Theoretically, both me and the boyfriend are engaged, but it's been almost 4 years since he proposed. As much as I'd like to do the fairy tail wedding, I have realized that it would not be feasable. I have very few friends or relatives that I'm close to that would even make up a wedding party, let alone a wedding.
My parents are perfectly okay with me 'eloping', so I may take the 'take a vacation, come back married' route. If I'm really cheap, I might just go to Niagara Falls.
Alright looks like the flight alone will probably be like ~$2k.
You better have the Rock Band set up, @lonelyahava
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where are you flying from?
I seriously suggest talking to a travel agent. So many people just book online these days, that travel agents have to work really hard to make people happy. They'll often get deals from airlines that aren't available to people booking privately and also have he experience to say "wait a week, there's a sale starting"
I am flying from Vancouver to Brisbane, Australia in June, and my travel agent got me a direct flight from Van to Sydney and a connecting flight to Brisbane for like 400 less than ANY flight I could find, including ones with 2 or 3 stopovers in asia
I seriously suggest talking to a travel agent. So many people just book online these days, that travel agents have to work really hard to make people happy. They'll often get deals from airlines that aren't available to people booking privately and also have he experience to say "wait a week, there's a sale starting"
I am flying from Vancouver to Brisbane, Australia in June, and my travel agent got me a direct flight from Van to Sydney and a connecting flight to Brisbane for like 400 less than ANY flight I could find, including ones with 2 or 3 stopovers in asia
Yeah, just putting things on watch so that I can get an idea of what online fluctuates at.
I usually am flexible on dates so between that and watching I usually get prices about as good as I can expect online.
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lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
the main thing is that you are in Auckland on Dec 1st.
FishmanPut your goddamned hand in the goddamned Box of Pain.Registered Userregular
Look, if you're not going to go open bar to provide your guests the entertainment opportunity of an alcoholic coma, the least you could do is provide a diabetic one instead.
That's unbelievably cool. Your new name is cool guy. Let's have sex.
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VivixenneRemember your training, and we'll get through this just fine.Registered Userregular
edited April 2013
the hardest pill to swallow when thinking about a wedding is that there is no feasible way that all of the people that I'd want there will be able to BE there
VivixenneRemember your training, and we'll get through this just fine.Registered Userregular
edited April 2013
is it a thing to send a "we really want to invite you but we really couldn't but here is a link and password to a livestream of the event and also please sign our guestbook online" thing
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Apparently it's common and acceptable in Dutch culture to send a card notification of a wedding, much like you would do a birth, to people not close enough to make the real guest list.
Or so my Dutch side of the family has informed me.
That's unbelievably cool. Your new name is cool guy. Let's have sex.
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I would also consider people who wanted to make speeches to make speeches and pre-record them and send them to us and then we could play them during the reception or something.
I would also consider people who wanted to make speeches to make speeches and pre-record them and send them to us and then we could play them during the reception or something.
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Ooh, that would be cool. To add to thisMy sister is going to be having her wedding in the planetarium of an observatory (the Chabot Space and Science Center). I dunno if she's going to actually have a backdrop of stars but if so that would be pretty cool too!
No joke this is what my wife and I walked out of the ceremony to
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VivixenneRemember your training, and we'll get through this just fine.Registered Userregular
I think I have come up with some things I like and don't like about rings, because I'm a crazy person
things I like
basket setting
tension setting
cathedral setting
cluster setting
palladium / tungsten carbide / platinum / 14k white gold / 14k rose gold
round centre stone
marquis centre stone
things I don't like
trellis setting
halo setting
bezel setting
u setting
ballerina setting
natural diamonds
yellow gold
princess cut centre stone
heart-shaped stones
cushion-cut stones
blue zircon that is not london blue
beyond that, I'd actually have to see the ring itself to know if it was a thing I would like or not
FishmanPut your goddamned hand in the goddamned Box of Pain.Registered Userregular
Has tension setting improved at all in the last decade? I know it looks nifty as all hell, but back when we got engaged I know that it was generally failing to keep it's shape over years and often ended up getting loose to the point of losing gemstones in the long term banging and bumping that occurs to jewelery attached to your hands.
Has tension setting improved at all in the last decade? I know it looks nifty as all hell, but back when we got engaged I know that it was generally failing to keep it's shape over years and often ended up getting loose to the point of losing gemstones in the long term banging and bumping that occurs to jewelery attached to your hands.
I admittedly did not think so until I saw this page:
Just from what I'm seeing in those pictures (though admittedly most of the tension setting is in the band rather than in the centre stone), they appear to have gotten the hang of it protecting the gemstone without losing what is so gorgeous about a tension set.
I would also consider people who wanted to make speeches to make speeches and pre-record them and send them to us and then we could play them during the reception or something.
