Is that being a bigger dick? I don't know. Honestly I suppose it really doesn't matter as she lives like an hour and a half away now but she wants to see me over thanksgiving break and I feel like I should explain my being a dick for the last X years.
It's the first one Aldo. Like she went out of her way to make it apparent that she was attracted to me before and I went out to party and grab strange hot tail etc.
Is this guilt?
Can you not apologize without explaining it? I know it may come across as being deceptive, but personally, I think that going into detail about things is kinda dickish.
Dude, don't tell people why you didn't want to date them before when you're trying to date them. Unless it's a funny story, but yours isn't.
Yeah. DUE yours kind of comes across as, "You're not what I really want, but as I've gotten older I'm desperate and my standards have gotten lower so I guess I can date you now."
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Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
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Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Just ask her out.
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Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Just ask her out.
No really it's not that. We go to two different universities now. It's just awkward and I feel as though I should apologize for fucking things up quite a deal in the past. But that's not exactly an easy thing to bring up or a wise thing to bring up.
DSC, the point is that Tube doesn't want to change names, period.
I know but normally he givens hilarious name changes to those who ask in the thread. Like the guy who was named captain reading comprehension or something like that.
DSC, the point is that Tube doesn't want to change names, period.
I know but normally he givens hilarious name changes to those who ask in the thread. Like the guy who was named captain reading comprehension or something like that.
LOOK AT MY NAME. I ALWAYS MISS THAT DAMN THREAD BY TWO MINUTES.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Just ask her out.
No really it's not that. We go to two different universities now. It's just awkward and I feel as though I should apologize for fucking things up quite a deal in the past. But that's not exactly an easy thing to bring up or a wise thing to bring up.
The answer is this: You don't apologize to her. Apologizing to her is a selfish action designed to assuage the guilt you apparently feel. All it will do to her is make her feel bad. Consider her behavior: Does it seem like she's angry with you? Does it seem like she blames you for anything? Only you know for certain but based on the data you've given here, I'd have to conclude that the answer is no.
I don't mean to be insulting, but that's the blunt truth. Apologizing to someone because you feel guilty is very rarely about the other person at all.
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Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Just ask her out.
No really it's not that. We go to two different universities now. It's just awkward and I feel as though I should apologize for fucking things up quite a deal in the past. But that's not exactly an easy thing to bring up or a wise thing to bring up.
The answer is this: You don't apologize to her. Apologizing to her is a selfish action designed to assuage the guilt you apparently feel. All it will do to her is make her feel bad. Consider her behavior: Does it seem like she's angry with you? Does it seem like she blames you for anything? Only you know for certain but based on the data you've given here, I'd have to conclude that the answer is no.
I don't mean to be insulting, but that's the blunt truth. Apologizing to someone because you feel guilty is very rarely about the other person at all.
Like when I apologized to you last night. I basically just did it so that if you kept on the issue I'd be able to claim the moral high ground and feel good about myself and turn people against you.
Like when I apologized to you last night. I basically just did it so that if you kept on the issue I'd be able to claim the moral high ground and feel good about myself and turn people against you.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Just ask her out.
No really it's not that. We go to two different universities now. It's just awkward and I feel as though I should apologize for fucking things up quite a deal in the past. But that's not exactly an easy thing to bring up or a wise thing to bring up.
The answer is this: You don't apologize to her. Apologizing to her is a selfish action designed to assuage the guilt you apparently feel. All it will do to her is make her feel bad. Consider her behavior: Does it seem like she's angry with you? Does it seem like she blames you for anything? Only you know for certain but based on the data you've given here, I'd have to conclude that the answer is no.
I don't mean to be insulting, but that's the blunt truth. Apologizing to someone because you feel guilty is very rarely about the other person at all.
Revelation. Thank you Drez. I am bad at these intimate and sincere things but that is very helpful. It ain't about alleviating my guilt.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Just ask her out.
No really it's not that. We go to two different universities now. It's just awkward and I feel as though I should apologize for fucking things up quite a deal in the past. But that's not exactly an easy thing to bring up or a wise thing to bring up.
