Yeah right now I think I'd go back to like a month ago and see if there was some way I could prevent my relationship from ending
but I've always been one of those "I wouldn't change my mistakes" people so maybe I'll feel differently when the whole healing thing is over
yeah i know its hard right now but when you are finished hurting you will see
you will meet a person and have a connection that will make that relationship look like what it really was - clown shoes
I know! In theory.
It's sort of like any other wound I guess
This hurts now and I would like to fastforward to the part where it stops hurting!
all those cliche after-dumping activities totally apply you know
you channel that energy into something productive
you draw a crazy project you've always wanted to do
you start exercise regime
you write angsty poetry that really demonstrates your mastery of the english language
whatever man just be busy and maybe glean something that lasts out of it
After i was dumped end of freshman year of college i finally committed to a diet plan and started running with C25k for the first time (granted i did it wrong) but now i run regularly and it's all because years later i looked back at that summer and remembered that I totally did finish that running plan once, and i could definitely do it again
Bel have you told your daughter about all your failed relationships with douchebags that in retrospect are hilarious stories about unworthy worms
yes, though I was almost always the one who did the breaking up, and I did end up with the guy I married at 20yrs old so I don't feel I have enough data to draw on to be entirely helpful
So, Chat, feel free to vent that shit for my amazing child's benefit
My life has been incredibly hard, and I wouldn't go back and change it...it's how I have my life, my kids, my amazing marriage.
Plus, I'd have to go back knowing several members of our families and a dear friend were going to die and there was nothing I could do to help. Reliving stuff that was out of my control and impacted me sounds like choosing to go be tortured all over again and, frankly, I'm just not a masochist *shrug*
There was a great Season 4 episode of Stargate SG-1 that touched on this called "Window of Opportunity". One of the best episodes of television ever, I think. The idea is that there was a space archeologist who discovered a method of turning back time for a day, but could never get the time machine to work for longer than that. He intended to use the machine to see his dead wife again. The main characters point out that he could never relive the moment that his wife died without reliving the pain of that moment.
Fringe also had a couple of similar episodes, about a time-traveling engineer whose wife was a brilliant physicist, but also was suffering from early onset Alzheimer's. And another time-traveler who went back in time to be with his wife just before she dies (to avoid the paradox that would ensue after he went back, he chose to die with her instead of averting the events).
Oof, I am making myself real emotional right now thinking about this. My immediate reaction is that I would totally push the button and go back solely in order to somehow prevent some specific bad shit happening to people I love. Really making myself upset over here.
*eats second half of free MLB pizza*
*plays video games*
*remains tragically, impotently unable to travel backwards in time and prevent the pain of others**
*hugs*
I had a similar reaction
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Hmm
ex-boy from Highschool asked how I was and I mentioned
he said, "For what it's worth, I can say from experience that that guy is missing out on a lot of great stuff. Hope you feel better."
Bel have you told your daughter about all your failed relationships with douchebags that in retrospect are hilarious stories about unworthy worms
yes, though I was almost always the one who did the breaking up, and I did end up with the guy I married at 20yrs old so I don't feel I have enough data to draw on to be entirely helpful
So, Chat, feel free to vent that shit for my amazing child's benefit
tl dr men are garbage forget them let us implement the feminist uprising and eliminate them for the glorious new world order
Bel have you told your daughter about all your failed relationships with douchebags that in retrospect are hilarious stories about unworthy worms
yes, though I was almost always the one who did the breaking up, and I did end up with the guy I married at 20yrs old so I don't feel I have enough data to draw on to be entirely helpful
So, Chat, feel free to vent that shit for my amazing child's benefit
tl dr men are garbage forget them let us implement the feminist uprising and eliminate them for the glorious new world order
I had a feeling I would live to see this. Make it quick, harpy.
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TTODewbackPuts the drawl in ya'llI think I'm in HellRegistered Userregular
god i hope melbournese hissing viper spiders arent real
but knowing australia they probably are
Mistakes are necessary, they're how you grow, and we have regrets to prevent things from happening in the future like they did in the past, not so that we can just lament the past for being what it was.
Think about it like this: say you did hit the button, and you went back, and you lived out your life differently and avoided all the mistakes you made the first time around. Now you get to your current age, and lo and behold someone gives you the opportunity to hit the button just like last time. Would you hit it then? Surely, you would've made some new mistakes, things couldn't go exactly as you planned, everything wouldn't be totally perfect. On the reasoning you used to hit it the first time, why wouldn't you hit it again? And then, again? And again? Why would you ever let time progress, let anyone or anything in the world grow except yourself?