I think I have come up with some things I like and don't like about rings, because I'm a crazy person
things I like
basket setting
tension setting
cathedral setting
cluster setting
palladium / tungsten carbide / platinum / 14k white gold / 14k rose gold
round centre stone
marquis centre stone
things I don't like
trellis setting
halo setting
bezel setting
u setting
ballerina setting
natural diamonds
yellow gold
princess cut centre stone
heart-shaped stones
cushion-cut stones
blue zircon that is not london blue
beyond that, I'd actually have to see the ring itself to know if it was a thing I would like or not
That is not crazy because you will be the one wearing it. Dan and I actually picked out my ring together, because he was worried about getting me a ring I didn't like. So I knew for about 6 months that he was proposing and what I was getting, just not when.
I don't know if picking out together is workable for you though! But it guaranteed that I got a ring I love.
And for anyone who doesn't have a matching wedding band for their engagement ring--we ordered our wedding bands on Amazon. We went to the jeweler he got my engagement ring at to try on men's rings. He already knew he liked tungsten carbide rings. In store, they ranged $275-400+ and he didn't like the styles. He got his for less than $40 on Amazon.
On my engagement ring, I have pave side set stones. The matching wedding band in store was more than half the cost of the engagement ring. We said f that, and I found a plain 14k white gold band for about $100 on Amazon. It matches as far as metal, and both rings are 2mm. And I think it looks better than having all that extra sparkle on my hand.
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TonkkaSome one in the club tonightHas stolen my ideas.Registered Userregular
I've been digging for hints about what my gf likes with regards to rings, and so far I've got, "sparkly, clear, white gold, that swoopy style setting".
My current front runner. Although first I need to measure her ring finger without her noticing, because I still want to surprise her on holiday.
[Muffled sounds of gorilla violence]
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VivixenneRemember your training, and we'll get through this just fine.Registered Userregular
I think I have come up with some things I like and don't like about rings, because I'm a crazy person
things I like
basket setting
tension setting
cathedral setting
cluster setting
palladium / tungsten carbide / platinum / 14k white gold / 14k rose gold
round centre stone
marquis centre stone
things I don't like
trellis setting
halo setting
bezel setting
u setting
ballerina setting
natural diamonds
yellow gold
princess cut centre stone
heart-shaped stones
cushion-cut stones
blue zircon that is not london blue
beyond that, I'd actually have to see the ring itself to know if it was a thing I would like or not
That is not crazy because you will be the one wearing it. Dan and I actually picked out my ring together, because he was worried about getting me a ring I didn't like. So I knew for about 6 months that he was proposing and what I was getting, just not when.
I don't know if picking out together is workable for you though! But it guaranteed that I got a ring I love.
And for anyone who doesn't have a matching wedding band for their engagement ring--we ordered our wedding bands on Amazon. We went to the jeweler he got my engagement ring at to try on men's rings. He already knew he liked tungsten carbide rings. In store, they ranged $275-400+ and he didn't like the styles. He got his for less than $40 on Amazon.
On my engagement ring, I have pave side set stones. The matching wedding band in store was more than half the cost of the engagement ring. We said f that, and I found a plain 14k white gold band for about $100 on Amazon. It matches as far as metal, and both rings are 2mm. And I think it looks better than having all that extra sparkle on my hand.
To be honest, I would not mind if Blake and I picked our rings together, to make sure we got something we were both happy with. That is, I get a ring I like, and he gets a ring he likes, and they both happen to match each other.
I would know if he was thinking about proposing because of family culture reasons but I guess where and when could always be a lovely surprise, since he enjoys surprising me.
I've been digging for hints about what my gf likes with regards to rings, and so far I've got, "sparkly, clear, white gold, that swoopy style setting".
My current front runner. Although first I need to measure her ring finger without her noticing, because I still want to surprise her on holiday.
this is just a thought, but with bezel settings the gem tends to catch less light because it's surrounded by the metal setting. that means the gem sparkles "less"
that said, the advantage of the bezel setting is that it makes the gem look bigger, and can give a geometric effect to the look of the ring
it is still a lovely choice based on your given hints!
Thanks - I'm planning on asking her sister for feedback as well, which has symmetry as I first asked her for help with a secret Santa present back when I only knew my girlfriend as a name I'd picked out of a hat at university
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I've been digging for hints about what my gf likes with regards to rings, and so far I've got, "sparkly, clear, white gold, that swoopy style setting".
My current front runner. Although first I need to measure her ring finger without her noticing, because I still want to surprise her on holiday.
This is obviously an extremely modern design, but perhaps a more classical approach to that idea would be swoopy and sparkly enough?
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lonelyahavaCall me Ahava ~~She/Her~~Move to New ZealandRegistered Userregular
That setting is one that I fell absolutely in love with when I saw it online.
And then I had a chance to try it on.
and I hated it. I looks horribly small on my finger and it was just awful.
But that's for me! It could very well be the most absolutely amazing ring for your lady! And it is still an amazingly stunning setting. My heart still skips a beat to see it. So shiny!
That's a beautiful design. I'm a bit reluctant to get a tension setting, though, as my girlfriend both works with her hands and has poor spatial awareness (or is just clumsy), and they always look like they're too delicate.
That website will give me something to browse, though, especially because they give the option of mounting a stone you send them. I have a thing about conflict diamonds, and I've heard suspect things about the Kimberley process, so I'm leaning more and more towards Moissanite to be absolutely sure (I've confirmed with my girlfriend that it doesn't matter what it is as long as it's sparkly).