The answer is this: You don't apologize to her. Apologizing to her is a selfish action designed to assuage the guilt you apparently feel. All it will do to her is make her feel bad. Consider her behavior: Does it seem like she's angry with you? Does it seem like she blames you for anything? Only you know for certain but based on the data you've given here, I'd have to conclude that the answer is no.
I don't mean to be insulting, but that's the blunt truth. Apologizing to someone because you feel guilty is very rarely about the other person at all.
Like when I apologized to you last night. I basically just did it so that if you kept on the issue I'd be able to claim the moral high ground and feel good about myself and turn people against you.
Like when I apologized to you last night. I basically just did it so that if you kept on the issue I'd be able to claim the moral high ground and feel good about myself and turn people against you.
Edit: Too much truth, or just enough?
God its annoying when people do that.
Man, he's not gonna help you. That whole system was his idea.
Wait. I should just not even bring it up and keep things awkward right? Because she's like an hour and a half away and i'm a whore who likes pretty things so I don't think i'd be able to survive being 21 and faithful.
Is it cruel to even continue talking to her if that's providing some sense of false hope?
The answer is this: You don't apologize to her. Apologizing to her is a selfish action designed to assuage the guilt you apparently feel. All it will do to her is make her feel bad. Consider her behavior: Does it seem like she's angry with you? Does it seem like she blames you for anything? Only you know for certain but based on the data you've given here, I'd have to conclude that the answer is no.
I don't mean to be insulting, but that's the blunt truth. Apologizing to someone because you feel guilty is very rarely about the other person at all.
Wait, what? How the hell does that work? "I feel guilty for doing such and such, and I know you don't blame me, but I still wanted to apologize."
How the hell should that make her feel bad? Unless you mean "feel bad" in the same way someone "feels bad" when a child skins their knee.
What the hell is wrong with him apologizing? An apology isn't some kind of ancient pact wherein one's soul is given up for judgment.
[edit]: All he'd be doing is admitting he recognizes that, to himself, he made some mistakes he feels bad about, and he wanted to more formally acknowledge and put a bit of closure to the issues.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Hm. It's not so much of a lowering of standards. It's more of a
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Just ask her out.
No really it's not that. We go to two different universities now. It's just awkward and I feel as though I should apologize for fucking things up quite a deal in the past. But that's not exactly an easy thing to bring up or a wise thing to bring up.
The answer is this: You don't apologize to her. Apologizing to her is a selfish action designed to assuage the guilt you apparently feel. All it will do to her is make her feel bad. Consider her behavior: Does it seem like she's angry with you? Does it seem like she blames you for anything? Only you know for certain but based on the data you've given here, I'd have to conclude that the answer is no.
I don't mean to be insulting, but that's the blunt truth. Apologizing to someone because you feel guilty is very rarely about the other person at all.
Like when I apologized to you last night. I basically just did it so that if you kept on the issue I'd be able to claim the moral high ground and feel good about myself and turn people against you.
Uh, ok. That has nothing to do with what I just said unless you apologized solely out of guilt, which is what I'm talking about, but doesn't seem to be what you're talking about because you had a different motive for apologizing. But thanks for sharing.
Wait. I should just not even bring it up and keep things awkward right? Because she's like an hour and a half away and i'm a whore who likes pretty things so I don't think i'd be able to survive being 21 and faithful.
Is it cruel to even continue talking to her if that's providing some sense of false hope?
Like when I apologized to you last night. I basically just did it so that if you kept on the issue I'd be able to claim the moral high ground and feel good about myself and turn people against you.
Edit: Too much truth, or just enough?
God its annoying when people do that.
I cannot tell you the number of times I've heard the words "Well I said I was sorry" uttered as a defense.
I also hate it when people attempt to end an argument by demanding you speak to them in private if you want to continue the conversation. If you keep going regardless you look like an asshole, and if you go along with them you look like you're dancing to their tune.
Wait. I should just not even bring it up and keep things awkward right? Because she's like an hour and a half away and i'm a whore who likes pretty things so I don't think i'd be able to survive being 21 and faithful.
