways. Just do what you want, fuck the haters.
Yeah, I agree. It'll be great to see all of the family that we don't normally get to see, but I need and want their opinions on what to do for my wedding like I need a hole in the head. Don't like it? Welp, that's a hundred per plate I can save myself.
This is the wedding bands me and the Husband have, there is no engagement ring because LOOK at these lovely motherfuckers:
Though we both love Black Opals fiercely, I was sorely tempted when the maker of these (Hileman Silver Jewelry) also offered almost identicle rings with instead of Opal, DINOSAUR BONE inlay. My inner 6 year old made a very compelling case, but in the end, opal won out.
holy shit I have looked at exactly that same ring maker in the past; I've favourited a set he's put up on Etsy
are the gems tension-set? that's been a thing I've been curious about
This is the wedding bands me and the Husband have, there is no engagement ring because LOOK at these lovely motherfuckers:
Though we both love Black Opals fiercely, I was sorely tempted when the maker of these (Hileman Silver Jewelry) also offered almost identicle rings with instead of Opal, DINOSAUR BONE inlay. My inner 6 year old made a very compelling case, but in the end, opal won out.
holy shit I have looked at exactly that same ring maker in the past; I've favourited a set he's put up on Etsy
are the gems tension-set? that's been a thing I've been curious about
It looks like there's a bit of metal beneath the gems, and I think tension-set is just the gems being held in place by, uh, tension.
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My wife and I were basically the first of our peers to get married, and by sheer coincidence neither of us had ever experienced a 'traditional' wedding of any kind... so neither of us had any idea that 'the first dance' was a thing. Like, at all. We were familiar enough with the rest of the ceremonial trappings, largely through digestion of pop-culture comedies, but the idea that we were supposed to dance, and people were waiting for that? Didn't even register. Late in the evening one of our parents sidled over to us to politely inquire as to if/when it was happening, and was greeted by blank stares.
It's only now that I have a few dozen more weddings under my belt that I even realise that mine missed an apparently crucial part of the trappings for some people. But hey, even if I had known, I would have vetoed it. I only do things I enjoy on my wedding day, and I don't enjoy dancing. As it stands, I didn't miss it, and was too ignorant to even feel guilty about not doing it. Ergo, my wedding was awesome.
I'm glad we're giving ourselves a lot of time, because if it were this October I would be in full on panic mode right now. There's so much stuff you don't think about that you have to plan!
We're thinking of having about 80-90 guests for the wedding, and I asked my mom to come up with a list of must-haves for our side of the family. The list she sent me was 75 guests long.
No mom, we need to invite some of the groom's family as well
My only stipulation in this entire thing was a 5-hour open bar. I wouldn't even go to my own wedding if we didn't have one.
We tinkered a bit with the traditional dances, but it worked out - and it was our call, mostly, so who was going to tell us otherwise?
Our first dance was wonderful. Then, rather than a mother son dance (since my mom had passed away), I danced with her mom and she danced with my dad. Then her dad got up to do the father daughter dance and someone tripped over the cord to the amps and killed the music. He said "Welp, that takes care of that" and went to get a beer. She laughed it off and made the DJ (one of my fraternity brothers) play her favorite dance song.
To this day, I'm convinced they planned it that way.
lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
@Sheri, just have both your parents walk with you!
and I strongly strongly considered having my mom be my matron of honour. But her being on the other side of the world kind of quashed that idea.
So instead I think I'm getting 2 hen's nights. One with the girls and then like an afternoon tea with my 2 bridesmaids and my mommy. because I love my mommy.
And yeah, screw tradition. And formality. dammit. I am going to have FUN at my wedding. And for me, fun does not include a lot of alcohol (hence the BYO), and dancing (eh... I am not interested in dancing). We'll have music, but more than likely going to be mostly swing, big bands, and good stuff like that.
I'm even toying with the idea of setting up Rock Band in the venue, but I'm not sure on that. I want to have a party, not a reception. If that makes any sense.
Of course trying to get that idea across to my friends is proving rather... difficult. They're talking about hiring suits and all kinds of formal things and Its just... ugh. no. stop. this is not going to be as formal as you think/want. If you want a formal wedding, then you two get married.
@Sheri, just have both your parents walk with you!
Cute!
As if they could stand to be anywhere near each other
hmmm
a good point.
I'm of two mind on that one. First, tell them to grow the hell up and be adults its your wedding, dammit. Second mind, keep the peace keep the peace keep the peace. the less stress on your wedding day the best for you!
Blake has previously indicated that he would like the bridal party to do the Safety Dance as the first dance
Yeah so we can dance if we want to.
We can leave your friends behind.
Cause your friends don't dance and if they don't dance well they're no friends of mine.
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My five-year-old nephew was super confused as to why he was not allowed to have any.
no hard liquor but having decent beer on tap seemed to make up for it
Some kind of live music at least, even just a trio or a quartet.
not to play for the whole thing, just for the dancing.
During dinner and stuff - I'll plug in a dang ipod
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
As is getting married.
ultimately we were really happy with our DJ though, she also helped us plan and coordinate the reception (like when to do what)
And if it's not, and it's your second time around, well... good God. I don't know how you deal with doing this twice.
But yeah, we also (as someone mentioned before) have a photo booth and we're thinking of doing cheap flash drives as part of the favors so people can just plug them in and save whatever pictures they take to take with them afterward. We're thinking the most opportune spot for this is right by the open bar.