I feel like this is on the edge of "everything happens for a reason".
And I feel the question isn't about fixing all the minor mistakes until you're perfect, but rather about actual scarring events.
Everything literally does happen for a "reason", though. That's causality. Just because it isn't directed by some intelligent entity or there isn't some master plan doesn't mean it's any less true. And the desire to go back with the knowledge you have now and make things different is literally a desire to violate causality, to know things you wouldn't know unless you made the mistakes to begin with.
Suffering is something that happened to you. If you go back in time, while retaining your memories, and try to change that a second time around it won't mean anything. You'll be as scarred as you are now because the first time still happened to you and you still remember it. But think of it this way: because you suffered you know how awful it is, and you can work to try to prevent anyone else from having to suffer like you did in the future. That's growth.
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Bel have you told your daughter about all your failed relationships with douchebags that in retrospect are hilarious stories about unworthy worms
yes, though I was almost always the one who did the breaking up, and I did end up with the guy I married at 20yrs old so I don't feel I have enough data to draw on to be entirely helpful
So, Chat, feel free to vent that shit for my amazing child's benefit
tl dr men are garbage forget them let us implement the feminist uprising and eliminate them for the glorious new world order
I was with you until 'eliminate', Hakkes
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Yeah, you guys may remember scheck posting about a friend of his who died around a year or so ago.
He was also a friend of mine (we all played WoW together), and at one point when he was on ventrilo with us, he said that his dad's girlfriend moved in and that she smoked indoors a huge amount and he was coughing a lot of the time. He eventually got lymphatic cancer (so maybe/maybe not related to the smoking), and although he survived that, the secondary effects of chemotherapy eventually killed him.
And I can't see how you wouldn't want to go back and try and do something about that. Like I knew perfectly well at the time that living in a house with an indoor smoker is pretty fatal. I could've said something; of course I know I'm not to blame for his death, but how can you not want to go back and alter something like that?
(there's a fair other number of people I could technically save armed with knowledge of how they die, but those would be more prophetic)
TavIrish Minister for DefenceRegistered Userregular
that twitter post sure is the property of 9gag.com
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My sister dated a string of worthless shits. In high school she was madly involved with the guy whose secret ambition was to be the biggest weed dealer in the area. In college she dated several bros who managed to get themselves hospitalized for alcohol poisoning. After graduation she was briefly engaged to a lawyer who I realized had a massive fucking coke problem three minutes after meeting him. Mostly because he offered me some and proceeded to do a couple of lines in front of me.
The thing they all had in common is that my sister thought she could fix them. You can't. You can help them along the path of fixing themselves but you can't fix them.
Yeah right now I think I'd go back to like a month ago and see if there was some way I could prevent my relationship from ending
but I've always been one of those "I wouldn't change my mistakes" people so maybe I'll feel differently when the whole healing thing is over
yeah i know its hard right now but when you are finished hurting you will see
you will meet a person and have a connection that will make that relationship look like what it really was - clown shoes
I know! In theory.
It's sort of like any other wound I guess
This hurts now and I would like to fastforward to the part where it stops hurting!
all those cliche after-dumping activities totally apply you know
you channel that energy into something productive
you draw a crazy project you've always wanted to do
you start exercise regime
you write angsty poetry that really demonstrates your mastery of the english language
whatever man just be busy and maybe glean something that lasts out of it
After i was dumped end of freshman year of college i finally committed to a diet plan and started running with C25k for the first time (granted i did it wrong) but now i run regularly and it's all because years later i looked back at that summer and remembered that I totally did finish that running plan once, and i could definitely do it again
yup I am busying
unfortunately a lot of my usual busy things are things that are hard for me to do right now because of FEELINGS
I feel sort of like I might throw up if I try to draw for example. Need to work on commissions but get weird prickly cold feeling whenever I go near the bag that has my tablet in it.
Bel have you told your daughter about all your failed relationships with douchebags that in retrospect are hilarious stories about unworthy worms
yes, though I was almost always the one who did the breaking up, and I did end up with the guy I married at 20yrs old so I don't feel I have enough data to draw on to be entirely helpful
So, Chat, feel free to vent that shit for my amazing child's benefit
tl dr men are garbage forget them let us implement the feminist uprising and eliminate them for the glorious new world order
Yeah, you guys may remember scheck posting about a friend of his who died around a year or so ago.