Is it cruel to even continue talking to her if that's providing some sense of false hope?
She's still in love with you? Yeah, you might want to tell her you don't feel the same about her. Or if you do then ask her out.
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Can you not apologize without explaining it? I know it may come across as being deceptive, but personally, I think that going into detail about things is kinda dickish.
Yeah. DUE yours kind of comes across as, "You're not what I really want, but as I've gotten older I'm desperate and my standards have gotten lower so I guess I can date you now."
Looking up "mittens" used to bring up something hilarious, but not anymore
"whoops i've been a cunt while there's a great person i'm ignoring"
but yeah i'm not going to make anything of it. i'll just continue the awkward and lingering tension for propriety. I'm sorry for the h/a, I haven't slept.
Kanye West seems like kind of a douche. No one gets to declare themselves the voice of a generation.
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Bondage mittens?
Just ask her out.
Jay-Z refers to himself as "Jayhova".
uh, nsfw
Oh I know about that. Right now on page three you get "bondage mittens" I'm just a little in o_O mode.
No really it's not that. We go to two different universities now. It's just awkward and I feel as though I should apologize for fucking things up quite a deal in the past. But that's not exactly an easy thing to bring up or a wise thing to bring up.
Because it's about pot.
I know but normally he givens hilarious name changes to those who ask in the thread. Like the guy who was named captain reading comprehension or something like that.
LOOK AT MY NAME. I ALWAYS MISS THAT DAMN THREAD BY TWO MINUTES.
What the kind that make all your fingers useless? And sometimes have like a metal ring at the tip to tie or clip them to something?
The answer is this: You don't apologize to her. Apologizing to her is a selfish action designed to assuage the guilt you apparently feel. All it will do to her is make her feel bad. Consider her behavior: Does it seem like she's angry with you? Does it seem like she blames you for anything? Only you know for certain but based on the data you've given here, I'd have to conclude that the answer is no.
I don't mean to be insulting, but that's the blunt truth. Apologizing to someone because you feel guilty is very rarely about the other person at all.
Like when I apologized to you last night. I basically just did it so that if you kept on the issue I'd be able to claim the moral high ground and feel good about myself and turn people against you.
Edit: Too much truth, or just enough?
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God its annoying when people do that.
Revelation. Thank you Drez. I am bad at these intimate and sincere things but that is very helpful. It ain't about alleviating my guilt.
Question round?
You apologized to me last night? For what?
Man, he's not gonna help you. That whole system was his idea.
Wait. I should just not even bring it up and keep things awkward right? Because she's like an hour and a half away and i'm a whore who likes pretty things so I don't think i'd be able to survive being 21 and faithful.
Is it cruel to even continue talking to her if that's providing some sense of false hope?
Because you don't start your sentences with a capital letter and end them with a !/?/. when appropriate.
Wait, what? How the hell does that work? "I feel guilty for doing such and such, and I know you don't blame me, but I still wanted to apologize."
How the hell should that make her feel bad? Unless you mean "feel bad" in the same way someone "feels bad" when a child skins their knee.
What the hell is wrong with him apologizing? An apology isn't some kind of ancient pact wherein one's soul is given up for judgment.
[edit]: All he'd be doing is admitting he recognizes that, to himself, he made some mistakes he feels bad about, and he wanted to more formally acknowledge and put a bit of closure to the issues.
Uh, ok. That has nothing to do with what I just said unless you apologized solely out of guilt, which is what I'm talking about, but doesn't seem to be what you're talking about because you had a different motive for apologizing. But thanks for sharing.
How long have you known her?
I cannot tell you the number of times I've heard the words "Well I said I was sorry" uttered as a defense.
I also hate it when people attempt to end an argument by demanding you speak to them in private if you want to continue the conversation. If you keep going regardless you look like an asshole, and if you go along with them you look like you're dancing to their tune.
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She's still in love with you? Yeah, you might want to tell her you don't feel the same about her. Or if you do then ask her out.
Damned grammar/English Nazis.