I joked to my fiance that I was definitely going to just elope for my second wedding.
She's still my fiance, which is how I know she's a keeper.
I'm glad we're giving ourselves a lot of time, because if it were this October I would be in full on panic mode right now. There's so much stuff you don't think about that you have to plan!
We're thinking of having about 80-90 guests for the wedding, and I asked my mom to come up with a list of must-haves for our side of the family. The list she sent me was 75 guests long.
No mom, we need to invite some of the groom's family as well
I will never forget walking out that chapel with my new wife. We stopped outside after the doors had closed and before anyone else had walked out. That tiny moment together...
;_; every time
My only stipulation in this entire thing was a 5-hour open bar. I wouldn't even go to my own wedding if we didn't have one.
We were talking the other day about things that we wished we had done differently, and man dancing lessons would have been a good idea. Since, you know, we didn't know how to dance and man what an exciting first dance.
Also wished we had gotten a different DJ - Disney did a lot of the planning and things for us including the DJ, so we didn't really get a chance to pick out a guy that we liked.
On balance though it turned out pretty terrific! We were able to do a photo shoot in front of the castle in the park the next morning too!
protip trying to please both an asian family and a white family is...difficult. For me it was, anyways. Just do what you want, fuck the haters.
http://www.calacademy.org/visit/plan_an_event/wedding/
holy shit I have looked at exactly that same ring maker in the past; I've favourited a set he's put up on Etsy
are the gems tension-set? that's been a thing I've been curious about
It looks like there's a bit of metal beneath the gems, and I think tension-set is just the gems being held in place by, uh, tension.
It's only now that I have a few dozen more weddings under my belt that I even realise that mine missed an apparently crucial part of the trappings for some people. But hey, even if I had known, I would have vetoed it. I only do things I enjoy on my wedding day, and I don't enjoy dancing. As it stands, I didn't miss it, and was too ignorant to even feel guilty about not doing it. Ergo, my wedding was awesome.
We didn't have one at our wedding either.
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I am crashing that party
ALL OF THE SHOTS
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cuz then the groom could have a matching ring that wasn't super girly (http://www.etsy.com/shop/jewelrybyjohan?section_id=5626420), and that way I only wear "one" ring but still enjoy having an engagement ring
but then I look around some more and more ideas just keep flooding in
like the rings @skettios and @lonelyahava have
or the rings on Gemvara (they don't have a lot of variation in the setting but I do like playing around with pretty colors)
or tungsten carbide ones
and it all goes out the door
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filligree meaning - http://www.greenlakejewelry.com/gallery/pics/final/MTG_C_10046.jpg
engraved scrollwork meaning - http://www.jonesandsonrings.com/tacori/ht2392_lg.jpg
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Our first dance was wonderful. Then, rather than a mother son dance (since my mom had passed away), I danced with her mom and she danced with my dad. Then her dad got up to do the father daughter dance and someone tripped over the cord to the amps and killed the music. He said "Welp, that takes care of that" and went to get a beer. She laughed it off and made the DJ (one of my fraternity brothers) play her favorite dance song.
To this day, I'm convinced they planned it that way.
Like, for reals
Though the filigree example is probably my favorite
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I want a mother-daughter dance
Also I asked my mom to walk me down the aisle but she said my dad might be hurt by that
So maybe she'll be my maid/matron of honor or something
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brace yourself
https://www.josephjewelry.com/custom-engagement-rings/100566.php
or if you prefer a solitaire:
https://www.josephjewelry.com/custom-engagement-rings/100716.php?page=2&filter=25
http://www.greenlakejewelry.com/gallery/gallery_detail.aspx?ImgID=MTG_A_8833
https://www.josephjewelry.com/custom-engagement-rings/100700.php?page=2&filter=25
this one's a bit bigger but it's got some interesting patterns:
https://www.josephjewelry.com/custom-engagement-rings/100706.php?page=2&filter=25
and I strongly strongly considered having my mom be my matron of honour. But her being on the other side of the world kind of quashed that idea.
So instead I think I'm getting 2 hen's nights. One with the girls and then like an afternoon tea with my 2 bridesmaids and my mommy. because I love my mommy.
And yeah, screw tradition. And formality. dammit. I am going to have FUN at my wedding. And for me, fun does not include a lot of alcohol (hence the BYO), and dancing (eh... I am not interested in dancing). We'll have music, but more than likely going to be mostly swing, big bands, and good stuff like that.
I'm even toying with the idea of setting up Rock Band in the venue, but I'm not sure on that. I want to have a party, not a reception. If that makes any sense.
Of course trying to get that idea across to my friends is proving rather... difficult. They're talking about hiring suits and all kinds of formal things and Its just... ugh. no. stop. this is not going to be as formal as you think/want. If you want a formal wedding, then you two get married.
dammit.
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Cute!
As if they could stand to be anywhere near each other
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And that's pretty much how we wanted it
We probably would have had an even cheaper one if my and her parents hadn't insisted on having some kind of thing
hmmm
a good point.
I'm of two mind on that one. First, tell them to grow the hell up and be adults its your wedding, dammit. Second mind, keep the peace keep the peace keep the peace. the less stress on your wedding day the best for you!
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Yeah so we can dance if we want to.
We can leave your friends behind.
Cause your friends don't dance and if they don't dance well they're no friends of mine.
Satans..... hints.....