He was also a friend of mine (we all played WoW together), and at one point when he was on ventrilo with us, he said that his dad's girlfriend moved in and that she smoked indoors a huge amount and he was coughing a lot of the time. He eventually got lymphatic cancer (so maybe/maybe not related to the smoking), and although he survived that, the secondary effects of chemotherapy eventually killed him.
And I can't see how you wouldn't want to go back and try and do something about that. Like I knew perfectly well at the time that living in a house with an indoor smoker is pretty fatal. I could've said something; of course I know I'm not to blame for his death, but how can you not want to go back and alter something like that?
(there's a fair other number of people I could technically save armed with knowledge of how they die, but those would be more prophetic)
I know I couldn't have saved my father
or my aunt
or spool's step-mom
or spool's grandmother
or my cousin
or my step-mom's mom
I tried to save our friend, I saw what happened coming, I did everything I could
Yeah right now I think I'd go back to like a month ago and see if there was some way I could prevent my relationship from ending
but I've always been one of those "I wouldn't change my mistakes" people so maybe I'll feel differently when the whole healing thing is over
yeah i know its hard right now but when you are finished hurting you will see
you will meet a person and have a connection that will make that relationship look like what it really was - clown shoes
I know! In theory.
It's sort of like any other wound I guess
This hurts now and I would like to fastforward to the part where it stops hurting!
all those cliche after-dumping activities totally apply you know
you channel that energy into something productive
you draw a crazy project you've always wanted to do
you start exercise regime
you write angsty poetry that really demonstrates your mastery of the english language
whatever man just be busy and maybe glean something that lasts out of it
After i was dumped end of freshman year of college i finally committed to a diet plan and started running with C25k for the first time (granted i did it wrong) but now i run regularly and it's all because years later i looked back at that summer and remembered that I totally did finish that running plan once, and i could definitely do it again
yup I am busying
unfortunately a lot of my usual busy things are things that are hard for me to do right now because of FEELINGS
I feel sort of like I might throw up if I try to draw for example. Need to work on commissions but get weird prickly cold feeling whenever I go near the bag that has my tablet in it.
So hello chat you are distraction ty
Have
you
considered
hooking a videogame IV directly into your veins?
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Yeah right now I think I'd go back to like a month ago and see if there was some way I could prevent my relationship from ending
but I've always been one of those "I wouldn't change my mistakes" people so maybe I'll feel differently when the whole healing thing is over
yeah i know its hard right now but when you are finished hurting you will see
you will meet a person and have a connection that will make that relationship look like what it really was - clown shoes
I know! In theory.
It's sort of like any other wound I guess
This hurts now and I would like to fastforward to the part where it stops hurting!
all those cliche after-dumping activities totally apply you know
you channel that energy into something productive
you draw a crazy project you've always wanted to do
you start exercise regime
you write angsty poetry that really demonstrates your mastery of the english language
whatever man just be busy and maybe glean something that lasts out of it
After i was dumped end of freshman year of college i finally committed to a diet plan and started running with C25k for the first time (granted i did it wrong) but now i run regularly and it's all because years later i looked back at that summer and remembered that I totally did finish that running plan once, and i could definitely do it again
yup I am busying
unfortunately a lot of my usual busy things are things that are hard for me to do right now because of FEELINGS
I feel sort of like I might throw up if I try to draw for example. Need to work on commissions but get weird prickly cold feeling whenever I go near the bag that has my tablet in it.
Yeah right now I think I'd go back to like a month ago and see if there was some way I could prevent my relationship from ending
but I've always been one of those "I wouldn't change my mistakes" people so maybe I'll feel differently when the whole healing thing is over
yeah i know its hard right now but when you are finished hurting you will see
you will meet a person and have a connection that will make that relationship look like what it really was - clown shoes
I know! In theory.
It's sort of like any other wound I guess
This hurts now and I would like to fastforward to the part where it stops hurting!
all those cliche after-dumping activities totally apply you know
you channel that energy into something productive
you draw a crazy project you've always wanted to do
you start exercise regime
you write angsty poetry that really demonstrates your mastery of the english language
whatever man just be busy and maybe glean something that lasts out of it
After i was dumped end of freshman year of college i finally committed to a diet plan and started running with C25k for the first time (granted i did it wrong) but now i run regularly and it's all because years later i looked back at that summer and remembered that I totally did finish that running plan once, and i could definitely do it again
yup I am busying
unfortunately a lot of my usual busy things are things that are hard for me to do right now because of FEELINGS
I feel sort of like I might throw up if I try to draw for example. Need to work on commissions but get weird prickly cold feeling whenever I go near the bag that has my tablet in it.