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although the recording I have is full orchestra.
although will more likely do something like this at some point:
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My parents are perfectly okay with me 'eloping', so I may take the 'take a vacation, come back married' route. If I'm really cheap, I might just go to Niagara Falls.
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Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
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Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
I love the darn thing. Center stone is ruby, and the jeweler said she can have the band soldered to the engagement ring once the time comes!
You better have the Rock Band set up, @lonelyahava
I seriously suggest talking to a travel agent. So many people just book online these days, that travel agents have to work really hard to make people happy. They'll often get deals from airlines that aren't available to people booking privately and also have he experience to say "wait a week, there's a sale starting"
I am flying from Vancouver to Brisbane, Australia in June, and my travel agent got me a direct flight from Van to Sydney and a connecting flight to Brisbane for like 400 less than ANY flight I could find, including ones with 2 or 3 stopovers in asia
Need some stuff designed or printed? I can help with that.
Yeah, just putting things on watch so that I can get an idea of what online fluctuates at.
I usually am flexible on dates so between that and watching I usually get prices about as good as I can expect online.
and that you remember your insulin. :P
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I *love* that idea! And what a lovely ring, it's gorgeous!
https://www.josephjewelry.com/custom-engagement-rings/100138.php?page=2
maybe not with all the extra bling along the band, but I think a matching wedding band could be made for that super easily
It's okay...
*sniff*
I'll survive.
that ring.
@Fishman:: pffft. if they want to comatize themselves, then they can do so. My party, my rules, dammit!
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cuz I would totally do that instead
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Or so my Dutch side of the family has informed me.
Mine will be
*cough*reverend*cough*
You still have what is one of the greatest valentine's day gifts I've ever seen. So, you know...don't beat yourself up too much.
No joke this is what my wife and I walked out of the ceremony to
things I like
tension setting
cathedral setting
cluster setting
palladium / tungsten carbide / platinum / 14k white gold / 14k rose gold
round centre stone
marquis centre stone
things I don't like
halo setting
bezel setting
u setting
ballerina setting
natural diamonds
yellow gold
princess cut centre stone
heart-shaped stones
cushion-cut stones
blue zircon that is not london blue
beyond that, I'd actually have to see the ring itself to know if it was a thing I would like or not
I admittedly did not think so until I saw this page:
https://www.josephjewelry.com/engagement-rings?&filter=72
Just from what I'm seeing in those pictures (though admittedly most of the tension setting is in the band rather than in the centre stone), they appear to have gotten the hang of it protecting the gemstone without losing what is so gorgeous about a tension set.
They played that during our reception without forewarning.
I hid behind the desserts stand.
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You'd have to do the vows in the voice
That is not crazy because you will be the one wearing it. Dan and I actually picked out my ring together, because he was worried about getting me a ring I didn't like. So I knew for about 6 months that he was proposing and what I was getting, just not when.
I don't know if picking out together is workable for you though! But it guaranteed that I got a ring I love.
And for anyone who doesn't have a matching wedding band for their engagement ring--we ordered our wedding bands on Amazon. We went to the jeweler he got my engagement ring at to try on men's rings. He already knew he liked tungsten carbide rings. In store, they ranged $275-400+ and he didn't like the styles. He got his for less than $40 on Amazon.
On my engagement ring, I have pave side set stones. The matching wedding band in store was more than half the cost of the engagement ring. We said f that, and I found a plain 14k white gold band for about $100 on Amazon. It matches as far as metal, and both rings are 2mm. And I think it looks better than having all that extra sparkle on my hand.
Thank god that never happened.
Go about you happiness, in spite of my failure.
My current front runner. Although first I need to measure her ring finger without her noticing, because I still want to surprise her on holiday.
To be honest, I would not mind if Blake and I picked our rings together, to make sure we got something we were both happy with. That is, I get a ring I like, and he gets a ring he likes, and they both happen to match each other.
I would know if he was thinking about proposing because of family culture reasons but I guess where and when could always be a lovely surprise, since he enjoys surprising me.
this is just a thought, but with bezel settings the gem tends to catch less light because it's surrounded by the metal setting. that means the gem sparkles "less"
that said, the advantage of the bezel setting is that it makes the gem look bigger, and can give a geometric effect to the look of the ring
it is still a lovely choice based on your given hints!
This is obviously an extremely modern design, but perhaps a more classical approach to that idea would be swoopy and sparkly enough?
And then I had a chance to try it on.
and I hated it. I looks horribly small on my finger and it was just awful.
But that's for me! It could very well be the most absolutely amazing ring for your lady! And it is still an amazingly stunning setting. My heart still skips a beat to see it. So shiny!
oh engagement stories! Here's ours!
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That website will give me something to browse, though, especially because they give the option of mounting a stone you send them. I have a thing about conflict diamonds, and I've heard suspect things about the Kimberley process, so I'm leaning more and more towards Moissanite to be absolutely sure (I've confirmed with my girlfriend that it doesn't matter what it is as long as it's sparkly).