So hello chat you are distraction ty
when you do a thing while working through THE FEELINGS the sense of accomplishment is amplified a thousandfold
and when the wound has healed and you look back at what you learned from doing the thing you feel even more accomplished
TavIrish Minister for DefenceRegistered Userregular
i already posted this but it is kinda appropriate
friend of mine broke up with her bf on thurs so we went out on saturday so she could get stupid drunk and also maybe some diiiiiick
she was making out with a friend of mine who was on crutches all night and at the end of the night, he waited for her to go to the bathroom before leaving without saying anything to her
he literally hobbled up two flights of stairs to just avoid saying that he wasn't going home with her
i spent the next two hours with her while she cried in a mcdonalds
so yes, men are awful
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TTODewbackPuts the drawl in ya'llI think I'm in HellRegistered Userregular
i am not blameless cleric
no
i am qunari-chan
leader of the inquisition
and I swear of me mum that one day i will un-gay dorian-sama
uguuuuu
friend of mine broke up with her bf on thurs so we went out on saturday so she could get stupid drunk and also maybe some diiiiiick
she was making out with a friend of mine who was on crutches all night and at the end of the night, he waited for her to go to the bathroom before leaving without saying anything to her
he literally hobbled up two flights of stairs to just avoid saying that he wasn't going home with her
i spent the next two hours with her while she cried in a mcdonalds
so yes, men are awful
TBH I think if you reversed the genders, the aggressor would definitely be considered out of line
Yeah right now I think I'd go back to like a month ago and see if there was some way I could prevent my relationship from ending
but I've always been one of those "I wouldn't change my mistakes" people so maybe I'll feel differently when the whole healing thing is over
yeah i know its hard right now but when you are finished hurting you will see
you will meet a person and have a connection that will make that relationship look like what it really was - clown shoes
I know! In theory.
It's sort of like any other wound I guess
This hurts now and I would like to fastforward to the part where it stops hurting!
all those cliche after-dumping activities totally apply you know
you channel that energy into something productive
you draw a crazy project you've always wanted to do
you start exercise regime
you write angsty poetry that really demonstrates your mastery of the english language
whatever man just be busy and maybe glean something that lasts out of it
After i was dumped end of freshman year of college i finally committed to a diet plan and started running with C25k for the first time (granted i did it wrong) but now i run regularly and it's all because years later i looked back at that summer and remembered that I totally did finish that running plan once, and i could definitely do it again
yup I am busying
unfortunately a lot of my usual busy things are things that are hard for me to do right now because of FEELINGS
I feel sort of like I might throw up if I try to draw for example. Need to work on commissions but get weird prickly cold feeling whenever I go near the bag that has my tablet in it.
So hello chat you are distraction ty
Have
you
considered
hooking a videogame IV directly into your veins?
*Buys Child of Light*
good game, surprisingly deep and fast paced combat system
also wtf are you doing when you could be grinding out the most genetically gifted, unstoppable fire emblem children that ever were coldly produced by an unfeeling and all powerful god
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all those cliche after-dumping activities totally apply you know
you channel that energy into something productive
you draw a crazy project you've always wanted to do
you start exercise regime
you write angsty poetry that really demonstrates your mastery of the english language
whatever man just be busy and maybe glean something that lasts out of it
After i was dumped end of freshman year of college i finally committed to a diet plan and started running with C25k for the first time (granted i did it wrong) but now i run regularly and it's all because years later i looked back at that summer and remembered that I totally did finish that running plan once, and i could definitely do it again
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What if that's your fetish
yes, though I was almost always the one who did the breaking up, and I did end up with the guy I married at 20yrs old so I don't feel I have enough data to draw on to be entirely helpful
So, Chat, feel free to vent that shit for my amazing child's benefit
Fringe also had a couple of similar episodes, about a time-traveling engineer whose wife was a brilliant physicist, but also was suffering from early onset Alzheimer's. And another time-traveler who went back in time to be with his wife just before she dies (to avoid the paradox that would ensue after he went back, he chose to die with her instead of averting the events).
*hugs*
I had a similar reaction
ex-boy from Highschool asked how I was and I mentioned
he said, "For what it's worth, I can say from experience that that guy is missing out on a lot of great stuff. Hope you feel better."
A+ post-breakup friendship right there
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
ilu onion
tl dr men are garbage forget them let us implement the feminist uprising and eliminate them for the glorious new world order
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That's some strong booty call ground work being laid there, strong showing from the youngster
QEDMF xbl: PantsB G+
I had a feeling I would live to see this. Make it quick, harpy.
Switch - SW-7373-3669-3011
Fuck Joe Manchin
but knowing australia they probably are
Everything literally does happen for a "reason", though. That's causality. Just because it isn't directed by some intelligent entity or there isn't some master plan doesn't mean it's any less true. And the desire to go back with the knowledge you have now and make things different is literally a desire to violate causality, to know things you wouldn't know unless you made the mistakes to begin with.
Suffering is something that happened to you. If you go back in time, while retaining your memories, and try to change that a second time around it won't mean anything. You'll be as scarred as you are now because the first time still happened to you and you still remember it. But think of it this way: because you suffered you know how awful it is, and you can work to try to prevent anyone else from having to suffer like you did in the future. That's growth.
I was with you until 'eliminate', Hakkes
He was also a friend of mine (we all played WoW together), and at one point when he was on ventrilo with us, he said that his dad's girlfriend moved in and that she smoked indoors a huge amount and he was coughing a lot of the time. He eventually got lymphatic cancer (so maybe/maybe not related to the smoking), and although he survived that, the secondary effects of chemotherapy eventually killed him.
And I can't see how you wouldn't want to go back and try and do something about that. Like I knew perfectly well at the time that living in a house with an indoor smoker is pretty fatal. I could've said something; of course I know I'm not to blame for his death, but how can you not want to go back and alter something like that?
(there's a fair other number of people I could technically save armed with knowledge of how they die, but those would be more prophetic)
It is fitting that Wilt Chamberlain holds the NBA rebound record.
booty call ground work should be called preparing to lay pipe
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cm_iv_lUh6Y
The thing they all had in common is that my sister thought she could fix them. You can't. You can help them along the path of fixing themselves but you can't fix them.
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god damn
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yup I am busying
unfortunately a lot of my usual busy things are things that are hard for me to do right now because of FEELINGS
I feel sort of like I might throw up if I try to draw for example. Need to work on commissions but get weird prickly cold feeling whenever I go near the bag that has my tablet in it.
So hello chat you are distraction ty
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
you don't need to be with us
you're already dead
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QEDMF xbl: PantsB G+
I know I couldn't have saved my father
or my aunt
or spool's step-mom
or spool's grandmother
or my cousin
or my step-mom's mom
I tried to save our friend, I saw what happened coming, I did everything I could
I have zero desire to relive any of that
Have
you
considered
hooking a videogame IV directly into your veins?
i love people that watermark thinks they've stolen from other people
unoriginal content pls credit thx
*Buys Child of Light*
I'd love it if you took a look at my art and my PATREON!
The female Ghostbusters
For this role:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4SUl69RFJ8
when you do a thing while working through THE FEELINGS the sense of accomplishment is amplified a thousandfold
and when the wound has healed and you look back at what you learned from doing the thing you feel even more accomplished
grab your tablet right now
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I thought that was dead
QEDMF xbl: PantsB G+
friend of mine broke up with her bf on thurs so we went out on saturday so she could get stupid drunk and also maybe some diiiiiick
she was making out with a friend of mine who was on crutches all night and at the end of the night, he waited for her to go to the bathroom before leaving without saying anything to her
he literally hobbled up two flights of stairs to just avoid saying that he wasn't going home with her
i spent the next two hours with her while she cried in a mcdonalds
so yes, men are awful
no
i am qunari-chan
leader of the inquisition
and I swear of me mum that one day i will un-gay dorian-sama
uguuuuu
Melissa McCarthy is gathering quite a bit of star power. She's selling seats as a female comedic lead... it's been a long time since that was case.
TBH I think if you reversed the genders, the aggressor would definitely be considered out of line
QEDMF xbl: PantsB G+
good game, surprisingly deep and fast paced combat system
also wtf are you doing when you could be grinding out the most genetically gifted, unstoppable fire emblem children that ever were coldly produced by an unfeeling and all powerful god
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it's "swear on me mum"
just fyi you failed at appropriating chav culture m8